Mature Cap Commitmentphobe (Page 3)

Posted by capguy
But if it makes you guys happier then create a sag cap cusp board here and I'll post messages to myself all day.

ROTFL... Please don't! My side hurts. LOL 😛

Elle~ I love your refreshing brand of honesty on a Monday morning after a holiday. Men have it so good. Not exactly, but you get my drift. I actually want to be 72 so I can say whatever I like and have no one object to it - out loud at least. LOL

Posted by CapGal
Museigal, you have totally pushed the issue aside and have resorted to personal attacks. Escapism is your option for now...kool

@CapGal...you don't even realize it when you, yourself are keeping the bullcrap going. It was never personal with me beyond my situation, which I happily put on display and opened up for dissection - in all honesty. You were ill-informed and you went there from the very first comment. Now, don't get mad at me b/c I'm not going to be a mark today or any day, for that matter. You wanna play nice, we can play nice. But if you want to sling mud, just know that you're going to need to put your big girl panties on. Now let's hug and make up okay or not...ball's in your court! 😛

Posted by CappyyLuv30
When they first posted Museigal's chart and it said Libra, I knew that had to be wrong. I know a Libra with an Aries moon that isn't as Virgo as she is. LOL and that's not an insult or anything, Muse....just an observation. You express yourself much differently than any Libra I've ever met.

@CL...no offense taken. To be honest, when I read it I said "no, that can't be right, I've been a virgo all my life". Of course the only thing I knew of virgos was that we were supposedly neat freaks. Though I find that as I mature, I'm okay with a little dirt here and there, especially when I'm the primary cleaner. LOL. My best friend is a virgo and we get along famously.🙂

@ Elle & CL...I'm reading your exchange about moons and venuses (venii?...whatever) and I'm thinking what does all of that mean. :?

@ Capgal~ No ay problema...tiene un buen dia'...realmente!

Have you ever tried taking that leap step towards commitment, capguy?

The question is not particularly aimed at you, but it is to give an understanding about the course of a committed relationship. I very well understand what you are saying. It is the new theory that love lasts until our children grow up.. not 3-4 years, it is somewhat double that length.

If you have not tried even such length of commitment, then you would not know what follows after, do you?

Let me explain. Love does not fade away. It's a misconception. Love can be re-ignited over and over again. The chemistry is ALWAYS there. Love changes phases over time; it becomes deeper, more trusting, friendlier, sympathetic, protective, secure, and so on. You become friends, trusting friends... the fun in bed is still there. It requires work though. Establishing new love requires much more work than establishing fire to a committed relationship. Although you are a couple, you remain individuals.


I don't believe in multi relationships at the same time. Or variety in sex. And believe me when I say I have experimented with that too. It didn't satisfy me on an emotional level. YeaH.. it was wild though 😛 Sex is much better with a partner you know. Novelty sex is superficial. You never get to know your partner well enough to enjoy also different phases OF SEX.


Civilization requires rules. If you are right in what you are saying on multi-relationships, then you will have an army of heart-broken women in your country. Which is happening now actually with the availability through the internet. Look at the number of singles and unhappy women who are trying hard to find a guy willing to commit. Nevermind the guy who is supposed to be our match. Because obviously, guys like you have created a theory to act like wild animals. I hope you get your ducks back in a row again if you want to experience happiness and the trust of a good relationship.


oh.. thanks for the 'hi' 😄 I still believe the younger guy has more courage than the mid-age guy.

Posted by capguy
@CappyLuv

"Why not go into it with a "might as well enjoy it while it last".

No, I totally agree with that. While it lasts I will probably make you my world. But shouldn't assume at the outset that it is going to last for an eternity when that is rarely the case.

Commitment.. just a word. If I'm there for you, what does it matter what label you want to put on it? Words are meaningless.

I agree with that phase *might as well enjoy it while it lasts*

Timing is crucial. Depends on how much time you are willing to give to a relationship. Also... you gotta work at it. If things go rough... you have to be willing to MAKE IT WORK. It is worth in the end.

If you keep on searching... the search has absolutely no end. There always is the better, more good looking, sexier, richer, more charming, all the MORE guys everywhere. What's the purpose of such search?


My CAPMan once wrote to his friend: In all these years I dated, if I had left each girl pregnant, I would have had 13 children already.

I hope you can see the senselessness in his comment.

I think relationships lasted because there were more defined roles between the man and the woman in the relationship. With women now being more aggressive and independent, its thrown off the balance, and women are not only taking total control of their lives, but they want to control men too.

Back then, it seems the guy chose the girl, and if you agreed to have a life and future with this man you trusted him to provide and take control. We are just all off balance and trying to find our way through it all it seem.

