Capricorn male... (Page 2)

"I blame sumthing_phishy. never trust anything with scales and emotions."

genome - you know you want to stroke the fins...LOL!

I have to respectfully disagree with your assessment.
I actually do know what I want from a relationship. I don't get bored easily. In fact, I am the most loyal of girlfriends. Most of my relationships have been long term, and that is what I seek...stability, partnership, respect, etc. I don't really go for excitement. So what if my Venus is in Gemini. This doesn't have anything to do with that. I am talkative and fun, but I certainly do not get bored with who I am with.

"gemini venus, libra mars, libra moon....can you even make a decision in love?? by the looks of things you don't know what you want...LOL! no wonder you haven't left this guy!!"

Maybe you are joking, but this is kind of rude. This guy gave no warning signs that he was going to leave me (when I needed him most), and it has nothing to do with what I want or don't want. I posted this problem because I was sad and actually looking to understand. By leaving this guy, there was nothing to leave. He wouldn't call me or return my calls for me to even say "I want to break up." Plus, I haven't called him for one month. Surely that would equal knowing what I want (or at least having the dedication to stick with something).

I am very committed, and I actually stay in relationships trying to make it work because I always try to believe it will get better. I don't know, I want to think of relationships as a team thing.

Oh dear ...

I'm sorry for being so late to this thread. What he has done to you is horrible. My goodness ... and I'm so sorry that you my passed away. What an asshole! The moment you need someone to lean on, he starts going astray 😢 Just to let you know that, there's nothing wrong with being committed to anything, but always remember to be committed to yourself first.

When my mom was sick during the first years, I actually took some time in school to take care of her. I like the idea of unconditional love. I wouldn't easily run from a guy when the times were rough.

When I was taking care of my dad, I felt like you. But before he passed away, he informed me to take care of myself first anfd others later. I still have a tendency to be overly concern for others instead of myself -- much like you 🙂 However, I'm working on that, and now I'm much better, I suggest you do the same.

i was just joking dear, it's not that deep...it's just a natal chart, no one knows you here... but you. you can explain who you really are that is the difference between reality and astrology. what i don't understand why you took offense when you even said this yourself....

This new natal chart thing says that my Venus is in Gemini which means I'm a player? That's odd.
Other than that, I am a blend of air and water (Libra Moon, Pisces Rising, Cancer Mercury, Libra Mars). I thought those don't mix. This may mean I'm screwed.

it seems like you saw the absurdity like i did...but maybe not.

you also posted before that he told you he was speaking to his ex-girlfriend and started to speak to her even more after your mother died, but you're still looking for "understanding?"...i think he was quite clear on his words and actions but it seems like you want other people to who don't know you or him to explain his actions. which is sort of confusing me... the posts in response to your story has been universally that you are of greater worth than what this man had to offer so stop worrying about him and move on...i hope not to offend this time.

I mean, you are right. I agree with you about that and I didn't really take it seriously. I just kind of saw the last line and thought you meant I was weak for keeping him, but I misunderstood you. I had a knee-jerk reaction to it because, during the last month of talking to him, he was always saying that I was weak. It wasn't quire clear from his actions because then he would backtrack on everything, so I didn't know what to believe. I was just totally confused about his actions.

I think so, Genome and Phishy. And, as odd as it seems, this thread is kind of giving me closure 🙂 I appreciate your help!

Also, I meant that Pisces Rising just adds another watery element to my already watery disposition. I am a daydreaming romantic mess.

Bush is also a Cancer Sun, Libra Moon says Wikipedia :o

genome-

stop setting your bait.....this phish ain't i ain't biting...heh heh heh

maybe later....LOL

cg - keep ur head up.....and when you see that bastard of a goat you give him a squeeze of your pincher...LOL! that would teach his a**!

LOL....i'm a phishy i only know how to play fight...hee hee

"i think it maybe that pisces influence though that always has me sounding like im flirting."

oh yeah blame that on your pisces...that sounds convincing...epecially to a pisces... 😉

milk and cookies??...looks like another bait...LOL

*swims away*

"see what you've done, your ramblings have caused this girls post to go on for 8 pages.

oh, and it had nothing to do with your endless banter with krobe...no??

again i rest my case....LOL!

