Lost my Cappy man over a Leo tantrum :(

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PrincessLeoGirl
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Hello everyone! i'm new to the forum. I've been reading you guys for the last couple of days.
I really need some guidance over this. Anything you can tell me would be highly appreciated.
I am a Leo, 24 years old. Currently studying engineering, working full-time.
He is a Capricorn, 28 years old. Biochemist, working full-time (even with night-shifts twice a week)
I met him on a FB page of travellers around the world. I wrote a long text saying I wasn't happy with my job anymore and needed a change.
Many people responded and told me beautiful and helpful things... He was one of them.
Long story short.
We started talking, he was so charming, so comprehensive, and we found out we had plenty in common ("more than anyone else in my life", said every leo girl everytime).
We talked and texted almost 14 hours a day. He was so sweet, so caring, he even told me one night via whatsapp: "I want to remain online, and you online so that I know I fall asleep with you by my side". We went out 7 times (nice dinners outside, dancing salsa, etc), I even got him a surprise quarter of Ice-cream to his night-shift and he was delighted. We were in plans of "getting to know each other to get serious someday). No sex at all, ever.
He met a new group in this same FB webpage with whom he talked everyday via whatsapp (they were very closed, almost sectarian, and never allowed new people to enter or go out with them). They all arranged a meeting and he went, of course, no problem with that (he had said he wouldn't go because he didn't feel like going, he changed his mind), pictures in FB, no problem with that at all. That same day, when FB pictures showed up, he wrote to me saying he was going to go to the meeting (6 hours later, he claimed that message didn't leave his cellphone. We were talking at the time he supposedly sent it).
Next day, almost no talking from his side. Following day, less talking.
I asked permission to get into the whatsapp group. Almost immediately he asked what I wanted, and since when did I want to be in the group (now that I think of it, maybe he asked nicely... Maybe not)... And that's when the tantrum started. My tantrum, of course. I was convinced he had met someone new in this group. I told him many stupid things, not insulting him or anything, but childish things. The following day we talked, I told him I feared losing him, and he said I had nothing to lose because we were nothing.
He gave me the silence treatment and the distance treatment as well. I apologised, wrote him a few days later. We didn't see in a month after that, barely talking, we met one last time. He kissed me only because of condescension. He gave up.
Last monday 18-Apr told me everything changed and he didn't feel the same after what happened but he didn't want to stop talking because we could share the same things but as friends. That he wasn't ready for a relationship nor scenes or tantrums. I told him I couldn't do that. We said goodbye. I screwed up. I know
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Posted by MiZLeo
Haha. I couldn't be with a Cap. My best friend is a cap. We went on a cruise together for the weekend. I was ready to kill her by Sunday. Love her to pieces tho.....she drives me freaking nuts.
LoL! Everybody be ready to kill us after a short while. It's so darn funny to me. Get a few of us together and we be ready to kill each other.

What did she do to annoy you?

My childhood Cap friend came down to visit and irritated everyone. I was like I can't do this again!
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Posted by truecap
Lack of trust.
Intrusive.
Insecurity.
Demanding.
Drama.
Lack of control.
Expectations too soon.



Caps won't deal with all that ^^. Especially in the beginning of a relationship.
I was noticing this with Capricorn sun/Leo moon/Aries mars, Liam Hemsworth and his fiancé Miley Cyrus.

I thought they were secretly married, as many sites were suggesting they got secretly married, then yesterday I saw that she was SHAMED by him because he refused to give into her drama.

but yet he won't let go. That leo moon /aries mars to sag sun is powerful, lol also liam has aqua venus. and he's cancer dominant so, he has a hard time to let go and she has scorpio moon, so she will never let go.


http://www.inquisitr.com/2970254/miley-cyrus-worried-liam-hemsworth-will-leave-her-at-the-altar-report/


According to a new report by In Touch Weekly, Cyrus is allegedly fearful that Hemsworth may have a sudden change of heart about their relationship as their big day nears. She is encouraging her fiancé not to listen to his friends and family when it comes to their opinions on their recent reconciliation.

An insider recently told the site that Miley Cyrus is supposedly “afraid that Liam will leave her because of the massive influence his family has over him.” She has decided to block out the advice she’s been receiving from the couple’s nearest and dearest.


