Cap guys and sexual expression Advice needed!

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Hello all, I'm a Capricorn sun, Aries moon and Scorpio ascending. I recently met another Capricorn on tinder, he lives in france but comes to the US a lot for work (he owns a business). We have a date planned when he comes back next month. In the meantime we've been chatting quite a bit, he's 5 years older than I but is still a great texter. Always replies when he can, doesn't play games when it comes to talking to me. If things get busy at work he tells me so, always honest, always considerate. But I can't seem to tell if he's into me or not. He's never messaged me first, I always am the one to text him but when I do he replies with same amount of effort and puts in a lot to keep the conversation going. We've been texting for about a month, message each other every few days but not like everyday or anything. He doesn't seem to play games with me at all which I really appreciate and I'm always straightforward with him. So yesterday I decided to try and heat things with him a little. I sent him some sexy photos (not nudes though ahaha) tried to incaite some dirty talk. Didn't really get much though, his response was just like "you're so gorgeous" I tried to get more out of him, tried to ask him what he was into and didn't really get much. I've never been with another Capricorn before (he doesn't know his Moon but thinks his asencding is Capricorn as well). Are they really just that shy? Clearly I'm into him so what does he have to be shy about? Language barrier maybe? I usually date Scorpios and Pisices so when it comes to sexual interactions it's usually very passionate and I definitely get more of a response. I can't tell if it's a Capricorn guy thing or maybe he's just not into me but is too nice to say? Are Capricorn guys just not good at expressing themselves sexually?



I'd really appreciate any advice. Thanks in advance!
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Posted by Capri-sun


So if you're allowing him space to initiate (which according to your post you are) & he isn't doing so then I would say that he might not be interested.





So...

1) he's not interested

2) he's being realistic. Regardless of how frequently he's in the states, anything substantial would be hard to maintain under the current conditions

3) he's being respectful

4) he isn't into being teased. Some men don't understand subtly. So either you're there or he's in the states & you 2 are fucking or you aren't. I like the real thing, who cares about pictures. His mind is just as dirty as yours trust me.

These are the options I came up with 😄
This was great that you! you thought of a lot of options and explanetntions I didn't think of! Thanks!



I feel like I'm def giving him space! At least three days inbetween contact. Maybe next time I'll give him more time I suppose? This is the main factor in why I think he may not be interested. He does work A LOT though, but I feel like that hasn't stopped anyone before? Is that unreasonable of me?
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I'm also dating a French Capricorn, he's never send sexy pic and neither do I as I want to develop emotional bond first. He is very gentle and tactile when it comes to kissing. I would suggest to hang back and see if he initiate. As mine does most of the initiating.

Tinder doesn't have a good rep and most guy there might not be looking for anything serious, so it's not a reflection about you. It's just that before he met you he probably didn't have his mind set on looking for a girlfriend or some sort.
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So if you're allowing him space to initiate (which according to your post you are) & he isn't doing so then I would say that he might not be interested.





So...

1) he's not interested

2) he's being realistic. Regardless of how frequently he's in the states, anything substantial would be hard to maintain under the current conditions

3) he's being respectful

4) he isn't into being teased. Some men don't understand subtly. So either you're there or he's in the states & you 2 are fucking or you aren't. I like the real thing, who cares about pictures. His mind is just as dirty as yours trust me.

These are the options I came up with 😄
This was great that you! you thought of a lot of options and explanetntions I didn't think of! Thanks!



I feel like I'm def giving him space! At least three days inbetween contact. Maybe next time I'll give him more time I suppose? This is the main factor in why I think he may not be interested. He does work A LOT though, but I feel like that hasn't stopped anyone before? Is that unreasonable of me?

You're welcome. Not unreasonable at all. That's why I agree with you about him not being interested. Any man, cap or not, will initiate and MAKE time for the woman he is interested in.

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Exactly! I'll give him a week and see if he comes around on his own! Just don't want him to think I'm mad at him ? Hahaha!
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Posted by StrawberryJam
I'm also dating a French Capricorn, he's never send sexy pic and neither do I as I want to develop emotional bond first. He is very gentle and tactile when it comes to kissing. I would suggest to hang back and see if he initiate. As mine does most of the initiating.

