@LittleMiss116
11 Years
Did not get 'Happy v day' or any text from a cap
Understanding Capricorn Behavior on Valentine's Day
Capricorn individuals may prioritize practicality over romantic gestures and can be reserved in expressing feelings. Not receiving a message on Valentine's Day does not necessarily reflect disinterest but may relate to their reserved nature. Communicating your feelings openly can help clarify expectations and improve your connection.
Posted by LittleMiss116
Me this hot and cold cappie guy are at courting stage and although we've never begin a relationship...
continue chatting to him casually ...
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What is your relationship with this cap? It's unclear from your post.
Pathfinder,
We've never met in real life and about few weeks ago we've started chatting online. He was introduced by a family member.
He was introduced and chosen by a family member as a future husband material
Really? He sounds like a d $ ck
Future husband material and he cant bring his happy a $ $ to even text you on valentines?
Ask him.
Posted by KittenLaRouge
Future husband material and he cant bring his happy a $ $ to even text you on valentines?
I know it's nothing official at this stage but you don't think I'm overreacting? He texted me casually today after valentines day yesterday but I haven't messages him back yet. I live in a different time zone country by the way. In my country it's the 15th already.
Is this a red flag at the beginning of courtship?
Posted by bnr7013
I'm not sure of your culture but I do know I just sent a cap a video with a silly sarcastic comment about not getting a Happy VDay. He replied immediately to wish me Happy Vday. He worked 15 hours today so I know he's exhausted - sometimes you gotta pull it out of them...even after youve known them awhile. If you are concerned at a month, you might want to reconsider getting involved at all.
You shouldnt have to pull shit out of people if they are interested it takes 2 seconds to send a text.
Posted by pathfinder
Ask him.
I would've asked him by now but I don't wanna appear needy and desperate since it's only been 1 and a half months...
Posted by KittenLaRouge
Future husband material and he cant bring his happy a $ $ to even text you on valentines?I know it's nothing official at this stage but you don't think I'm overreacting? He texted me casually today after valentines day yesterday but I haven't messages him back yet. I live in a different time zone country by the way. In my country it's the 15th already.
Is this a red flag at the beginning of courtship?
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That and dissapearing as you said. Keep your options open imo after a month he doesnt sound too into it
Posted by pathfinder
Ask him.I would've asked him by now but I don't wanna appear needy and desperate since it's only been 1 and a half months...
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I wouldnt ask him anything def not. Let his actions speak
Posted by bnr7013
I'm not sure of your culture but I do know I just sent a cap a video with a silly sarcastic comment about not getting a Happy VDay. He replied immediately to wish me Happy Vday. He worked 15 hours today so I know he's exhausted - sometimes you gotta pull it out of them...even after youve known them awhile. If you are concerned at a month, you might want to reconsider getting involved at all.
My logical capricorn moon says that I want to give him the benefit of doubt such as him completely forgotten about it or maybe because we're not a couple yet etc but my Leo sun tells me otherwise...
Posted by bnr7013
I'm not sure of your culture but I do know I just sent a cap a video with a silly sarcastic comment about not getting a Happy VDay. He replied immediately to wish me Happy Vday. He worked 15 hours today so I know he's exhausted - sometimes you gotta pull it out of them...even after youve known them awhile. If you are concerned at a month, you might want to reconsider getting involved at all.You shouldnt have to pull shit out of people if they are interested it takes 2 seconds to send a text.
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He's a typical capricorn guy who blows hot and cold whenever he feels like..Sometimes he seems interested in me and other times not so much..*sigh* it's like a vicious cycle and I'm getting so exhausted..
Posted by pathfinder
Ask him.I would've asked him by now but I don't wanna appear needy and desperate since it's only been 1 and a half months...
I wouldnt ask him anything def not. Let his actions speak
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Yes i wouldn't wanna take that risk either haha
Posted by bnr7013
All I can say is Good Luck bc you are going to need it. Caps are busy & goal oriented. Someone that flips out over not getting a Vday text & hasn't even met in real life IS needy & a cap will not tolerate it.
