Gemgirl937
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Capricorn guy just said he's too busy to keep dating me
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*****cues the Dirty Dancing music****
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The sooner you realize, accept, and embrace this. The easier your life will be.
I met him on tinder, we both said we were on there to date and not for sex. He's had a rough time with his ex, he went completely off women for 2 years due to her cheating. In 3 years he's slept with one girl and kissed 2.
Anyway we really hit it off together, our dates were fun and full of so much activity like skiing, golf and things. I met his family and he met mine. Originally we agreed to see each other once a week but it grew to 3 and 4 times a week and me staying over at his a lot. We didn't mention the growth of us seeing each other more often he was quite happy with it. He would be the one arranging to see me more often too.
On the dates we were non stop talking and laughing. We had the same morals and both have good jobs. He did mention a couple of weeks back he is behind on his job so needs to catch up. I said look of needs be we can not see each other for a couple of weeks and you can catch up and his response was I would rather see you. He asked me to stay at his a lot because he said he felt more comfortable and found it easier to sleep with me there.
We have planned a secret date in December where we can't tell one another... the one he is doing for me is in 2 weeks and all I know is we are going away for a night. On Tuesday he text me after me staying at his saying he loves spending so much time with me and wanted me to let him know an idea of what o wanted for Christmas. He also asked me to go to a family event with him in January.
Everything has been going so good I've had no feeling that thugs were bad. He's amazing to be around.
Anyway last night we were supposed to be going on a date and then him staying at mine. He had told me in the beginning if the day he had been working all morning. I said if needs be we can cancel the date so he can keep on top of work. He said no a break will do him good. I gave him 3 opportunities for him to cancel or tell me he couldn't do tonight. Each one he said he couldn't wait to see me.
He turned up st my house and rang to say he's outside. I told him I would be 5 mins so he said well don't rush I'll nip to a friend's and let me know when you're sorted. I text him 7mins after. He read 20mind after and half an hour later I rang with no answer. Now I know when he is in company he doesn't have his phone on him or keeps it on silent. He's told me this from the start because he doesn't want a distraction.
Last night I sat and waited for an hour for him to text me and say sorry been talking some thing through with my friend. I think we need to go for a coffee and chat.
I rang him straight away and he sounded so different on the phone to how he did an hour before.
We met for a coffee a few mins s later and he told me that he's realised he has "misjudged things" and that he is too busy to date me. He said he wouldn't be able to give me the time I needed and it wouldn't be fair on me. He was so distant. He wouldn't even look at me. I compared him to a robot and said it's like you are numb. He's usually very expressive. I told him to cut the bullshit and tell if he was dating someone else. He said no. I asked him a couple of weeks before what wee were and he said he didn't want to date or talk to anyone else apart from me and he deleted tinder.
Now I do understand he is very busy with work. He has a difficult job and has just started opening up his own small online thing.. which he asked me to help him with. I said look we can slow things down until you get on top of it. I asked him how long he had had these doubts because I stayed at his on Thursday and we had sex. He said it was Friday morning when he got into work because his boss asked him why he was slacking so much. I kind of did get angry because I said you bad no intention of this date tonight and allowed me to get ready. He accepted he has handled it totally wrong and I said I would have told you if I had doubts and would say straight away not leave it nearly 2 days. (In those 2 days he has been fine. Texting as normal. Called me beautiful. No indicatiom of doubfs) I said all this to him. He said if I was working in my old job I would have all the time for you but i just can't atm. I said I've never expected you to drop work. I don't want you to do that. I just said but after a couple of months and a good time I think you've made a rash decision. He said he hasn't and he's indecisive. He said he spoke to his best friend and said he's behind on work and it's causing him alog of stress with no sleep but on the other hand he loves to spend time.with me. His friend told him his health comes first but happiness is involved with health. (His best.mate is his sister's partner who I met at the beginning of last week and got on really well with. He was the one who suggested inviting me to the family event in janary). I said to him now you are gonna be work work work which is not healthy. He said he knows this but he needs to get to where he wants to be. He said he really likes me, thinks I'm a great kind person but if we continue to date he's only gonna have time to see me once or twice a month and to him that's not a relationship. He said my family have told me I'm being an idiot and by pushing me away is wrong for my health.
Anyway to prevent insulting him because I was angry I said my peace and said ok are we done. He said he didn't want to end things on a sour note. He said he is really upset. O said well you're not showing this. You are robotic. I said I had nothing more to say and left it.
He's out with his best friend today as he does do every Sunday morning.
I'm so gutted. I love spending time with the guy and talking to him. He's made me realise what dating is about and how it can work. Literally there has been no indication of this until 7pm last night.
Im totally confused. Have I been played all along or can a young guy generally be too busy to date. He said "I've not managed my time well since knowing you. That's not tour fault and I don't want you to feel bad. It's my fault and my misjudgement"
Do I give this guy space and wait for him to sort his head out or do I just totally move on.
When I left the conversation I just said right is that are we done. He asked if I had anything more to say and I said no (even though I had) that's it see you bye.
I'm sick of guys just using an excuse like this. He's really hurt my feelings. He's always said trust is there to be broken. So I said that last night said yeah and you definitely broke mine. I'm so done with dating. Most people turn out to be either sociopaths, narcs or just literally flip their feelings whenever they please.
I'm just wanting some advice. Thanks