Posted by ImpulsvSymptoms of Emotional Neglect
I POSTED a link on emotional neglect
It’s real
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-recognize-overcome-childhood-emotional-neglect-0218165
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeevery
2 Pisces parents?
Ewwww
Tough
Posted by WaterDevil@HEAVYENTERTAINMENTSHOW
we have so much in common. I feel all of that. The ex walking away. I DID lose the love of my life due to an inappropriate reaction. I feel you
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow8/8Posted by ImpulsvSymptoms of Emotional Neglect
I POSTED a link on emotional neglect
It’s real
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-recognize-overcome-childhood-emotional-neglect-0218165
- “Numbing out” or being cut off from one’s feelings
- Feeling like there’s something missing, but not being sure what it is
- Feeling hollow inside
- Being easily overwhelmed or discouraged
- Low self-esteem
- Perfectionism
- Pronounced sensitivity to rejection
- Lack of clarity regarding others’ expectations and your own expectations for yourself
I scored 7 out of 8 on the above for like a decade.click to expand
Posted by PotHeadVirgo27yeah, i do. but its like i have kindness toward other's [roblem, and compassion, but deepdown i always feel like mine are greater though i know logically that's not true. so if someone seems to not care about me, i tend to over react and inadvertently hurt them. my love isnt talking to me rn. she said she felt "used" by me.that i put my emotional labor on to her.
I think my whole immediate family has emotional neglect 😆
Including thyself. It's all the parents fault. I'm not gone tell you to go therapy, but I will tell you to fill up a blunt.
Are you sure you are narcissistic? Maybe you just take your own feelings more seriously than anyone important to you ever did when you were a child.
Posted by Supesi spoke to my mom yesterday. i dont think my dad could handle it. see i forgave them years ago. before i realized what and how exactly they affected me as an adult.
Have you tried talking to them about it? I think an apology would really help you heal
Don’t be surprised if they become incredibly defensive. Just keep your cool and stay the course
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeyeah i signed up.
I think seeking therapy might actually really help
Posted by WaterDevilHope yours got burned as bad as mine. He went back to his female ex with whom he had a son, but she dumped him a month later lol. He then shaved his head and turned vegan. According to the kid he's been single for the most part of the last 8 years.Posted by WaterDevil@HEAVYENTERTAINMENTSHOW
we have so much in common. I feel all of that. The ex walking away. I DID lose the love of my life due to an inappropriate reaction. I feel youclick to expand
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowWe weren’t partners. Close friends and at times lovers. I actually talked to my dad today. My parents like putting blame on each other however I think it hit him that they made some mistakes. I hear you with your relationship with your partner making you smile. I get the same way. When I “make it up to then” and they are “happy”. But I feel bad. Because I need the adoration. And I try my best doing selfless acts of service but in the end of the day I deep down always expect them to adore me and appreciate me in return. And that’s not selfless at all now is it? I told my father about my empathy. And how I feel it but don’t know how to express it. And it’s killing me. And I want to “explain” so much but I’m realizing people don’t want to hear that. I’m told it’s “antagonizing”.Posted by WaterDevilHope yours got burned as bad as mine. He went back to his female ex with whom he had a son, but she dumped him a month later lol. He then shaved his head and turned vegan. According to the kid he's been single for the most part of the last 8 years.Posted by WaterDevil@HEAVYENTERTAINMENTSHOW
we have so much in common. I feel all of that. The ex walking away. I DID lose the love of my life due to an inappropriate reaction. I feel you
As far as my parents go, my mom is incorrigible. She will never change, so I did the best thing for myself and cut the toxic people out of my life. She's no1 on that list. My dad died back in October so scratched him off the list. I'm not gonna waste my energy on someone who refuses to admit she ever did wrong. She's way too selfish to do that. I learned not to need her since I was like 13-14 so it's hardly a heavy loss.
