How to tell a Cancer man is falling in love?

Just curious as to how one can tell if a cancer man is falling in love (or having very deep feelings) with/for a woman they are in a relationship with?

I know cancers can be subtle in their approach, so interested in the things a cancer man does that a woman may or may not initially pick up on. What are some of the things to look for from the perspective of all the sweet cancers on this site?

Obviously I'm dating a cancer. He's the first cancer I've ever dated and have never met anyone like him in my life. I adore him and am obviously quite smitten. I have settled into the forward moving then slight side step dance he does now and feel like I understand his rhythm quite well now. I ask this question because when we were together this past weekend he was so open with me and told me such deep personal things he experienced as a child, I was actually taken back by how open and honest and trusting he was to tell me these things he endured. And the things he told me actually hurt my heart for him, that he had to go through that. It was not good to say the least. I am an empathy and so as anyone who knows what that means, you can imagine how hard it was hard to hear someone you care about talk about things of that nature as I don't just listen but I feel the experience deep down within myself. As if I lived it myself. I feel whatever the person I am with is feeling. So it got me thinking after, personally that was some pretty deep stuff he shared with me that I would keep to myself. So I wonder if Cancers are just naturally that open and will talk to anyone because they feel and like to share or if he was trusting me with something so personal that he wouldn't share with just anyone because he's feeling strongly for me? If that makes sense?

Any insight?

*empath* Not empathy LOL! oops sorry, autocorrect stepped in 🙂

Cancers don't just go blurting off their private business to just anybody. Most times it depends on the person and how receptive they are I think. Cancers are private and know best how to keep a secret. They don't like people knowing vulnerable stuff about them so if he told you that's a big asssssssss deal. Especially traumatic childhood stuff. I knew a cancer for a decade and barely got to know much about her on a deeper level and I broke her trust and now she will probably never tell me anything. Don't take it litey. He's telling you for a damn good reason so you better listen and keep his secrets and talk to him about it. I think they're passed in romantic love when they tell you deep shit like that. I think it has to be romance plus friendship plus a serious connection. My friend barely gave me details to her stories. Sad to admit but most of the information I got was from snooping. She might make a small comment every now and than but never a detailed picture. I found a letter her sag ex wrote to her and he was complaining she wouldn't tell him her past and he feels there is a lot she needs to say but won't and they were together for years. And I think they have fierce control over their emotions but I do agree they are emotional. Just don't make her regret she ever told you anything because if she does she will never and I mean never look at you the same way again.

Yeah cancers dont share unless they trust you and they dont trust you unless they like you. Love is more, he'll want to spend more time with you but sounds like you are off to a good start.

I'm not an expert in astrology or Cancers, but I've dated 2 Cancer men ... and both had pretty much the MO regards to dating and falling in love. Interestingly enough, much like a crab they come at you from the side, like a crab in subtle ways. They won't come out and say it. Being an empath you probably will pick on these things. They were very private (much like me a Cap) so seeing that he opened up to you about his past, this is BIG sign of his affection imho. Also look at how much time he spends with you, and how quickly he returns your calls/messages. With the Cancers I was involved with. They both made me a piority and returned mycalls/messages within a very short time. They are very tactile. Like to be touched and will touch you. Possessive, even jealous. Also if he does things for you like cook for you or do any chores around the house, this is also a sign I experienced. And finally if they talk about their families to you and introduce you to the family, then it's a sure sign of love.

Good luck!

Thank you all for the comments. It's greatly appreciated. And can I just say that I for one LOVE Cancers. 😄

@ Forren - Yes we are dating. In fact he makes a point to call me his girlfriend randomly here and there in conversation. It's pretty cute.

@ StarChild63 - I would NEVER divulge anything he has told me. That's why I asked if Cancers are usually that open because the things he told me were SO personal and yet traumatic. I will guard and keep them locked up tight. Makes me want to protect him if that makes sense?

