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Ghosting. Fellow Caps, yay or nay?
Posted by GOATAction
I hate getting ghosted on and even if I'm busy at work I try to be timely with my texts and messaging.
I know some of us go dark but if I'm not feeling a woman I'll let her know, whether to her face or in a message. I always felt that ghosting goes against the image and core personality traits of a Capricorn, where it comes easier to other signs.
That's the stand up thing to do. Ghosting is definitely for the weak. Never been ghosted on, but a guy has 2 days then I'm out.
Not a Cap though.
Caps do the ghosting tf
Capricorns are so confusing like that. You guys are always busy and doing your own thing, you make it seem like you can’t be bothered. Maybe you’re getting ghosted because you put no effort?
Posted by UnicornSag
Yeah...I wonder what's up with Caps and ghosting actually?We've seen many threads around here people being ghosted by Caps. I've been ghosted by Cap as well. I literally ask to say whatever it is there to say, so why is that so hard? I don't mind even if it's the most awful thing one can say but I don't stand being ghosted. Say "fuck off" if that's what you think but don't ghost for gods sake...
It's not really ghosting, which seems to be an all encompassing, lazy buzzword to cover all contexts. Caps are very loyal. They give tons of chances and will work with you constantly because failure is rarely acceptable for a Cap. It's the same point in the 'Cap didnt give me closure' threads. If you let someone in that messed up and refuses to change or rectify it, what good is giving them 50 closures under the guise of a new conversation. A Cap won't waste their time on that sort of repetitive, redundant behavior.
Posted by UnicornSagPosted by Nightcap-Posted by UnicornSag
Yeah...I wonder what's up with Caps and ghosting actually?We've seen many threads around here people being ghosted by Caps. I've been ghosted by Cap as well. I literally ask to say whatever it is there to say, so why is that so hard? I don't mind even if it's the most awful thing one can say but I don't stand being ghosted. Say "fuck off" if that's what you think but don't ghost for gods sake...
It's not really ghosting, which seems to be an all encompassing, lazy buzzword to cover all contexts. Caps are very loyal. They give tons of chances and will work with you constantly because failure is rarely acceptable for a Cap. It's the same point in the 'Cap didnt give me closure' threads. If you let someone in that messed up and refuses to change or rectify it, what good is giving them 50 closures under the guise of a new conversation. A Cap won't waste their time on that sort of repetitive, redundant behavior.
well RooSagicorn had that issue recently with her guy, I won't even take mine that seriously cause it was nothing more than online thing going on but still it's easy to answer simple question I guess. Whenever I tried to say ok then you don't want this, fine, let's not talk anymore, he tries something to talks more. Then ghosts up again. I seriously can't understand that behavior. To me only thing is it's distance and impossible there for but if we're on the same page of understanding that obstacle for anything to happen in future we should be able to talk like normal people who aren't expecting anything from each other at least. I don't hold grudges about anyone really but seriously dislike that behavior. You can simply state your mind whatever it is to be said. Even that simple, I don't want to talk to you...but clearly that's not it either in my case :/click to expand
It's a common theme in most of these threads. What it often is is that the person wants another chance. This is usually after the Cap has said the same thing 10,000 different ways and they became fed up and shut off their feelings after coming to the conclusion that things won't change. Ironically, Caps stay in relationships far longer than most any sign to try and work things out. Life isn't easy, it just seems that way when you have a good strong Cap in your corner. I've never not had an ex try to get back together with me after they realize that..and then you get guilted for supposedly not giving closure or ghosting. Have you ever seen a goat walk backwards? They don't. These hooves were made for climbing and going forward not re-tracing the same steps 🐸🐐
If the person asks I’m always ready to explain how I feel but won’t go out of my way to make sure someone understands where we stand.
Posted by MoonshineLeo
Capricorns are so confusing like that. You guys are always busy and doing your own thing, you make it seem like you can’t be bothered. Maybe you’re getting ghosted because you put no effort?
For real. I feel bad sometimes for those I consider a friend because I’m alwaya doing my own thing and ultimately my daily life is way more important than having people around. Weird.
Posted by UnicornSagPosted by Nightcap-Posted by UnicornSagPosted by Nightcap-Posted by UnicornSag
Yeah...I wonder what's up with Caps and ghosting actually?We've seen many threads around here people being ghosted by Caps. I've been ghosted by Cap as well. I literally ask to say whatever it is there to say, so why is that so hard? I don't mind even if it's the most awful thing one can say but I don't stand being ghosted. Say "fuck off" if that's what you think but don't ghost for gods sake...
