Signs a Cancer Man is Interested?

I’ve been in contact with a Cancer man for the past few months. We live about 2 hours away from each other so we usually communicate over text. Each time we text, I’m always the one initiating the conversation. He responds promptly, but would stop texting back after a couple of texts. He’s apologized multiple times for being a bad texter though and said that it’s not his preferred method of communication, which I agree because I feel the same way, but it’s difficult because we live 2-3 hours away from each other. When I messaged him once, he asked if I was in town because he was hoping he could finally asked me out, but I told him that I had moved to a different city.

After initiating contact multiple times, I gave up and decided to not contact him at all because I don’t want to feel like I’m chasing after him and I can’t tell if he’s interested or not. A couple of weeks after no contact, he texts me and complimented me on a drawing of mines that I posted on my Instagram. I told him “thanks” and left it at that because I did not expect him to respond back to my text. However, he texted me 4 hours later and asked how I’m doing and we even kept the conversation going for about a week. Once again, he apologized for texting me back late and explained why he responded late, but he also said that he’s trying. We got to know a little more about each other but we didn’t get into anything deep (like past relationships or very personal things). I told him that I would be in town and he seemed really interested and suggested that we hang out and to keep him updated on if I come or not. I was finally able to see him and we only hung out for an hour because he had to work. I was very nervous because I’m that way when I reallllllllly like someone. I kept smiling the entire time because he was too good to be true. We had got food and I didn’t really like my empanada, so he offered to finish it for me. He literally ate it after I had already took a bite out of it. I’m not sure if he does that to everyone or not, but I found it strange, yet cute lol he was very animated and charismatic. He kept me laughing the entire time and we talked about school and video games. Turns out we both play Xbox so he asked me for my gamer tag and I gave it to him so we can add each other. I then asked him about his texting habits and he told me that they’re probably not gonna change because texting isn’t really his thing and he prefers to talk in person. I asked his birthday, it’s July 20th and he asked mines. He’s introverted as well, but he comes off like he’s an extrovert (at least that was the case when we were together). He asked when’s the next time I’ll be in town but I told him I wasn’t sure. He mentioned that he should come to Dallas (where I live) some time and I agreed. He told me he’d see me later and we hugged each other.

I text him the next day saying I enjoyed seeing him and that he was very funny and charismatic. He messaged me back a day later and told me he enjoyed hanging out with me as well and wished me a happy thanksgiving. I guess my biggest issue is that I can’t figure out if he likes me or not because the “date” (if that’s what you want to call it) seemed very platonic and we didn’t get into deep conversation about family or past relationships or just discussing the direction of our friendship. I prefer to be straightforward, but I’m a bit afraid of rejection and I also don’t want to scare him off by being too direct or appearing to be very clingy. How do you know when a Cancer guy is interested? It comes off like he’s interested in some way, but I’m not completely sure if it’s romantically. I’m also unsure if I should attempt to call him or not since he doesn’t like to text. By the way, I’m a Taurus woman 🙂

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I’ve been in contact with a Cancer man for the past few months. We live about 2 hours away from each other so we usually communicate over text. Each time we text, I’m always the one initiating the conversation. He responds promptly, but would stop texting back after a couple of texts. He’s apologized multiple times for being a bad texter though and said that it’s not his preferred method of communication, which I agree because I feel the same way, but it’s difficult because we live 2-3 hours away from each other. When I messaged him once, he asked if I was in town because he was hoping he could finally asked me out, but I told him that I had moved to a different city.

After initiating contact multiple times, I gave up and decided to not contact him at all because I don’t want to feel like I’m chasing after him and I can’t tell if he’s interested or not. A couple of weeks after no contact, he texts me and complimented me on a drawing of mines that I posted on my Instagram. I told him “thanks” and left it at that because I did not expect him to respond back to my text. However, he texted me 4 hours later and asked how I’m doing and we even kept the conversation going for about a week. Once again, he apologized for texting me back late and explained why he responded late, but he also said that he’s trying. We got to know a little more about each other but we didn’t get into anything deep (like past relationships or very personal things). I told him that I would be in town and he seemed really interested and suggested that we hang out and to keep him updated on if I come or not. I was finally able to see him and we only hung out for an hour because he had to work. I was very nervous because I’m that way when I reallllllllly like someone. I kept smiling the entire time because he was too good to be true. We had got food and I didn’t really like my empanada, so he offered to finish it for me. He literally ate it after I had already took a bite out of it. I’m not sure if he does that to everyone or not, but I found it strange, yet cute lol he was very animated and charismatic. He kept me laughing the entire time and we talked about school and video games. Turns out we both play Xbox so he asked me for my gamer tag and I gave it to him so we can add each other. I then asked him about his texting habits and he told me that they’re probably not gonna change because texting isn’t really his thing and he prefers to talk in person. I asked his birthday, it’s July 20th and he asked mines. He’s introverted as well, but he comes off like he’s an extrovert (at least that was the case when we were together). He asked when’s the next time I’ll be in town but I told him I wasn’t sure. He mentioned that he should come to Dallas (where I live) some time and I agreed. He told me he’d see me later and we hugged each other.

