Update re: Cancer Guy. I cant Leave Him Alone Guys (Page 2)

SRG,
Yeah, I think the same exact way, however, If he insists that he has to B the only one...then I will have to wait until time can prove it...Other than that...No sex... LOL! I will B here 4 U when U come around.

Why do you generalize about me just because I am a cancer? I make my intentions known and have no interest in filling my head and someone else's head with bullshit.

SRG,
R you talking about me?
I don't generalize no one! It is what it is. I agree I think HE is being selfish and there is nothing I can do about that. Just stay out the way Y he breaks everybody elses heart I guess LOL! He won't do it. NO he wants no affair. That can't happen! SO what next, time will tell

Krobe, you're wasting your time. You really want to wait for someone to possibly, eventually come around?? It's all a mindgame.. to see your reaction.

Krobe, you're wasting your time. You really want to wait for someone to possibly, eventually come around?? It's all a mindgame.. to see your reaction. I don't CARE if he does not come around. I am not pressuring him or no man like that. If U come around OK if U don't that is OK too. I am not looking 4 him to come around or expecting it. It just happens.

my ex had a cancer moon....thats how she operated. i am a cancer but thmy moon in pisces doesnt want to be cold. if u have to act like u dont care......that sucks. i love attention......i feed off that stuff.

SRG,
I have a man. I don't have to wait 4 anybody to come around. I am living my life so I am not bothering him. I try not too by not communicating much. However, when he comes around and wants to communicate. I will rather hear it from him instead of pressuring him about it. He says it is all or nothing. Me and him only or nothing. SO right now it is nothing.

Redrover, why are you so set in generalizing about all cancers?

What are your guys' signs by the way?

redrovertoo,
No I am not a Scorpio. I just try to keep things at a distance. When he trys to get close to me I back off! Run U know go the other way like they do us. LOL! He comes around more like that. I don't treat him cold hearted. I give him attention when he asks for it. However, I am not going to spoil no grown as- Man and ego feed him either. He says all or nothing. HOwever, he continues to come around, nicer and more changed then the first time. I am not going to deny him conversation. However, right now I have stuff going on in my life where he just can't be number 1.

krobe03,
I am a Leo. I do emotionally and financially supporting LOL! No just joking! However, I am a quite controlled LEO. I don't express my feelings much and I try to stay in control of MY situations and I cause no drama or stress in MR. Cancer's Life. I will or I can be faithful to him, but only if he gives me the same in return. I am not the affection seeking, pride tripping ego boosting Leo. I am older and more mature.

Krobe, what do you want from your cancer friend?

krobe,
a friendship that he won't give me unless it is based on relationship. I want a friendship and don't be trying to play me and make me ASSUME that we have more than that. If it grows deeper, it grows deeper. Natural flow. NO PRESSURE! Not from me or him. I am not trying to stop anything going on in his life. I can't DO that. I don't want him to stop anything going on in my life. Trust, friends, talk and if more happens it happens. My man is controlling and yes I will leave his as-- behind this sh--. I want him to need me, and I want to need him. Fill in the voids that I am not getting or he is not getting. BUDDIES. However, since I am not a unfaithful lover before sex can happen, I will have to end it here which I am willing to do.

Redrover, while you did state to the effect, that since i'm a cancer that I must be like all the rest of them I take neither offense to this nor is it something i'm sensitive about. I don't even think that much into it anyway. I simply asked why you generalize all cancers into 1 easily understandable and definable group.. thats it.

A Cancer male, or at least the one I have met can split your wig making U assume sh--. Just out of the blue,,,I said friends he says sex...I say no....He says yes...I say wait...he says how long...I say until I at least can FEEl U, U know what I mean. I am not just a sexual contact type person...it is to much sh-- out here for that.

Krobe, from a cancer perspective, what you want from your cancer is unrealistic. You want to simply be friends and see if it grows into something while cancer wants a relationship where you can also be friends. No wonder this isn't working.. you want the opposite things.

