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Posted by moongirljj
If he was repeatedly hurt when he was vulnerable (ie as a child) then he may have put his tough exterior so firmly in place that he no longer knows how to bring it down and let people in. As Wineaux said it is heartbreaking. BUT he will tell himself this is just another abandonment, thing is that wont last, he will peak his head out eventually.
I notice you have your Venus in Aries, which means you do tend to act "head on" when it comes to love. It may be a little much for him right now, also if he knows you will pursue when something like this happens, he may take comfort in that and punish you with silence. If you suddenley stop giving him attention he will start to crave that security you brought him.
I like him am a Cancer with Venus in Gemini, I knew my guy adored me so much if I got pissed off or wanted time out I would just stone wall him knowing he wouldn't go anywhere, he would try and penetrate my barriers, and I guess looking back it brought me some sort of feeling of knowing how much he loved me that was comforting. But believe me the moment he got tired of it and pulled away my defences disappeared, Now HE is the one comforted in knowing I'm not going anywhere and I am at his mercy. Thankfully he doesn't use that to manipulate. He's a good guy through and through.
Yes he was hurt, a lot of trauma. The only person he let in fully was me, but we broke each others heart in the past because of our own pasts. His BIGGEST thing is protecting himself!!! More than anyone I've ever known. So somehow he's made this into I am the one abandoning him? Is this what I'm understanding?
Things are delt with head on at times, but also am patient and will give a person their space and can also avoid confrontation if overwhelmed. If he needs a week etc to deal with his emotions, I like receiving at least a simple email letting me know we'll discuss things when he's ready. This is what took place when we were commited and also what took place the past 6-7 months... And it worked wonderfully.
Btw, with my Venus in Aries - isn't his placement in Venus what matters also or the Sun Sign and my Venus?
Moon, based on certain things you had shared between your Cancer and you, could that also be sabotaging?
When he gets too close, perhaps it's taken advantage of because of your fears so you pull away. But when he draws the line and stands strong, he's probably distant at the same time and your fear of being too close goes away so you lean towards him?
When he gets too close, perhaps it's taken advantage of because of your fears so you pull away. But when he draws the line and stands strong, he's probably distant at the same time and your fear of being too close goes away so you lean towards him?
i think even so, that would have aroused his jealousy. i don't think it's fair...neither do i think it's your fault 😢
it matters that a man is interested in you because he is...currently, he's not giving of himself to you. you're definitely caught between the cat's paws with this one. i wouldn't know what the hell to think.
it matters that a man is interested in you because he is...currently, he's not giving of himself to you. you're definitely caught between the cat's paws with this one. i wouldn't know what the hell to think.
Rabidtalker, so much more complicated and so much easier said than done... Where I myself went through a phase with him (years ago) where I wanted him deeply, but was afraid and had my own issues, so would push away and send mixed signals... If this is in fact taking place on his end.
All this discussion of him takes the importance off of you, the more you think about him the more he'll only think about himself, it's not all about him and his pain and his moods and his fears.
Over thinking over talking this issue will create more and more inner conflict and honestly I believe INNER CONFLICT and FEAR is the main bond you both share with one another, it binds you together and keeps you both tied in and swimming in an ocean of moods, crying, brooding and conflict and fear. I can almost guarantee if one of you find or had some inner peace you'll probably not want to be bothered with such a hard conflicted relationship.
Over thinking over talking this issue will create more and more inner conflict and honestly I believe INNER CONFLICT and FEAR is the main bond you both share with one another, it binds you together and keeps you both tied in and swimming in an ocean of moods, crying, brooding and conflict and fear. I can almost guarantee if one of you find or had some inner peace you'll probably not want to be bothered with such a hard conflicted relationship.
nimbu, yes, that is exactly how I feel and leaving things this way is weighing on me. I am sure both of us are hurting/angry or what ever right now. The frustrating part is it's snowballed and why let it get to that point when you could handle it instead of this silent heaviness of feelings.
Moon, it's understandable considering what you had gone through! Don't be hard on yourself about it.. And try to look at it as detoxing. Detoxing from what happened to you. It's a blessing that it came to the surface, for you to heal so you could have a more loving, stable relationship. Take each day as it comes.. Your still with him 🙂 and enjoy it.
I didn't delete the past comments as I felt it would come across as I'm trying to hide something, especially if he saw them before me. I did this past Sunday, block my wall from him Because he over analyzes things and creates drama clearly when there is no need for it. When I reassure him many times and shouldn't even have to right? I mean we're just 'freinds'.
