I am kind of convinced he cares

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Okay so after four days of not contacting my young cancer he contacts me out the blue and we've spent time with each other everyday since. We've only had sex once since I started back talking to him. first of all, I believe that if he didn't care he wouldn't come around as much as he does. I mean come on he's young he can sleep with anybody. Women throw themselves at him all the time. It's a reason why he keeps coming back and it's not just about the sex. He always wants to play all these romantic songs when he's around me..... what gives?? He's a walking contradiction!! lol anyway, he knows how I feel any fool could see it. So for him to know this but keep asking to come over my house every single day (knowing he doesn't want a relationship) means he's being wishy washy but whatever at the end of the day I know he's gonna give in so it really doesn't matter lol you all have a good day 🙂
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Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
well to be honest, i'm glad you're kind of convinced HE cares cos i'm not sure i do right now. this has become boring. i know you want to vent 'every day' on dxp but it's not really the way it works.......evidenced by the lack of responses.



Well how exactly does DXP work honey— Honestly if you don't care don't comment. Like, really, I'm going to keep posting whenever I feel like it and whenever I'm in the mood so it really doesn't matter. 🙂
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Okay so after four days of not contacting my young cancer he contacts me out the blue and we've spent time with each other everyday since. We've only had sex once since I started back talking to him. first of all, I believe that if he didn't care he wouldn't come around as much as he does. I mean come on he's young he can sleep with anybody. Women throw themselves at him all the time. It's a reason why he keeps coming back and it's not just about the sex. He always wants to play all these romantic songs when he's around me..... what gives?? He's a walking contradiction!! lol anyway, he knows how I feel any fool could see it. So for him to know this but keep asking to come over my house every single day (knowing he doesn't want a relationship) means he's being wishy washy but whatever at the end of the day I know he's gonna give in so it really doesn't matter lol you all have a good day 🙂



how old is he? you keep saying young.. how young is young?
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He's 21 you may want to look at my other posts as well
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So for him to know this but keep asking to come over my house every single day (knowing he doesn't want a relationship) means he's being wishy washy but whatever at the end of the day I know he's gonna give in so it really doesn't matter lol you all have a good day 🙂



you're going to end up very hurt.
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How do you know— You are not here day in and day out to witness what goes on between us. What would be the point of spending every night with someone you don't want a relationship with?
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miss leo...you can expect the crab claws to keep snappin' until you tame your roar.

you want to know what's up with your crab? ASK HIM. you obviously have no problem being direct, so do it.

here's a start:

hey mryounghotbloodedcrabbie, you're actions don't match your words and i don't like it. i can't be a revolving door for you, only here when you need it. i have needs too and a few fleeting moments of intimacy tell me that you do too. now, puffpuffpass.

well?
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well to be honest, i'm glad you're kind of convinced HE cares cos i'm not sure i do right now. this has become boring. i know you want to vent 'every day' on dxp but it's not really the way it works.......evidenced by the lack of responses.



Well how exactly does DXP work honey— Honestly if you don't care don't comment. Like, really, I'm going to keep posting whenever I feel like it and whenever I'm in the mood so it really doesn't matter. 🙂
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well. it works this way. people start threads on certain topics and everyone contributes with their opinions. when you see the same topic presented in a slightly different way on a DAILY basis, it's hard not to wonder what the point behind you posting is exactly.

you knock yourself out posting identical threads and whining on and on about some loser fuck buddy you're convinced is in love with you (but hasn't realised it yet)....never any resolution...always the same trivial points made....and you can't even see that you're treading water in this situation. you're not being proactive. you're suspending your life while you wait for a child to 'commit' himself to you....and all the while you have kids anyway!!! you have sex with him without condoms you openly break all the 'rules' of fwb's and you post again and again ad nauseum.

just as you are free to do that, i am free to make whatever comment i choose to.

i'm only going by what you've posted. you're going to get hurt by this boy. a 21 year old child is not going to commit to a woman with 3 children...especially not when he can get from her what he wants/needs when he wants/needs it.

if you're happy to be his bitch...crack on!
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So for him to know this but keep asking to come over my house every single day (knowing he doesn't want a relationship) means he's being wishy washy but whatever at the end of the day I know he's gonna give in so it really doesn't matter lol you all have a good day 🙂



you're going to end up very hurt.



How do you know— You are not here day in and day out to witness what goes on between us. What would be the point of spending every night with someone you don't want a relationship with?
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wait...that's a toughie. what could he possibly get from spending every night with you. are you even being serious leoflow—

i don't understand how when he's made it clear he doesn't want a relationship with you, you don't kick him out!! raise your stakes a bit if you really want him. throw him out. tell him you want nothing more to do with him. from what you've posted here, i very much doubt he's seen that kind of behaviour from you. if you really, really want to make this into something more, you have to raise the bar....reset your value....he plays the game your way or he doesn't play at all.

he will crap himself if you do that and it will make him really think about what you mean to him. you have to remove toys from children sometimes if they aren't playing nicely. they'll have a trantrum and eventually start to think about their behaviour. he's obviously still learning these lessons at his age and skipped the basics like being aware that your actions have consequences. you've not taught him that by asking him 'how high' every time he asks you to jump. it's not too late though.

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Posted by wineauxisback
miss leo...you can expect the crab claws to keep snappin' until you tame your roar.

you want to know what's up with your crab? ASK HIM. you obviously have no problem being direct, so do it.

here's a start:

hey mryounghotbloodedcrabbie, you're actions don't match your words and i don't like it. i can't be a revolving door for you, only here when you need it. i have needs too and a few fleeting moments of intimacy tell me that you do too. now, puffpuffpass.

well?