I text him the next day saying I enjoyed seeing him and that he was very funny and charismatic. He messaged me back a day later and told me he enjoyed hanging out with me as well and wished me a happy thanksgiving. I guess my biggest issue is that I can’t figure out if he likes me or not because the “date” (if that’s what you want to call it) seemed very platonic and we didn’t get into deep conversation about family or past relationships or just discussing the direction of our friendship. I prefer to be straightforward, but I’m a bit afraid of rejection and I also don’t want to scare him off by being too direct or appearing to be very clingy. How do you know when a Cancer guy is interested? It comes off like he’s interested in some way, but I’m not completely sure if it’s romantically. I’m also unsure if I should attempt to call him or not since he doesn’t like to text. By the way, I’m a Taurus woman 🙂

He likes you. Those topics you didn’t talk about are silly and not a deciding factor on how much a cancer likes you. Me personally- I don’t enjoy talking about exes and i only talk about my family if I feel comfortable with you. There are a lot of signs that show he’s into you. Be confident.

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We had got food and I didn’t really like my empanada, so he offered to finish it for me. He literally ate it after I had already took a bite out of it.

🤣🤣🤣 damn ILMAO hard on this one. Us crabs are really out of this world when it comes to food 😁.

Based on all you wrote, I think he likes you. But what we don’t like, are LDR.

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I’ve been in contact with a Cancer man for the past few months. We live about 2 hours away from each other so we usually communicate over text. Each time we text, I’m always the one initiating the conversation. He responds promptly, but would stop texting back after a couple of texts. He’s apologized multiple times for being a bad texter though and said that it’s not his preferred method of communication, which I agree because I feel the same way, but it’s difficult because we live 2-3 hours away from each other. When I messaged him once, he asked if I was in town because he was hoping he could finally asked me out, but I told him that I had moved to a different city.

After initiating contact multiple times, I gave up and decided to not contact him at all because I don’t want to feel like I’m chasing after him and I can’t tell if he’s interested or not. A couple of weeks after no contact, he texts me and complimented me on a drawing of mines that I posted on my Instagram. I told him “thanks” and left it at that because I did not expect him to respond back to my text. However, he texted me 4 hours later and asked how I’m doing and we even kept the conversation going for about a week. Once again, he apologized for texting me back late and explained why he responded late, but he also said that he’s trying. We got to know a little more about each other but we didn’t get into anything deep (like past relationships or very personal things). I told him that I would be in town and he seemed really interested and suggested that we hang out and to keep him updated on if I come or not. I was finally able to see him and we only hung out for an hour because he had to work. I was very nervous because I’m that way when I reallllllllly like someone. I kept smiling the entire time because he was too good to be true. We had got food and I didn’t really like my empanada, so he offered to finish it for me. He literally ate it after I had already took a bite out of it. I’m not sure if he does that to everyone or not, but I found it strange, yet cute lol he was very animated and charismatic. He kept me laughing the entire time and we talked about school and video games. Turns out we both play Xbox so he asked me for my gamer tag and I gave it to him so we can add each other. I then asked him about his texting habits and he told me that they’re probably not gonna change because texting isn’t really his thing and he prefers to talk in person. I asked his birthday, it’s July 20th and he asked mines. He’s introverted as well, but he comes off like he’s an extrovert (at least that was the case when we were together). He asked when’s the next time I’ll be in town but I told him I wasn’t sure. He mentioned that he should come to Dallas (where I live) some time and I agreed. He told me he’d see me later and we hugged each other.

I text him the next day saying I enjoyed seeing him and that he was very funny and charismatic. He messaged me back a day later and told me he enjoyed hanging out with me as well and wished me a happy thanksgiving. I guess my biggest issue is that I can’t figure out if he likes me or not because the “date” (if that’s what you want to call it) seemed very platonic and we didn’t get into deep conversation about family or past relationships or just discussing the direction of our friendship. I prefer to be straightforward, but I’m a bit afraid of rejection and I also don’t want to scare him off by being too direct or appearing to be very clingy. How do you know when a Cancer guy is interested? It comes off like he’s interested in some way, but I’m not completely sure if it’s romantically. I’m also unsure if I should attempt to call him or not since he doesn’t like to text. By the way, I’m a Taurus woman 🙂

creepily, your situation is very much similar to mine's. me and my cancer man both lived 2 hours ish apart from each other too and till date i've known him for over 3 months now. i've also always been the one initiating convos and he would reply almost instantly. we're not official either. except my situation is a tad more complicated considering quite a lot has happened in between lol.

i was so confused as well and had to put up a post in here. and i never did that. long story short, i was told he's basically a f***boy and etc by all the ladies who are with a cancer man or have been hurt by a cancer man, so i decided to put a closure on things between me and him and wanted to take him off this IM app we communicated on bc it was starting to weigh on me. and then i started to realize he was calling for my attention bc we use an app called wechat out here and you can put up posts like IG. the frequency of his posts increased since he went home for a bit and i wasn't giving him the attention i used to, where i would text him every 3 days or so asking how he's doing and till now it's been over a week since i reached out. i purposefully stopped liking his posts as well. and all the posts he put up are about his personal life, and he didn't post them on IG or twitter, where his family, friends back home are all on it especially he doesn't know that many people in this foreign country we both live in so posting all of that on this wechat app was odd. he even started to shadow the things i do where he never once puts up a single boomerang vid in any social media, but i did one and then he did one too the next day lol. so yesterday, he posted a 10 sec selfie video of him with this song in the background (which he had introduced me to when we were chilling in my home some time ago and he said "this is for you") and he ended the video with the most amazing smile. the lyrics of that song in the background was a dead giveaway. intuitively, i knew that was for me.

