virgo woman and cancer man -- updated

alright so I've been talking to this cancer and I previously posted about this

things were great, we went from dating, casually seeing each other, to hooking up as we went out on dates. he changed his mood cause of cultural differences, etc and wanted to be FWB then changed his mind within a couple of days and said how he has no romantic interest and just wants to be friends. I was so confused of the sudden mood change and i'm a practical person so I told him to call me and actually explain whats going on in his head cause I was confused.

he had great points he made, the fact that we had difference in culture which I had to explain that my family is very modernized and nothing of the sort of him getting rejected from my family say six months from now of dating, etc. And I said now if his family cannot accept me for because of my culture or race then I agree we should walk away from each other and he said "no that's not it at all, my family has no opinion when it comes to this and my sister is the only one i'm close to." so at the end of it he said he sees black and white and is learning to be more open minded, etc. and I did say go with the flow and let's see what happens, because we've only been going out for a couple of weeks like a month. He did say usually females run after two months because of his work/life balance and I was the first girl that told him i'm willing to stick around and see what happens. We did end up spending time together 4th of July and have plans for this weekend to play tennis, watch movies and relax. But my confusion is since the beginning I was the one to initiate he only initiated contact once or twice but since 4th of July I have initiated once or twice, I did stop initiating but he is back on POF (online dating app) and yet we still have plans this weekend, next weekend and pretty much the weekend is booked until end of July. So what do I do? do I bring it up? or should I just tell myself maybe he's starting to push away or change his mind again and just walk away?

His bday is - June 23rd 1991

mine is - September 17th 1991

Posted by ChiPri0815

"I'm a practical person so I told him to call me and actually explain whats going on in his head cause I was confused."

First of all, I love this about Virgo 🙂

You need to bring it up, that would piss me off and it will continue to bother you if you don't

this is similar to what i'm experiencing with a cancer sun/virgo moon. we're from different cultures and i'm the chaser here. i'm not giving up though. stick to it.

The classic virgo/cancer push/ pull bs.

You guys are just dating, not exclusive so he is allowed to still date other people...just like you are. You could bring it up but why when you aren't exclusive...don't put all your eggs in one basket and go out and date other people as well.

Posted by LostinmyMind11

The classic virgo/cancer push/ pull bs.

You guys are just dating, not exclusive so he is allowed to still date other people...just like you are. You could bring it up but why when you aren't exclusive...don't put all your eggs in one basket and go out and date other people as well.

👏👏👏

ya I understand we are not exclusive I guess i'm just taken back because I thought everything was going very very well and then I saw him online it kind of took me back a little I guess. IDK we'll see thank you so much

Posted by ChiPri0815

ya I understand we are not exclusive I guess i'm just taken back because I thought everything was going very very well and then I saw him online it kind of took me back a little I guess. IDK we'll see thank you so much

to be honest it would bother me too, i have Venus in Virgo so i can relate a bit.

once i make up my mind about smbd i am pretty much exclusive because i want to see where it goes, not just play the field.

and if he's not sure and still on POF, then naturally i wouldn't be sure of him anymore. which is hard to do, cause it takes me quite some time to decide if i want to give it a shot with a guy.

maybe in his mind he is single, cause he thinks he already told you he has no romantic interest, that he wants to be friends only or FWB.

best wishes

right I agree!!! but which is crazy cause after we hung out on 4th of July he told me he completely changed his mind and was glad I came by and talked over the phone, and continued to once again flirt, talk and be back on the same page before all the mess happened.

Idk I guess being a virgo I hate chasing like i'll give you a hint that I like you but I hate that I always have to initiate the conversations with him, and he tells me he's busy and in a mood cause of work but I see him online which I don't bring up cause again we aren't exclusive I guess that part of me is like i'm going to sit back and observe.