Posted by ariesheartBecause she slept with him, or because she wouldn't?
My boyfriend just told me my friend was promiscuous. Right away I got pissed. Not sure if he was calling her a ho, if she flirted with him or if he's curious. When I asked him why would he say that, he just says she is with no explanation. Why am I so pissed about it?! Should I be? He's a cancer, so he sucks when it comes to explaining butter.
Posted by ariesheartHe and his friends are probably screwing her.
My boyfriend just told me my friend was promiscuous. Right away I got pissed. Not sure if he was calling her a ho, if she flirted with him or if he's curious. When I asked him why would he say that, he just says she is with no explanation. Why am I so pissed about it?! Should I be? He's a cancer, so he sucks when it comes to explaining butter.
Posted by LunarMaidenGlad I'm not the only one who got that impression.Posted by ariesheartHe and his friends are probably screwing her.
My boyfriend just told me my friend was promiscuous. Right away I got pissed. Not sure if he was calling her a ho, if she flirted with him or if he's curious. When I asked him why would he say that, he just says she is with no explanation. Why am I so pissed about it?! Should I be? He's a cancer, so he sucks when it comes to explaining butter.click to expand
Posted by tizianiYes, true, no one but OP heard his tone of voice when he said it, so hard to know what his intent might have been. An odd choice of word to use if he wasn't meaning it in a negative way, but I suppose someone might use it in a neutral way, not knowing it's often seen as insulting.Posted by CopperDoveOr maybe he shares your view and was saying it without accusation.
Even if she is promiscuous, if he gave no explanation for his accusation, his intentions are suspect. If he had a point to make to warn you about her, he should have stated so. Ask him again. If it's true, he can say why I'm sure. He has either heard, read, experienced and/or observed something, or he hasn't and he's being condemning for the hell of it.
But if she is, does it matter? He isn't in an intimate relationship with her (I hope), he's in one with you. And if he was secretly in one with her in the past, then it's strange that they both have been silent about that, but that doesn't necessarily matter either as long as they aren't still involved. And is he labelling this (if it's true) correctly? Some women are labelled that for having a higher than average number of partners, but that doesn't say anything immoral about them necessarily, it can be a judgement based on archaic ideas about female sexuality.
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Posted by ariesheartSounds like he's gotten to know her better, has observed her behavior and has just come to this conclusion.
My boyfriend just told me my friend was promiscuous. Right away I got pissed. Not sure if he was calling her a ho, if she flirted with him or if he's curious. When I asked him why would he say that, he just says she is with no explanation. Why am I so pissed about it?! Should I be? He's a cancer, so he sucks when it comes to explaining butter.
Posted by RumiLoveCaps do come across as judgemental, however, cap gut instinct is rarely wrong.
I usually would trust my man's judgement.
My dad is very judgemental about the friends I make. He was never wrong. Maybe it's my culture(Asian) but, I cannot make friends with people my dad does not like.. Around 16 I rebelled and used to accuse my dad of being overly critical/making wrong assumptions about my friends but it's proven time and again that he was correct.
Like someone indicated, be careful about the company you have 🙂 ...you needn't cut off your friendship, just take it as a sign and be watchful.
Posted by ariesheartAhhh...
He met her for the first time...
Posted by thinktoomuchThen there may be something to this, if he just met her becausePosted by ariesheartHe´s just jelous of your long term relationship 😄
When I got upset, all he can say is "why you so upset? You act like she's your girlfriend"!
Some men try to get closer to a woman by dissing other women, because so many women talk shit about each other. But the men don´t know the sistahood!click to expand
Posted by ariesheartDoes he make minimizing statements like that other times that you get upset about things?
When I got upset, all he can say is "why you so upset? You act like she's your girlfriend"!
before about other woman. But not anyone I'm close with. I dont have many female friends to begin with
Posted by CopperDovePosted by ariesheartDoes he make minimizing statements like that other times that you get upset about things?
When I got upset, all he can say is "why you so upset? You act like she's your girlfriend"!
That strikes me as an immature way to handle jealousy, too, like others here are saying.
Thanks for the details about how little he knew her!
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Posted by ariesheartWith the other women he's said it about, is there any truth to his statement?
He's said it before about other woman. But not anyone I'm close with. I dont have many female friends to begin with
Posted by CopperDovePosted by ariesheartDoes he make minimizing statements like that other times that you get upset about things?
When I got upset, all he can say is "why you so upset? You act like she's your girlfriend"!
That strikes me as an immature way to handle jealousy, too, like others here are saying.
Thanks for the details about how little he knew her!
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Posted by DMVI sure did! Flipped a table on his ass!
How you let this sucka talk smack about your friends?
The question is, did u defend her?
Posted by Arielle83He is insecure and dominating. Even gets jealous of me hanging out with family sometimes. He always wants my attentionPosted by ariesheartDoes he watch a lot of porn?
He's said it before about other woman. But not anyone I'm close with. I dont have many female friends to begin with
Posted by CopperDovePosted by ariesheartDoes he make minimizing statements like that other times that you get upset about things?
When I got upset, all he can say is "why you so upset? You act like she's your girlfriend"!
That strikes me as an immature way to handle jealousy, too, like others here are saying.
Thanks for the details about how little he knew her!