I have an equale amount of male/female friends. The guy who is interested in me has been my friends for years, and yes, we've hung out on and off platonically as *just* friends. I don't want a relationship with him at all and have made this clear to Cancer constantly. He lives in the same city as me and is not who I'm visiting.
I didn't delete the past comments as I felt it would come across as I'm trying to hide something, especially if he saw them before me. I did this past Sunday, block my wall from him Because he over analyzes things and creates drama clearly when there is no need for it. When I reassure him many times and shouldn't even have to right? I mean we're just 'freinds'.
I have an equale amount of male/female friends. The guy who is interested in me has been my friends for years, and yes, we've hung out on and off platonically as *just* friends. I don't want a relationship with him at all and have made this clear to Cancer constantly. He lives in the same city as me and is not who I'm visiting.
Hahah Tiki, your entitled to think what ever you would like to think.
Our relationship in the past and our interaction the past 6-7 months hasn't all been about his pain, fear, and moods... Take my word for that. 😉
As Moon said, we're both water signs and you clearly are not so how could you fully understand us on a deepr level? Our bond and connection was instant... It felt like home, for the both of us from the begining. The deep level of our connection, love, bonding, and over all understanding of one another is what BRINGS us together. His PAST which has instilled inner conflict and fear is what seperates us.
You have it backwards. And actually talking about it, makes me feel better!
Our relationship in the past and our interaction the past 6-7 months hasn't all been about his pain, fear, and moods... Take my word for that. 😉
As Moon said, we're both water signs and you clearly are not so how could you fully understand us on a deepr level? Our bond and connection was instant... It felt like home, for the both of us from the begining. The deep level of our connection, love, bonding, and over all understanding of one another is what BRINGS us together. His PAST which has instilled inner conflict and fear is what seperates us.
You have it backwards. And actually talking about it, makes me feel better!
I don't have to be a water sign to see the truth....You've been friend zoned, matters the reasons and no matter how hard you try to get it back to a relationship it'll never be quite right.
Moon, he did persue me relentlessly from the beginning! But what happened with you and your man took place. And after everything, we came to an understanding that we need to heal sperately and always felt we would come back to one another.
I'm capable of completely leaving him alone and doing my very best to move on as heartbreaking it may be... IF that's what he truly wants since I want him. Based on his actions and having an inner knowing he deeply does love me, yet now is ignoring me, I'm thrown off.
I'm capable of completely leaving him alone and doing my very best to move on as heartbreaking it may be... IF that's what he truly wants since I want him. Based on his actions and having an inner knowing he deeply does love me, yet now is ignoring me, I'm thrown off.
Posted by caesarkreshen
He mad... lol.
Look, I really don't believe there is such a thing as just friends. Looking back at this chic I knew who kept coming back as just friends (most of the time...) and then finally came back one last time (ostensibly.)
I now believe that if someone loved you and they don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend and they come back as "just friends" that they want a relationship but are scared to admit it and want to go through this weird ritual of testing it.
Things that can mess this up is labeling... because if you label something then it becomes more serious and requires the other person to think about it (even as just friends, could be seen as a rejection of the ultimate goal.) If you really want to deal with someone and you were "acting like you were together", you should have both just let it flow.
There a a million people in the world that someone can be just friends with, why did they choose you? I think it's a test. A qualifier. If you want it, do it... play the part. See what happens. It's painful but you know it's like a right of passage.
I bet you get another chance.
PS: There are those that say you should never fuck with an ex because it always turns into the same cycle of BS that it did before. And while I haven't proven this theory wrong, I still continue to try... because I believe it's wrong.
-CK
I totally agree with that
Actually Moon you are in the same boat she's in and that's why you defend her vehemently, I'm not speaking to you at all so exactly why do you feel the need to control what I'm saying to her, she's capable of speaking for herself.
Mixed messages means is a form of rejection and you're relationship will always be at a start and stop pace, if you don't put up with it he won't do it but you allow it, you make excuses for his behavior, you say it's our past, it's his trauma, say how hurt he is and really the behavior in itself is inexcusable then the guy comes back feeds you a bunch of manipulative BS about being scared so let's be friends etc and then blows hot with relationship stuff and then disappears again and the cycle continues, if you had listened from the beginning that he only wanted friendship and not allowed his confusion to pull you in and rejected any form of emotional bonding you wouldn't be in this mess.
