update -- cancer man virgo woman

I am so confused about this and at this point i'm ready to walk but before I do I just want to make sure i'm not in the wrong here

I'm a virgo 09/17 and he's cancer 06/23 ; we both agreed that we would continue to talk, date, see each other and feel each other out. We've only known each other for a couple of weeks so we both agreed that it's too soon to get into a relationship. I seriously thought we were on the same page. well he said he felt he was leading me into a relationship and he doesn't want that he wants to focus on his career atm...which once again I thought we were on the same page. So we talked over the phone and I re-iterated that its too soon and honestly id rather still get to know you before we start a relationship, he said he agrees .. but one thing that really stung me is when he said "i'm treating you like trash and you are taking it" .. I was so confused because he doesn't put me down, he never disrespected me, when we're together his attention is fully focused on me...the only thing is he sucks at communicating with me and sometimes does forget that we had plans until I bring it up. So I was like huh maybe I've been looking at this all wrong, and then he continued to say he needs space. Once again I was so confused because we go days without talking and only communicate when its time for the date and what not...buut....he wants space— and he said he doesn't have time to date anyone at this time. which previously I did mention i'm not the type that needs to talk to someone everyday but once in a while sure...I seriously thought we were on the same page and now i'm reconsidering this whole ordeal. Plus I did mention I like you and care and he said I don't want to hear that....so I was like wow okay...idk what to do give him space? or just not even say anything to him and just walk away without a fuss? why is he even acting like this? its frustrating...

forget him, he's not interested.

my ego not gonna stick around for this.

Lol. He seems butthurt cause you don’t want a relationship. Maybe he feels like the opposite since he actually isn’t treating you like trash.

You Virgos seem to say the opposite too, I’m finding out.

If he wants space, just say ok cool and don’t call him. Cancers are cardinals. He’ll call you when he’s ready. He needs space cause he’s a big ass cry baby and you hurt his feelings cause he can’t smother you.

Leave him alone, give him space. Let him know to contact you when he wants sex cause your horny and then disappear for a few.

He’ll come back around once he gets out of his feelings.

hey saggurl that doesn't make sense to me because he is the one who brought it up all the time ....

plus he said "you can still text me just keep it PG because I prefer to be platonic friends" and then turns around and goes "I like having sex with you and hanging out with you I just need some space"

i'm about to not even say anything and just forget about him because this is getting so complicated so quick and usually I have patience but like the other's have said I feel as though he is giving me reasons to push away and I sincerely thought he was just testing me to see if i'm interested but I never thought this would be how he would act. now i'm not going to say all cancer men are like this I've definitely met sweet men who are cancer zodiac, but this one was is just being plain rude at this point and me being me I just want to say screw you in the most polite way possible.

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hey saggurl that doesn't make sense to me because he is the one who brought it up all the time ....

plus he said "you can still text me just keep it PG because I prefer to be platonic friends" and then turns around and goes "I like having sex with you and hanging out with you I just need some space"

i'm about to not even say anything and just forget about him because this is getting so complicated so quick and usually I have patience but like the other's have said I feel as though he is giving me reasons to push away and I sincerely thought he was just testing me to see if i'm interested but I never thought this would be how he would act. now i'm not going to say all cancer men are like this I've definitely met sweet men who are cancer zodiac, but this one was is just being plain rude at this point and me being me I just want to say screw you in the most polite way possible.

Well tell him that. Tell him to stop being weird and back and forth. Let him know that you like him and that you are trying to get to know him but he's making it hard. Ask him if you guys are gonna keep having sex or what?

These men act like Biatches nowadays 😆

But in his defense- I'm dealing with a Virgo right now too who said the exact same thing- but he wants to know my full name, how many siblings I have, wants to go on hikes and take me out for dinner. Just lol

I told him I take things one day at a time, as long as we get along and are having fun while we are hanging out, there's no rush for anything. But he's almost having the same reaction as the Cancer is with you, it seems to have the opposite affect and make him insecure. Like I'm giving you what you asked for, dude. Guess he's not used to a girl being cool with it.

The best way to deal with him is to do as he asks, and just give him space but let him know you're still interested. Date other guys, if you want. Then if he actually doesn't come back, who cares.

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Posted by ChiPri0815

hey saggurl that doesn't make sense to me because he is the one who brought it up all the time ....

plus he said "you can still text me just keep it PG because I prefer to be platonic friends" and then turns around and goes "I like having sex with you and hanging out with you I just need some space"

i'm about to not even say anything and just forget about him because this is getting so complicated so quick and usually I have patience but like the other's have said I feel as though he is giving me reasons to push away and I sincerely thought he was just testing me to see if i'm interested but I never thought this would be how he would act. now i'm not going to say all cancer men are like this I've definitely met sweet men who are cancer zodiac, but this one was is just being plain rude at this point and me being me I just want to say screw you in the most polite way possible.

