Is it really over?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by nycchick on Thursday, October 2, 2014 and has 15 replies.

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@nycchick
14 Years

I'm really into my crab. We're both gym rats, have young children who we put first and we're both divorced.

We hit it off instantly, however soon into dating my crab started the back, forth, side dance.

No problem, I expected that. We had a couple of simple disagreements, resolved them quickly and moved on.

I have insomnia; he knows this. The other night I felt sleep coming on after a bad headache. He called and I told him that I was really very sleepy.

I woke the next morning to a "goodbye" text, my number blocked, blocked on fb.

He had already expressed that he was intimidated by me, but I do all in my control to make him see that he had my undivided attention.

I have had no contact with him since Monday.

Had this Sag lost her Cancer got good?

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@nycchick
14 Years

Good point. He has admitted that he has issues, but you're right. It's abusive behavior. I wasn't sure it if was a cancer thing.

He also got upset with me because he loves me. Who does that?

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@nycchick
14 Years

Lmbo Ok, so it's NOT me. I'm hurt by the abrupt ending, but unless he's willing to work on his issues, it's best to end it now.

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@Kim31
12 Years1,000+ Posts

This guy is a big, spoiled baby. He doesn't know how to handle not having your full attention. Aqua is right. He probably wanted to talk to you because he had some crazy thought in his head that you were with someone else. Or he's so selfish he thinks you should've sucked up your sleepiness and gave him your all. Brat.

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@nycchick
14 Years

Damn, I can't figure out how to quote you all, but YES his jealousy consumes him! He accused me of being on fb hours after I'd gone to bed.

Like him, but not his jealousy. While, I'd love to make sense of this recent breakup, I can't.

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@nycchick
14 Years

I love the feedback! This is what I thought. .. he thinks I was blowing him off, even mentioned that I only spoke with him for 6 minutes. Really?!

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@nycchick
14 Years

aquavita, Don't leave me, you sexy vixen! Lol

Thanks for your words. I appreciate them. Ciao bella

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@nycchick
14 Years

"yes 6 minutes is not enough for a lover you should talk till u pass out and he should hear u on the phone passing out groaning in pain from the headache . yes that sounds how it is hahaha ! this is LOVE !"

How stupid of me! Lmao

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@nycchick
14 Years

Koniucha, don't worry. I'm not in to self mutilation. I like the man, but find his expectations unreasonable.

If he comes back great, if not I'll have to get over it.

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@nycchick
14 Years

Aquavita, I care about him, can't lie. However, I always give of myself. I care for others all day; he's aware of it. I just hoped that I might have a chance to talk to him.

I would rather work things out, but not at the risk of my own health, you know 🙂

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@nycchick
14 Years

And for the record, I'm cool with ALL of the advice.

Having differing opinions is a glorious thing.

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@nycchick
14 Years

Caster, that's the whole thing. .. we did communicate, at least I thought we did. We both have experienced bad breakups, talked about them candidly.

So, at this point, I don't know if I'll ever heargrin him again. He's blocked alp of my waits for contacting him.

The not knowing SUCKS