How can something like that stop? It has to stop right? Or are you going to live your whole life in start stop mode with a man.
Mixed messages means is a form of rejection and you're relationship will always be at a start and stop pace, if you don't put up with it he won't do it but you allow it, you make excuses for his behavior, you say it's our past, it's his trauma, say how hurt he is and really the behavior in itself is inexcusable then the guy comes back feeds you a bunch of manipulative BS about being scared so let's be friends etc and then blows hot with relationship stuff and then disappears again and the cycle continues, if you had listened from the beginning that he only wanted friendship and not allowed his confusion to pull you in and rejected any form of emotional bonding you wouldn't be in this mess.
How can something like that stop? It has to stop right? Or are you going to live your whole life in start stop mode with a man.
Posted by tiki33
I don't have to be a water sign to see the truth....You've been friend zoned, matters the reasons and no matter how hard you try to get it back to a relationship it'll never be quite right.
Your truth is your truth, which doesn't always make it the truth and you lack depth and emotional understanding. Everything doesn't fit into two boxes. There is black, white, gray and a host of many other colors.
Why would man who has strictly friend zoned a woman cry for nearly 10 mins as though his world is ending, and say his hearts breaking because he remembered us and had hope?
I've never known or heard of a friend zoner do that.
I agree every thing doesn't fit into 2 boxes, you'll use that as an excuse as well, you're situation is so different from all the other women who are in the same exact boat but just with a twist and hint of difference separating the 2 but the common theme is hot and cold, you all experience the same common theme no matter how different the circumstances are.
You all do the same thing, get so focused and caught up on the emotional stuff like the crying and the drama and the way you feel about him that you can't see nor realize what's going on when he blows cold again, when he's apathetic and disnintested and distant and many of you stay in denial because you love the hot phase when he's crying and calling and emailing but when he turns cold again instead of you walking away instead all of you do the same thing talk about his feelings, make excuses why he's cold, blame yourselves and wait for him to blow hot again and then after he blows hot again everything appears okay but then he's distant again and reverts back to being cold then more excuses are given, you're back to talking about it obsessively, infatuating the whole relationship, holding on waiting for him to blow hot again...
Are you going to live your whole life in start stop mode? When will you decide you deserve a mutually exclusive, loving, consistently present, respectful relationship with a man?
You all do the same thing, get so focused and caught up on the emotional stuff like the crying and the drama and the way you feel about him that you can't see nor realize what's going on when he blows cold again, when he's apathetic and disnintested and distant and many of you stay in denial because you love the hot phase when he's crying and calling and emailing but when he turns cold again instead of you walking away instead all of you do the same thing talk about his feelings, make excuses why he's cold, blame yourselves and wait for him to blow hot again and then after he blows hot again everything appears okay but then he's distant again and reverts back to being cold then more excuses are given, you're back to talking about it obsessively, infatuating the whole relationship, holding on waiting for him to blow hot again...
Are you going to live your whole life in start stop mode? When will you decide you deserve a mutually exclusive, loving, consistently present, respectful relationship with a man?
Posted by moongirljjPosted by tiki33
Actually Moon you are in the same boat she's in and that's why you defend her vehemently, I'm not speaking to you at all so exactly why do you feel the need to control what I'm saying to her, she's capable of speaking for herself.
I'm not controlling a damn thing, I'm just agreeing with her.My Cancer guy came back to ME and made a commitment, so no I'm not in the same position, I was and thats how I know it can turn around. Things may not be completley perfect but he is back to spending every spare minute talking to me and is fighting for the relationship, tells me he loves me and misses me everyday, initiates contact and is opening up slowly but surely.
I have said it before and I will say it again...what do you really think you contribute to the Cancer forum? You're an Aries, you dont move sideways you move like a ram. This terrifies Cancer men. That cut throat attitude you have will ONLY serve to have them running for the hills, they are sensitive, read ANY literature about them even Linda Goodman and you will see I am right.
You don't understand water men and water women piss you off, (because they are NOT Rams) as displayed repeatedly in this board. You force your views on people then insult them when those view don't sit right with them. I know people like you...bullies, You're just in love with the sound of your own voice, I doubt you actually help anyone.click to expand
I'm not actually talking to you moon...Stop obsessing over me already
I'm an Aquarius
Posted by moongirljjPosted by tiki33Posted by moongirljjPosted by tiki33
Actually Moon you are in the same boat she's in and that's why you defend her vehemently, I'm not speaking to you at all so exactly why do you feel the need to control what I'm saying to her, she's capable of speaking for herself.