“Miley’s made it clear to him that if this relationship is going to work, they are both going to have to ignore what their friends and family say,” In Touch Weekly’s source alleged this week, claiming that if the two were to split again, Cyrus would “fall apart” from the heartbreak

Read more at http://www.inquisitr.com/2970254/miley-cyrus-worried-liam-hemsworth-will-leave-her-at-the-altar-report/#Tq5E73CWiX9uc8b5.99

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it's like drama lama with those two. but he keeps changing his mind and has a change of heart but can't let go.

it's like some kind of merry go round.

and poor Miley Cyrus, I strongly believe she has always loved him too much but he won't reciprocate in the same way (with the SAME intensity)

in some of the articles she is STILL sporting the ring he gave her back in 2012 before their breakup.
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Posted by truecap
Lack of trust.
Intrusive.
Insecurity.
Demanding.
Drama.
Lack of control.
Expectations too soon.



Caps won't deal with all that ^^. Especially in the beginning of a relationship.
Five of my closest friends are leos and I have been in ltr with leos, so I'm quite used to and love leos.

One of the above mentioned leos became very interested in me and transformed into everything on Truecap's list. This is a great guy! He is intelligent, funny, interesting, adventurous and even reeeally attractive. I still couldn't deal with the above even though I knew it would probably calm down a bit once we got closer, had I given it a chance. Our current status is very good friends and it won't go any further than that. Ever. Sorry.

But you are different people, so maybe it will work out. Just try to minimize the gist of that list(without going against your nature). What I love about leos is their genuine nature - charisma and joy and their shameless way of putting themselves first, while being very generous and caring of others. It's all heart! I'd play on that, if I were you. If you are too over the top, though, friends will probably be the limit. Imo.

Good luck!🙂
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^ yeah. Sometimes Caps cause their own drama by being overly negative and judgemental on others. Not to mention, he led her on with all the flirting and attention when HE felt like it. Then does the hot/cold bullshit when he's busy or not feeling it. Poor girl is left in the dust scratching her head. Probably feeling used.

She realized what she did was too much and apologized. Remember ladies, Caps are not great with emotions (dealing with their own or yours). They are great with flirting though so unless you get a confirmation somehow that they are exclusive..assume otherwise.
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Posted by Chance_11
Posted by truecap
Lack of trust.
Intrusive.
Insecurity.
Demanding.
Drama.
Lack of control.
Expectations too soon.



Caps won't deal with all that ^^. Especially in the beginning of a relationship.
That sounds more like him than her. He jumped the gun and cut her off for something fairly frivolous. He started acting weird when she wanted to join the group. Difficult to pinpoint why but there's likely something to it...and then he wanted to keep her around and string her along for attention. It was almost like he was the one with the stereotypical leo traits.

If she has a pisces moon like Monty, then I take all that back 🙂
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Perhaps she saw more in the relationship than he did. They only had 7 dates. She didn't say if they had decided to be exclusive, so I think it's possible that he just thought they were dating, while she was looking at it as a full blown relationship.
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PrincessLeoGirl
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r your answers guys, I really appreciate it!
We were actually in plans of "getting to know each other to get serious anytime soon"
But no, we weren't exactly "exclusive". I know he might have had less feelings for me than I did for him.

Posted by Chance_11
If she has a pisces moon like Monty, then I take all that back 🙂
I have Scorpio Moon and Rising (both of them, yeah)

Posted by SunMoonStars
^ yeah. Sometimes Caps cause their own drama by being overly negative and judgemental on others. Not to mention, he led her on with all the flirting and attention when HE felt like it. Then does the hot/cold bullbutter when he's busy or not feeling it. Poor girl is left in the dust scratching her head. Probably feeling used.

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I actually did apologise more than once, and expressed my concern in making things right, putting special stress in making it clear that it wouldn't happen again. Ever.
He didn't care at all.

As frivolous as that. As Chance said.

I answered one last message the following day, after all we talked, it read: "After a long thought of what we talked yesterday I came to conclude it's a shame that you are not able to see that the unprecedented connection we had is more important than a tantrum in a bad day. It's also a shame that you don't stand for second chances, nor let me show you who I really am. But those are all your choices, and those speak of you, not me. I take that, and everything I learnt from this. I wish you a nice life."

I don't actually think there's a coming back after that, I was fairly final.

