Its my Cancer Ex bf birthday on wednesday...!!!!

hello guys..just been having constant sad thoughts n i am getting upset..So as u all know my cancer man broke up with me a month back...because of my constantly calling me and saying very hurtful things to him..i literally begged,cried did evrythng to appologize but since then he hasnt spoken to me..n its been a month after that even i hvnt contacted him at all..but miss him everyday..its his birthday on wednesday....he shared with me a couple of months back how he only wanted to be with me on his birthday and didnt want anyone else..thinking all this again and again is killing me..i really want to be with him on his bday but he doesnt want to talk to me at all..i dont know what to do..should i call him or text him at exact 12 o clock on his bday..or should i wish him nxt day..or should i not wish at all?...or should i bake a cake for him and take it fr him...?what will make him happy on his birthday..? i want his bitterness to go for me cs i genuinly care fr him and love him...and i am ashamed of my mistakes...how can i make his birthday special in any other way..? pls suggest what to do..?

@arielle 83 i dont understand the problem that u hv from everyone..why are u so negative in everythng seems like u r so unhappy with yourself that u like making other ppl unhappy too..on this whole page i hv never seen u making anyone feel better , i think u shud learn to use ur words wiselg because they cant be taken aback..atleast i realize my mistakes and say sorry n want to change for the better..you never stop your bullshit...on this whole page on everyones page..you are so weird n funny man i feel pity for you sometimes your bullshit is never ending...also i hv nvr stalked my ex bfr also n i nvr will also so let me clear it , all your threads also prove how weird and crazy you are not me..stop accusing scorpios because of your own unhappiness n pls do me a favour stop bothering me and everyone else also on their posts...cant u mind ur own business or learn to talk?...pls dont evn reply i dont need ur replies i know my mistakes but they werent as u put them infront of ppl n i am trying to change unlike u becoming even more horrible..haha...

@sensitiveblues scorpios are great ppl dont listen to this unhappy soul ! thanks for your advice !

@Arielle83 knows scorps are great people...

She married one 🙂

Thank you so much darling but i dont need your advice i have god looking after me and telling me when i am wrong not ppl like you 🙂

if you really want the best for him, you need to stop thinking about how to make yourself feel better.

IF you do anything, which I don't think you should, I would suggest you send him a card. It's more meaningful than a text and it doesn't put any pressure on him to respond to you. And don't write too much in it, just that you hope he has a great birthday. You don't want to show him that you're desperate for his attention or forgiveness, just that you were thinking of him , and you wanted him to have a good birthday.

I also hope that you are considering how you are going to change for the better, if you ever do get him back, or if you two are even that compatible to begin with. I don't know that whole backstory here, but based on your obsession with him, your relationship didn't seem that healthy in the first place...

Call him and say happy birthday.

OP why would you keep saying hurtful things to your ex? Especially when you know it bothered him...Are you able to control what you say now? You have to be very careful as words can build someone up or tear a person down.

Il make it easier for you arielle you dont hv to write so much of shit and ur opinions on everythng spcly when someone is hurted and hv the balls to accept my mistakes and is willing to change..but offcourse you will not mind your business because you are arielle and you will keep on commenting i can see who needs counselling you or me...haha



this what i did guys exactly..i did not manipulate his mom infact i nvr spoke to her also...

and i am shameful fr my mistakes n hv begged him 100 times cried like mad it was no drama i was really feeling bad..

this is what i did for all of ur updates so that arielle can write more crap on this...



"Hi Everyone, I was dating a cancer man since the last 5 months.I am a scorpio woman he was crazy about me. Initially in the starting everything was very good but then he started becoming distant and i was very suspicious so things turned , before he used to call me all the time then i started calling him all the time.This made him get irritated still he was very nice to me.There were days he would adore me then there were days when he would get mad at me but would always come back.About one and a half months before, we had to meet each other he called me to his place.but was not telling me the plan properly and i was constantly calling him when he was with his mom.I got irritated and angry and said alot of hurtful things to him.he blocked me from evrywhr after that and said he can never talk to someone like me.i tried apologising the next day but he just wasn’t ready to talk to me at all and would constantly not pick up my phone and ignore me all the time and also block me.After a few days i told his frnd to make him talk to me i was so helpless,he called me up then and started screaming at me that why are u embarrising me in front of my friends and you bloody idiot and what not i didn’t say a word and still kept on apologizing n saying i love him.He didn’t bother at all.in this middle ,he also made his frnd msg me that he is seeing someone else so that i don’t call him.After a few days i again tried to reach him but he had blocked me so i called him from an unkown no and said if u don’t talk to me or unblock me i will call up your mom.He called me and said what kind of a person you are and alot of butter like i have no interest in you.I thought i will be frnds with you but now i will not you are disgusting and what not but also said that he is not seeing anyone he told his frnd to tell me that purposely.Screamed and kept down the phone.After a few days i again called him up crying and apologizing and asking for one last chance and that i really love him and i will change for him and he again screamed and me and said that i am a blackmailer i was calling up his mom( which i never did i jus said it in anger cs iwas so helpless he blocked me from his phone), Also said that i am not of his level i am a dirty person he hates me his frnds hate me i hv no self respect ! all of this he said to me!

Let him go

Dammm..What was the things you said to him that piss him off? I would just let him go . I think the pushing is getting on his nerves. Just step away.

Just a typical Scorpio woman she wants to have the last word she's POed she got dumped the Cancer man is running for his life he knows she's a few bricks short of a load.

can i have your vagina now?