what i'm trying to say is, i can understand that charisma your cancer man has and why you'll be confused the way he behaved. i'm a virgo woman myself so i always thought im overanalyzing things. now i know im not crazy lol. i don't know about him liking you bc it seems a tad early as you've only met once but the vibes are definitely there girl. but my advice is, keep doing what you do, i know it's difficult but try your best to not think into it too much. have TOOOONS of patience bc from what i observe about my cancer man and what people say about them, they seem to clam up very quickly if they feel you come in too strong or you confess your feelings too soon. especially after the first date. the cancer man i dealt with isn't a fan of being on the phone but he's fine with texting, so maybe you can drop a text and ask if he's cool to speak over the phone for a few minutes. do also be prepared with him clamming up every now and then bc he's always overwhelmed by emotions which he may be handling something with his family or work or whatsoever that might have absolutely nothing to do with you. and when that happens, don't get upset and try to make him jealous or even post photos of you and another guy even if that guy's your best friend or whatsoever (i learnt this the hard way and i wasn't even intentionally trying to make mine's jealous). bc you guys aren't official yet, he may think you're also going on dates with other guys.

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I’ve been in contact with a Cancer man for the past few months. We live about 2 hours away from each other so we usually communicate over text. Each time we text, I’m always the one initiating the conversation. He responds promptly, but would stop texting back after a couple of texts. He’s apologized multiple times for being a bad texter though and said that it’s not his preferred method of communication, which I agree because I feel the same way, but it’s difficult because we live 2-3 hours away from each other. When I messaged him once, he asked if I was in town because he was hoping he could finally asked me out, but I told him that I had moved to a different city.

After initiating contact multiple times, I gave up and decided to not contact him at all because I don’t want to feel like I’m chasing after him and I can’t tell if he’s interested or not. A couple of weeks after no contact, he texts me and complimented me on a drawing of mines that I posted on my Instagram. I told him “thanks” and left it at that because I did not expect him to respond back to my text. However, he texted me 4 hours later and asked how I’m doing and we even kept the conversation going for about a week. Once again, he apologized for texting me back late and explained why he responded late, but he also said that he’s trying. We got to know a little more about each other but we didn’t get into anything deep (like past relationships or very personal things). I told him that I would be in town and he seemed really interested and suggested that we hang out and to keep him updated on if I come or not. I was finally able to see him and we only hung out for an hour because he had to work. I was very nervous because I’m that way when I reallllllllly like someone. I kept smiling the entire time because he was too good to be true. We had got food and I didn’t really like my empanada, so he offered to finish it for me. He literally ate it after I had already took a bite out of it. I’m not sure if he does that to everyone or not, but I found it strange, yet cute lol he was very animated and charismatic. He kept me laughing the entire time and we talked about school and video games. Turns out we both play Xbox so he asked me for my gamer tag and I gave it to him so we can add each other. I then asked him about his texting habits and he told me that they’re probably not gonna change because texting isn’t really his thing and he prefers to talk in person. I asked his birthday, it’s July 20th and he asked mines. He’s introverted as well, but he comes off like he’s an extrovert (at least that was the case when we were together). He asked when’s the next time I’ll be in town but I told him I wasn’t sure. He mentioned that he should come to Dallas (where I live) some time and I agreed. He told me he’d see me later and we hugged each other.

I text him the next day saying I enjoyed seeing him and that he was very funny and charismatic. He messaged me back a day later and told me he enjoyed hanging out with me as well and wished me a happy thanksgiving. I guess my biggest issue is that I can’t figure out if he likes me or not because the “date” (if that’s what you want to call it) seemed very platonic and we didn’t get into deep conversation about family or past relationships or just discussing the direction of our friendship. I prefer to be straightforward, but I’m a bit afraid of rejection and I also don’t want to scare him off by being too direct or appearing to be very clingy. How do you know when a Cancer guy is interested? It comes off like he’s interested in some way, but I’m not completely sure if it’s romantically. I’m also unsure if I should attempt to call him or not since he doesn’t like to text. By the way, I’m a Taurus woman 🙂

creepily, your situation is very much similar to mine's. me and my cancer man both lived 2 hours ish apart from each other too and till date i've known him for over 3 months now. i've also always been the one initiating convos and he would reply almost instantly. we're not official either. except my situation is a tad more complicated considering quite a lot has happened in between lol.

i was so confused as well and had to put up a post in here. and i never did that. long story short, i was told he's basically a f***boy and etc by all the ladies who are with a cancer man or have been hurt by a cancer man, so i decided to put a closure on things between me and him and wanted to take him off this IM app we communicated on bc it was starting to weigh on me. and then i started to realize he was calling for my attention bc we use an app called wechat out here and you can put up posts like IG. the frequency of his posts increased since he went home for a bit and i wasn't giving him the attention i used to, where i would text him every 3 days or so asking how he's doing and till now it's been over a week since i reached out. i purposefully stopped liking his posts as well. and all the posts he put up are about his personal life, and he didn't post them on IG or twitter, where his family, friends back home are all on it especially he doesn't know that many people in this foreign country we both live in so posting all of that on this wechat app was odd. he even started to shadow the things i do where he never once puts up a single boomerang vid in any social media, but i did one and then he did one too the next day lol. so yesterday, he posted a 10 sec selfie video of him with this song in the background (which he had introduced me to when we were chilling in my home some time ago and he said "this is for you") and he ended the video with the most amazing smile. the lyrics of that song in the background was a dead giveaway. intuitively, i knew that was for me.