Capricorn guys are not for the faint hearted...that's all I can say right now
Posted by bnr7013
I'm not sure of your culture but I do know I just sent a cap a video with a silly sarcastic comment about not getting a Happy VDay. He replied immediately to wish me Happy Vday. He worked 15 hours today so I know he's exhausted - sometimes you gotta pull it out of them...even after youve known them awhile. If you are concerned at a month, you might want to reconsider getting involved at all.You shouldnt have to pull shit out of people if they are interested it takes 2 seconds to send a text.
He's a typical capricorn guy who blows hot and cold whenever he feels like..Sometimes he seems interested in me and other times not so much..*sigh* it's like a vicious cycle and I'm getting so exhausted..
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Then pull back and do your own thing. Im a cap obviously, my dads a cap who.married a leo at a young age 18 and yes we are all about making it in life but there is always room for love in anyones life..stop stressing over someone thats not stressing over you if this cap wants you, you will know!
Thank you for all your thoughtful advice everyone 🙂 I'll message him now and try not to take it personally.
Did you say or do anything for him for vday?
You didn't mention.
Anyway, just tease him about it and check is reaction. Since its online, might be hard but I'm going to assume you can tell his moods somewhat with his wording. If he doesn't seem to care, most likely doesn't care for the holiday. You all just got going a month ago, so appropriateness could have been an issue.
In the end, if you don't want to tolerate that behavior, call it out. If you feel unloved and unwanted by him, move on and find a new guy.
Posted by bnr7013
You are correct - not for the faint of heart.Kitten - there are two types of caps. Ones that go full force & others that have to be dragged out of thier shell. No? I agree with pulling back but just to examine where your own mind is. If this is serious to you, make sure YOU are happy first & foremost.
I am sensitive to texting because if im really excited over someone ill text back.right away if im not interested ill barely eek out a text maybe. Im very sensitive to texting no doubt be that good or bad.
You're expecting too much. You barely know the guy.
Get a hold on that estrogen or it's going to wreck you. You sound stupid and trivial over this, really. That's not an insult to you, it's what the effing hormones do to women- act like irrational idiots.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
You're expecting too much. You barely know the guy.Get a hold on that estrogen or it's going to wreck you. You sound stupid and trivial over this, really. That's not an insult to you, it's what the effing hormones do to women- act like irrational idiots.
Wtf are you talking about she-hulk? Plenty of women get diamonds on v-day so u really need to put your d $ ck away.
I just realized this was in the Cap thread.
...there's a lot of Cap threads popping up on the main page lately. :/
Posted by bnr7013
You are correct - not for the faint of heart.Kitten - there are two types of caps. Ones that go full force & others that have to be dragged out of thier shell. No? I agree with pulling back but just to examine where your own mind is. If this is serious to you, make sure YOU are happy first & foremost.
I am sensitive to texting because if im really excited over someone ill text back.right away if im not interested ill barely eek out a text maybe. Im very sensitive to texting no doubt be that good or bad.
I get it...I use to be this way too. After you meet a few super motivated caps, you start to worry less about texts & more about other things. At least for me anyways. Might I also mention caps may get excited like you say but they also don't let you know sometimes with an immediate reply...they play games too. Like, they will wait awhile to text or see if you text first. They will never admit it though 😉
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never ! 😆
I think it's too soon to expect a v day greeting. For some caps It takes a long time to say how they feel.
It's not the end of the world if he doesn't say it. It's not going to make or break or define the two of you.
I'm not really into it myself as I think it's a waste n a commercial holiday.
When either of you two are ready it will happen naturally n expressions of love will come n be shared between you.
For now lower your expectations and treat this as a getting to know each other phase which is a good place to be in. If he's not feeling it no big deal.
Stopping wanting a man to define your feelings and expectations.
Posted by LittleMiss116
Happy Valentines Day everyone 😉I was wondering what I should do or react in a situation where I did not received a valentines message or any contact from a Capricorn guy I've been chatting to online about more than a month ago. Me this hot and cold cappie guy are at courting stage and although we've never begin a relationship, I can't help but to feel slightly disappointed for him not mentioning or even bother texting me on Valentine's Day.