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Posted by ariesheartDon't bring her around him ever again. Find better friends. This girl seems untrustworthy.
My boyfriend just told me my friend was promiscuous. Right away I got pissed. Not sure if he was calling her a ho, if she flirted with him or if he's curious. When I asked him why would he say that, he just says she is with no explanation. Why am I so pissed about it?! Should I be? He's a cancer, so he sucks when it comes to explaining butter.
Posted by lou.mI'm happy with him. He just can be very inappropriate at times.
It's not the friend that has the issues it's him.
Posted by ariesheartIs the issue that severe really? Sometimes we blow things up. If you were fine before this etc it can be just one of those little things etc that blow over.
Not sure, it'll be random woman. I live him. I know he loves me. Our families spent this whole Thanksgiving week together. Had a blast all week til this
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Posted by Arielle83Also, I watch more porn than he does! Why u ask?Posted by ariesheartDoes he watch a lot of porn?
He's said it before about other woman. But not anyone I'm close with. I dont have many female friends to begin with
Posted by CopperDovePosted by ariesheartDoes he make minimizing statements like that other times that you get upset about things?
When I got upset, all he can say is "why you so upset? You act like she's your girlfriend"!
That strikes me as an immature way to handle jealousy, too, like others here are saying.
Thanks for the details about how little he knew her!
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Posted by yummycrabsticksWow, I said the same thing!!!
He doesn't have his priorities straight but he likes you
Posted by ariesheartHe's more than inappropriate, he's volatile in a way that could get much worse.
Also, his friend that we both used to work with came by and was telling me how gorgeous I've gotten since he last saw me. The look my boyfriend gave me nearly caught the house on fire! Then after the guy left, he pretty much blamed me for the guy saying I looked good.
Theeeen, we wanted to drink, but the stores were closed. I have a guy friend that I've known for 10yrs who keeps alcohol in his house. I called him, with my boyfriend next to me, and while I'm on the phone with the guy, my boyfriend yelling, asking if i was I fucking him! The guy heard it all!
Posted by CopperDoveHe was drinking during all incidents. When he's sober, he's mostly in his shell or really goofyPosted by ariesheartHe's more than inappropriate, he's volatile in a way that could get much worse.
Also, his friend that we both used to work with came by and was telling me how gorgeous I've gotten since he last saw me. The look my boyfriend gave me nearly caught the house on fire! Then after the guy left, he pretty much blamed me for the guy saying I looked good.
Theeeen, we wanted to drink, but the stores were closed. I have a guy friend that I've known for 10yrs who keeps alcohol in his house. I called him, with my boyfriend next to me, and while I'm on the phone with the guy, my boyfriend yelling, asking if i was I fucking him! The guy heard it all!
Please be very careful if you're going to continue to be around him.
When he drinks, how does he act?
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Posted by incandescentcancerThen get the fuck off
Five pages of meaningless fuckery
Posted by ariesheartI did until you brought me back with your #can'tkeepmymouthshut.Posted by incandescentcancerThen get the fuck off
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Posted by incandescentcancerIt's sad when you ask for advice and people don't know to help others, lend a hand, but rather complain and forget that we all are in need of more wisdom and guidance. But I bet when its them, there's no dumb questionPosted by ariesheartI did until you brought me back with your #can'tkeepmymouthshut.Posted by incandescentcancerThen get the fuck off
Five pages of meaningless fuckery
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Posted by CopperDoveNo he wasn't. But I think you're right. Never seen him behave this badly. Especially in a few days time. He can be inappropriate, say things without thinking. But I'm an Aries, I can be the same way
It definitely can bring out a bad side in people. A side that's already there, or they react badly to alcohol.
I'm not a hostile person, but I don't drink more than a small amount, and not often, because it can make me feel hostile in a way that I don't normally.
He shouldn't drink if hostility is what happens to him when he does, or keep it to a minimum.
He was drinking when he referred to other women, not your friend, as promiscuous?
Posted by ariesheartLooks like alcohol magnifies his reaction to thoughts that he might have sometimes. He likely has a few underlying issues that you now can be aware of (jealousy, for example) that he doesn't handle maturely so it explodes when his inhibitions are down.Posted by CopperDoveNo he wasn't. But I think you're right. Never seen him behave this badly. Especially in a few days time. He can be inappropriate, say things without thinking. But I'm an Aries, I can be the same way
It definitely can bring out a bad side in people. A side that's already there, or they react badly to alcohol.
I'm not a hostile person, but I don't drink more than a small amount, and not often, because it can make me feel hostile in a way that I don't normally.
He shouldn't drink if hostility is what happens to him when he does, or keep it to a minimum.
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Posted by ariesheartMy guess would be, she fucked several of his friends. When you let all the homies tap that you are regarded as slutty and will not be taken seriously by anyone in the circle of friends. The general consensus is that if she let you hit it and then turns around and gives it up to your friend later, she is promiscuous and not gf material.
My boyfriend just told me my friend was promiscuous. Right away I got pissed. Not sure if he was calling her a ho, if she flirted with him or if he's curious. When I asked him why would he say that, he just says she is with no explanation. Why am I so pissed about it?! Should I be? He's a cancer, so he sucks when it comes to explaining butter.
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