FlameAura
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Slow moving Cancer female frustrations
Understanding Cancer Women's Slow Moving Love
Cancer women tend to take time to open up and build deep emotional connections. They prioritize emotional security and may act distant to protect themselves. Patience and consistent reassurance help them feel safe, leading to stronger bonds over time. Recognizing their need for slow progress can improve your relationship and reduce misunderstandings.
I at least sleep with a girl, fall into that whirlwind of romance, and THEN make it official with them. She is the complete opposite though, wants to take things slow, and build a strong relationship over time.
She is a woman what else did you expect? And not just any woman, but a Cancer woman. Taking things slow and wanting to build strong relo is a healthy way and in my opinion, it only shows, that in you she sees a potential for a long relationship, meaning she likes you. You are not just a flirt, a rebound or a meaningless romance for her.
Me being me, I am ready to jump straight into the deep end. She is not at this stage yet, has admitted it herself, and that we will get there one day but that we need to build towards it.
Looks like she is able to be in touch with herself and communicate her needs- jackpot.
Problem is me not being her priority and wanting to see me as much as I want to see her makes me feel like she's just not that into me sometimes.
Making someone a priority takes time to know and trust the person. But when a Cancer does make you a priority over time, it's for good.
Normally I at least sleep with a girl, fall into that whirlwind of romance...
This will be first time she comes to mine and we spend a proper night together Which has made me veryyyyy happy finally. At the same time I'm ready for so much more.
I can not point enough, how much is important, that you do NOT expect (an impression I get from the sentence above) or push for sexual contacts because of your needs and hard dick. Maybe she will only just want to cuddle, watch movies, talk or kiss all night. Let her initiate, she is a cardinal. If we want something and we are ready for it, we will go for it. If you won't respect and follow her tempo, needs and vulnerability in this area, you can fuck up big time.
Am I just overthinking everything and this is a normal way for a Cancer woman to be?
It is a normal way for a healthy person. But Cancers are especially slow, cause we are in for the long run and we want strong foundations.
She sounds like a really good catch. From your post I get the impression, that is you the one who's got problems with understanding of her tempo because yours is way faster and this is causing you to be insecure. Analyze yourself, respect her.
And why tf can't I bold text on dxp?
She is a woman what else did you expect? And not just any woman, but a Cancer woman. Taking things slow and wanting to build strong relo is a healthy way and in my opinion, it only shows, that in you she sees a potential for a long relationship, meaning she likes you. You are not just a flirt, a rebound or a meaningless romance for her.
Me being me, I am ready to jump straight into the deep end. She is not at this stage yet, has admitted it herself, and that we will get there one day but that we need to build towards it.
Looks like she is able to be in touch with herself and communicate her needs- jackpot.
Problem is me not being her priority and wanting to see me as much as I want to see her makes me feel like she's just not that into me sometimes.
Making someone a priority takes time to know and trust the person. But when a Cancer does make you a priority over time, it's for good.
Normally I at least sleep with a girl, fall into that whirlwind of romance...
This will be first time she comes to mine and we spend a proper night together Which has made me veryyyyy happy finally. At the same time I'm ready for so much more.
I can not point enough, how much is important, that you do NOT expect (an impression I get from the sentence above) or push for sexual contacts because of your needs and hard dick. Maybe she will only just want to cuddle, watch movies, talk or kiss all night. Let her initiate, she is a cardinal. If we want something and we are ready for it, we will go for it. If you won't respect and follow her tempo, needs and vulnerability in this area, you can fuck up big time.
Am I just overthinking everything and this is a normal way for a Cancer woman to be?
It is a normal way for a healthy person. But Cancers are especially slow, cause we are in for the long run and we want strong foundations.
She sounds like a really good catch. From your post I get the impression, that is you the one who's got problems with understanding of her tempo because yours is way faster and this is causing you to be insecure. Analyze yourself, respect her.
And why tf can't I bold text on dxp?
You have levels to peel off her.
If you don't have the patience it will end fast and hard.
If you don't have the patience it will end fast and hard.
Posted by ArgentumThanks for the reply. No I am not expecting or going to push for sexual contacts, I've already told her whenever she is ready I will leave it to her. I meant I was happy that we get to spend some quality time together, even if just watching movies and cuddling. Yes she is a catch as she's the opposite of what I normally go for but I can see theres something special about her.
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You are right because I am used to a much higher tempo, it has caused me to be insecure. Which Im sure is a turn off. Looks like I need to kick myself up the butt a bit, analyse, and start being more positive about the situation and just go with her slow flow and believe we will get to where I want us to be.
Posted by FlameAura👍Posted by ArgentumThanks for the reply. No I am not expecting or going to push for sexual contacts, I've already told her whenever she is ready I will leave it to her. I meant I was happy that we get to spend some quality time together, even if just watching movies and cuddling. Yes she is a catch as she's the opposite of what I normally go for but I can see theres something special about her.
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You are right because I am used to a much higher tempo, it has caused me to be insecure. Which Im sure is a turn off. Looks like I need to kick myself up the butt a bit, analyse, and start being more positive about the situation and just go with her slow flow and believe we will get to where I want us to be.click to expand
You just might have stumbled upon secure attachment person. If that is so, appreciate it.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_in_adults
If you can’t respect her pace that’s fine. But you told her you could which strikes me as disingenuous. Either your all in, or your not.
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