@CalmCrab22
10 YearsCancer
No commitment but FB or FWB?!?!
Been "together" 2yrs
Maid?
Do you have a source of income of your own, or are you dependent on him?
Posted by DMV
Maid?
I don't do anything like that
Posted by Koniuchaa
I don't get it. He wants you around but you can't talk? To him?What people of his are you taking care of and how?
No sex? See ya!
I can talk to him if I want to however we have no privacy.
I like that I obviously don't feel like he uses me for sex but I do have a sex drive
Posted by LadyNeptune
Do you have a source of income of your own, or are you dependent on him?
We have all of our own things we do not need each other for finances.
He is VERY well off.
Have you ever had sex with him?
Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
I stalked you a little bit calm crab
" Why does it seem like telling him I love him even playfully pisses him off?
- he has told me he loves me (once) told me he cares (few times)
- when arguing I told him just tell me you don't love me, that you don't care & I'll leave you alone. His response (on both occasions) I can't tell you that, of course I care
- everyone knows we're together
- he's very protective (checks on me) & jealous (some females dislike this, I find it cute & comforting)
- he has 4 small companies he's building & he won't let anything take his focus off of building them. Kinda seems to me that he won't allow more in love department bc us cancers can get so caught up in our partners that we lose focus of other goals & it can be difficult for us to balance"
Is this the same guy you're talking about?
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
Have you ever had sex with him?Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
We've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $
You also mentioned
" Cancer/cancer been dating year and half, deep emotional attachment & still the thought of full commitment is making my heart race with anxiety now.
We aren't exactly older (that's kinda relative though) & we both have teen kids. I won't know until I'm more settled in my careers but I think we're both hesitant due to new careers at the time we met. We need to feel more established in them before devoting time elsewhere.
He may have something he wants to work on or he may be set in his ways.
I know giving up my home is a huge thought in the back of my mind when thinking of commitment. I don't want anything from anyone else I only want him but I don't want him around everyday."
Same cancer fellow?
Posted by beautifulday
So i dated a Cancer man who hated commitment and on our 2nd date told me that he didn't believe in labels and I gave him a look of "your strange" and than very politely told him that i do. You have to be direct but very sweet with Cancer men about what you want. Stay stable because they are not...there emotions are all over the place so don't let them drown you. So, be sweet, wear something that shows your boobs and tell him how you won't accept anything less than a commitment if thats what you want. He will forever give you a run around otherwise.
I am also a cancer so I am to aware of how he can be. I'm not looking for commitment I am wondering what he wants me around for.
We've both made our feelings known. We love each other and as 2 cancers are moving at our own pace.
If he can't give you commitment for over 2 years what purpose does he serve honestly.
Do you want more?
Maybe he can't give you but someone else can.
I really don't understand your living situation.
Posted by SensitiveBlues
I feel like you're not painting a full picture, can you describe your relationship more, and who else lives with you?
He has his own home & has 2 19 year old nephews living with him
I have my own home& my 2 children live with me. Their dad lives in another state & is zero factor in our relationship
Side note: he has kids also
Same guy but SOOOOOOO Much has happened since then. The dynamics have definitely changed a lot.
@sensitiveblies
It's not a problem at all.
I am simply curious to a man desiring to have a woman at his home when he isn't engaging with her due to business.
I was with a man for 8 years that owned a very successful company so I know how it goes being with a man married to building a life style vs a man with "9-5"
Posted by SensitiveBlues
Posted by CalmCrab22
@sensitivebliesIt's not a problem at all.
I am simply curious to a man desiring to have a woman at his home when he isn't engaging with her due to business.
I was with a man for 8 years that owned a very successful company so I know how it goes being with a man married to building a life style vs a man with "9-5"
Ok well think it through, home is very important to a Crab, he see's you as a fixture in his home, to me that means he cares alot about you
its like we let just anybody come into our homes.
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Good point. I didn't see it that way at all. Thank you!!
Posted by SensitiveBlues
I also want to add he trusts you alot, Extremely so.Can you imagine someone coming into your house that you're not even committed too, the information they can find out...
That's huge. To me that's a big big thing.
Yes! He's told me a # of times that he trusts me. I've been in his home a many times without him for long periods of time and while he was out of town.
Thank you so much you're so on point, clear and honest 🙂
Posted by SensitiveBlues
I also want to add he trusts you alot, Extremely so.Can you imagine someone coming into your house that you're not even committed too, the information they can find out...
That's huge. To me that's a big big thing.
SensitiveBlues I sent you a message. Please lmk if you didn't get it. Tks
Posted by SensitiveBlues
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by SensitiveBlues
I also want to add he trusts you alot, Extremely so.Can you imagine someone coming into your house that you're not even committed too, the information they can find out...
That's huge. To me that's a big big thing.
SensitiveBlues I sent you a message. Please lmk if you didn't get it. Tks
i dont think i got it,
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I sent it again
Posted by SensitiveBlues
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
? my box is empty LOL
Posted by SensitiveBlues
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
In short my new question is… why does he go out on his boat and out at night without me (been like this 8mos but previous 1yr + we went out together). He will avoid me the days he's going on the boat. Which seems to me that he doesn't want to lie if I ask him what his plans are bc he has no intention of inviting me.