"Suuuuuuuure phishy, you only play fight, you with the one with the pirate slogan in her profile"

yet you offer me milk and cookies instead of a BOTTLE OF RUM!.....*sigh* some people never learn...

*swimming away*

yo yo ho hum a phishy's life for me........

oh wait....

*turns around and comes back*

to your last post....

YOU WISH!....

*darts away*


......(in the far distance) sucker.

LOL!

Cute phishy and Genome. Real cute! LOL!

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My dear girl CancerGirl, I too have had a long relationship with a capricorn male. I find his ego very fragile yet he must always seem to be in charge. Capricorn men are tru to astrological form. He is seemingly cold hearted but lets that wall down on a rare occasion that is so momentous when it occurs. On the other side of the moon, he can be very much a free spirit and flirtatious when the spirit hits him. The fact that I do not let this appear to be a problem is what keeps us having a relationship. TO be very honnest with you. Capricorns area strange breed. You mustn't let them have complete contol as they will not respect you. My best advise to you is to walk and give this guy some time to think about what he's loosing. They always end up calling and comming around. NOw the next question is...Is this the kind of Game playing relationship you want to be in. They are tough on the heartstrings. But rewarding in their genuine friendship. They don't forget people who have been good to them. They may not treat you like the way you feel they shpould but take a moment to appreciate the seldom seen true capricorn feelings when they come out. Then decide what you want.

Sorry about the spelling in previous blog....It's late and I didn't proof it...lol.....ready for bed.......Oh ya.....I'm an Aries....according to astrological charts....A cap male and aries gal shouldn't get along.............

I must say I had my time with the capricorn. Sounds so parallel except I am a taurus and I live in his mothers basement. So no matter how much i try to forget him its so hard. I cried 3 months straight trying to understand why he disappeared. When we finally talked he said because I wanted to be his only girl.Yes we agreed to be friends. But he was so charming I caught feels quickly. When his babymother started her last 3 months of pregnancy he ignored me completely. I being a SUN-taurus and Moon-taurus with a cusp of gemini feel so betrayed. Since I ask many times while we where blissfully in love to leave me alone.With tears in his eyes ask me to not leave.I did agree to be a side girl in my very vunurable time of life.He was so nice.We never fought we. So I decided to request to be his girlfriend.

I'm shocked at how similar all this is to my own ituation. I've just split up with my caprcorn man after a year. He did the same, talked about getting a house together, marriage and kids.

A couple of months ago he started to get stressde out with work and was concious that it had started to put a strain on us, i didnt deny it but i didnt pressure him either as i apreciated his work ethic.

We went on holiday recently and i broke down telling him that him being too busy and occasionally not contacting me (he usually calls everday)was making me feel insecure and that i was stating to distance myself from him. He was very loving, reassuring and affectionate and said i would all be ok.

We got home and he was stil affectionate but as soon as he went back to work he went distant again (i had a wobbly week at work).

Then at the weekend he was lovely fri & sat then......cut a long story short he hadnt cheated but i found something questioned him (i was feeling insecure becuase of the woobly week) he seemed annoyed at my accusation and said out of the blue he didnt know what he wanted and didnt kow how he felt. Being stubborn i said well i'll make the dcision and packed my things and left.

I know its only been a week (feels like a year) but we have had no contact and i'm feeling so lost. I've read that Capricorns can be cold and cut you off but how can you love cherish someone one minute then let them leave your life 5mins later.

He said sorry as i walked out of the door and i made out like it was not an issue and people break up all the time. I cant call him as i feel so fragile and if he rejects me or is cold then i will be back to square one again (feeling depressed).

Do you think he is missing me? Will he call?

I have case of his clothes here and he has my key and dont know if he is going to ask for them back. It all seems to raw and final i just cant make out whats happened. I'm wondering if he got so stressed with his work he looked at me as the reason he was stressed with time.

Sorry i've written so much on here.

I just wondered if any Capricorns recognise this and have any advice.

Wow replies already thanks guys.