Yes he does disappear every few days and this is a common pattern coming from him but I was wondering am I expecting too much from him at this stage? Yes we owe each other nothing but is it normal to feel disrespected as if I'm not important enough for him to message me on Valentine's Day?
Shall I brush it off and act like nothing happened and continue chatting to him casually or shall I show him he needs to earn my respect?
Yes, you are expecting too much at this stage. You're not his sweetheart yet, so he's not required to do the Valentine's stuff. Sure, he could be nice and wish you a happy Valentine's Day, but he may understand that sometimes girls take it the wrong way and he doesn't want to give you any false conceptions.
Posted by bnr7013
I'm not sure of your culture but I do know I just sent a cap a video with a silly sarcastic comment about not getting a Happy VDay. He replied immediately to wish me Happy Vday. He worked 15 hours today so I know he's exhausted - sometimes you gotta pull it out of them...even after youve known them awhile. If you are concerned at a month, you might want to reconsider getting involved at all.
So you pressured him to get what you want?
Beware, pressure doesn't work well on caps.
its been two years with my cappy but he never wished me happy v day. last year i got angry with him for not wishing, this year as well he forgot but I remained calm and wished him happy v day. He just doesn't care about these occasions. 😢
Posted by anna1
its been two years with my cappy but he never wished me happy v day. last year i got angry with him for not wishing, this year as well he forgot but I remained calm and wished him happy v day. He just doesn't care about these occasions. 😢
Lesson learned. Getting angry about it didn't solve anything or motivate him to do more. Try positive reinforcement in the future.
Although he tells me every day how much he loves me but when it comes to special days he doesn't seem to care
Posted by anna1
its been two years with my cappy but he never wished me happy v day. last year i got angry with him for not wishing, this year as well he forgot but I remained calm and wished him happy v day. He just doesn't care about these occasions. 😢Lesson learned. Getting angry about it didn't solve anything or motivate him to do more. Try positive reinforcement in the future.
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yup lesson learned. nothing works on my cappy not even a positive enforcement he always do whatever he wants to.
Posted by anna1
Although he tells me every day how much he loves me but when it comes to special days he doesn't seem to care
That's all that matters!!! Tell him how good it makes you feel to hear it.
Posted by anna1
its been two years with my cappy but he never wished me happy v day. last year i got angry with him for not wishing, this year as well he forgot but I remained calm and wished him happy v day. He just doesn't care about these occasions. 😢Lesson learned. Getting angry about it didn't solve anything or motivate him to do more. Try positive reinforcement in the future.
yup lesson learned. nothing works on my cappy not even a positive enforcement he always do whatever he wants to.
LOL ok this is so true. They do what they want 99% of the time...regardless.
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Exactly
Posted by anna1
Although he tells me every day how much he loves me but when it comes to special days he doesn't seem to careThat's all that matters!!! Tell him how good it makes you feel to hear it.
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I agree that's all that matters. learned it the hard way lol 🙂
Idk. I know what these guys are like when they think they've found the one. They dont miss a beat and are eager to impress. Trust what you feel.
Posted by lnana04
Idk. I know what these guys are like when they think they've found the one. They dont miss a beat and are eager to impress. Trust what you feel.
+1
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Happy Valentines Day everyone 😉
I was wondering what I should do or react in a situation where I did not received a valentines message or any contact from a Capricorn guy I've been chatting to online about more than a month ago. Me this hot and cold cappie guy are at courting stage and although we've never begin a relationship, I can't help but to feel slightly disappointed for him not mentioning or even bother texting me on Valentine's Day.
Yes he does disappear every few days and this is a common pattern coming from him but I was wondering am I expecting too much from him at this stage? Yes we owe each other nothing but is it normal to feel disrespected as if I'm not important enough for him to message me on Valentine's Day?
Shall I brush it off and act like nothing happened and continue chatting to him casually or shall I show him he needs to earn my respect?