AquariusJan25
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I need advice, Aquarius male here..
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I'm thinking yea I fucked up, it's probably over. Thursday comes around I'm like "I think it's done". Friday night I pick up my phone to go back and listen to VM from before because of course I'm missing her like crazy. Finish listening to it and at the very top an unread VM from the Thursday night pops up. In the message she tells me she misses me and loves me and she hopes I'm doing okay. I immediately call her back and leave her voice-mail telling her I miss her and love her too and I hope she's doing okay. I get a call back Saturday morning, we talk.. she tells me about her trip and how much fun she had with her little sister and it felt good talking to her, felt like I was on cloud 9 again. Two days go by just a little small texting here and there no phone calls.
Yada yada yada we get to March 4th rolls around, we text and idk where things went wrong but they went wrong. Pretty much she said "I've put up with too much and I'm not cocky and full of myself but I think I'm too good I tolerate way too much". We end our text that night with her saying "You fucked me over big time, real bad."
Next day she tells me "you had/could've had me in the palm of your hands. You were the only one I wanted." Few text later "I'm always gonna be here, I'm just hurt. Time is all I need. You know me. Love you"
She goes on to say she forgives me and always will because I mean THAT much to her. Heard a Karaoke song she did with another guy who's her friend and it came off super flirty to me. I told her "I guess that's goodbye and a send off telling me to fuck off. Told it sucked to hear some of what she said in the song. She then told me "She knows it sucks but to remember why we are in this position.
Later that night I call her, we talked for two hours and I pretty much told her that I'm sorry for all those times I kept saying we should be "friends" and all that she said she has 1 foot out the door and 1 foot in at the moment and she's super pissed. I call her the next day and we talk for another hour half, she's pretty much telling me when I text her it's like she's cold and doesn't feel anything, no type of feelings or anything but if we're on the phone she's the hurt in my voice and knows how sorry I am and it's like it just wants to pull her back in, she also said if she's not texting me back quick or taking all day for me to take the hint and realize where done 😢 but while where on the phone she can't bring herself to utter
I'm thinking yea I fucked up, it's probably over. Thursday comes around I'm like "I think it's done". Friday night I pick up my phone to go back and listen to VM from before because of course I'm missing her like crazy. Finish listening to it and at the very top an unread VM from the Thursday night pops up. In the message she tells me she misses me and loves me and she hopes I'm doing okay. I immediately call her back and leave her voice-mail telling her I miss her and love her too and I hope she's doing okay. I get a call back Saturday morning, we talk.. she tells me about her trip and how much fun she had with her little sister and it felt good talking to her, felt like I was on cloud 9 again. Two days go by just a little small texting here and there no phone calls.
Yada yada yada we get to March 4th rolls around, we text and idk where things went wrong but they went wrong. Pretty much she said "I've put up with too much and I'm not cocky and full of myself but I think I'm too good I tolerate way too much". We end our text that night with her saying "You fucked me over big time, real bad."
Next day she tells me "you had/could've had me in the palm of your hands. You were the only one I wanted." Few text later "I'm always gonna be here, I'm just hurt. Time is all I need. You know me. Love you"
She goes on to say she forgives me and always will because I mean THAT much to her. Heard a Karaoke song she did with another guy who's her friend and it came off super flirty to me. I told her "I guess that's goodbye and a send off telling me to fuck off. Told it sucked to hear some of what she said in the song. She then told me "She knows it sucks but to remember why we are in this position.