Seems to me his mum would have seen what was going on while she was trying to spend quality time with him, cancer men love there mums fiercely and perhaps it was the wrong time for your confusion with his instructions to wind you up, perhaps he was trying to talk to you, his mum kept wanting to talk to him, and then he was not concentrating on giving you the correct information about your meeting or whatever, so you sensed he was not concentrating solely on your dilemma.

His mum no doubt witnessed all of this while she was in his company and probably gave her opinion of you without even knowing you (respectfully) so what I'm trying to say is, if his mum has a bad opinion of you, he will listen to her I'm afraid, so sorry you are obviously hurting and you have tried to apologise countless times, I think you should just put it down to experience now as its been a month, ye send a card but make sure you acknowledge you have upset his mum also, and admit you were over reacting and you will never forgive yourself for saying such hurtful things.

Then just do your own thing, be the strong woman you are ok hun x ?

If the roles were reversed, you'd be getting advice to walk away and never look back, because nobody deserves to have to tolerate an abuser.

Why do you think you should be an exception?

@OP,





This is where you will end up if you don't stop.

You have exceeded all your stalking privileges.

The benefits are over.



You seem like a sweet person, but I am really concerned for you.

You're looking at his future B-Day Card....

This thread is lit.

But gurrrrl I know what you're going through (not exactly because I could never be so pathetic) but honey!! Listen!!

I was vicious to my cancer ex once while dating, really spiteful. He was not honest about the same thing on more than once occasion and I lost it because I literally cannot stand dishonesty especially when I was always forthcoming. Anyway, the argument we had blew out of proportion completely. It was the worst strife I had ever had with anyone before and I was certain he wanted nothing to do with me as I did him.

But, we talked it out, and we much later down the line, broke up for others reasons- but I think the whole "cancer doesn't forget" thing is bs, because my ex cancer was always very forgiving. Will forgive almost anything as long as he loves you and that love is reciprocated. I felt arguments meant little to him, even when I did get ballsy, because we both knew where we stood with one another in that moment.

He could hurt me with his actions and indifference and I could do far worse with words. But that is something I've always been able to control for the most part- And you should really try separating yourself from rage girl.

Anyway, advice time.

Get over him.

My ex, no matter how bad the fight was would always come back to me like a magnet, and if he didn't, I would always go crawling back like you, tail between legs and asking for reconciliation time which he always obliged to. The ending of our relationship was neither of us giving a rats ass about rectifying anything. So if he's ignoring you, it's over. I think when a cancer ignores you, they're done.

You can send a happy birthday well wish if you wanted, just because you sincerely wish him well. I'm not sure what you said exactly but he may appreciate it...he may not. I do not think in anyway he will take you back for a happy birthday though. And if you've been over for a month with no contact, he is most likely trying his hardest to overcome any emotion you incite in him.

But I know that scorpio passion you have, you're a little cray one so you gon' do it anyway. More power to you, good luck!

She may get locked up or he will have to call up the current girlfriend to handle his business.

Yeah scorp girl don't.

It's my ex boyfriends birthday today too! Hope it's not the same guy ?

I hope mine really does have the worst birthday ever ?

Lol jk kinda

@Arielle83,

I don't think I am "mothering" her, but I am really concerned for her. The outcome will be VERY ugly. The OP has absolute ZERO control over her emotions. There are no stop buttons. His requests right now are falling on deaf ears.

I am not a Cancer. Maybe a Cancer might find her persistence flattering, or may be he's just not that in to her, maybe he's hurt, maybe he's just turned off and disgusted with her entirely. Who knows!

However, there is something called respecting someone's space, and the OP isn't doing so.

But my gut instinct tells me that this Cancer will grow to resent her, permanently, have her arrested or who knows, things might get physical.

...And something tells me because this woman's emotions are on CODE red, she will be equally as scarred.

Who's bullying? All I have read is straight up common sense advice. If that's a bully trigger y'all need to toughen up.

hi Guys...so its my ex birthday today so what i did was that i got a birthday cake delivered to his house last night with a very simple happy birthday wish on it....this was delivered around midnight....after about 2 hours i called him from my dads phone because hehas blocked me from mine...i called and said Happy birthday..did u get the cake..he was like which cake i said the one i sent..he said i didnt know who i was from so i didnt cut it...i was like how does thecake look like ? i gave the cake guy some instructions to make it...he explained i said send me a pic..he said i will tmrw morning then he asked me whose no am i calling him from..i said...its my dads and i said now you can block this too..he started laughing and said no no lol...then he said il call u tmrw and again said thank you like very cutely andi didnt say anythng no nagging nthg n kept down the phone properly nicely...listen to him...he was homw only watching some show on the laptop..he didnt seem excited for his birthday at all...he hasnt yet unblocked me from anywhere aftr that and hasnt called me or msgd too...but he spoke to me very sweetly...

and i waited the whole day today thinking maybe he will call me up and would want to be for a while with me today...but he didnt so i called him again from my dads phone and he was like whose that i was like i called u from this no last night also r u mad..like i said very funnily in a funny way...but he seemed cold again and was out i could hear music....i asked him r u out with ur frnds he said ya..i said i was thinking we can go out for dinner...he straight away said no....and i said can u unblock me i am unable to call u and i borrow my dads phn to call you..he said ya ya ..then he said il talk to you later and hung up...i think he has somebody in his life and hes done ...i hv nvr in my life treated any one like he is treating me...it hurts me to my soul..i cant stop crying...

Hey momma,

I think you should get dressed up, put some makeup on, a cute dress, and heels. Then go out somewhere you feel comfortable, like the park, a nice bar, or a good restaurant on the water. Watch all the guys check you out! It will make you feel so good and gain some of that confidence back. ?

thank you girls makes me feel alot better..seems like he has shifted his bed to other womens..i am trying to get better...pls keep encouraging me...