Wtf does this mean?!

Now my Cancer guy and I aren't official, just so ya know. So I sent him a pic and he noticed the ring that I was wearing on my ring finger. He's all up in my biz about it and then asks "Are you engaged to me?". Now why would he care so much if i'm wearing it, and what was his question implying? I'm so confused lol!

more background, what is the significance of this ring? is there some other thread I didnt read?

Posted by rabidtalker
more background, what is the significance of this ring? is there some other thread I didnt read?

Well he's 10 years younger than me, he's talked about marriage and me having his baby ( I actually miscarried, but before that had happened on a previous occasion, he was so excited that I might have been prego), yet he won't commit to me. And the ring has no significance, I just liked it so I bought it lol! They only had it in that size, there was no hidden agenda be hind my actions.

Posted by Jkats

Posted by rabidtalker
more background, what is the significance of this ring? is there some other thread I didnt read?

Well he's 10 years younger than me, he's talked about marriage and me having his baby ( I actually miscarried, but before that had happened on a previous occasion, he was so excited that I might have been prego), yet he won't commit to me. And the ring has no significance, I just liked it so I bought it lol! They only had it in that size, there was no hidden agenda be hind my actions.

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Why won't he commit? Is he in his early 20's?

sounds complicated,i'm cancer and all i could think of he might be overthinking things,he might think you have feels for your ex and thats your ex's ring,sometimes when we are sad and see things like that we might overthing things way to much that arent real,just talk with him about it,me myself would first ask about the ring where did y get it from and what does it mean to y,because i'm buying ring for myself 2 soon,it has a huge meaning and i'd like to wear it,doesn't mean im engaged or somth,talk with him and ask for understanding,we cancers have huge empathy and we understand people,thats one the the good things we have,but sometimes we enpathyse so much we forget ourselves,thats also a downside of our huge empathy and emotional boundaries

Posted by Moonbutter
Why won't he commit? Is he in his early 20's?

Well I still live with my ex, however i'll be out in a few months. And I dunno really. He's 25.

Posted by Arielle83
I thought u broke up with him cuz he "WOULDNT CHANGE".

He's been better actually. 🙂 Not drastic changes, but little by little he's improving.

Posted by Arielle83
It means he's scared cuz he thinks you're hinting that you want to be engaged to him.

He's prob realised he shouldn't say superfluous things to you, because you take it all too literally when he means them figuratively.

Hmmm perhaps.

Posted by rakac
sounds complicated,i'm cancer and all i could think of he might be overthinking things,he might think you have feels for your ex and thats your ex's ring,sometimes when we are sad and see things like that we might overthing things way to much that arent real,just talk with him about it,me myself would first ask about the ring where did y get it from and what does it mean to y,because i'm buying ring for myself 2 soon,it has a huge meaning and i'd like to wear it,doesn't mean im engaged or somth,talk with him and ask for understanding,we cancers have huge empathy and we understand people,thats one the the good things we have,but sometimes we enpathyse so much we forget ourselves,thats also a downside of our huge empathy and emotional boundaries

I told him that it wasn't my exes ring and he said that he could tell that it wasn't. Any other ideas as to why he would say that? And his exact words were "Are you engaged to me babe?".