@Rabitalker - Thanks! It feels right to me. Feels relaxed and he definitely does want to spend more time with me. He always makes a point to make plans with me before we've even ended the date or whatever we're on at the time. He lives about 1.5hrs away but always makes time for me on his days off.

@ Cappedoff - Thank you! Yes we are both family oriented. He has 4 children and I have one. And we talk about our children and families with each other. And pretty much everything else. And you're right about the touching part for sure. He is very affectionate but SO manly. It's a great combination. Makes me melt LOL! He's also very receptive to anything I share, which is a really nice change.

@ Arielle83 - He does. He drives like I said 1.5hrs to my place for our dates on his days off. He always pays for everything which I'm really not used to. When I've tried to pay or help pay for dinner or anything he just smiles, chuckles and tells me he's taking care of it. Usually followed up by a hug and sweet kiss *blushes*.

Sounds like you two are off to one good start ... just keep it up like this. Wishing you the best!

Hoping for a little insight from those of you who kind of know my situation. So things were going really well between my Cancer & I. Getting closer slowly over time. Spent a wonderful weekend away together which was amazing. He even mentioned that he had been thinking about moving to where I live so we can be closer to each other. Nothing definite just that he wanted me to know it was something he was seriously thinking about. Then he was laid off from work and over the past couple of weeks some other unfortunate things have happened in his life which I won't divulge but just say that they were not good. So he has been depressed as he has described it. We finally were able to see each other this past Saturday but only for a few hours as his employer called asking if he would work a shift. And so he left to go do that and said he would call and we could chat while he was away at work and we would see each other when he got back. During the time we were last together he also mentioned telling his closest friend about me and showing him pictures as well as showing pictures of me to his two eldest daughters and having a conversation with them about me. Also said before he left that I would have to return the favour and go visit him one of these times (reminder we live almost 2 hrs apart), to which I replied of course, just waiting for an invitation. Meaning, let me know and I'll gladly come. He ended up calling about 30 mins after he left and we talked and laughed for almost an hour as he drove back home then said goodbye. Well, I haven't heard a thing since. I text him the next day saying I hoped he arrived safely where he was headed to work and nothing. Sent him a text yesterday just saying I missed him and hoped he had a good day and still nothing. I'm not too sure if he's out of a cell service area or what but now I'm very confused as to what's going on.

He's never gone this long not sending me even just a one word text. I thought perhaps something I said had hurt him and so I apologized for keeping him longer on Saturday than he was able to stay and perhaps resulting in him being late. As well as seeming distant in a response to one of his texts as I was dealing with something personal at the time and I never intended to come across as being insensitive and that I felt for his situation and was sad for what he was having to deal with. But still nothing. He tends to be very typical Cancer in his behavior. Any opinions on what may be going on? I'm not sure if he's lost interest or if he's just busy or what? Sorry that was so long.

I'm just honestly not too sure what to think or do at this point. If I can be honest I have fallen in love with this man (which I have not told him yet as I don't want to rush things) and I'm feeling very hurt.

And I apologize to those of you who are tired of all the posts on the Cancer board that are similar to this one.

Thanks! I have sent him text and I called and left a message (as he didn't answer).

I did apologize for coming across as insensitive and that I feel for him. It was a sincere apology from my heart as I felt bad and told him that as well. Told him I miss him. I hope I hear from him soon, I miss him dearly. And yes I do realize how special he is, that's why I'm so bothered. I care for him deeply. I've never gone this long without talking to him. I want him to know I care but I don't want to bother him by contacting him too much if he needs space so I'm kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place. I left the last message today, so I'm going to give it a couple days and try again I guess? Unless I hear from him before then (REEEEEALLY hoping I do)

What's the longest your Cancer ignored you for?

Also I should say he hasn't broken up with me or even said he's upset, he's just not returning my call or responding to my texts and ignoring me it seems— Sorry to go on it's just that I'm very confused as to what's going on. He seemed like his normal self when we last spoke.