Oh is that what the problem is LOL! I know he wants a relationship that I just can't be open and honest to give him right now. No rushing relationship don't just happen. That is why they don't work! It takes time and patience to have a relationship. I will try to consider this however, he has a problem with me having a man. LOL!

redrovertoo,
That is why this is going a my slow pace. If U can't wait. BYE, see ya, U R not the first man that has walked out of my life and U won't be the last! Period. I am not attached to any outcome. It is what it is...That's why when he pushes. I run. He says that U have a man that wants to love U, wants to care about U and U run. U scared. Yeah reading these boards. I sure am.

redrovertoo,
That is Y they say, never let a man know how much U really love him, because once he finds out he will take your heart and run with it. Never let me know that because I will take your heart and run too.

Yeah,
That is what I am afraid of. He has never been a dog. Actually he "ACTS" as if he is the perfect one. Now! Not a first. I had to run away from him in order to get him to be like this. Perfect gentleman. OH Well. I have been with my man for 10 years so I think I know how to handle them. I don't care what sign U R a man is a man.

Don't think of him as much as a Cancer and more as a man that you are apprehensive about. He could be a really great guy that you are missing out on

Yeah, however, I don't think so, that is game, how can U B my man and U know that I already have one. LOL! Game, mind games.

Guys, I have to ask, if cancers are so confusing and cause so many headaches, why do keep maintaining contact with them?

SRG,
It is the dam excitement that U R not getting elsewhere that is thrilling LOL! ALL the unexpected suprises! LOL

AHHHHHH!! I am so confused!

I have two friends who are dating Cancer men and they are wonderful to them. They treat my friends sooo good!

Then I go on this msg board and get scared shitless...lol. Oh Lordie! My Cancer called me three times last night, apologizing for the miscommunication that took place this past weekend. Offering to help me move this weekend.

I'm just going to let it play out and see what happens. The only thing that really scares me is the possibility of having sex with him. If I have sex with him I will go psycho if he plays the types of games that you guys are talking about. LORDIE!

For the hudredth time...If that is what U want to do...DO it. If it is meant 4 U to B together. NOTHING or NOBODY can stop that!

Krobe....I know its about what I want to do and thats what I want to do. LOL. Take my time and see where it goes.

And I do realize that if its meant to be...it will be.

Im just venting....

Even though I know its about making myself happy....its still a bit confusing. Any new relationship is confusing...just b/c you dont know the other person well. Right now, I am trying to feel him out.....

Im just coming to you guys b/c you have had more experience with Cancer men, than me. I have necer dated a Cancer man before.

I have never called myself serious with one, and I feel U too. I have to feel him out first! However, after reading these boards, Whew! I am definitely scared to put my heart on the line LOL!

Well yea! Thats what I was saying...LOL! It's scary!

I shouldn't even add my two cents because I did something real ignorant today 🙂 I saw my Cancer just chilling outside when a friend and I went on lunch break and I NEVER see him. We rode past and I stuck my middle finger up-LOL!

That was ignorant but I don't care...I care but not really...he makes me SICK!!!

But my lovely maianm let that have no reflection on how to treat your Cancer. Give him all the love in the world and as a Scorpio you will definitely be able to provide that. Blow his socks of mama!✨

LOL@Karima.

Girrrllll you are CRAAZZYYY!! That's too funny! Well, I dont know. I willsee him on Saturday and I'll show him some love, but not too much. LOL. 🙂

"Do you guys think that a Cancer man would make plans and just stand me up without even calling to make something up?"

YES YES YES. The same thing just happened to me this weekend.

I haven't called him and he hasn't called me since Wednesday night. I messed up and became too clingy (My Moon's in Cancer if it matters). We messed up and moved too fast. I sort of wish I could reverse things because I really like him for who he is (beyond his curly hair), but if a person's gonna be serious with you, they just are -- no matter what. So maybe it wasn't meant to be. I'm not calling. If he doesn't come around, then he can go screw himself. I have my Libra!!

LOL!

haven't called him and he hasn't called me since Wednesday night. I messed up and became too clingy (My Moon's in Cancer if it matters). We messed up and moved too fast. I sort of wish I could reverse things because I really like him for who he is (beyond his curly hair), but if a person's gonna be serious with you, they just are -- no matter what. So maybe it wasn't meant to be. I'm not calling. If he doesn't come around, then he can go screw himself. I have my Libra!!