Tinder doesn't have a good rep and most guy there might not be looking for anything serious, so it's not a reflection about you. It's just that before he met you he probably didn't have his mind set on looking for a girlfriend or some sort.
I have lots of really beautiful lingerie that I adore and don't mind sending a pic or two to my romantic interest in it if it will make his day a little better ? Hahaha I don't really except another photo in return I guess maybe just a little sexy talk or something! But I think you are absolutely right and I think I'm going to sit back and let him come around and see how it goes. I wouldn't say he is exactly looking for a girlfriend but he works a loooooooot and I feel like the only time he has to date is when he's on vacation because otherwise he would be in the office. But on the other hand he isn't one to waste time so who knows ?‍♀️
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Oh if you met on tinder, it's very possible he was looking for a hookup that night or maybe just when he's in town. I wouldn't try to establish anything serious with him.

The lack of response to the pics...yeah take that of lack of interest sorry.
No need to be sorry! I wouldn't quite say lack of interest just not exactly the reaction I wanted or expected. Instead of being like "this is what I want to do to you" he was more like "you're so gorgeous" which is nice but I kinda wanted hot Hahahaha! He does seem extremely shy, but where my confusion sits is why bother talking to me for months if he didn't have some sort of interest? Why not ghost me and call it a day or just slowly stop responding to my messages?
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I will have to agree with what most have said--it sounds like he's not interested.

Anyway, I think there is confusion on what Tinder is used for. I read that originally it was used as a hook up app, so some people may be on Tinder for hook ups or for something more. I would be wary of Tinder. Maybe try "Meet Mindful" instead?
As I said to another poster! My confusion is more like, why keep talking to me if he isn't interested? It would be super easy to cut things off with me, but he hasn't, nor has he tried?
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Posted by lady_chatterley
I will have to agree with what most have said--it sounds like he's not interested.

Anyway, I think there is confusion on what Tinder is used for. I read that originally it was used as a hook up app, so some people may be on Tinder for hook ups or for something more. I would be wary of Tinder. Maybe try "Meet Mindful" instead?
As I said to another poster! My confusion is more like, why keep talking to me if he isn't interested? It would be super easy to cut things off with me, but he hasn't, nor has he tried?

And thank you for the recommendation! I've had a lot of luck on tinder. But I've been getting people looking for all sorts of different things too, commitment, non commitment all ends of the spectrum
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Oh if you met on tinder, it's very possible he was looking for a hookup that night or maybe just when he's in town. I wouldn't try to establish anything serious with him.

The lack of response to the pics...yeah take that of lack of interest sorry.
No need to be sorry! I wouldn't quite say lack of interest just not exactly the reaction I wanted or expected. Instead of being like "this is what I want to do to you" he was more like "you're so gorgeous" which is nice but I kinda wanted hot Hahahaha! He does seem extremely shy, but where my confusion sits is why bother talking to me for months if he didn't have some sort of interest? Why not ghost me and call it a day or just slowly stop responding to my messages?

Being polite, not wanting to hurt you, or like you said some sort of interest, just not interested enough.

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Yeah I think I just won't count on anything and maybe just enjoy his company while he's in town and have that be the end of it hahaha
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I'm also dating a French Capricorn, he's never send sexy pic and neither do I as I want to develop emotional bond first. He is very gentle and tactile when it comes to kissing. I would suggest to hang back and see if he initiate. As mine does most of the initiating.

Tinder doesn't have a good rep and most guy there might not be looking for anything serious, so it's not a reflection about you. It's just that before he met you he probably didn't have his mind set on looking for a girlfriend or some sort.
I have lots of really beautiful lingerie that I adore and don't mind sending a pic or two to my romantic interest in it if it will make his day a little better ? Hahaha I don't really except another photo in return I guess maybe just a little sexy talk or something! But I think you are absolutely right and I think I'm going to sit back and let him come around and see how it goes. I wouldn't say he is exactly looking for a girlfriend but he works a loooooooot and I feel like the only time he has to date is when he's on vacation because otherwise he would be in the office. But on the other hand he isn't one to waste time so who knows ?‍♀️

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I'm sure guys won't complain about a sexy pic, in fact they might even fap at it as soon as they open it 😉 from my own experience they will be more willing to send some in return or show more appreciation when they ask for it.

Mine also works a lot, at one point we weren't going to see each other anymore cos we both thought we weren't interested. what @dannymc taught me went a long way, show vulnerabilty and be open and honest.