Later that night I call her, we talked for two hours and I pretty much told her that I'm sorry for all those times I kept saying we should be "friends" and all that she said she has 1 foot out the door and 1 foot in at the moment and she's super pissed. I call her the next day and we talk for another hour half, she's pretty much telling me when I text her it's like she's cold and doesn't feel anything, no type of feelings or anything but if we're on the phone she's the hurt in my voice and knows how sorry I am and it's like it just wants to pull her back in, she also said if she's not texting me back quick or taking all day for me to take the hint and realize where done 😢 but while where on the phone she can't bring herself to utter
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those words 😢. We ended the conversation pretty much me saying I deserve one more chance to right my wrongs, I know my insecurities are a pain in the ass and I cause her pain the past 10 months on random occasions but god damn WE deserve one more go. I told her if I get that chance, We'll be more open facetime calls, skype, oovoo the whole 9 yards (we only texted and called prior) while I'm saying all that about getting one last chance she uttered some words that gave me hope, she said "Don't say if, say when" (Don't say if you get one last chance, say when you get one last chance) I heard that and that's what's been getting me through the last few days, other than that I've been down as fuck. Praying the last few days that she can find it in her heart to give me that last chance, cause I freaking need it. I need to redeem myself for the past 10 months and right every single wrong, I love that girl to death I would do anything for her, I'm just that deeply in love with her and I'm going to continue praying that she gives me that chance.
My question to the Cancers in this section..
Do I really have a chance?
Do you really think I can win her heart back? (I'm pretty sure I can get her heart back)
Am I doomed? (lol)
I really love this girl and I really can't deal with losing her, she's too perfect and I love her like crazy..
I know things will be awkward if I do get that chance but I feel like overtime that awkwardness will one day go away and we can be back to where we were.. she was also planning to come to NY for the summer but that was a no no the very last time I chatted with her on the phone. WHEN I do get her back I think it will be better if she decides to take that trip again to NY so I can apologize once more in person and just show her that I really care about a future between us.
Been reading a lot of these yahooo answer things about winning a cancers heart back and most say you can't win it back, but I'm not going to let that bring me down I'm going to try until I can't do it anymore.
Thank you for your time, waiting for the responses.
those words 😢. We ended the conversation pretty much me saying I deserve one more chance to right my wrongs, I know my insecurities are a pain in the ass and I cause her pain the past 10 months on random occasions but god damn WE deserve one more go. I told her if I get that chance, We'll be more open facetime calls, skype, oovoo the whole 9 yards (we only texted and called prior) while I'm saying all that about getting one last chance she uttered some words that gave me hope, she said "Don't say if, say when" (Don't say if you get one last chance, say when you get one last chance) I heard that and that's what's been getting me through the last few days, other than that I've been down as fuck. Praying the last few days that she can find it in her heart to give me that last chance, cause I freaking need it. I need to redeem myself for the past 10 months and right every single wrong, I love that girl to death I would do anything for her, I'm just that deeply in love with her and I'm going to continue praying that she gives me that chance.
My question to the Cancers in this section..
Do I really have a chance?
Do you really think I can win her heart back? (I'm pretty sure I can get her heart back)
Am I doomed? (lol)
I really love this girl and I really can't deal with losing her, she's too perfect and I love her like crazy..
I know things will be awkward if I do get that chance but I feel like overtime that awkwardness will one day go away and we can be back to where we were.. she was also planning to come to NY for the summer but that was a no no the very last time I chatted with her on the phone. WHEN I do get her back I think it will be better if she decides to take that trip again to NY so I can apologize once more in person and just show her that I really care about a future between us.
Been reading a lot of these yahooo answer things about winning a cancers heart back and most say you can't win it back, but I'm not going to let that bring me down I'm going to try until I can't do it anymore.
Thank you for your time, waiting for the responses.
Posted by Sugarfoot
You could probably get her back given the things she said. You need to realize it'll be on her time though, not yours. Also you need to give her a reason why she should believe you will change this time when you seem to be so hell bent on doing the wrong thing every other time. Are you sure you can get your insecurities in check? You can't slip back into the same behavior patterns when she gives you another shot.
For her, my insecure days are over with to be brutally honest, I've already told her I have no problem being more open and giving her that full experience..especially with Video Chatting and stuff. Insecurities are a bitch and they were used as defense mechanism.. it's like every time I saw her flirt/joking around something would go off in me where I'm in the space of "I don't want to get hurt in the future, tell her about the friends thing" it truly sucks and I'm sorry for doing it. Crazy how much a few days of not talking to that one person can be like a whip to your ass and make you buck up and make a quick change.
