Shelling vs. Not Interested

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by ephflank on Saturday, December 18, 2010 and has 6 replies.

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@ephflank
15 Years

So I've read through so many of these posts and I hear talk about "shelling" but how do you know the difference b/t when a crab is just "shelling" or that he is not interested anymore?

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@mac101
15 Years

ahah when a cancer says dont call me again and deletes you on facebook is that a hard ass shell or what ahahah

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@ephflank
15 Years

yea, i would think he would go into his shell even more knowing that you had the inside track on him!! lol

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@theleoman
15 Years

interesting because i really felt like telling my cancer girl that i know the whole shabang about them lol

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@ninjamu
17 Years1,000+ PostsLeo

Shelling is when they retreat for a moment but return to you and still acts interested. When disinterested they won't make an effort. You may as well not really exist. This pretty much can be said for many people, cancer or not.

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@PiscesArgie
16 Years500+ Posts

It is hard to tell at the very beginning of a relationship. There is still maybe not so much communication so the Crab retreats and you don't know very well what is going on..as the relationship grows, he will start being open about needing some space and he will let you know. Maybe he will prefer some time alone but he will send a text or contact you in a way.

As time goes by you will instincively know when he needs space , and he will know when you need yours and it won't be an issue unless you are a type of woman you is absorbing or needy or clingy..and you NIcole, are SO NOT like that!!!!

it takes time to get to know these creatures!!