@jJkats
Well he sounds rly rly insecure,cancers are insecure,but not that much ,shouldn't be a problem,maybe he's just a 2 much of a kid,we always keep a child inside of us,some quoalities of them,we enjoy simple things but we can also get hurt by simple things or misuderstandings,but this seems just way out of that league,he seems either rly childish and not even a little bit mature,or he's afraid and doesn't trust you,that one engaged to me maybe was i think a sarcasm and these words were hiding a meaning that he was feeling hurt i think,couldn't hear the tone of his voice so couldn't tell,he's just not a straight forward guy,i also like to talk in hints sometimes,but i can go straight forward aswell ,well that might be because i have sagittarius moon,he might be way more scared of rejection or something,just let him be,if he doesn't want to be with you don't get in hi's eyes,if he will rly like you he will contact you and apologize you for this silly thing,just before you stop texting or talking make sure you tell him everything you need to tell him,that you like him and you want to date him,but it seems that he overthings thinks,doesnt respect or trust you,he doesn't want to discuss problems and talk honestly and he has only his option and you're not allowed to say anythin,say him what you feel for him,but you can't be around him if he doesnt trust you or doesn't apollogize for this silly accusation of his,say everythin and leave it there,if he contacs you and says something sorry or somth else and wants to get togehter thats cool,at first he might even act like a little little child saying or bein angry ohh you're leaving me now,ok goodbye but he would do that out of anger if he's not mature enough,hang in there tho,he would prob say sorry next day or after couple of days and feel real bad about it,asking you to forgive him,might be a mess,just see how it turns out,dont want to guess the future 😄

Posted by rakac
@jJkats
Well he sounds rly rly insecure,cancers are insecure,but not that much ,shouldn't be a problem,maybe he's just a 2 much of a kid,we always keep a child inside of us,some quoalities of them,we enjoy simple things but we can also get hurt by simple things or misuderstandings,but this seems just way out of that league,he seems either rly childish and not even a little bit mature,or he's afraid and doesn't trust you,that one engaged to me maybe was i think a sarcasm and these words were hiding a meaning that he was feeling hurt i think,couldn't hear the tone of his voice so couldn't tell,he's just not a straight forward guy,i also like to talk in hints sometimes,but i can go straight forward aswell ,well that might be because i have sagittarius moon,he might be way more scared of rejection or something,just let him be,if he doesn't want to be with you don't get in hi's eyes,if he will rly like you he will contact you and apologize you for this silly thing,just before you stop texting or talking make sure you tell him everything you need to tell him,that you like him and you want to date him,but it seems that he overthings thinks,doesnt respect or trust you,he doesn't want to discuss problems and talk honestly and he has only his option and you're not allowed to say anythin,say him what you feel for him,but you can't be around him if he doesnt trust you or doesn't apollogize for this silly accusation of his,say everythin and leave it there,if he contacs you and says something sorry or somth else and wants to get togehter thats cool,at first he might even act like a little little child saying or bein angry ohh you're leaving me now,ok goodbye but he would do that out of anger if he's not mature enough,hang in there tho,he would prob say sorry next day or after couple of days and feel real bad about it,asking you to forgive him,might be a mess,just see how it turns out,dont want to guess the future 😄

Hahaha, I think i'm even more confused now! I'd totally dismiss him from my life and not take him seriously at all, if it weren't for all the baby talk. He was so happy when he thought I was prego with his child, but then I miscarried. He is a bit immature imo, but I still love him. And funny you say that he could've said that because he was hurt in some way, because lately i've been going out and doing me and not being all up in his ass. I've stopped saying I love you so much, now it's on a rare occasion when I do, chilled on the texting him all the time, I even encouraged him to go out with his friends instead of seeing me. And this situation wasn't an issue, I was just wondering what he meant by it.

Posted by Koniucha
You are still with that guy? Is this the one that has a pregnancy fetish?

Yah, that's him. But it's no fetish, he tried to get me prego on purpose awhile back. And i'm not " with" him, we're just whatever, just going with the flow. But he has been behaving better thank god, cuz I really thought I was gonna go insane lol!

Posted by Koniucha
You should have said yes, we are together for eternity now. And a maniacal laughter after that

Oh my god, he'd run for the hills if I said that lmao!

"Are we engaged?"


Does he not know how that works?

Posted by kissmygrits
"Are we engaged?"


Does he not know how that works?

Lmao, yes. I'm just trying to figure out the hidden meaning behind his question.

Posted by Impulsv
So u wore the ring in the engagement finger?

Yes. I bought the ring because I liked it, and they only had it in that size. I wear a different ring on my other hand, middle finger, and I wanted one for the other hand as well. I like balance. i'm weird like that lol!