Aquas and Cancers are not a good match, air and water just doesn't mix.
Posted by Stihl46
Aquas and Cancers are not a good match, air and water just doesn't mix.
I 've read this countless times, we mix. The problem in all of this was me ipand my insecurities getting the best of me. We have so much stuff in common it's not even funny.
I am attracted to Aqua males but, y'all crazy!
Aqua crazy and Cancer crazy is not a good look.
Aqua crazy and Cancer crazy is not a good look.
Posted by LunarMaiden
I am attracted to Aqua males but, y'all crazy!
Aqua crazy and Cancer crazy is not a good look.
Lol she's not crazy haha, I'm the retarded one letting me and my insecurities affect our relationship countless times. When I wasn't in a rut me and her were perfect.
If it's only when you text her that she doesn't feel anything, but she does feel something when you talk to her on the phone then you have a chance. Cancers tend to retreat though if things seem like they're not gonna work out. So when you kept telling her you just want to be friends she probably tried to let go of the ties she felt with you. If you continuously assure her that you love her and want it to work out then I think you'll have a shot.
Although I personally think this relationship is doomed to fail... based on the fact that you are very insecure and you can't control yourself mainly your emotions... You will do it again... and eventually you will drive her away...
I honestly think she will stay with the game because she is a Cancer... cancers are die hard love types and need as can be. The only way a Cancer will jump out of a relationship is if they really think something is better in front of them and they develop feelings for them... As long as she is focused on you and the bs drama... you are ok. Oh if you do something really bad like cheat or so on... even then they are the sign that would often take you back still or Pisces... in the name of love. If you don't talk to her it will eventually end quicker... if you want her in your had you have to give her the attention she wants and that is obviously the problem...
I would almost say the start of the miss communication was during mercury retro most likely... and now you find yourself here... as mercury just came back to the 17th degree in Aqua... in your sign... Meaning it just came back to the original point of retro great. I know people actually give advise looking for personality but you have to look at what is going on above. Mercury tro is miss communications... and it was in your sign... making it even worse for you... Venus just was also in your sign so the answer she was looking for when she said that was "what about me." You say you "love me all the time and I love you." She was testing you... and she is making you jump though hoops now to prove... you love her...
You will eventually have to learn to get over you insecurities and realize that girls are not just attracted to ha hard body... although it does not hurt. They want someone that is sensitive and understand there needs... making them feel secure and not playing games... although I personally would have call her on it... or you could have hung up... right when she said it... and said you where in love with her... she would have felt bad...
When it is real love and you are confident and cool you could have said "baby why are you playing with me... I know you have it bad for me... and you know I love you... quite testing me." I personally would have done this... but this is a mature secure answers...
"Sugarfoot" nice shoes... 😉
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I honestly think she will stay with the game because she is a Cancer... cancers are die hard love types and need as can be. The only way a Cancer will jump out of a relationship is if they really think something is better in front of them and they develop feelings for them... As long as she is focused on you and the bs drama... you are ok. Oh if you do something really bad like cheat or so on... even then they are the sign that would often take you back still or Pisces... in the name of love. If you don't talk to her it will eventually end quicker... if you want her in your had you have to give her the attention she wants and that is obviously the problem...
I would almost say the start of the miss communication was during mercury retro most likely... and now you find yourself here... as mercury just came back to the 17th degree in Aqua... in your sign... Meaning it just came back to the original point of retro great. I know people actually give advise looking for personality but you have to look at what is going on above. Mercury tro is miss communications... and it was in your sign... making it even worse for you... Venus just was also in your sign so the answer she was looking for when she said that was "what about me." You say you "love me all the time and I love you." She was testing you... and she is making you jump though hoops now to prove... you love her...