what i'm trying to say is, i can understand that charisma your cancer man has and why you'll be confused the way he behaved. i'm a virgo woman myself so i always thought im overanalyzing things. now i know im not crazy lol. i don't know about him liking you bc it seems a tad early as you've only met once but the vibes are definitely there girl. but my advice is, keep doing what you do, i know it's difficult but try your best to not think into it too much. have TOOOONS of patience bc from what i observe about my cancer man and what people say about them, they seem to clam up very quickly if they feel you come in too strong or you confess your feelings too soon. especially after the first date. the cancer man i dealt with isn't a fan of being on the phone but he's fine with texting, so maybe you can drop a text and ask if he's cool to speak over the phone for a few minutes. do also be prepared with him clamming up every now and then bc he's always overwhelmed by emotions which he may be handling something with his family or work or whatsoever that might have absolutely nothing to do with you. and when that happens, don't get upset and try to make him jealous or even post photos of you and another guy even if that guy's your best friend or whatsoever (i learnt this the hard way and i wasn't even intentionally trying to make mine's jealous). bc you guys aren't official yet, he may think you're also going on dates with other guys.

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oh and another thing, just bc cancer men don't say how they feel doesn't mean they don't at all. observe his actions, you can tell. 🙂

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I’ve been in contact with a Cancer man for the past few months. We live about 2 hours away from each other so we usually communicate over text. Each time we text, I’m always the one initiating the conversation. He responds promptly, but would stop texting back after a couple of texts. He’s apologized multiple times for being a bad texter though and said that it’s not his preferred method of communication, which I agree because I feel the same way, but it’s difficult because we live 2-3 hours away from each other. When I messaged him once, he asked if I was in town because he was hoping he could finally asked me out, but I told him that I had moved to a different city.

After initiating contact multiple times, I gave up and decided to not contact him at all because I don’t want to feel like I’m chasing after him and I can’t tell if he’s interested or not. A couple of weeks after no contact, he texts me and complimented me on a drawing of mines that I posted on my Instagram. I told him “thanks” and left it at that because I did not expect him to respond back to my text. However, he texted me 4 hours later and asked how I’m doing and we even kept the conversation going for about a week. Once again, he apologized for texting me back late and explained why he responded late, but he also said that he’s trying. We got to know a little more about each other but we didn’t get into anything deep (like past relationships or very personal things). I told him that I would be in town and he seemed really interested and suggested that we hang out and to keep him updated on if I come or not. I was finally able to see him and we only hung out for an hour because he had to work. I was very nervous because I’m that way when I reallllllllly like someone. I kept smiling the entire time because he was too good to be true. We had got food and I didn’t really like my empanada, so he offered to finish it for me. He literally ate it after I had already took a bite out of it. I’m not sure if he does that to everyone or not, but I found it strange, yet cute lol he was very animated and charismatic. He kept me laughing the entire time and we talked about school and video games. Turns out we both play Xbox so he asked me for my gamer tag and I gave it to him so we can add each other. I then asked him about his texting habits and he told me that they’re probably not gonna change because texting isn’t really his thing and he prefers to talk in person. I asked his birthday, it’s July 20th and he asked mines. He’s introverted as well, but he comes off like he’s an extrovert (at least that was the case when we were together). He asked when’s the next time I’ll be in town but I told him I wasn’t sure. He mentioned that he should come to Dallas (where I live) some time and I agreed. He told me he’d see me later and we hugged each other.

I text him the next day saying I enjoyed seeing him and that he was very funny and charismatic. He messaged me back a day later and told me he enjoyed hanging out with me as well and wished me a happy thanksgiving. I guess my biggest issue is that I can’t figure out if he likes me or not because the “date” (if that’s what you want to call it) seemed very platonic and we didn’t get into deep conversation about family or past relationships or just discussing the direction of our friendship. I prefer to be straightforward, but I’m a bit afraid of rejection and I also don’t want to scare him off by being too direct or appearing to be very clingy. How do you know when a Cancer guy is interested? It comes off like he’s interested in some way, but I’m not completely sure if it’s romantically. I’m also unsure if I should attempt to call him or not since he doesn’t like to text. By the way, I’m a Taurus woman 🙂

He likes you. Those topics you didn’t talk about are silly and not a deciding factor on how much a cancer likes you. Me personally- I don’t enjoy talking about exes and i only talk about my family if I feel comfortable with you. There are a lot of signs that show he’s into you. Be confident.

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You’re right. I guess because I like him so much (and the fact that he appears too good to be true), I’m over thinking everything and I’m not as confident as I should be 🙄 but I’ll definitely take your word for it!

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I’ve been in contact with a Cancer man for the past few months. We live about 2 hours away from each other so we usually communicate over text. Each time we text, I’m always the one initiating the conversation. He responds promptly, but would stop texting back after a couple of texts. He’s apologized multiple times for being a bad texter though and said that it’s not his preferred method of communication, which I agree because I feel the same way, but it’s difficult because we live 2-3 hours away from each other. When I messaged him once, he asked if I was in town because he was hoping he could finally asked me out, but I told him that I had moved to a different city.