Now all I care about is making the most & the best out of the love of my life. Sure we've had bumps on the road along the way but our ability to learn from them & grow even closer is what makes us work. Communication communication communication. Without that, misunderstandings pile up and resentment builds up. Don't let crap fester, clear the air as soon as you can before resentment starts to form. When I laughed at my boy, he stormed away and tried to leave the hotel we were staying at, but I stopped him at the last second.
Even though he was furious, he allowed me to explain my reaction and that day was a turning point in our relationship. Now, 6 months later I've helped him get a great job at a large fitness center a good friend of mine owns. He's been up all night bouncing off the walls, poring through a stack of documents my friend gave him with the craziest twinkle in his eye lol. He's over the moon and that huge smile is all the reward I need.
When there's a will there's a way. As long as you're both willing to make an effort, very few things are impossible. What happened with your partner?click to expand
Posted by WaterDevilOooh that sounds bad! I mean yeah, if I'm not appreciated I'm getting the fuck outta here. But I don't need blatant displays of appreciation to feel validated. The twinkle in my boy's eyes and the wide smile and the affection he shows towards me is enough for me, because I know it's genuine. That's the plus side of being best friends for 4 years beforehand. We had plenty of time to bond. When he got back home last evening, he was beaming because of the job he'd just gotten and I felt complete.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowWe weren’t partners. Close friends and at times lovers. I actually talked to my dad today. My parents like putting blame on each other however I think it hit him that they made some mistakes. I hear you with your relationship with your partner making you smile. I get the same way. When I “make it up to then” and they are “happy”. But I feel bad. Because I need the adoration. And I try my best doing selfless acts of service but in the end of the day I deep down always expect them to adore me and appreciate me in return. And that’s not selfless at all now is it? I told my father about my empathy. And how I feel it but don’t know how to express it. And it’s killing me. And I want to “explain” so much but I’m realizing people don’t want to hear that. I’m told it’s “antagonizing”.Posted by WaterDevilHope yours got burned as bad as mine. He went back to his female ex with whom he had a son, but she dumped him a month later lol. He then shaved his head and turned vegan. According to the kid he's been single for the most part of the last 8 years.Posted by WaterDevil@HEAVYENTERTAINMENTSHOW
we have so much in common. I feel all of that. The ex walking away. I DID lose the love of my life due to an inappropriate reaction. I feel you
As far as my parents go, my mom is incorrigible. She will never change, so I did the best thing for myself and cut the toxic people out of my life. She's no1 on that list. My dad died back in October so scratched him off the list. I'm not gonna waste my energy on someone who refuses to admit she ever did wrong. She's way too selfish to do that. I learned not to need her since I was like 13-14 so it's hardly a heavy loss.
Now all I care about is making the most & the best out of the love of my life. Sure we've had bumps on the road along the way but our ability to learn from them & grow even closer is what makes us work. Communication communication communication. Without that, misunderstandings pile up and resentment builds up. Don't let crap fester, clear the air as soon as you can before resentment starts to form. When I laughed at my boy, he stormed away and tried to leave the hotel we were staying at, but I stopped him at the last second.
Even though he was furious, he allowed me to explain my reaction and that day was a turning point in our relationship. Now, 6 months later I've helped him get a great job at a large fitness center a good friend of mine owns. He's been up all night bouncing off the walls, poring through a stack of documents my friend gave him with the craziest twinkle in his eye lol. He's over the moon and that huge smile is all the reward I need.
When there's a will there's a way. As long as you're both willing to make an effort, very few things are impossible. What happened with your partner?