Oh, Caprichick
I feel U. I have been stood up too, join the crew. My Cancer asked me to do something for him, and to call him back as soon as I did. I call back, no answer, I text, no answer...I have my Capricorn LOL!

Sorry guys, scorps only need apply here..

Hey Caprichick, my Moon's in Cancer too, and to activate my static cling one needs only to start acting hinky and avoidant-- fortunately, now that I'm older, the "cling" only lasts a day with the Cancer. By day 2 I'm already thinking that mind games aren't worth my time and if a reasonable explanation exists for why he's being distant, he'll let me know up front.

I react clingy like that whenever anyone in my family or close friendships starts to act distant or upset (think the fact that I get upset when they are is more Pisces, though). It's not just clingy behavior when it's relative to a male.

At this age I control the cling urge much better than when younger.

OMG you guys these Cancer men are notso!!!! LOL. I understand exactly where everyone is come from!!!!!

But mine is actually coming around. He came over on Sunday (the day after I moved into my new place) and brought red roses for me and a plant and wine for house warming gifts. I thought that was sooo sweet!

Then we watched DVDs and wrestled and pillow fought. But nothing else really happened he just gave me a peck at the end of the night and told me that he wanted to see me again this week. I wanted to really kiss him, but I didnt want to seem too aggressive.

But this is the weird part...we had this great night on Sunday and he didnt call me all day Monday. I have not spoken with him since Sunday.

Should I break down and call him tonight, or wait it out?

lol @ MissNomerFishie: "By day 2 I'm already thinking that mind games aren't worth my time and if a reasonable explanation exists for why he's being distant, he'll let me know up front..."

..And you wouldn't believe he called me three times today!! He was trying to take me to the movies.. but it got too late. He'll call me again. I just know!!

Maianm: OMG what a great housewarming gift! It's a very thoughtful one! I honestly think you should wait it out. He'll get the picture that you are a busy chick with more going on than him, and he'll call.

I wish I could figure out why they do that disappearing thing, though. I don't think anyone plays a good disappearing act aside from them :-P!!!

caprichick:

Pisces, males and some of us females (me included) can Houdini with the best of 'em. Which can cause problems while involved with another disappearing act sign!

MissNomerFishie,
I like the disappearing act that the Pisces posses, go tactic. LOL! However, I can do this, it keeps me out of the way of BS!

Message posted by: SRG on 4/23/2007 10:32:42 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.85
Krobe are you a scorp too? 6 months? Thats crazy.. what were you waiting for? It's so easy: I like girl; girl likes me; girl invites me to her place; we have sex; we're a couple.. end of story.

LMAO!! I need some of that action

Tiki33

You say that now....but its easy for a man to say that. After a man and woman have been initmate the woman usually grows closer to him emotionally and and gets stronger feelings for the man, but its a coin toss as to how it is going to affect the man.

I think in some cases it doesnt matter how fast too people become intimate . But in most cases it does matter. Like Caprichick said, when you move too fast and get all caught up in the moment sometimes it ends up pushing the guy further away.

Men in general love to hunt and chase. It seems as though Cancer men particuarly like that. They like a bit of a challenge....not mean just a little challenge. That's why I am kinda leary as to what is going to happen with me and my Cancer man...I am scared that if we become intimate that it may change things since it has only been a month. I am going to to try to hold off fo 3 more weeks...its gonna be tough. LOL.

mainm-I take it things are going well then?

Fantastic! The sex will be amazing...good for you!

Whoops I misspelled your name...

My Bad...

Girl!!! I pray it will be...I gotta hold on for lil' while longer....but good things come to those who wait! 🙂

Have you even spoken to your Cancer?

Fcuk no! And I misspelled it on purpose! So you can get the full meaning of the word.

Girl please...he can go and jump straight in the lake with a cement block tied to his ankle!

Girl please...he can go and jump straight in the lake with a cement block tied to his ankle!

ROTFL!

dayum

Girl please...he can go and jump straight in the lake with a cement block tied to his ankle!

Now, Now, these little crabs don't get to us that bad do they. Hell I am like the Pisces woman, do a disappearing act! LOL! That will straighten him out! LOL!

but Scorps are crazy to just disappear..plus we like closure...its hard for us to just let go without getting crazy first! LOL

I mean we are too crazy to just diappear