After initiating contact multiple times, I gave up and decided to not contact him at all because I don’t want to feel like I’m chasing after him and I can’t tell if he’s interested or not. A couple of weeks after no contact, he texts me and complimented me on a drawing of mines that I posted on my Instagram. I told him “thanks” and left it at that because I did not expect him to respond back to my text. However, he texted me 4 hours later and asked how I’m doing and we even kept the conversation going for about a week. Once again, he apologized for texting me back late and explained why he responded late, but he also said that he’s trying. We got to know a little more about each other but we didn’t get into anything deep (like past relationships or very personal things). I told him that I would be in town and he seemed really interested and suggested that we hang out and to keep him updated on if I come or not. I was finally able to see him and we only hung out for an hour because he had to work. I was very nervous because I’m that way when I reallllllllly like someone. I kept smiling the entire time because he was too good to be true. We had got food and I didn’t really like my empanada, so he offered to finish it for me. He literally ate it after I had already took a bite out of it. I’m not sure if he does that to everyone or not, but I found it strange, yet cute lol he was very animated and charismatic. He kept me laughing the entire time and we talked about school and video games. Turns out we both play Xbox so he asked me for my gamer tag and I gave it to him so we can add each other. I then asked him about his texting habits and he told me that they’re probably not gonna change because texting isn’t really his thing and he prefers to talk in person. I asked his birthday, it’s July 20th and he asked mines. He’s introverted as well, but he comes off like he’s an extrovert (at least that was the case when we were together). He asked when’s the next time I’ll be in town but I told him I wasn’t sure. He mentioned that he should come to Dallas (where I live) some time and I agreed. He told me he’d see me later and we hugged each other.

I text him the next day saying I enjoyed seeing him and that he was very funny and charismatic. He messaged me back a day later and told me he enjoyed hanging out with me as well and wished me a happy thanksgiving. I guess my biggest issue is that I can’t figure out if he likes me or not because the “date” (if that’s what you want to call it) seemed very platonic and we didn’t get into deep conversation about family or past relationships or just discussing the direction of our friendship. I prefer to be straightforward, but I’m a bit afraid of rejection and I also don’t want to scare him off by being too direct or appearing to be very clingy. How do you know when a Cancer guy is interested? It comes off like he’s interested in some way, but I’m not completely sure if it’s romantically. I’m also unsure if I should attempt to call him or not since he doesn’t like to text. By the way, I’m a Taurus woman 🙂

He likes you. Those topics you didn’t talk about are silly and not a deciding factor on how much a cancer likes you. Me personally- I don’t enjoy talking about exes and i only talk about my family if I feel comfortable with you. There are a lot of signs that show he’s into you. Be confident.

You’re right. I guess because I like him so much (and the fact that he appears too good to be true), I’m over thinking everything and I’m not as confident as I should be 🙄 but I’ll definitely take your word for it!

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oh girl, i completely feel you. i had him on my mind all the time. i told my cancer man that he's the ultimate package and all women would want to climb on that (which is true lol) and i feel like there's no way he will like me. but after not giving him the usual attention i always do, he texted me yesterday asking when is he seeing me again (i actually laughed out loud). maybe this just applies to guys in general bc we don't seem too available to them anymore, i don't know. but hang in there, it will slowly pay off. make him come to you. better yet, don't go see him again until he asks when are you guys seeing each other again - i know it's tough.

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I’ve been in contact with a Cancer man for the past few months. We live about 2 hours away from each other so we usually communicate over text. Each time we text, I’m always the one initiating the conversation. He responds promptly, but would stop texting back after a couple of texts. He’s apologized multiple times for being a bad texter though and said that it’s not his preferred method of communication, which I agree because I feel the same way, but it’s difficult because we live 2-3 hours away from each other. When I messaged him once, he asked if I was in town because he was hoping he could finally asked me out, but I told him that I had moved to a different city.

After initiating contact multiple times, I gave up and decided to not contact him at all because I don’t want to feel like I’m chasing after him and I can’t tell if he’s interested or not. A couple of weeks after no contact, he texts me and complimented me on a drawing of mines that I posted on my Instagram. I told him “thanks” and left it at that because I did not expect him to respond back to my text. However, he texted me 4 hours later and asked how I’m doing and we even kept the conversation going for about a week. Once again, he apologized for texting me back late and explained why he responded late, but he also said that he’s trying. We got to know a little more about each other but we didn’t get into anything deep (like past relationships or very personal things). I told him that I would be in town and he seemed really interested and suggested that we hang out and to keep him updated on if I come or not. I was finally able to see him and we only hung out for an hour because he had to work. I was very nervous because I’m that way when I reallllllllly like someone. I kept smiling the entire time because he was too good to be true. We had got food and I didn’t really like my empanada, so he offered to finish it for me. He literally ate it after I had already took a bite out of it. I’m not sure if he does that to everyone or not, but I found it strange, yet cute lol he was very animated and charismatic. He kept me laughing the entire time and we talked about school and video games. Turns out we both play Xbox so he asked me for my gamer tag and I gave it to him so we can add each other. I then asked him about his texting habits and he told me that they’re probably not gonna change because texting isn’t really his thing and he prefers to talk in person. I asked his birthday, it’s July 20th and he asked mines. He’s introverted as well, but he comes off like he’s an extrovert (at least that was the case when we were together). He asked when’s the next time I’ll be in town but I told him I wasn’t sure. He mentioned that he should come to Dallas (where I live) some time and I agreed. He told me he’d see me later and we hugged each other.