That's really funny hahahahahahahaha #Dead
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So for him to know this but keep asking to come over my house every single day (knowing he doesn't want a relationship) means he's being wishy washy but whatever at the end of the day I know he's gonna give in so it really doesn't matter lol you all have a good day 🙂



you're going to end up very hurt.



How do you know— You are not here day in and day out to witness what goes on between us. What would be the point of spending every night with someone you don't want a relationship with?



wait...that's a toughie. what could he possibly get from spending every night with you. are you even being serious leoflow—

i don't understand how when he's made it clear he doesn't want a relationship with you, you don't kick him out!! raise your stakes a bit if you really want him. throw him out. tell him you want nothing more to do with him. from what you've posted here, i very much doubt he's seen that kind of behaviour from you. if you really, really want to make this into something more, you have to raise the bar....reset your value....he plays the game your way or he doesn't play at all.

he will crap himself if you do that and it will make him really think about what you mean to him. you have to remove toys from children sometimes if they aren't playing nicely. they'll have a trantrum and eventually start to think about their behaviour. he's obviously still learning these lessons at his age and skipped the basics like being aware that your actions have consequences. you've not taught him that by asking him 'how high' every time he asks you to jump. it's not too late though.

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Most of your comments are right. Thank you! It's actually funny you say this, listen to this story.

So the other night he tells me that he has sex with me "just cause" and I asked him if he didn't wanna do it why would he fuck me and I said if he didn't wanna fuck then we would never have to go that route again. He said since he told me why he has sex with me then he wanted to know why I have sex with him and he was like "you don't love me or nothing
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So for him to know this but keep asking to come over my house every single day (knowing he doesn't want a relationship) means he's being wishy washy but whatever at the end of the day I know he's gonna give in so it really doesn't matter lol you all have a good day 🙂



you're going to end up very hurt.



How do you know— You are not here day in and day out to witness what goes on between us. What would be the point of spending every night with someone you don't want a relationship with?
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wait...that's a toughie. what could he possibly get from spending every night with you. are you even being serious leoflow—

i don't understand how when he's made it clear he doesn't want a relationship with you, you don't kick him out!! raise your stakes a bit if you really want him. throw him out. tell him you want nothing more to do with him. from what you've posted here, i very much doubt he's seen that kind of behaviour from you. if you really, really want to make this into something more, you have to raise the bar....reset your value....he plays the game your way or he doesn't play at all.

he will crap himself if you do that and it will make him really think about what you mean to him. you have to remove toys from children sometimes if they aren't playing nicely. they'll have a trantrum and eventually start to think about their behaviour. he's obviously still learning these lessons at his age and skipped the basics like being aware that your actions have consequences. you've not taught him that by asking him 'how high' every time he asks you to jump. it's not too late though.

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Posted by RealTalk
Well dammit maybe he does care...*shrugs*

There isn't that much boredom in the world. If someone wasn't interested they wouldn't spend time with you at all, unless it was just sex. Even then they wouldn't visit that often. OR...

Maybe he just really likes your company & feels comfortable in your presence. Has he ever asked you if he could move in?




Yes he has said if it comes down to it could he move in which I don't understand because he already established that he doesn't want to open up to me or get in a relationship. So what gives??
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I think he likes spending time with you and you have qualities he likes but I think he feels like he can do better and wants to keep his options open. He won't let you go because he likes you and what he has with you but he won't be exclusive to you either because he doesn't value you and what you guys have enough. I don't know where you guys will end up but the real problem to me is your attitude towards yourself. I wonder why you would fall for him. From the way you described him: A guy who lives with his mom, smokes a lot of weed, treats you 2nd 3rd 4th best, can't afford to take you out or is too cheap to. It sounds more like you should be thinking your better than him and that he should be the one wanting a commitment from you and you holding back because you think you can do better.
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I think he likes spending time with you and you have qualities he likes but I think he feels like he can do better and wants to keep his options open. He won't let you go because he likes you and what he has with you but he won't be exclusive to you either because he doesn't value you and what you guys have enough. I don't know where you guys will end up but the real problem to me is your attitude towards yourself. I wonder why you would fall for him. From the way you described him: A guy who lives with his mom, smokes a lot of weed, treats you 2nd 3rd 4th best, can't afford to take you out or is too cheap to. It sounds more like you should be thinking your better than him and that he should be the one wanting a commitment from you and you holding back because you think you can do better.





Wow I really needed to here this thank you!
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Well dammit maybe he does care...*shrugs*

There isn't that much boredom in the world. If someone wasn't interested they wouldn't spend time with you at all, unless it was just sex. Even then they wouldn't visit that often. OR...

Maybe he just really likes your company & feels comfortable in your presence. Has he ever asked you if he could move in?




Yes he has said if it comes down to it could he move in which I don't understand because he already established that he doesn't want to open up to me or get in a relationship. So what gives??
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I don't know what your relationship is & I'm just going by what you're sharing here. Do you do things for him? You know, give him money, buy him things...because if so, he could possibly want to move in with you because he knows you'd take care of him, but if not & he wants to move in to HELP you (rent, car note, other bills etc.) & he will be good to your children it's worth considering.

You just have to make that CLEAR to him from the gate. He can't just shack up with you thinking he's getting a free ride, shit...you better make him pay upfront & see how he interacts with your kids. Does he seem like a good father figure? I know he's 21 but there are some younger guys that are more responsible than older guys, but you have to be the judge of that. You have to be absolutely sure that this is the guy you want to be with & make sure that he treats your children well. VERY WELL. They come first.