There's no man nor woman on Earth who can have 7 dates like that, playing the seduction card everyday, and all of a sudden forget about everything on the spur of a moment.
This man is actually pretty heartless, IMO.
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I actually did apologise more than once, and expressed my concern in making things right, putting special stress in making it clear that it wouldn't happen again. Ever.
But that's something that would be hard to promise and stick to. If you stay true to your natural self, it will happen again. I'm not trying to be mean, but in the reality of things you have to be true to who you are and shouldn't make promises you may not be able to keep.

There's no man nor woman on Earth who can have 7 dates like that, playing the seduction card everyday, and all of a sudden forget about everything on the spur of a moment.
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Yes, one can all of a sudden call it quits spur of the moment. By self admittal, you were not exclusive and in the getting to know you stage. In that stage of dating, if one of the parties involved sees something they didn't like or realize that the other is not "the one" or recognize any incompatibility, they can choose to walk away with no hard feelings. They don't forget the sweet seductive stuff, but if you feel it in your bones that something about the other person doesn't have long term potential, isn't it best to cut ties then instead of dragging it along any further? IMO, I don't see that as heartless. Heartless would be to keep carrying on and stringing someone along while knowing they aren't "the one".

Again, I'm not trying to be mean and I don't know exactly what all went on between the two of you. I could be wrong in my assessment, obviously.
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Posted by Chance_11
That sounds more like him than her. He jumped the gun and cut her off for something fairly frivolous. He started acting weird when she wanted to join the group. Difficult to pinpoint why but there's likely something to it...and then he wanted to keep her around and string her along for attention. It was almost like he was the one with the stereotypical leo traits.

If she has a pisces moon like Monty, then I take all that back 🙂
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Posted by PrincessLeoGirl
Hello everyone! i'm new to the forum. I've been reading you guys for the last couple of days.
I really need some guidance over this. Anything you can tell me would be highly appreciated.
I am a Leo, 24 years old. Currently studying engineering, working full-time.
He is a Capricorn, 28 years old. Biochemist, working full-time (even with night-shifts twice a week)
I met him on a FB page of travellers around the world. I wrote a long text saying I wasn't happy with my job anymore and needed a change.
Many people responded and told me beautiful and helpful things... He was one of them.
Long story short.
We started talking, he was so charming, so comprehensive, and we found out we had plenty in common ("more than anyone else in my life", said every leo girl everytime).
We talked and texted almost 14 hours a day. He was so sweet, so caring, he even told me one night via whatsapp: "I want to remain online, and you online so that I know I fall asleep with you by my side". We went out 7 times (nice dinners outside, dancing salsa, etc), I even got him a surprise quarter of Ice-cream to his night-shift and he was delighted. We were in plans of "getting to know each other to get serious someday). No sex at all, ever.
He met a new group in this same FB webpage with whom he talked everyday via whatsapp (they were very closed, almost sectarian, and never allowed new people to enter or go out with them). They all arranged a meeting and he went, of course, no problem with that (he had said he wouldn't go because he didn't feel like going, he changed his mind), pictures in FB, no problem with that at all. That same day, when FB pictures showed up, he wrote to me saying he was going to go to the meeting (6 hours later, he claimed that message didn't leave his cellphone. We were talking at the time he supposedly sent it).
Next day, almost no talking from his side. Following day, less talking.
I asked permission to get into the whatsapp group. Almost immediately he asked what I wanted, and since when did I want to be in the group (now that I think of it, maybe he asked nicely... Maybe not)... And that's when the tantrum started. My tantrum, of course. I was convinced he had met someone new in this group. I told him many stupid things, not insulting him or anything, but childish things. The following day we talked, I told him I feared losing him, and he said I had nothing to lose because we were nothing.
He gave me the silence treatment and the distance treatment as well. I apologised, wrote him a few days later. We didn't see in a month after that, barely talking, we met one last time. He kissed me only because of condescension. He gave up.
Last monday 18-Apr told me everything changed and he didn't feel the same after what happened but he didn't want to stop talking because we could s
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Your trying to join his group that was so hard to get into seemed simultaneously insulting and stalkerish. While I'm not agreeing with what he did, you did not have an actual relationship and in the future its best to keep your emotions in check to the facts of the situation and the reality of the other person. Its a shame some people lead us on, but its worse when you find yourself unfairly labeled as drama queen, stalker, immature and emotionally volatile without a rational reason ie..(you where not technically his girlfriend).