@deepseagiant2
12 Years
Yo Crabs!
OMG !! Is it true ?? Do cancer guys do that?? I mean to push away the people who love them?? This cancer dude was interested in me and waited forever to have my attention.. and then I gave him the most honest and devoted attention he always wanted.. then we decided the relationship wont have a future for several important reasons but very amicably and decided to handshake and continue as friends bcoz we didnt know what else to classify it into.. but he has become so cold..and is keeping himself unavailable.. i dont understand why he has to do that.. why should the love vanish totally? wont he ever come back??
Do you think leaving someone to feel pushed away is easy? Like there's no thought or emotion behind it?
Pushing someone away has nothing to do with sign but all about how much of a dick they are and how much you love yourself to move on from the bs.
Made a kick ass herbed chicken breast with wild rice pilaf the other day. I don't have enough left over to make a stash, at the moment, and I never push away people who truly love me; only backstabbing assholes get that treatment, and it's more of a coldly cut off permanently sort of thing.
Yeah! You tell 'em MA!
is easy to assume that because the way you act vs the way you feel is so different... you can push away someone with a poker face even so if might hurts?
Never show your cards.
I'm a cancerian and playing the no contact rule at the minute, obsessing over it totally, I'd rather be honest and be myself but can't for that dreaded fear if rejection!
I know we're a pain in the butt, doesn't help that the guy is also a cancer, so he's prob just as bad as me! We will never get anything moving!
Lol, I just don't know what to do part of me thinks he thinks I'm not interested, as he asked me if I wanted his number, we have history from 15 years ago, I text him to say good to see you, speak soon, but I didn't ask anything, he replied a few hours later, saying the same and asking me about my day, I replied and haven't heard anything since, only been 3 days but I'm not sure whether to text hope you've had a good day or something to let him know I am keen or leave it! Men drive me insane, never dealt with a cancer man before!
Yes I will push a guy away if I am in love with him.
I can't help it, I need a little friction and emotional displays of angst. 😛
Posted by Guardingallofme
Lol, I just don't know what to do part of me thinks he thinks I'm not interested, as he asked me if I wanted his number, we have history from 15 years ago, I text him to say good to see you, speak soon, but I didn't ask anything, he replied a few hours later, saying the same and asking me about my day, I replied and haven't heard anything since, only been 3 days but I'm not sure whether to text hope you've had a good day or something to let him know I am keen or leave it! Men drive me insane, never dealt with a cancer man before!
the possibility of crab on crab action is worth the risk of rejection. i won't go into details but that match makes magic happen. do it. 🙂
Posted by LunarMaiden
Yes I will push a guy away if I am in love with him.
Would it be his fault then, if because of you pushing him away..he left for good?
Makes no sense to me. If you're in love, be in love. Quit sabotaging.
See thats the part that confuses me the most about my fellow cancers...
I'm a good person (still human and make mistakes) i will be loving and caring to someone i care about...
And at some extend there is some self preservation instinct you guys cannot control and got in panic mode... And start acting up and pussing... I mean pushing people away... Why can be so hard to believe that people love u just being yourself nothing more nothing less most of you are very beautiful creatures
Posted by LunarMaiden
Yes I will push a guy away if I am in love with him.
Crab's first reaction to love...
I'm having a tough night/morning..
I recently made the decision to cut my Cancer girl out of my life for good, sent her a message recently, after she had ignored me(not the first time)and has been pushing me further and further away, explaining. Said basically that I am not a door mat, and I was done with her, permanently walking away from this. There's so much more to this but I'll save all of you the details.
Anyway, I blocked her on FB, removed her from my contacts..etc. (she's currently living in Mississippi for the next year in an attempt to pursue her ballet career, just FYI..she's not here)
I am off today, so I had a late night last night..in my attempt to fall asleep..I put on some sappy romantic movie and for whatever reason, ended up actually watching it..and I thought of her the entire time. Everything about the girl in the movie reminded me of her..
I was...am, crazy in love with this girl(I don't know why, Kim, stop asking!)and this is killing me..I have tried my best since she left in June to move past her..but the harder I try the harder it seems to get. Everything reminds me of her..I meet people she knew while she was here, all the time, sometimes even completely randomly. I just don't know what to do anymore, I have NEVER EVER, EVER..felt the way I feel about her, and it absolutely totally completely sucks. I don't want to feel it anymore. Keeping busy doesn't work, dating other girls doesn't work..etc.
This is so sappy, someone please come punch me in the face and then do shots of whiskey with me.
This thread has been very enlightening. I thought there was something more to my crab suddenly pushing me away. Now I see there probably was.
Posted by deepseagiant2
Push away anyone who loves you?(hehe)Did you ever consider the contingency that she may not love you?
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That's what I was thinking. She's pushing because she might not want the attention.
((((hugz))))))
She'll go into her shell and think about what you said to her. Did she see it coming or was the extraction a complete surprise?
What was the movie you watched? 🙂
It was a surprise. I don't remember what the movie was titled..it was some made for TV crap.
Every Salon I've been in has a cancer. I must say...you have nice hair and can cut it well.
Posted by deepseagiant2
Push away anyone who loves you?(hehe)Did you ever consider the contingency that she may not love you?
That's what I was thinking. She's pushing because she might not want the attention.
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Oh, trust me..she absolutely loved the attention. When I didn't give it, she chased me down. Every time.
Posted by LunarMaiden
Yes I will push a guy away if I am in love with him.Would it be his fault then, if because of you pushing him away..he left for good?
Makes no sense to me. If you're in love, be in love. Quit sabotaging.
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Love doesn't come often. It can be hard to accept.
I really don't know why I do the things I do actually.
Having been without it so long, I will make more of an effort to not throw up road blocks.
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