I'm not controlling a damn thing, I'm just agreeing with her.My Cancer guy came back to ME and made a commitment, so no I'm not in the same position, I was and thats how I know it can turn around. Things may not be completley perfect but he is back to spending every spare minute talking to me and is fighting for the relationship, tells me he loves me and misses me everyday, initiates contact and is opening up slowly but surely.
I have said it before and I will say it again...what do you really think you contribute to the Cancer forum? You're an Aries, you dont move sideways you move like a ram. This terrifies Cancer men. That cut throat attitude you have will ONLY serve to have them running for the hills, they are sensitive, read ANY literature about them even Linda Goodman and you will see I am right.
You don't understand water men and water women piss you off, (because they are NOT Rams) as displayed repeatedly in this board. You force your views on people then insult them when those view don't sit right with them. I know people like you...bullies, You're just in love with the sound of your own voice, I doubt you actually help anyone.
I'm not actually talking to you moon...Stop obsessing over me already
Oh purrrleease stop flattering yourself Tiki! haha!! AQUARIUS!!! Thats even WORSE! The most detached sign in the entire zodiac, you have fuck all in common with Cancers.click to expand
LMAO!! You're funny
Posted by moongirljj
Maybe she had that loving secure and equal relationship but messed it up because she wasn't ready, now she realizes the depth of her feelings and IS ready but he has his guard up, because he was hurt.
Like Roseptals said, things are not black and white. To you its just leave if you arent getting everything you want all the time. Pretty selfish dont ya think?
Ignoring someone is selfish, telling someone let's be friends but proceeding to blow hot with romantic feelings, creating confusion only to disappear is selfish. There is all kinds of selfish
Posted by moongirljj
and you are full of shit, You addressed me directly then said you were not talking to me and stop obsessing. Now that is complete mental manipulation, Go help some Aquarius girl somewhere you may actually be useful.
Actually I have been talking to rosepetals today not you...I've observed how you follow me and disagree with me which is fine, I may have addressed you the other day but today you are not on my list of people to communicate with, you can't help fixating on me, give yourself some room to breathe, you'll be alright
Posted by moongirljj
He didnt blow hot and cold and neither did my guy. SHE ended it! just like I did.
Go to her prior post about only wanting friendship, he was blowing hot and cold and she was confused by his behavior, she was inquiring about his behavior, wondering why if he only wants friendship then why is he blowing hot with romantic gestures etc
I said moon because you consistently keep popping into my conversation to talk to me and I have not once addressed you today for the exception of you jumping into rosepetal's and I conversation. I have no need to speak to you for the exception of you dribbling on about what I'm saying to her, she can speak for herself moon, stay on track if you can.
What I say to someone else has absolutely nothing to do with you...Mind your business, stick to the topic of the poster and keep it moving, this isn't personal and the only reason it appear like it is personal because you keep fixating on me and my words.
Stop being so insecure, if you and rosepetal's want to discuss your situations together that's fine but what I say to her and what she says to me has absolutely nothing to do with you.
What I say to someone else has absolutely nothing to do with you...Mind your business, stick to the topic of the poster and keep it moving, this isn't personal and the only reason it appear like it is personal because you keep fixating on me and my words.
Stop being so insecure, if you and rosepetal's want to discuss your situations together that's fine but what I say to her and what she says to me has absolutely nothing to do with you.
" I knew I had to heal my own baggage before loving him fully. Is this what may be going on? Very possibly."
So I understand you feel his hot and cold behavior has something to do with the past and he's healing his own baggage before loving you fully?
So I understand you feel his hot and cold behavior has something to do with the past and he's healing his own baggage before loving you fully?
Posted by tiki33
I agree every thing doesn't fit into 2 boxes, you'll use that as an excuse as well, you're situation is so different from all the other women who are in the same exact boat but just with a twist and hint of difference separating the 2 but the common theme is hot and cold, you all experience the same common theme no matter how different the circumstances are.
You all do the same thing, get so focused and caught up on the emotional stuff like the crying and the drama and the way you feel about him that you can't see nor realize what's going on when he blows cold again, when he's apathetic and disnintested and distant and many of you stay in denial because you love the hot phase when he's crying and calling and emailing but when he turns cold again instead of you walking away instead all of you do the same thing talk about his feelings, make excuses why he's cold, blame yourselves and wait for him to blow hot again and then after he blows hot again everything appears okay but then he's distant again and reverts back to being cold then more excuses are given, you're back to talking about it obsessively, infatuating the whole relationship, holding on waiting for him to blow hot again...