Posted by Museigal
@FUM...he didn't just come out and tell me he was seeing other women while seeing me. We were discussing something he had read about women accepting that their husbands have affairs in Russia. He thought that the state of marriage might be better in America if women wouldn't get mad when they discovered their husbands had mistresses. I told him that only works in Russia and basically when very wealthy women look at the entire situation and decide not to divorce an unfaithful husband over "just sex". He said if that's the case let's get married. I said "no". Later that evening I asked if he really felt that way...one thing led to another and I asked if he was being intimate with anyone else and he took a deep sigh and told me yes. I had to pull the truth out. I think all men can lie under the right circumstances...women too. @Kay...you sound kinda proud that your married male best friend is in love with you or am I reading that wrong. LOL

Muse,

that's a different story. I do believe in overlaps until a relationship is more/less established. Sometimes we don't quite know where we stand or it is the circumstance that makes us do things. Will not go into detail about the second one. However, if it was the way you found out, then I wouldn't take it so seriously. He sounds genuine. Wishing best. I hope he gets through that *RUN* phase and STAYS.

I'm a Scorpio and I had that *RUN LIKE HELL* phase with the Virgo man I dated 2 years ago. It was quite intense. Every time we got closer, the emotions created were excruciating. The slightest change I felt about him in his ways made me feel like running away. I do believe i made him feel the same way. It didn't last unfortunately. Depending on the level of chemistry you feel for each other, the times of courtship can be daring. I do hope you two can surrender. Looks like you found each other.

wow .. what happened?

Starks,I don't think she was attacking you.I think it was an olive branch..... :/

that's pretty extreme none the less.

@Kay...I guess you're pretty off balance after reading through your situation on your post. I realize you're somewhat emotional right now. A little out of character for Caps. Nonetheless, because of that I'm not going to go back and forth with you. Hope you resolve your personal situation. All the best...

I don't look at words,I look at actions.
politicians use a lot of words....and we know how meaningful they are.

but I'm not here to argue,just wanted to tell you I think you're over reacting a little.

Posted by Museigal
@Cappyluv - I don't believe in coincidences either. I believe that everything happens for a reason. There are too many overlaps in our lives over the past 20 years (mind you I've only known him for the past 7 months). I wasn't even physically attracted to him when we met out at a random public place, not a blind date or anything. We just happened to both be at the same place at the same time and connected. And we just talked for hours and hours for weeks on end. I didn't even keep his phone number because I wasn't interested. Somehow we reconnected after that first week with no contact after our first four hour conversation and it's grown from there. He jokes a lot about making me honest, giving me his last name...being the Clyde to my Bonnie. In some strange way I think he idolizes me, maybe for my associations and connections, who knows. I do know that I don't want to be seen as a valuable asset or commodity that he wants to acquire. Now that's ridiculous but there are times when I wonder if he sees me completing his "sphere of influence" or being useful to his business. Does that make sense? I hope I'm still making sense at this point. Ugh

It makes sense to me too. I questioned the same, at times, when with CapMan. As a true Scorpio, I tested him though. No he didn't see me as commodity. I hope this helps you too in our tiny case studies.

lol

Can't help it,I'm a TAURUS. 😉

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Posted by CappyyLuv30

Posted by BellatheBull
Sun Capricorn 27.10
Moon Scorpio 24.22
Mercury Aquarius 2.33
Venus Aquarius 7.11 R
Mars Taurus 9.18
Jupiter Aquarius 18.10
Saturn Gemini 29.17 R
Uranus Libra 27.40
Neptune Sagittarius 8.51
Pluto Libra 6.49 R
Lilith Capricorn 17.16
Asc node Sagittarius 28.21

now on those I sent you, don't pay attention to the ascendant and houses,because without a birth time,we can't get those right.

Another venus in Aqua!?! I am speechless. This board continues to attract these guys LOL wow....smh.

every Aqua I know has Aqua venus.what I'm impressed with is the number of pisces mooners on this board.just what I'm looking for,but can't seem to find in rl :/

meant every Cap.

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LOL... another Venus Aqua. Yup! Good Lordy...

we're bullies,ya know? we force you in to being just like us.

you don't like me? 😢

darn it.

Posted by M

Posted by BellatheBull
we're bullies,ya know? we force you in to being just like us.

Wine helps

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care for some more Sir? 😉

Posted by kstarks2

Posted by BellatheBull
Can't help it,I'm a TAURUS. 😉

Now you SEE why i say i don't like Taurus? Good moving on...

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I told you,actions...not words.
your fingers SAY you don't like me,but your actions say you do. 😉

Posted by M
It isn't foaming I hope?

no,pharmacy's been closed.....