I'm confused bc like I previously mentioned he wants me to hang at his house & while his friends/Fam/coworkers/ employees are there. So I'm not a secret & he's not embarrassed & has no reason to be. You pointed out that he cares & trusts me but this makes me not believe that.
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
Have you ever had sex with him?Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
We've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $
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You dont want help, if you did you would cut the bullshit and be more clear about what exactly is going on, instead of these stupidly, vague bullet points.
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
Have you ever had sex with him?Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
We've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $
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I don't get how you can date casually for 2 years, are you long distance or something?
Posted by Illuminati
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
Have you ever had sex with him?Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
We've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $
I don't get how you can date casually for 2 years, are you long distance or something?
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I literally almost died in my last relationship. I didn't so much as exchange #s with a man for 2 years after the hat relationship ended. I've spent a few years healing.
@illuminati as for my cancer man not moving forward
1) I was so anti love when we met idk how he stayed bc I was the stupid girl all about being single independent & not needing a man (I'm not like that anymore)
2) he had just gotten out of a 2 year relationship
Posted by CalmCrab22
@illuminati as for my cancer man not moving forward1) I was so anti love when we met idk how he stayed bc I was the stupid girl all about being single independent & not needing a man (I'm not like that anymore)
2) he had just gotten out of a 2 year relationship
Sounds like time to have a heart to heart talk with him? To figure out what you both want
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by Illuminati
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
Have you ever had sex with him?Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
We've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $
I don't get how you can date casually for 2 years, are you long distance or something?
I literally almost died in my last relationship. I didn't so much as exchange #s with a man for 2 years after the hat relationship ended. I've spent a few years healing.
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Time heals almost anything. What do you want in your life now? Do you want more commitment with this man? If so let him know that you are in a place that you are ready for more. If he is not interested move on, if so work as a team.
Posted by SensitiveBlues
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by SensitiveBlues
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
In short my new question is… why does he go out on his boat and out at night without me (been like this 8mos but previous 1yr + we went out together). He will avoid me the days he's going on the boat. Which seems to me that he doesn't want to lie if I ask him what his plans are bc he has no intention of inviting me.
I'm confused bc like I previously mentioned he wants me to hang at his house & while his friends/Fam/coworkers/ employees are there. So I'm not a secret & he's not embarrassed & has no reason to be. You pointed out that he cares & trusts me but this makes me not believe that.
My answer to your pm and i read it was LEAVE. I READ everything you wrote, he's extremely disrespectful...
and i can guess why he isn't sexing you up....
he's emotionally using you.
you can do much better.
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Ok. Thanks for being direct.
Still don't understand why a grown man needs me emotionally.
My lease is up this month & I was thinking of bring it up to him that I may not stay but instead move to the house I own in a different state. Because I am contemplating moving but also curious what he would say.
Posted by Illuminati
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by Illuminati
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
Have you ever had sex with him?Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
We've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $
I don't get how you can date casually for 2 years, are you long distance or something?
I literally almost died in my last relationship. I didn't so much as exchange #s with a man for 2 years after the hat relationship ended. I've spent a few years healing.
Time heals almost anything. What do you want in your life now? Do you want more commitment with this man? If so let him know that you are in a place that you are ready for more. If he is not interested move on, if so work as a team.
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I am satisfied being single but would be happy sharing life with him.
Sounds a lot like my Cancer/cancer situation as far as the clueless about what he wants thing goes...I just left a I'm leaving for good this time message yet again n I know what's gonna happen... The same depressing cycle.. You have to talk to him..n if he doesn't at least attempt to make u happy..just move on?As cancer's we know how to make the ones we love feel loved so if he's not doing... He simply doesn't want to
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by SensitiveBlues
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by SensitiveBlues
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
In short my new question is… why does he go out on his boat and out at night without me (been like this 8mos but previous 1yr + we went out together). He will avoid me the days he's going on the boat. Which seems to me that he doesn't want to lie if I ask him what his plans are bc he has no intention of inviting me.
I'm confused bc like I previously mentioned he wants me to hang at his house & while his friends/Fam/coworkers/ employees are there. So I'm not a secret & he's not embarrassed & has no reason to be. You pointed out that he cares & trusts me but this makes me not believe that.
My answer to your pm and i read it was LEAVE. I READ everything you wrote, he's extremely disrespectful...
and i can guess why he isn't sexing you up....
he's emotionally using you.
you can do much better.
Ok. Thanks for being direct.
Still don't understand why a grown man needs me emotionally.
My lease is up this month & I was thinking of bring it up to him that I may not stay but instead move to the house I own in a different state. Because I am contemplating moving but also curious what he would say.
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What is his Venus? And moon? Maybe Mercury too?