Are you going to live your whole life in start stop mode? When will you decide you deserve a mutually exclusive, loving, consistently present, respectful relationship with a man?
Tiki, back off. I'm behind a computer and sensing your energy is making me suffocate. You don't know shit about the sitution, so save your breath. And aren't you feeding into all of this? LOL what a contradiction. Please find better things to do with your time as you're are so perfect, other than being a headach on this forum. You're so freakin' aggressive, I'm a woman and feel like running away from you BEHIND A COMPUTER... I wonder how men would feel, especially a Cancer man.
Posted by moongirljj
Maybe she had that loving secure and equal relationship but messed it up because she wasn't ready, now she realizes the depth of her feelings and IS ready but he has his guard up, because he was hurt.
Like Roseptals said, things are not black and white. To you its just leave if you arent getting everything you want all the time. Pretty selfish dont ya think?
Weird the way my comment came out to your reply Moon.... ^^^ ooopsies.
Posted by moongirljjPosted by tiki33
I said moon because you consistently keep popping into my conversation to talk to me and I have not once addressed you today for the exception of you jumping into rosepetal's and I conversation. I have no need to speak to you for the exception of you dribbling on about what I'm saying to her, she can speak for herself moon, stay on track if you can.
What I say to someone else has absolutely nothing to do with you...Mind your business, stick to the topic of the poster and keep it moving, this isn't personal and the only reason it appear like it is personal because you keep fixating on me and my words.
Stop being so insecure, if you and rosepetal's want to discuss your situations together that's fine but what I say to her and what she says to me has absolutely nothing to do with you.
It's a public forum you weirdo, geez!
Rosepetals I truly do believe that once he has calmed down he will respond to your messages, and once he does you can use the firm/loving tactics with him that we talked about before. Take comfort in the fact he is silent right now, because it shows there is still a lot of emotion attached and you are still on his mind. If there are no feelings he would simply respond casually and remain aloof.click to expand
LOL! What is it with the controlling, needing to be right, pointing fingers and judging nature of this person. Does she not understand everything she is insisting isn't 'advise' but a form of control? As much as Tiki would like to 'help' people, her need for control is making people run away.... Her advise reeks of ego and unpeacefulness...
Our communication is very open and heart to heart when we speak... I will step away and let him be until he's ready.
Posted by moongirljjPosted by tiki33
I said moon because you consistently keep popping into my conversation to talk to me and I have not once addressed you today for the exception of you jumping into rosepetal's and I conversation. I have no need to speak to you for the exception of you dribbling on about what I'm saying to her, she can speak for herself moon, stay on track if you can.
What I say to someone else has absolutely nothing to do with you...Mind your business, stick to the topic of the poster and keep it moving, this isn't personal and the only reason it appear like it is personal because you keep fixating on me and my words.
Stop being so insecure, if you and rosepetal's want to discuss your situations together that's fine but what I say to her and what she says to me has absolutely nothing to do with you.
It's a public forum you weirdo, geez!
Rosepetals I truly do believe that once he has calmed down he will respond to your messages, and once he does you can use the firm/loving tactics with him that we talked about before. Take comfort in the fact he is silent right now, because it shows there is still a lot of emotion attached and you are still on his mind. If there are no feelings he would simply respond casually and remain aloof.click to expand
It's a public forum but I don't go into conversations you have with rosepetals or anyone else for that matter, attempting to debate, argue, diminish, devalue, minimize every word you say which makes it apparent you are the weirdo in this particular situation. You're being weird over me awwww but no thanks
Posted by RosepetalsPosted by moongirljjPosted by tiki33
I said moon because you consistently keep popping into my conversation to talk to me and I have not once addressed you today for the exception of you jumping into rosepetal's and I conversation. I have no need to speak to you for the exception of you dribbling on about what I'm saying to her, she can speak for herself moon, stay on track if you can.
What I say to someone else has absolutely nothing to do with you...Mind your business, stick to the topic of the poster and keep it moving, this isn't personal and the only reason it appear like it is personal because you keep fixating on me and my words.