Posted by capguy
Girl I'm interested in now, it's going to take a LONG warming up period. The more I like her, the more guarded I'll be because I refuse to have my heart crushed. My armor is just that, it's not indifference as much as a protectiveness that is second nature. I think some women are like this, if they really like a guy they may want to slow down to make sure it's her and not her body he wants, I'm the same way. I have a very difficult time with superficial relationships so I will slowly and methodically invest myself in one person, over time, and mist of that time will appear that my interest is a bit platonic.

The rest of the time us me alone trying to figure out ways to not be attracted to you because my preference is free, unattached, no one getting too close.

And BTW every post I make here is honest and genuine, I am just sharing. If I want psychiatric insight about how "wrong" my beliefs are, I'll pay a professional.

My readings are coming just slowly... missed a big bunch.

But CAPGUY... please know... I appreciate your posts. You do sound genuine and open at the same time. Good trade. Continue...

ah,I needed that.thank you.😉

but,really you know....I was posting on this thread before you ever joined in the festivities.
so,try not to flatter yourself toooooo much.

man starks,all your male friends are in love with you,and your female friends want to be just like you....you really are the shiz eh?

I'm impressed.

uh,no.not a thing....😉

absence makes the heart grow fonder Shaka. 🙂

I'm not bickering,I'm playing.
I just like effing with the stone cold's of the world. 🙂

it's sag. $ 10

Posted by kstarks2
Hey Shellshocker.

I don't think pisces like for you to hide how you're truly feel. they want to see the real you.

Hell yeah they lie and test. he's tested me PLENTY of times! That motherfucker was BRUTAL with me a month ago...He even said when i first started texting him "I don't trust you , you move funny" I know all you remember that thread...lol..and he just wouldn't let up. He was just rude, mean and sarcastic. but i fought back but instead of going toe to toe. I fought back with love. Every time he said something hurtful, i returned it with something heartfelt. One time i did shoot back a barbed one liner and whooooooooooooa did he get pissed!

I was told by everyone to back away, he doesn't want you, and at that time it may have been true as he was hurt and protecting himself. but i stuck around because i want him to know i CAN be trusted. I won't run again. I'm here. However I haven't been doing a great job as i have been threatening to leave after he would say fucked up shit (which i now feel is/was a test)...but i always come right back 🙂 and he's now noticed the trend and so have i. I'd be like "Fuck you. I'm leaving." and the next morning like clock work, I'm back. smh I know I know. this needs to stop. Either REALLY stay or REALLY go. But I too am in a gray area....

Starks~ I show you your words to confirm how messed up you are right now. I told you yesterday...you're broken and you need some serious repair. Keep it in the road...I mean really, this is the web and no amount of potty mouth talk you do out here is going to make anyone run scared. I suggest you deal with your personal issues and stop trying to make everyone on this thread as miserable as you obviously are right now. I hope you find some peace...SOON!

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Posted by ellessque
LOL @ Shaka.

jinx. *punched you in the arm*

These binaural beats Ive been listening to for the past 2 hours or so have apparently opened new mental channels in my brain :O :O

Funny that I mentioned the word psychic while you and I had a "psychic moment" :O

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but what are smoking while listening to it Evan?

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Posted by BellatheBull
it's sag. $ 10

That's what I was thinking, but could it be...leo?

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nope,has to be sag,aqua or capiziod.

LOL Bella...where did you find that? Gotta go silent for a bit. Have a meeting. I'm sure I will have gotten a good e-cussing out by the time I return. LMAO at the thought. Tata

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Posted by BellatheBull
man starks,all your male friends are in love with you,and your female friends want to be just like you....you really are the shiz eh?

I'm impressed.

yeah i'm pretty much a big deal...why you think you keep checking for me? I must be doing something right.

I'm a REAL friend to those I in my "circle of trust". My friends respect my no nonsense approach because i'm like a brick when the going gets tough. So yeah i'm in high demand. People don't to be around someone who tries to force THEIR life style on them. That's not me or a friend for that matter. I accept my friends for who they are no matter what they do/say. I don't try to change them to adapt what I believe to be right. I've always had friends from all walks of life. And all have remained in my life for a very long time because of this.

Now don't get it twisted. If you ASK my opinion on something. I'm gonna give it to you straight and blunt. however I will NEVER voluntarily GIVE you my opinion because i simply mind my business. Unless of course if you are in pain or being abused.

I rarely lower myself to have two-sided conversations with strangers or people whom i don't respect. so i guess I hold myself AS WELL as my friends in high regard.

Does this solve the equation for you? sheesh.

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I didn't realize I was checking for you....must be a subconscious thing.

have you ever read about Taurus?
you should.
this is why your "strong points" are not really impressing me.