I text him the next day saying I enjoyed seeing him and that he was very funny and charismatic. He messaged me back a day later and told me he enjoyed hanging out with me as well and wished me a happy thanksgiving. I guess my biggest issue is that I can’t figure out if he likes me or not because the “date” (if that’s what you want to call it) seemed very platonic and we didn’t get into deep conversation about family or past relationships or just discussing the direction of our friendship. I prefer to be straightforward, but I’m a bit afraid of rejection and I also don’t want to scare him off by being too direct or appearing to be very clingy. How do you know when a Cancer guy is interested? It comes off like he’s interested in some way, but I’m not completely sure if it’s romantically. I’m also unsure if I should attempt to call him or not since he doesn’t like to text. By the way, I’m a Taurus woman 🙂

He likes you. Those topics you didn’t talk about are silly and not a deciding factor on how much a cancer likes you. Me personally- I don’t enjoy talking about exes and i only talk about my family if I feel comfortable with you. There are a lot of signs that show he’s into you. Be confident.

You’re right. I guess because I like him so much (and the fact that he appears too good to be true), I’m over thinking everything and I’m not as confident as I should be 🙄 but I’ll definitely take your word for it!

oh girl, i completely feel you. i had him on my mind all the time. i told my cancer man that he's the ultimate package and all women would want to climb on that (which is true lol) and i feel like there's no way he will like me. but after not giving him the usual attention i always do, he texted me yesterday asking when is he seeing me again (i actually laughed out loud). maybe this just applies to guys in general bc we don't seem too available to them anymore, i don't know. but hang in there, it will slowly pay off. make him come to you. better yet, don't go see him again until he asks when are you guys seeing each other again - i know it's tough.

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You really should not give advice on Cancer men. This is coming off like a bitch, but your advice is based off your neurotic over analyzing of stuff.

Cancer men will test the object of their affection to see if you make them a priority and it shows your loyalty . Telling a girl to ignore them will resort in the opposite effect of that. Women forget that men have feelings as well, and think no work needs to be done. That is not true. And I keep telling you women to remember they are more in person types then texting/calling types.

Your situation is different because he doesn't even respond to your texts or try and make plans with you anymore. You failed the test or you were always an option and he treats you as such.

I keep getting different words of advice from ppl. Some say to stop initiating and allow him to persue me and others have said that I need to continue to initiate contact in order to allow him to open up more and become comfortable around me.

BUT My hands are tied bc we don’t live in the same city and our only mode of communication right now is through technology... I’d much rather sit and talk with him in person, but distance makes it difficult.

Posted by brianiabee
I keep getting different words of advice from ppl. Some say to stop initiating and allow him to persue me and others have said that I need to continue to initiate contact in order to allow him to open up more and become comfortable around me.

BUT My hands are tied bc we don’t live in the same city and our only mode of communication right now is through technology... I’d much rather sit and talk with him in person, but distance makes it difficult.

You have to peruse a little so he knows you are serious and really into him. When he gets that message then let him Persue you a lil more but stay in touch

Posted by brianiabee
I keep getting different words of advice from ppl. Some say to stop initiating and allow him to persue me and others have said that I need to continue to initiate contact in order to allow him to open up more and become comfortable around me.

BUT My hands are tied bc we don’t live in the same city and our only mode of communication right now is through technology... I’d much rather sit and talk with him in person, but distance makes it difficult.

Listening to others and complicating things way too much.

If I like you, you will definitely know, I can't and don't want to hide it for long. If you like me too, there will be no need to pursue on either side. I will know you like me, cause I can read you like a book if you act with me as you feel, not as someone else said you should behave.

We would enjoy our time together, gradually becoming closer emotionaly and physically, half way is mine and half way is yours. We meet in the middle. Trust, consistency and honest communication are a must for this to happen.

Games with msg, attention, who is ignoring who (passive aggression), pull-push, etc., is a huge turn off.

If i like you and you play games with me, pushing me away (thats without explanation, I can understand that you need space, you are busy or something else) with ignorance, attention deprivation as punishment because you are not satisfied and didn't express yourself honestly, or something else that would intentionally hurt me so I would pursue you, I will slowly but surely protect myself with withdrawal and let go of any emotions.

If I don't like you, you can hang yourself and it won't matter to me.

If you are not sure if he likes you or not, find some courage and express your feelings to him (in person, eye to eye). I know is hard, but at least, you'll know where you stand.

Crabs are complicated if you try to figure them out, or get to them with head, mind and strategy. If you go in with your heart, we are simple af.

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I’ve been in contact with a Cancer man for the past few months. We live about 2 hours away from each other so we usually communicate over text. Each time we text, I’m always the one initiating the conversation. He responds promptly, but would stop texting back after a couple of texts. He’s apologized multiple times for being a bad texter though and said that it’s not his preferred method of communication, which I agree because I feel the same way, but it’s difficult because we live 2-3 hours away from each other. When I messaged him once, he asked if I was in town because he was hoping he could finally asked me out, but I told him that I had moved to a different city.