Stop being so insecure, if you and rosepetal's want to discuss your situations together that's fine but what I say to her and what she says to me has absolutely nothing to do with you.
It's a public forum you weirdo, geez!
Rosepetals I truly do believe that once he has calmed down he will respond to your messages, and once he does you can use the firm/loving tactics with him that we talked about before. Take comfort in the fact he is silent right now, because it shows there is still a lot of emotion attached and you are still on his mind. If there are no feelings he would simply respond casually and remain aloof.
LOL! What is it with the controlling, needing to be right, pointing fingers and judging nature of this person. Does she not understand everything she is insisting isn't 'advise' but a form of control? As much as Tiki would like to 'help' people, her need for control is making people run away.... Her advise reeks of ego and unpeacefulness...click to expand
I'm not saying what you want or need to hear but that doesn't make what I say invalid...Unless it does, I haven't controlled anyone but I definitely see a distinct need to control me to shut me up.
Posted by RosepetalsPosted by tiki33
I agree every thing doesn't fit into 2 boxes, you'll use that as an excuse as well, you're situation is so different from all the other women who are in the same exact boat but just with a twist and hint of difference separating the 2 but the common theme is hot and cold, you all experience the same common theme no matter how different the circumstances are.
You all do the same thing, get so focused and caught up on the emotional stuff like the crying and the drama and the way you feel about him that you can't see nor realize what's going on when he blows cold again, when he's apathetic and disnintested and distant and many of you stay in denial because you love the hot phase when he's crying and calling and emailing but when he turns cold again instead of you walking away instead all of you do the same thing talk about his feelings, make excuses why he's cold, blame yourselves and wait for him to blow hot again and then after he blows hot again everything appears okay but then he's distant again and reverts back to being cold then more excuses are given, you're back to talking about it obsessively, infatuating the whole relationship, holding on waiting for him to blow hot again...
Are you going to live your whole life in start stop mode? When will you decide you deserve a mutually exclusive, loving, consistently present, respectful relationship with a man?
Tiki, back off. I'm behind a computer and sensing your energy is making me suffocate. You don't know shit about the sitution, so save your breath. And aren't you feeding into all of this? LOL what a contradiction. Please find better things to do with your time as you're are so perfect, other than being a headach on this forum. You're so freakin' aggressive, I'm a woman and feel like running away from you BEHIND A COMPUTER... I wonder how men would feel, especially a Cancer man.click to expand
You're already suffocating in your own confusion, I couldn't add to that if I tried.
Takes one to know one
I'm not saying what you want or need to hear but that doesn't make what I say invalid...Unless it does, I haven't controlled anyone but I definitely see a distinct need to control me to shut me up.
Tiki, you seriously have some major issues. While your here pointing fingers at everyone else needing to control who, what, where, and why, and how they should be, you fail to realize the biggest person you need to fix is you. It seems you will never fully look at yourself, as you continue on with your nasty energy forcing your cra@p down our mouth and when we vomit onto you, you go nuts.
This has nothing to do with not hearing what I want or need to hear, refrain once again from putting everyone into one box. It has to do with what RESONATES with me, on a deeper level, and if it doesn't whether it's good or bad... I will not force it.
I wouldn't go the the measures of being on here and putting all my shit here just to hear what I want to. Get that straight and back the fuck off. At this point you are more of a thorn to me then my situation with my Cancer.
LOL I AM what you think I AM
You fail to recognize you need to fix you and instead of obsessing and fixating over a man's cold behavior, the only person you can control is you so take the plank out of your own eye first and take your own advice.
The only box you're in is the one you put yourself in and it appears you're not having fun with that.
The only box you're in is the one you put yourself in and it appears you're not having fun with that.
"At this point you are more of a thorn to me then my situation with my Cancer."
You needed a mental break from your cancer...You're welcome
You needed a mental break from your cancer...You're welcome
something you should remember about Aquarians...
they love a good fight. some would call it verbal manipulation or opinion bullies but i think they see it more as 'banter' or 'word play'. gives them a nice charge. an Aquarius will always, always need to get in the last word. even when their argument has been logically defeated, they will then turn to personal jabs, insults, word spinning and straight up lies to try to regain the upper hand in a conversation.
the more you play into it... the longer it will continue
carry on...
they love a good fight. some would call it verbal manipulation or opinion bullies but i think they see it more as 'banter' or 'word play'. gives them a nice charge. an Aquarius will always, always need to get in the last word. even when their argument has been logically defeated, they will then turn to personal jabs, insults, word spinning and straight up lies to try to regain the upper hand in a conversation.
the more you play into it... the longer it will continue
carry on...