It's not really ghosting, which seems to be an all encompassing, lazy buzzword to cover all contexts. Caps are very loyal. They give tons of chances and will work with you constantly because failure is rarely acceptable for a Cap. It's the same point in the 'Cap didnt give me closure' threads. If you let someone in that messed up and refuses to change or rectify it, what good is giving them 50 closures under the guise of a new conversation. A Cap won't waste their time on that sort of repetitive, redundant behavior.
well RooSagicorn had that issue recently with her guy, I won't even take mine that seriously cause it was nothing more than online thing going on but still it's easy to answer simple question I guess. Whenever I tried to say ok then you don't want this, fine, let's not talk anymore, he tries something to talks more. Then ghosts up again. I seriously can't understand that behavior. To me only thing is it's distance and impossible there for but if we're on the same page of understanding that obstacle for anything to happen in future we should be able to talk like normal people who aren't expecting anything from each other at least. I don't hold grudges about anyone really but seriously dislike that behavior. You can simply state your mind whatever it is to be said. Even that simple, I don't want to talk to you...but clearly that's not it either in my case :/
It's a common theme in most of these threads. What it often is is that the person wants another chance. This is usually after the Cap has said the same thing 10,000 different ways and they became fed up and shut off their feelings after coming to the conclusion that things won't change. Ironically, Caps stay in relationships far longer than most any sign to try and work things out. Life isn't easy, it just seems that way when you have a good strong Cap in your corner. I've never not had an ex try to get back together with me after they realize that..and then you get guilted for supposedly not giving closure or ghosting. Have you ever seen a goat walk backwards? They don't. These hooves were made for climbing and going forward not re-tracing the same steps 🐸🐐
I agree with you, it's a good thing to do. It's pointless giving people too many chances anyway. However that's honestly not my case. There were no ups and downs and I wasn't trying to et back cause we weren't together in the first place anyway. I didn't see a reason for cutting out contact like that but he has his reasons in mind I guess, which he refused to share with me. Every question was only answered by silence. To me silence is an answer too, I get it, I'm not an idiot but it's fair to say your thought to another person if you have just cut out contact with no explanation or specific reasonclick to expand
I agree and, in your specific scenario, it makes sense how you see it. I just don't believe that people don't know the reason that the other person stopped talking to them especially if you're in a relationship with them. That generally points to probably knowing them better than anyone knows them. We rarely get the other side of the story here so a lot of times you have assemble the pieces. It's like when a kid at recess cries to his teacher, ' Little Bobby hit me..aannnd for nooo reason!' 🤔🙄
Not very thread has to turn into relationships...
Posted by RooSagicornPosted by Nightcap-Well not all Caps try to work it out, or actually tell you there is a problem. Won’t even discuss when you ask what’s going on. Because why? They can’t be responsible for themselves or deal with their issues? Or deal with an emotional reaction? Or be rejected, so let’s disappear instead. The last time he came back because he missed me, and apologized and promised not to do it again, promised to work through things when he gets scared, started making plans towards moving somewhere together, and begged me to never leave me again. Asks me questions and starts acting strange but does NOT discuss. And he runs away again. Well.... this is very hard to understand without some sort of explanation... and there is no concern about how your girlfriend goes through so much more pain not knowing the reasons why.Posted by UnicornSagPosted by Nightcap-Posted by UnicornSag
Yeah...I wonder what's up with Caps and ghosting actually?We've seen many threads around here people being ghosted by Caps. I've been ghosted by Cap as well. I literally ask to say whatever it is there to say, so why is that so hard? I don't mind even if it's the most awful thing one can say but I don't stand being ghosted. Say "fuck off" if that's what you think but don't ghost for gods sake...
It's not really ghosting, which seems to be an all encompassing, lazy buzzword to cover all contexts. Caps are very loyal. They give tons of chances and will work with you constantly because failure is rarely acceptable for a Cap. It's the same point in the 'Cap didnt give me closure' threads. If you let someone in that messed up and refuses to change or rectify it, what good is giving them 50 closures under the guise of a new conversation. A Cap won't waste their time on that sort of repetitive, redundant behavior.
well RooSagicorn had that issue recently with her guy, I won't even take mine that seriously cause it was nothing more than online thing going on but still it's easy to answer simple question I guess. Whenever I tried to say ok then you don't want this, fine, let's not talk anymore, he tries something to talks more. Then ghosts up again. I seriously can't understand that behavior. To me only thing is it's distance and impossible there for but if we're on the same page of understanding that obstacle for anything to happen in future we should be able to talk like normal people who aren't expecting anything from each other at least. I don't hold grudges about anyone really but seriously dislike that behavior. You can simply state your mind whatever it is to be said. Even that simple, I don't want to talk to you...but clearly that's not it either in my case :/
It's a common theme in most of these threads. What it often is is that the person wants another chance. This is usually after the Cap has said the same thing 10,000 different ways and they became fed up and shut off their feelings after coming to the conclusion that things won't change. Ironically, Caps stay in relationships far longer than most any sign to try and work things out. Life isn't easy, it just seems that way when you have a good strong Cap in your corner. I've never not had an ex try to get back together with me after they realize that..and then you get guilted for supposedly not giving closure or ghosting. Have you ever seen a goat walk backwards? They don't. These hooves were made for climbing and going forward not re-tracing the same steps 🐸🐐
In the end, I’m better off. He was all about the promises, the plans, but not about the actions. So why would I want another chance? Hell i wasn’t the one who asked for the second chance? He was the one who thanked me for giving him one. After all my sacrifices, and support of him, I deserved at least an explanation from someone who declared his love and wanted a life together. Oh but it’s all my fault for not being a mind reader...