After initiating contact multiple times, I gave up and decided to not contact him at all because I don’t want to feel like I’m chasing after him and I can’t tell if he’s interested or not. A couple of weeks after no contact, he texts me and complimented me on a drawing of mines that I posted on my Instagram. I told him “thanks” and left it at that because I did not expect him to respond back to my text. However, he texted me 4 hours later and asked how I’m doing and we even kept the conversation going for about a week. Once again, he apologized for texting me back late and explained why he responded late, but he also said that he’s trying. We got to know a little more about each other but we didn’t get into anything deep (like past relationships or very personal things). I told him that I would be in town and he seemed really interested and suggested that we hang out and to keep him updated on if I come or not. I was finally able to see him and we only hung out for an hour because he had to work. I was very nervous because I’m that way when I reallllllllly like someone. I kept smiling the entire time because he was too good to be true. We had got food and I didn’t really like my empanada, so he offered to finish it for me. He literally ate it after I had already took a bite out of it. I’m not sure if he does that to everyone or not, but I found it strange, yet cute lol he was very animated and charismatic. He kept me laughing the entire time and we talked about school and video games. Turns out we both play Xbox so he asked me for my gamer tag and I gave it to him so we can add each other. I then asked him about his texting habits and he told me that they’re probably not gonna change because texting isn’t really his thing and he prefers to talk in person. I asked his birthday, it’s July 20th and he asked mines. He’s introverted as well, but he comes off like he’s an extrovert (at least that was the case when we were together). He asked when’s the next time I’ll be in town but I told him I wasn’t sure. He mentioned that he should come to Dallas (where I live) some time and I agreed. He told me he’d see me later and we hugged each other.

I text him the next day saying I enjoyed seeing him and that he was very funny and charismatic. He messaged me back a day later and told me he enjoyed hanging out with me as well and wished me a happy thanksgiving. I guess my biggest issue is that I can’t figure out if he likes me or not because the “date” (if that’s what you want to call it) seemed very platonic and we didn’t get into deep conversation about family or past relationships or just discussing the direction of our friendship. I prefer to be straightforward, but I’m a bit afraid of rejection and I also don’t want to scare him off by being too direct or appearing to be very clingy. How do you know when a Cancer guy is interested? It comes off like he’s interested in some way, but I’m not completely sure if it’s romantically. I’m also unsure if I should attempt to call him or not since he doesn’t like to text. By the way, I’m a Taurus woman 🙂

He likes you. Those topics you didn’t talk about are silly and not a deciding factor on how much a cancer likes you. Me personally- I don’t enjoy talking about exes and i only talk about my family if I feel comfortable with you. There are a lot of signs that show he’s into you. Be confident.

You’re right. I guess because I like him so much (and the fact that he appears too good to be true), I’m over thinking everything and I’m not as confident as I should be 🙄 but I’ll definitely take your word for it!

oh girl, i completely feel you. i had him on my mind all the time. i told my cancer man that he's the ultimate package and all women would want to climb on that (which is true lol) and i feel like there's no way he will like me. but after not giving him the usual attention i always do, he texted me yesterday asking when is he seeing me again (i actually laughed out loud). maybe this just applies to guys in general bc we don't seem too available to them anymore, i don't know. but hang in there, it will slowly pay off. make him come to you. better yet, don't go see him again until he asks when are you guys seeing each other again - i know it's tough.

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Omg so tough!! The cancer I'm so confused by is pulling into his shell right now. I've offered to be there for him cause he's going through some shit (2 hour drive) and let's have a drink and talk as friends this weekend. (I feel like he's freaking out every time we get a little closer hence "as friends".) it's tough to wait for them. Lol his answer was neither a yes or no to seeing each other. I'll likely text to see how he's doing later this week but these last couple weeks, texts get further apart. Really intense, then bigger gaps....scared?? Ugh lol so confusing these cancer men!

I posted a pic on IG today and he commented with hearts (although I’m sure it’s only bc he likes my new hair style )

Anyway, I’m supposed to see him soon to give him a T-shirt he ordered from my online store. He originally gave me his shipping address, but he told me if I’ll be in town soon, then he can wait. Although I’m not entirely sure if the feeling is mutual, I do plan to tell him how I feel when I see him. This is mostly for my own benefit. I don’t like being too direct with ppl, but I figured the best way to deal with my feelings is to tell him instead of keeping it tucked away. Even if the feeling isn’t mutual, at least it would help me move on.