Well tell him that. Tell him to stop being weird and back and forth. Let him know that you like him and that you are trying to get to know him but he's making it hard. Ask him if you guys are gonna keep having sex or what?

These men act like Biatches nowadays 😆

But in his defense- I'm dealing with a Virgo right now too who said the exact same thing- but he wants to know my full name, how many siblings I have, wants to go on hikes and take me out for dinner. Just lol

I told him I take things one day at a time, as long as we get along and are having fun while we are hanging out, there's no rush for anything. But he's almost having the same reaction as the Cancer is with you, it seems to have the opposite affect and make him insecure. Like I'm giving you what you asked for, dude. Guess he's not used to a girl being cool with it.

The best way to deal with him is to do as he asks, and just give him space but let him know you're still interested. Date other guys, if you want. Then if he actually doesn't come back, who cares.

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i'm dealing with a Cancer but i've acted like a retard in the past with him. i got obsessed so i did the logical thing- broke things off haha. but now i'm back and more obsessed than ever and have completely embraced my obsession.

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by ChiPri0815

hey saggurl that doesn't make sense to me because he is the one who brought it up all the time ....

plus he said "you can still text me just keep it PG because I prefer to be platonic friends" and then turns around and goes "I like having sex with you and hanging out with you I just need some space"

i'm about to not even say anything and just forget about him because this is getting so complicated so quick and usually I have patience but like the other's have said I feel as though he is giving me reasons to push away and I sincerely thought he was just testing me to see if i'm interested but I never thought this would be how he would act. now i'm not going to say all cancer men are like this I've definitely met sweet men who are cancer zodiac, but this one was is just being plain rude at this point and me being me I just want to say screw you in the most polite way possible.

Well tell him that. Tell him to stop being weird and back and forth. Let him know that you like him and that you are trying to get to know him but he's making it hard. Ask him if you guys are gonna keep having sex or what?

These men act like Biatches nowadays 😆

But in his defense- I'm dealing with a Virgo right now too who said the exact same thing- but he wants to know my full name, how many siblings I have, wants to go on hikes and take me out for dinner. Just lol

I told him I take things one day at a time, as long as we get along and are having fun while we are hanging out, there's no rush for anything. But he's almost having the same reaction as the Cancer is with you, it seems to have the opposite affect and make him insecure. Like I'm giving you what you asked for, dude. Guess he's not used to a girl being cool with it.

The best way to deal with him is to do as he asks, and just give him space but let him know you're still interested. Date other guys, if you want. Then if he actually doesn't come back, who cares.

i'm dealing with a Cancer but i've acted like a retard in the past with him. i got obsessed so i did the logical thing- broke things off haha. but now i'm back and more obsessed than ever and have completely embraced my obsession.

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Well this Virgo better not break stuff off with me and try to come back. lol But I actually told him that I just cut off another guy and don't take people back, so maybe it will scare him slightly. Shit just needs to run it's course. Either we make it or we don't, screw all the shit in between. I don't mind the obsession of it.

He and I had this conversation the other night and I told him that he can't possibly be that obsessed since he and I both work so much and I told him I would never ignore him and it will never be too much contact.He said he can get super infatuated and crazy with it, but so far he hasn't. He said that he gets hurt by being ignored.

This is actually the one thing that is super refreshing about Virgos. You guys may not show it up front ( well actually you do, maybe the correct word is say it directly) but you can talk openly about emotions, it's refreshing because I can do the same thing. But both Virgos I dated were Libra risings, maybe that had something to do with it. This one is nicer and so far hasn't played mind games yet, instead he's just scared of being ghosted and me not being interested in him. So far, So good. I love insecure men lol Means they aren't going anywhere 😆 I'm here for him to settle all those worries 😛 We can talk about it after sex though 😆

haha you guys are awesome!!!

ya I can't even really get obsessed I mean like I said I enjoy my time with him and we have hella fun behind close doors and open doors =) but this whole thing is like maaaannnn why you gotta make it so difficult when I just said go with the flow lol

but I love it your advice!!! I think i'm going to say what I want to say and then give him space, if he comes back cool if not IDGAF but I just mind games lol

Virgo's definitely don't lke mind games, we can wear our heart on our shoulder but also are very very grounded. I hope it works out for you also hun =)

and girll yes Cancer man drive everyone crazy it seems lol

Next! Put his disinterested ass in the trash. Next.

Well he said hed not putting in any effort

And hes selfish but if I wanna deal with it then hes okay with it because his mood can change later

I said absolutely not .. sex is good but it ain't that good to be degraded