Should I ignore his text or not?

Hey,

I posted about a month ago about this immature cancer I was casually dating. We haven't had any communication since I ended things after he was acting very disrespectful to me, and playing lots of games.

Well he text'd me last night. I can only assume it must have been a drunk text, so my gut response was to just ignore it. However I have heard that flat out ignoring texts can indicate that I have some hurt feelings towards him, and I really just want to make sure he knows that I don't have any hard or hurt feelings, but I'm not going to entertain the idea to giving him another chance.

So I need advice as to whether it's a better idea to leave everything unsaid, or the best way to let him know that I am not going to judge him based on a drunk text, but I really can't go back to the way things were between us.

In my experience ignoring texts etc is a sign the person is hurt in some cases.

Just let him know you acknowledge his text but have no intention of seeing him again. If that's what you want .

Posted by Shellyd238
Hey,

I posted about a month ago about this immature cancer I was casually dating. We haven't had any communication since I ended things after he was acting very disrespectful to me, and playing lots of games.

Well he text'd me last night. I can only assume it must have been a drunk text, so my gut response was to just ignore it. However I have heard that flat out ignoring texts can indicate that I have some hurt feelings towards him, and I really just want to make sure he knows that I don't have any hard or hurt feelings, but I'm not going to entertain the idea to giving him another chance.

So I need advice as to whether it's a better idea to leave everything unsaid, or the best way to let him know that I am not going to judge him based on a drunk text, but I really can't go back to the way things were between us.

I dont respond to late night texts from long-forgotten people, who were disrespectful to me.......
and I dont care, what they think...... well, I think of answers, but never write them🙂 so if you are not sure, write your answers on paper and see, if you like them 5-10 hours later...... I bet, you will not like it🙂

but I am not a text person, so people know I am not responding normally, so it may be different for you....

I would not answer......

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Posted by Shellyd238
Hey,

I posted about a month ago about this immature cancer I was casually dating. We haven't had any communication since I ended things after he was acting very disrespectful to me, and playing lots of games.

Well he text'd me last night. I can only assume it must have been a drunk text, so my gut response was to just ignore it. However I have heard that flat out ignoring texts can indicate that I have some hurt feelings towards him, and I really just want to make sure he knows that I don't have any hard or hurt feelings, but I'm not going to entertain the idea to giving him another chance.

So I need advice as to whether it's a better idea to leave everything unsaid, or the best way to let him know that I am not going to judge him based on a drunk text, but I really can't go back to the way things were between us.

I dont respond to late night texts from long-forgotten people, who were disrespectful to me.......
and I dont care, what they think...... well, I think of answers, but never write them🙂 so if you are not sure, write your answers on paper and see, if you like them 5-10 hours later...... I bet, you will not like it🙂

but I am not a text person, so people know I am not responding normally, so it may be different for you....

I would not answer......

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Haha, yeah I think I have a pathological need to be understood, so I don't like leaving any ambiguity about my feelings or actions.

The thing is I'd naturally try to make a joke out of it being a drunk text and try to show him that I'm not taking it seriously, but I feel like in this case, making a joke would come off as too friendly.

Posted by Shellyd238

Posted by Pandora101

Posted by Shellyd238
Hey,

I posted about a month ago about this immature cancer I was casually dating. We haven't had any communication since I ended things after he was acting very disrespectful to me, and playing lots of games.

Well he text'd me last night. I can only assume it must have been a drunk text, so my gut response was to just ignore it. However I have heard that flat out ignoring texts can indicate that I have some hurt feelings towards him, and I really just want to make sure he knows that I don't have any hard or hurt feelings, but I'm not going to entertain the idea to giving him another chance.

So I need advice as to whether it's a better idea to leave everything unsaid, or the best way to let him know that I am not going to judge him based on a drunk text, but I really can't go back to the way things were between us.

I dont respond to late night texts from long-forgotten people, who were disrespectful to me.......
and I dont care, what they think...... well, I think of answers, but never write them🙂 so if you are not sure, write your answers on paper and see, if you like them 5-10 hours later...... I bet, you will not like it🙂

but I am not a text person, so people know I am not responding normally, so it may be different for you....

I would not answer......

Haha, yeah I think I have a pathological need to be understood, so I don't like leaving any ambiguity about my feelings or actions.

The thing is I'd naturally try to make a joke out of it being a drunk text and try to show him that I'm not taking it seriously, but I feel like in this case, making a joke would come off as too friendly.

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Yes, I really know, what you mean to not beeing misunderstood..... that is the biggest trigger for me, but I learnt to leave it alone with people who I am interested in🙂 just dont answer

I mean.. who cares what he thinks of you, right?
He's nobody to you 😉

Posted by Shellyd238
Hey,

I posted about a month ago about this immature cancer I was casually dating. We haven't had any communication since I ended things after he was acting very disrespectful to me, and playing lots of games.

Well he text'd me last night. I can only assume it must have been a drunk text, so my gut response was to just ignore it. However I have heard that flat out ignoring texts can indicate that I have some hurt feelings towards him, and I really just want to make sure he knows that I don't have any hard or hurt feelings, but I'm not going to entertain the idea to giving him another chance.

So I need advice as to whether it's a better idea to leave everything unsaid, or the best way to let him know that I am not going to judge him based on a drunk text, but I really can't go back to the way things were between us.

If you wanna answer him and make sure he understands you ended it for a reason, go for it.

Posted by maomao
I mean.. who cares what he thinks of you, right?
He's nobody to you 😉

Hehehehe

😄

Why as us? But my 2 pennies just reply with a "K". And get back to being a boss.

Posted by Shellyd238
Hey,

I posted about a month ago about this immature cancer I was casually dating. We haven't had any communication since I ended things after he was acting very disrespectful to me, and playing lots of games.

Well he text'd me last night. I can only assume it must have been a drunk text, so my gut response was to just ignore it. However I have heard that flat out ignoring texts can indicate that I have some hurt feelings towards him, and I really just want to make sure he knows that I don't have any hard or hurt feelings, but I'm not going to entertain the idea to giving him another chance.

So I need advice as to whether it's a better idea to leave everything unsaid, or the best way to let him know that I am not going to judge him based on a drunk text, but I really can't go back to the way things were between us.

The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference.

If you are TRULY done with him, why entertain him with a response at all. Do not feed the wildlife please.

If I text someone after weeks or months and they don't respond I assume the door won't be opened again & forget all about it within minutes or hours
Also I don't normally text someone weeks/months later unless I'm bored or the options I had when we stopped talking me fell through and I want to dill my time with someone.

So unless he text and expressed deep true feelings (drunk or not- I finally say what I want when I'm drunk bc I stop fearing rejection) I would leave it alone & if he did express himself tell him you're finished so he can mend his heart.

This is what I've said " and who might this be?" Its extremely insulting to them and makes them realize you couldn't give two fucks about them. They don't respond.