Yeah I’m still upset & angry & disappointed but that’s what happens when someone doesn’t respect you Like you respected them... 😢
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I've been there. That's the death spiral of a relationship where it won't work but both people are still somewhat attached. Sometimes there's too much negative history built up to overcome. As there is in here, there's plenty of mature goats out there that will handle things in a way that you can respect.
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by MoonshineLeo
Capricorns are so confusing like that. You guys are always busy and doing your own thing, you make it seem like you can’t be bothered. Maybe you’re getting ghosted because you put no effort?
For real. I feel bad sometimes for those I consider a friend because I’m alwaya doing my own thing and ultimately my daily life is way more important than having people around. Weird.click to expand
I get it. You don’t want noise but damn live a little :p
Caps are literally never busy. They ghost to prove a point.
Or they want u to chase them. Sometimes both.
But I've never been ghosted by a Capricorn that I didn't ghost first. Keep that in mind. Because my caps literally hung on until the very end.
Or they want u to chase them. Sometimes both.
But I've never been ghosted by a Capricorn that I didn't ghost first. Keep that in mind. Because my caps literally hung on until the very end.
Posted by IxionMaybe I'm different? Virgo moon and Gemini rising.Posted by GOATActionLol Caps both male and female ghost all the time in my personal observance of them.
I hate getting ghosted on and even if I'm busy at work I try to be timely with my texts and messaging.
I know some of us go dark but if I'm not feeling a woman I'll let her know, whether to her face or in a message. I always felt that ghosting goes against the image and core personality traits of a Capricorn, where it comes easier to other signs.
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Rather tell people how I stand instead of not saying a damn thing after I hit you up.
They call the come back a haunting! haha. You're being haunted by a ghost.
Funny Ive only experienced this ghost and haunting from a Capricorn! LOL Every time he does I just go no contact and delete him. Then there he is coming back up my butt for a week or two them poof, ghost again. I think hes on round 8 for a come back.
We are just even dating so its not things I did to him etc, Im the lets have fun get to know person. I know he knows deep down Im good sh@t and not cray.
Id rather hear all day "Im not into this anymore", "I met someone else", etc over being ignored/ghosted. I dont care if it was a lie just say something to let me know you're outta here! LOL. I'll reply ok take care and go live my life.
Funny Ive only experienced this ghost and haunting from a Capricorn! LOL Every time he does I just go no contact and delete him. Then there he is coming back up my butt for a week or two them poof, ghost again. I think hes on round 8 for a come back.
We are just even dating so its not things I did to him etc, Im the lets have fun get to know person. I know he knows deep down Im good sh@t and not cray.
Id rather hear all day "Im not into this anymore", "I met someone else", etc over being ignored/ghosted. I dont care if it was a lie just say something to let me know you're outta here! LOL. I'll reply ok take care and go live my life.
Posted by crazysiouxThat's quite spot on. Also come down to controlling and being childish. Narcissist? Absolutely. Definitely in the spectrum
Ghosting = Passive Cowardice / Control Freakery
If @deadinside doesn't make 'em bend the knee, I will ... >😢
Serial ghosters want all the perks, freedoms, and liberties of the romantic world and none of the responsibilities. Yet the automatic incontrovertible inverse cost of freedom and liberty is responsibility. Always had been. Always will be. Somebody or something will hold you accountable for your actions and behaviors. Especially Karma. And don't give me that "I'm not about explaining the obvious" cop out. It's not all about you, O Dear Narcissist. Who the fuck died and made you the expert paragon of the obviousness?!? Who gave you the right to dictate somebody else's pain?!? Somebody else's experience?!? Obvious for you doesn't mean obvious for somebody else. Grow a spine, and eat and own 100% of the blame, guilt, responsibility, and accountability as a human being on Planet Letdown. I won't waste my breath and keystrokes repeating the "get a clue" old saw (this being the sole expection) because, quite frankly, serial ghosters are always going to be a nickle short of a fucking clue and a clue short of a God damned conscience ...
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