You will eventually have to learn to get over you insecurities and realize that girls are not just attracted to ha hard body... although it does not hurt. They want someone that is sensitive and understand there needs... making them feel secure and not playing games... although I personally would have call her on it... or you could have hung up... right when she said it... and said you where in love with her... she would have felt bad...
When it is real love and you are confident and cool you could have said "baby why are you playing with me... I know you have it bad for me... and you know I love you... quite testing me." I personally would have done this... but this is a mature secure answers...
"Sugarfoot" nice shoes... 😉
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Posted by piscesmoon2
Although I personally think this relationship is doomed to fail... based on the fact that you are very insecure and you can't control yourself mainly your emotions... You will do it again... and eventually you will drive her away...
I honestly think she will stay with the game because she is a Cancer... cancers are die hard love types and need as can be. The only way a Cancer will jump out of a relationship is if they really think something is better in front of them and they develop feelings for them... As long as she is focused on you and the bs drama... you are ok. Oh if you do something really bad like cheat or so on... even then they are the sign that would often take you back still or Pisces... in the name of love. If you don't talk to her it will eventually end quicker... if you want her in your had you have to give her the attention she wants and that is obviously the problem...
I would almost say the start of the miss communication was during mercury retro most likely... and now you find yourself here... as mercury just came back to the 17th degree in Aqua... in your sign... Meaning it just came back to the original point of retro great. I know people actually give advise looking for personality but you have to look at what is going on above. Mercury tro is miss communications... and it was in your sign... making it even worse for you... Venus just was also in your sign so the answer she was looking for when she said that was "what about me." You say you "love me all the time and I love you." She was testing you... and she is making you jump though hoops now to prove... you love her...
You will eventually have to learn to get over you insecurities and realize that girls are not just attracted to ha hard body... although it does not hurt. They want someone that is sensitive and understand there needs... making them feel secure and not playing games... although I personally would have call her on it... or you could have hung up... right when she said it... and said you where in love with her... she would have felt bad...
When it is real love and you are confident and cool you could have said "baby why are you playing with me... I know you have it bad for me... and you know I love you... quite testing me." I personally would have done this... but this is a mature secure answers...
"Sugarfoot" nice shoes..
You make it sound so FICKLE. O___O
Posted by lisabethur8
You make it sound so FICKLE. O___O
The truth is a lot of cancers are so needy that if they don't get what they want... And honestly think there is something better... Of course it they are not in love... As this above is really not love... Maybe a weir puppy love...
lisabethur8...
How are you...?
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Yes you have a chance.
However, you have to change first.
Stop tap dancing, twisting and turning.
All you are doing is confusing and hurting her.
Dig deep for some security. We need a stable secure partner.
Not a wackadoodle dandy.
Stop reacting to every insecurity or idea of what is going on.
I have an Aqua girl friend like this and she vexes me.
She is constantly loving me then cutting our friendship off.
So intense and extreme with her emotions form one end to the other.
It annoys me but I don't give up on her because I sense an inner struggle within her.
And she can be so helpful and wise. Our conversations so enlightening and meaningful.
My first love was an Aqua.
I really cared for him and he broke my heart by cheating with some other girl.
He knew he messed up and it ate at him.
I totally ended it because I could not trust him.
We kept in touch but at a distance and one day we got some closure.
Quiet your mind, mediate and be real with her.
Don't talk with fear, speak your truth, your REAL feelings.
Put the cards on the table and love this woman the way you really want to.
Then she will be yours.
We mirror. You act up, we act up.
Show your love, we show love.
Dude good luck!
However, you have to change first.
Stop tap dancing, twisting and turning.
All you are doing is confusing and hurting her.
Dig deep for some security. We need a stable secure partner.
Not a wackadoodle dandy.
Stop reacting to every insecurity or idea of what is going on.
I have an Aqua girl friend like this and she vexes me.
She is constantly loving me then cutting our friendship off.