Posted by Moonbutter
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by SensitiveBlues
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by SensitiveBlues
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
In short my new question is… why does he go out on his boat and out at night without me (been like this 8mos but previous 1yr + we went out together). He will avoid me the days he's going on the boat. Which seems to me that he doesn't want to lie if I ask him what his plans are bc he has no intention of inviting me.
I'm confused bc like I previously mentioned he wants me to hang at his house & while his friends/Fam/coworkers/ employees are there. So I'm not a secret & he's not embarrassed & has no reason to be. You pointed out that he cares & trusts me but this makes me not believe that.
My answer to your pm and i read it was LEAVE. I READ everything you wrote, he's extremely disrespectful...
and i can guess why he isn't sexing you up....
he's emotionally using you.
you can do much better.
Ok. Thanks for being direct.
Still don't understand why a grown man needs me emotionally.
My lease is up this month & I was thinking of bring it up to him that I may not stay but instead move to the house I own in a different state. Because I am contemplating moving but also curious what he would say.
What is his Venus? And moon? Maybe Mercury too?
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Moon: Scorpio
Venus: Gemini
Merc: Gemini
I'm not familiar with how these affect his relationship behaviors
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by Moonbutter
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by SensitiveBlues
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by SensitiveBlues
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
In short my new question is… why does he go out on his boat and out at night without me (been like this 8mos but previous 1yr + we went out together). He will avoid me the days he's going on the boat. Which seems to me that he doesn't want to lie if I ask him what his plans are bc he has no intention of inviting me.
I'm confused bc like I previously mentioned he wants me to hang at his house & while his friends/Fam/coworkers/ employees are there. So I'm not a secret & he's not embarrassed & has no reason to be. You pointed out that he cares & trusts me but this makes me not believe that.
My answer to your pm and i read it was LEAVE. I READ everything you wrote, he's extremely disrespectful...
and i can guess why he isn't sexing you up....
he's emotionally using you.
you can do much better.
Ok. Thanks for being direct.
Still don't understand why a grown man needs me emotionally.
My lease is up this month & I was thinking of bring it up to him that I may not stay but instead move to the house I own in a different state. Because I am contemplating moving but also curious what he would say.
What is his Venus? And moon? Maybe Mercury too?
Moon: Scorpio
Venus: Gemini
Merc: Gemini
I'm not familiar with how these affect his relationship behaviors
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Sensitive to his own feelings, yet detached to his partner in relationship. He is witty, has good sense of humor, He loves debating, and he is attracted to intelligence and the unknown.
just guessing from the placement you listed.
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by Illuminati
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by Illuminati
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
Have you ever had sex with him?Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
We've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $
I don't get how you can date casually for 2 years, are you long distance or something?
I literally almost died in my last relationship. I didn't so much as exchange #s with a man for 2 years after the hat relationship ended. I've spent a few years healing.
Time heals almost anything. What do you want in your life now? Do you want more commitment with this man? If so let him know that you are in a place that you are ready for more. If he is not interested move on, if so work as a team.
I am satisfied being single but would be happy sharing life with him.
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Good you should tell him that. There is risk but reward comes with the risk.
Posted by Poppyseeds
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by Moonbutter
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by SensitiveBlues
Posted by CalmCrab22
Posted by SensitiveBlues
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
In short my new question is… why does he go out on his boat and out at night without me (been like this 8mos but previous 1yr + we went out together). He will avoid me the days he's going on the boat. Which seems to me that he doesn't want to lie if I ask him what his plans are bc he has no intention of inviting me.
I'm confused bc like I previously mentioned he wants me to hang at his house & while his friends/Fam/coworkers/ employees are there. So I'm not a secret & he's not embarrassed & has no reason to be. You pointed out that he cares & trusts me but this makes me not believe that.
My answer to your pm and i read it was LEAVE. I READ everything you wrote, he's extremely disrespectful...
and i can guess why he isn't sexing you up....
he's emotionally using you.
you can do much better.
Ok. Thanks for being direct.
Still don't understand why a grown man needs me emotionally.
My lease is up this month & I was thinking of bring it up to him that I may not stay but instead move to the house I own in a different state. Because I am contemplating moving but also curious what he would say.
What is his Venus? And moon? Maybe Mercury too?
Moon: Scorpio
Venus: Gemini
Merc: Gemini
I'm not familiar with how these affect his relationship behaviors
Sensitive to his own feelings, yet detached to his partner in relationship. He is witty, has good sense of humor, He loves debating, and he is attracted to intelligence and the unknown.
just guessing from the placement you listed.
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He's definitely not detached from my feelings. When we're together he is very tentative. He checks on me makes sure I don't need food water or blanket. When we get in the car he asks if I'm comfortable.
He HATES debating of any sort.
He is attracted to classy sexy intelligent mysterious women for relationships but keeps company of ANY type of woman when partying.
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He wants me around his home, he's to busy working to talk, he's not even at his house with me half the time.
I'm not being social or taking care of his ppl or his home & we're not even having sex!
Can any Cancer men explain this?
We're both cancers
We do not live together.
I don't want commitment, but we are not official tho everyone associates us with one another