Cancer girlfriend ignoring texts?

Hi everyone, this might be a long story but I hope one of you can help me.
I am a pisces man and me and my cancer girl have been together for over 2 years, I feel she is my soulmate; we clicked instantly and have talked almost every day. She is my best friend.
She is the typical hopeless romantic cancer who is very caring and has devoted a lot of time to me. I am a flighty pisces at times and can be disconnected when feeling sad/negative - she understands this and accommodates me very well. We have supported each other through a lot.

This year however, I had some heavy family issues that made me emotionally unable to devote as much time to her as I'd like to - we became distant (I feel this was my fault) and I suggested we take a break to strengthen our general relationship. Neither of us had plans to be with anybody else but I felt it might help us to become closer again... unfortunately it didn't work out as I was dealing with a lot at the time which made our texts very sporadic and only small talk which was frustrating. During this time she told me she was really sad and missed me a lot but understood it was hard for me.

Fast forward around 3 months and we were talking as normal again (still unromantically). I said I had missed being with her, and she said the same. I told her playfully that I like her and she said she liked me too.
2 days ago I explained in more detail why it was hard for me to be available; she said "I've missed you so much too but you don't need to feel guilty or anything I promise" I replied and told her I love her, and she said "I'll always love you". Even though I was confused what she meant by that, I said I'd always love her too and said I wanted to be with her. She hasn't replied since she said that to me and I'm really I worried as she's not usually the type to ignore people especially as we are still officially together. I left it all day before I started to get really anxious and asked her if she still wanted to be with me.

This morning she still hasn't replied so I told her I was worried and asked her if she could text me back. I then apologised thinking I'd done something wrong and told her exactly how I felt about her in a long message; I said I was still in love with her, sorry that we were distant and that I was upset she had stopped replying.

Am I worrying over nothing? Do any of you have any ideas why she would send mixed signals? I'm really confused, she's my first love and I'm scared she has changed her mind about me.

Anybody?

what's her chart look like?

Cancers like committed stable partners.
But Cancers often let their feelings rule over logic.
So even as a total screw up, you will be able to win her back if she is a total feeler who puts "connection," good sex and romantic feelings above all else.

and you show your hand without knowing what she is doing.... it makes you look some kinda way a lil bit...

Hey guys thanks for the responses.

I think she must still be upset about us having a break in the first place, but she read the text i sent her explaining my feelings and still hasn't replied. I truly love this girl, so I sent her a text a few hours later telling her that I'm confused that she would say she loves me and then ignore me for days.

Lobo idk what your second post means? I'm not sure about her full chart, the only way to describe her astrologically is to say she is a typical cancer; she loves her mom and her home surroundings. She mothers me a lot and she's very in touch with her emotions, but I'm assuming because she still feels hurt that she's guarding her feelings.

I wish she wouldn't ignore me though.

I'm also confused about the last thing she said... does saying "I'll always love you" and "I love you" mean the same thing?

I don't think so either Koniucha, but it wasn't until she said that she was fine with me... She's never ignored me before which is why I'm worried.

Unfortunately not, we are far apart right now and have been for this whole situation. I've told her I'm hurt and confused but she hasn't opened that text yet...

too much limbo. if you can't be together and it's not just about distance how long can you expect her to wait around

sounds like she's more of a safety blanket right now

Posted by smsces
Hey guys thanks for the responses.

I truly love this girl, so I sent her a text a few hours later telling her that I'm confused that she would say she loves me and then ignore me for days.

After doing your own disappearing act AND breaking up with her, you really need to be patient with her. What your feeling after only a few days is a fraction of the hurt she must have felt.

Be patient.

We never broke up and I didn't disappear, I had a family tragedy amongst other things but we sent sporadic texts - hers just as unpredictable as mine and she knew what I was dealing with.

I understand where you're coming from LadyNeptune, and I know I hurt her by not being around for her but she seemed happy to talk before she sent that last text.

She's not a safety blanket and distance isn't a factor usually but I'm trying to give her space. I guess me telling her that I still have those feelings for her has brought up her own feelings too, unless she's moved on and can't tell me she doesn't want to be with me anymore?

Dont be unstable. Dont disappear. Always take some time out of your own if u will to talk with ur gf. Shes a person with feelings as well u cant just leave someone hanging like that. She misses u but is hurtin right now.

U dun goofed pretty boi.

There's little connection with distance. You're going to have to more than lame ass texting.

Posted by smsces
We never broke up and I didn't disappear, I had a family tragedy amongst other things but we sent sporadic texts - hers just as unpredictable as mine and she knew what I was dealing with.

I understand where you're coming from LadyNeptune, and I know I hurt her by not being around for her but she seemed happy to talk before she sent that last text.

She's not a safety blanket and distance isn't a factor usually but I'm trying to give her space. I guess me telling her that I still have those feelings for her has brought up her own feelings too, unless she's moved on and can't tell me she doesn't want to be with me anymore?

While it sucks that the universe dumped a family tragedy in your lap, you did stop seeing her in person for a period of time leading ultimately to you guys breaking up.

Cancers need constant assurance of your love to feel secure and fulfilled in the relationship. This means face to face time. Texting and even talking on the phone isn't gonna cut it. Actually most grown women, regardless of astro sign, would be distressed to face the disappearing boyfriend act.

When you told her you love her her reply was "I'll always love you". Cancers are known to be highly sentimental and hold onto the past. But I don't feel like she currently is IN love with you. To get back to that place she probably needs some time to learn to trust you fully with her heart again.

So please, be patient with her.

Posted by smsces
I suggested we take a break to strengthen our general relationship. Neither of us had plans to be with anybody else but I felt it might help us to become closer again... unfortunately it didn't work out as I was dealing with a lot at the time which made our texts very sporadic and only small talk which was frustrating.

Posted by smsces
We never broke up

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You did break up with her.

Instead of confiding in her, even a little, you grew distant and withdrew. Then you pressed the pause button on your relationship.

You can't strengthen your relationship by breaking off contact with the person. You strengthen your relationship with increase of communication, which mean MORE not less time is needed together.

I'd give it time...and no she doesn't have someone else...they take time...time time....maybe she's figuring out what she needs to say..