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Posted by BellatheBull
it's sag. $ 10

That's what I was thinking, but could it be...leo?

nope,has to be sag,aqua or capiziod.

I'z just messing around. With you and Elle conjecturing you'll ruin the surprise 😛

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ok,I'll zip it up.lol

Posted by kstarks2

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Hey Shellshocker.

I don't think pisces like for you to hide how you're truly feel. they want to see the real you.

Hell yeah they lie and test. he's tested me PLENTY of times! That motherfucker was BRUTAL with me a month ago...He even said when i first started texting him "I don't trust you , you move funny" I know all you remember that thread...lol..and he just wouldn't let up. He was just rude, mean and sarcastic. but i fought back but instead of going toe to toe. I fought back with love. Every time he said something hurtful, i returned it with something heartfelt. One time i did shoot back a barbed one liner and whooooooooooooa did he get pissed!

I was told by everyone to back away, he doesn't want you, and at that time it may have been true as he was hurt and protecting himself. but i stuck around because i want him to know i CAN be trusted. I won't run again. I'm here. However I haven't been doing a great job as i have been threatening to leave after he would say fucked up shit (which i now feel is/was a test)...but i always come right back 🙂 and he's now noticed the trend and so have i. I'd be like "Fuck you. I'm leaving." and the next morning like clock work, I'm back. smh I know I know. this needs to stop. Either REALLY stay or REALLY go. But I too am in a gray area....

Starks~ I show you your words to confirm how messed up you are right now. I told you yesterday...you're broken and you need some serious repair. Keep it in the road...I mean really, this is the web and no amount of potty mouth talk you do out here is going to make anyone run scared. I suggest you deal with your personal issues and stop trying to make everyone on this thread as miserable as you obviously are right now. I hope you find some peace...SOON!

And this is exactly why you got cursed the fuck out. Such a VIRGO trait to be so petty. Do you think these people in here HAVEN'T read that?

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Now I'm petty b/c I throw your mess back in your face? Either you're hard or your soft or maybe you're just gray and that's fine too. But the world doesn't hate you so stop hating it! Get over it...

*hand out* 🙂

Posted by kstarks2
@Bella,

Honey, Sweetie, dear. IF I have to tell you this ONE MORE time I SWEAR I'M GOING TO FUCKING PUT YOU ON IGNORE. I - AM - NOT - TRYING - TO - IMPRESS - YOU.

WHY WHY WHY do you think I want to be e-friends with you? WHY?

I'm not doing THIS or anything to impress you...really knock this shit off already!

But um...

Take a look at what's happening on this board...do you see how Museigal is obsessed with me? LOL

How could you NOT be impressed how much attention i get?

I am rockstar for real...I come to a thread and its a guarantee 30 pager.

Watch...

lol,ok I know all I need to know....put me on ignore if you must.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom

kay and belle, I have chocolate cookies here..I'll share them with you two if you play nice with each other 🙂

pervert 😛

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Im not sure why you'd say that

lol.sorry 🙂

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kay and belle, I have chocolate cookies here..I'll share them with you two if you play nice with each other 🙂

Oh, those were for them?
*wipes crumbs on sleeve*

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😢

capguy is a CAp... not a Sag.

I know Sag guys too well.. even the ones in their 60s 😉

they don't run like *Run LIKE HELL*.. they run with a big smile on their face and they keep looking back only to be caught again 😛

Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
capguy is a CAp... not a Sag.

I know Sag guys too well.. even the ones in their 60s 😉

they don't run like *Run LIKE HELL*.. they run with a big smile on their face and they keep looking back only to be caught again 😛

I thought he was born on the 22nd, but the 21st is technically a Sag. There's definitely an influence of Cap in there, but the "inner" him is Sag. He posted a lot of good things in his introduction thread, but that was him analyzing his Cap influence and the nature of Caps better than some of us can. Actually, that seems to happen a lot, especially with Sags, so that's not surprising.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Actually now I just checked his FB profile, he was born on the 22nd 😄

i could have sworn that he posted the 21st in here.*confused*

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Heheh I was referring to my gf's cousin 🙂

oh, ok. i was sitting here wondering how you got capguys facebook lol.

Posted by ellessque
lol...I think my flirting with the cap men on these boards is just a bit more subtle than virgo over there.

ha!

HAHA! 😄

not sure if cappi likes being flirted up. I'm after this one CapGuy on the web.. super hot, big Sad eyes. I used to think his eyes are brown but looking closer, I saw they are blue... he pretends to be the tough guy, but when he sees me, he waits for a bit if I will talk to him.. if I don't, he goes in hide. Cute!


It's fun to flirt up Virgos.. they get so shy at it, but they will not give up responding.