Posted by moongirljjPosted by tiki33
You fail to recognize you need to fix you and instead of obsessing and fixating over a man's cold behavior, the only person you can control is you so take the plank out of your own eye first and take your own advice.
The only box you're in is the one you put yourself in and it appears you're not having fun with that.
OMG, She HAS been fixing herself, she just said thats WHY she called time on their developing relationship and then ended up in this situation. My Gosh you just wont listen will you?click to expand
LOL you can't help yourself can you...You're obsessed with me
She fixed herself only to be met with rejection so clearly there is more fixing to do and that has nothing to do with him.
Well, great for you for feeling that way, maybe she can *help* you LOL.
Let her put herself alright with herself. I'm here to get help, not be turned into a robot by a egotistical, control freak who clearly doesn't understand me and blantly has major issues.
Let her put herself alright with herself. I'm here to get help, not be turned into a robot by a egotistical, control freak who clearly doesn't understand me and blantly has major issues.
@shellshocker that may be true about some Aqua's but in this case I'm simply enjoying myself when I get done I'll stop.
LOL the name calling is hilarious....But I'm the bully
The only person being pushed around is me....Continue on with that
Posted by tiki33
@shellshocker that may be true about some Aqua's but in this case I'm simply enjoying myself when I get done I'll stop.
fair enough...
You upset yourself Moon and the pleasure you speak of is non existent and there are no victims.
Posted by shellshocker
something you should remember about Aquarians...
they love a good fight. some would call it verbal manipulation or opinion bullies but i think they see it more as 'banter' or 'word play'. gives them a nice charge. an Aquarius will always, always need to get in the last word. even when their argument has been logically defeated, they will then turn to personal jabs, insults, word spinning and straight up lies to try to regain the upper hand in a conversation.
the more you play into it... the longer it will continue
carry on...
WOW!!! Thank you so much for giving me a heads up on this. I was thinking to myself, is this person for real— LOL... She's on here doing nothing but NEEDING to be right and figthing left and right yet her words are magical and the "truth"... Why would anyone in the right mind even consider listening to her when it's ego based and not on compassion.
@rosepetals don't listen...
Posted by tiki33
You fail to recognize you need to fix you and instead of obsessing and fixating over a man's cold behavior, the only person you can control is you so take the plank out of your own eye first and take your own advice.
The only box you're in is the one you put yourself in and it appears you're not having fun with that.
It's so sad, you're so sick. The only time this is discussed is when I'm here. You don't know what I do on my own time on any level.
My heart, mind and soul is open and light. I have compassion and love for people, genuinly wanting to help them. Your trapped within your own poisonous box and "help" people when in reality, you are an instigator and get a sick kick at doing so.
I honest to God, have never crossed paths someone like you before. Your energy suffocates.
Posted by moongirljjPosted by tiki33
You fail to recognize you need to fix you and instead of obsessing and fixating over a man's cold behavior, the only person you can control is you so take the plank out of your own eye first and take your own advice.
The only box you're in is the one you put yourself in and it appears you're not having fun with that.
OMG, She HAS been fixing herself, she just said thats WHY she called time on their developing relationship and then ended up in this situation. My Gosh you just wont listen will you?click to expand
Lol, thank you moon. My point exactly. Proves she would rather instigate, be right, then help out of compassion.
Moon, I totally agree with you. None of the people in my life give me advise just for the sake of pleasing me... I wouldn't go to them for advise if that was the case.
The way this person delivers her 'advise' when I'm not even looking for it from her as we're on completely different levels, is very controling and borderline abusive. Just by reading her comments prove she gets a sick kick at being an instigator.
She is not the only one telling me what I don't want to here on this forum, yet for some reason in her sick little head, I'm disagreeing with her because it's not what I want to hear. If that's what she needs to tell her little ego to feel better about not owning the truth. So be it.
The way this person delivers her 'advise' when I'm not even looking for it from her as we're on completely different levels, is very controling and borderline abusive. Just by reading her comments prove she gets a sick kick at being an instigator.
She is not the only one telling me what I don't want to here on this forum, yet for some reason in her sick little head, I'm disagreeing with her because it's not what I want to hear. If that's what she needs to tell her little ego to feel better about not owning the truth. So be it.
If I'm just way off then why all the hostility?
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