Bullerina - yes he was very busy with work, infact he has OCD over it with late nights and early mornings. In he was so busy he really only saw me or was working which in turn meant no time for the gym and football. At the time i felt he was telling me it was over but couldnt actualy say it so thats why i told him i ws taking the reins (plus felt rejected) so left. He had left keys with a friend while he we were away and found a condom wrapper in teh spare bedroom (his friend is married and totally denied it so it was never solved) i then found one under hs bed and got upset. i dont think it was to do with him but pointed out i was upset becuase things had been a bit strained.

I know i say strained but he was very loving when we were together and distant during the week while working.

Genome - i know he was feeling frustrated and knew i was starting to be distant. I just said i know your busy and thats fine i just need you to let me know you love me. I'm very laid back and independent so never wanted to hassle him and for him to feel pressured.

It feels weird after a year that thats it, the end like it meant nothing, i'm finding this hard to accept.

A mutual friend (male) said maybe he needed some time to himself but everyone has said they are shocked the A: We are over in such blunt fashion B: He hasnt called.

Do you think he has hasnt contacted me for his stuff and to give my key back becuase it seems final then. He may worry about my reaction becuase of my indifference at the time (he did know i'd be bothered though as he knew i oved him)

It is funny that our stories are similar. I wanted to tell you that the guy I was dealing with hasn't called in almost 2 months. I haven't talked to him since I got on the plane after his reassurance that we were great/would be okay. He also deleted me from his facebook, msn, etc. Like you, there is stuff in question (mainly my stuff). He's made no attempt to try to give my things back to me. I wonder a lot why he is putting so much effort to just erase me (Genome could explain this because he is smart hehe). You would think if someone just didn't care about another person any more, he wouldn't go to such great lengths.

I can't say anything about our situation, but all I can tell you is that things do not usually end in a *bang* if that makes any sense. I think human nature likes closure. If you think there is a lack of closure, chances are that he will reappear when you least expect it. I don't know if I want to be right about this for both our sakes.

Ok ok you lot i think i should mention that i knew by what he was saying he was going to split up with me. I asked him if he loved me and there was the long pause and the i dont know what i want. I was running away literally as he was crushing me (not literally).

Well last weekend was pretty emotional and i was driving my mates mad so i emailed him explaining i was stunned and the running away thing. I also explained i was being defensive becuase he had made me feel insecure with the whole work thing (i never mentioned him staying in hotels at least twice a week and sales so there was a lot of entertaining going on). I'm a trusting laid back girl but that woudl make anyone feel weird at some point.

Anyway i made the email funny, a bit emotional and offered to sort out his things when i felt less fragile. Now he wasnt cold exactly but it was quite straight and there were no questions or emotions so i'm pretty sure thats what he wanted.

So my forst question was are Capricorns like this and i have to say he seems to fit the bill.........i just woory i will carry this new found insecurity into another relationship.

Beleive me if i could salvage it i would........if i were to contact him again i think i'd feel worthless afterwards.

He knew how much i loved him.......

Hi cancer girl. I am a cancer too and i have a son by a capricorn man. Suprisingly he does me the same way. He left me for another capricorn girl i think because i stopped letting him use my car and things, but keeps coming back to me. He tells the capricorn girl that he still loves me and will have me again someday. I am so over it. I suggest that since you are a cancer (it is hard for cancers to get over love) that you get out of this as soon as possible before you find yourself in a world of pain. My pain lasted a little over a year and i am still going through it. Capricorns are strange people in love, and are really insecure. Mine thinks that he can come back whenever he wants, and does not take the answer NO. I just stopped answering my phone which really breaks him down. I just done see why you done want it to all be over.

Let Him Go
its hard but if i can quit smoking after 20yrs you can quit him!
Im a Capricorn Guy who went thru a similar (very similar actually) situation with my first bf (im gay bye the way) i thought about him for months and months (knowing he wasnt giving me a second thought, which made me even more depressed) but time really is the great healer.
Guess What?
I have a great new guy these days, and out of the blue, only yesterday, i heard thru friends of friends that hes been cheated on and is very depressed (payback hehe)
but you know what, i dont care now or feel a damn thing about him.
Ive moved on, the world moves on and its full of great people out there, get out there and start living again.
Everything thats out there for other people is also there for YOU to enjoy. Life's too bloody short