So intense and extreme with her emotions form one end to the other.
It annoys me but I don't give up on her because I sense an inner struggle within her.
And she can be so helpful and wise. Our conversations so enlightening and meaningful.
My first love was an Aqua.
I really cared for him and he broke my heart by cheating with some other girl.
He knew he messed up and it ate at him.
I totally ended it because I could not trust him.
We kept in touch but at a distance and one day we got some closure.
Quiet your mind, mediate and be real with her.
Don't talk with fear, speak your truth, your REAL feelings.
Put the cards on the table and love this woman the way you really want to.
Then she will be yours.
We mirror. You act up, we act up.
Show your love, we show love.
Dude good luck!
Puppy love feels like real love for only so long... It is cutie and practicalities become an issue... Sorry not to mean but distance is the problem...
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Communicate everything you said here to her. I think that's one of the only blockages that prevents Cancer/Aqua from moving forward. It is magical as a friendship, and even an electric unforgettable attraction once taken to that level. Although on paper it's not compatible any relationship can work if you put mutual effort into it.
Posted by piscesmoon2Posted by lisabethur8
You make it sound so FICKLE. O___O
The truth is a lot of cancers are so needy that if they don't get what they want... And honestly think there is something better... Of course it they are not in love... As this above is really not love... Maybe a weir puppy love...
lisabethur8...
How are you...?
PM
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that's not being loyal though. I couldn't stand that.
i dont think that's sun sign.
but yeah i dont think they love that person in the first place.
1) stop being so wishy washy. That is such a huge pet peeve of mine.
2) Texting is so impersonal. Calls are a better communication.
3) Stop making assumptions and just get it out there and straighten it out. SHe's letting you know you're pissing her off with your on and off friend zone then the insult of FWB.
4) Yes Cancer and Aquas are doomed but if the communication is clear and assumptions are nipped in the bud it can work. My brother is an Aqua. I want to hit him in the face with a nerf bat sometimes but when we get the grievances out in the open and clear up the air it's all good. We're best friends. We just hit a communication snag sometimes.
Rinse then repeat step 1.
2) Texting is so impersonal. Calls are a better communication.
3) Stop making assumptions and just get it out there and straighten it out. SHe's letting you know you're pissing her off with your on and off friend zone then the insult of FWB.
4) Yes Cancer and Aquas are doomed but if the communication is clear and assumptions are nipped in the bud it can work. My brother is an Aqua. I want to hit him in the face with a nerf bat sometimes but when we get the grievances out in the open and clear up the air it's all good. We're best friends. We just hit a communication snag sometimes.
Rinse then repeat step 1.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by piscesmoon2Posted by lisabethur8
You make it sound so FICKLE. O___O
The truth is a lot of cancers are so needy that if they don't get what they want... And honestly think there is something better... Of course it they are not in love... As this above is really not love... Maybe a weir puppy love...
lisabethur8...
How are you...?
PM
that's not being loyal though. I couldn't stand that.
i dont think that's sun sign.
but yeah i dont think they love that person in the first place.click to expand
lisabethur8... It has more to do with the maturity of a person... that often is showed in housing order or planets in the sign... or sun's placement in the sign. Of course some points may make people immature in areas only as well...
I don't want to be one of the people that says something about a sun sign... in general. I will say... he seems young and not as mature about his choices... he will learn to live better with his insecurities ans his life goes on... if he does not learn the easy way then it will be one after another of these mess ups in relationships... If she keeps testing her men like this... it will also not be the best and it is a little immature... she hopefully will find better ways of express her insecurities and need for passion/neediness themselves.
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I'm sorry to say that online relationships are not real. Only in your mind but if you're not spending real time together in the real world, you're not really getting to know each other. Online relationships are fantasy island and you've got long distance on top of that. Sorry but the real issue here isn't your insecurities (we all have them) but the fact this is online and long distance.
This should be the theme song for all online only relationships:
This should be the theme song for all online only relationships:
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