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Posted by WaterDevilI relate so much to this. My parents divorced when i was younger, my mom kidnapped me from my dads and i went to mexico for a few days, came back to a total mess. Cops all over my house, i was missing for days. I stayed with my dad, he remarried and i got the worst stepmom ever. As a young girl i never had a mother figure and my stepmom would tell me how stupid and ugly i was and how no man willl ever love me. And i was 12 or 13! I wanted to be the first person in my family to go to college and she would tell me how only stupid whores go to college and how i will never have anything. Yea crazy right? shes was a nut. When i was younger i really believed those things and wanted to commit suicide when i was 15. I met my first boyfriend at the time and he literally saved my life. Now being older i see it was never me and even adults are wicked. ITS NEVER YOU, dont let anyone take your happiness. I went to college and graduated. Have my own place and loving my life. I barely talk to my stepmom now, she will die in her misery. Dont let anyone have control over you, its your life and it goes by really fast. Do you. Live for you.
Now i'm suffering from the consequences of my traumas, my intimacy, abandonment, anxiety and depression issues. Been on the journey of self discovery and in the midst, also understanding that I probably have narcissistic personality disorder by proxy. AMA (im a cancer, both parents are pisces).
Posted by MoonshineLeowe have a lot in commonPosted by WaterDevilI relate so much to this. My parents divorced when i was younger, my mom kidnapped me from my dads and i went to mexico for a few days, came back to a total mess. Cops all over my house, i was missing for days. I stayed with my dad, he remarried and i got the worst stepmom ever. As a young girl i never had a mother figure and my stepmom would tell me how stupid and ugly i was and how no man willl ever love me. And i was 12 or 13! I wanted to be the first person in my family to go to college and she would tell me how only stupid whores go to college and how i will never have anything. Yea crazy right? shes was a nut. When i was younger i really believed those things and wanted to commit suicide when i was 15. I met my first boyfriend at the time and he literally saved my life. Now being older i see it was never me and even adults are wicked. ITS NEVER YOU, dont let anyone take your happiness. I went to college and graduated. Have my own place and loving my life. I barely talk to my stepmom now, she will die in her misery. Dont let anyone have control over you, its your life and it goes by really fast. Do you. Live for you.
Now i'm suffering from the consequences of my traumas, my intimacy, abandonment, anxiety and depression issues. Been on the journey of self discovery and in the midst, also understanding that I probably have narcissistic personality disorder by proxy. AMA (im a cancer, both parents are pisces).click to expand
Posted by aquarius09hence my deep obsession of needing to be loved by the previous pisces female(s) iv dated/dating. I think this is a breakthrough.
Two Pisces parents would be the death of me. Kudos for surviving!
Posted by WaterDevilI sawPosted by MoonshineLeowe have a lot in commonPosted by WaterDevilI relate so much to this. My parents divorced when i was younger, my mom kidnapped me from my dads and i went to mexico for a few days, came back to a total mess. Cops all over my house, i was missing for days. I stayed with my dad, he remarried and i got the worst stepmom ever. As a young girl i never had a mother figure and my stepmom would tell me how stupid and ugly i was and how no man willl ever love me. And i was 12 or 13! I wanted to be the first person in my family to go to college and she would tell me how only stupid whores go to college and how i will never have anything. Yea crazy right? shes was a nut. When i was younger i really believed those things and wanted to commit suicide when i was 15. I met my first boyfriend at the time and he literally saved my life. Now being older i see it was never me and even adults are wicked. ITS NEVER YOU, dont let anyone take your happiness. I went to college and graduated. Have my own place and loving my life. I barely talk to my stepmom now, she will die in her misery. Dont let anyone have control over you, its your life and it goes by really fast. Do you. Live for you.
Now i'm suffering from the consequences of my traumas, my intimacy, abandonment, anxiety and depression issues. Been on the journey of self discovery and in the midst, also understanding that I probably have narcissistic personality disorder by proxy. AMA (im a cancer, both parents are pisces).click to expand
Posted by WaterDevilso... what are you gonna do now?
Now i'm suffering from the consequences of my traumas, my intimacy, abandonment, anxiety and depression issues. Been on the journey of self discovery and in the midst, also understanding that I probably have narcissistic personality disorder by proxy. AMA (im a cancer, both parents are pisces).
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