Update: I ended up tell him how I felt and he took several days to respond to my text, but he eventually responded after a few days. He said he was interested in me too but felt like he didn’t have time to pursue a LDR. A few months later, I got a new job and I posted that I was moving to the new city (Where I previously lived and where he currently lives). He sent me a text saying he’s excited that I’m moving back. Once I started my job, it was like his interest in me peaked and he texted me more than usual and asked to hangout. We eventually had lunch together (even though he offered to do it for the whole week of spring break but he didn’t even initiate after the first day which really confused me because it was his suggestion...). And a couple of days went by after no contact and he reached out to me again asking how’s work. I wanted to see him so I asked him to hangout and apparently he was gonna ask me the same thing. We ended up going skating that weekend and we held hands the whole time, mostly because he didn’t know how to skate. It was a really awesome date and we both had a great time. We kissed at the end of the date, which surprised me because I wasn’t sure how he felt about me. But he asked for permission beforehand because he said he couldn’t read my body language. After that no contact for a week, and then on the second week I asked if he wanted to hang again. So we went to the movies. That date could’ve been better but I was dissatisfied because we didn’t seem to spend much time together since we couldn’t sit next to each other (the seats were reserved, go figure). And then we were supposed to go out to dinner but he was full from pretzels so I just dropped him off at home (btw he’s from the city so he doesn’t know how to drive yet lol). We talked a bit and then he said that he’d be busy for a few weeks since it’s the end of the semester and that if I text him, he’ll try to respond but me may (or something like that). And he says he can make time for me but we should definitely hang out again but he couldn’t give me a definite time or day. We kissed again and then I left. So a week later I sent him a text just to see how he’s doing and no response... and it’s been 3 weeks and still no contact at all from him. And then my birthday just passed and he didn’t even wish me a happy birthday. Mind you he following my instagram and he has been active but he didn’t like any of my posts or even bother to acknowledge my birthday. So I’m starting to feel like he’s ghosting me or ignoring me. I’m unsure if I should even reach out to him or just move on. It’s confusing me and I feel like if he lost interest, he could at least respect me enough to let me know that upfront. What do you guys think?

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Update: I ended up tell him how I felt and he took several days to respond to my text, but he eventually responded after a few days. He said he was interested in me too but felt like he didn’t have time to pursue a LDR. A few months later, I got a new job and I posted that I was moving to the new city (Where I previously lived and where he currently lives). He sent me a text saying he’s excited that I’m moving back. Once I started my job, it was like his interest in me peaked and he texted me more than usual and asked to hangout. We eventually had lunch together (even though he offered to do it for the whole week of spring break but he didn’t even initiate after the first day which really confused me because it was his suggestion...). And a couple of days went by after no contact and he reached out to me again asking how’s work. I wanted to see him so I asked him to hangout and apparently he was gonna ask me the same thing. We ended up going skating that weekend and we held hands the whole time, mostly because he didn’t know how to skate. It was a really awesome date and we both had a great time. We kissed at the end of the date, which surprised me because I wasn’t sure how he felt about me. But he asked for permission beforehand because he said he couldn’t read my body language. After that no contact for a week, and then on the second week I asked if he wanted to hang again. So we went to the movies. That date could’ve been better but I was dissatisfied because we didn’t seem to spend much time together since we couldn’t sit next to each other (the seats were reserved, go figure). And then we were supposed to go out to dinner but he was full from pretzels so I just dropped him off at home (btw he’s from the city so he doesn’t know how to drive yet lol). We talked a bit and then he said that he’d be busy for a few weeks since it’s the end of the semester and that if I text him, he’ll try to respond but me may (or something like that). And he says he can make time for me but we should definitely hang out again but he couldn’t give me a definite time or day. We kissed again and then I left. So a week later I sent him a text just to see how he’s doing and no response... and it’s been 3 weeks and still no contact at all from him. And then my birthday just passed and he didn’t even wish me a happy birthday. Mind you he following my instagram and he has been active but he didn’t like any of my posts or even bother to acknowledge my birthday. So I’m starting to feel like he’s ghosting me or ignoring me. I’m unsure if I should even reach out to him or just move on. It’s confusing me and I feel like if he lost interest, he could at least respect me enough to let me know that upfront. What do you guys think?

I think he sounds like a waste of time.

Is it common for them to disappear without a trace?

So apparently I just found out today that he’s blocked me from seeing his stories on Instagram (don’t ask how I know. I just had a feeling and did some investigation with my friend lol) but he’s still following me... I’m not sure how to feel because I didn’t expect him to do something such as this but is this even normal? It seems like something women do, not necessarily a guy. I honestly have no idea what I might have done to warrant him to even block me. It’s strange... advice? I don’t really plan to contact him anytime soon tbh because he just seems very immature to me at this point.

We haven’t had sex at all and never really got on that subject. I feel like I’ve given up on him at this point because he clearly seems to have lost interest in me. The fact that he even blocked me is questionable because I have no idea what I’ve done to make him do such a thing. He’s still single, from what I’ve seen, but he definitely isn’t hitting up my line. I’m just confused because I would’ve expected him to at least let me know that he was no longer interested rather than blocking me. I’ve contemplated contacting him but I feel like it’ll be a waste of time at this point. I keep thinking of different scenarios of what could’ve went wrong but nothing seems to add up. It’s even more confusing that he continues to like my posts on social media (event though it’s rare now) but never makes the effort to contact me. I’m not used to this type of behavior when dating. What would you do in this case?

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This sounds like the push and pull mine does.... he “friendzoned me” but still acted like we were together.. we got in a big fight and I didn’t talk to him and deleted him off social media and when we talked things out and I added him back, he said it hurt him I ghosted and deleted him despite our fight. He then told me he went out on a couple dates work someone.... but didn’t make it sound like it was serious. He said “it wasn’t a big deal”. But he purposely posts things for me to see and asks me to hang out and ALWAYS responds. I think they test, tedt, test to see how much you can handle to see how serious you are for them. “Will you take a bullet for me”, is how I think about a Cancer male. They’re so scared of commitment because they “might get hurt”.. it’s like they’re unrealistic. But hey, why would this guy still be around after alllll this time if he didn’t have feelings for you? No other man has stuck around this long before in my life unless he was getting something sexual out of it. Have you had sex with yours??