Mature Cap Commitmentphobe (Page 4)

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Kay, Ist dein Vater ein aperiaker?

lol!

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Kay, in case you die before me..can I snort your ashes? just like KEITH RICHARDS snorted his dad's? 🙂

rofl. Shaks you seem extra humorous today, what gives?

Its the binaural beats, Im telling ya, this is some creepy stuff.

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I think we should all download it and listen to it together.
maybe we can have a mystical e- experience together.

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Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Kay, Ist dein Vater ein aperiaker?

lol!

What does this mean??

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no idea,but it struck me as funny.
Shaky is feeling loose today. 🙂

🙂

Posted by TG
lol, salt is a russian spy. I think I??d fail meserably as a spy tbh. Caps are supposed to be able to keep a straight face, but oh no, not me... When I get nervous I laugh so much. I wonder if that's a capricorn thing?

yes it is, TG

is it nervousness or enchantment?

my new year's resolution will be starting tomorrow. Am warming up my motors

Posted by TG
lol, salt is a russian spy. I think I??d fail meserably as a spy tbh. Caps are supposed to be able to keep a straight face, but oh no, not me... When I get nervous I laugh so much. I wonder if that's a capricorn thing?

It might be a Cap thing because I laugh a lot when nervous myself. I blush a lot too, and if I'm in the situation for longer than I'd like that nervousness turns into a mild nervous breakdown(LoL) because I'm laughing at things that are not funny and I'm not in control of the nervous energy.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Museigal will be pretty disappointed she wasnt the main focus of conversation in her absence 😄

lol

Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
my new year's resolution will be starting tomorrow. Am warming up my motors

Do share. Plz 🙂

Posted by Museigal

Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
my new year's resolution will be starting tomorrow. Am warming up my motors

Do share. Plz 🙂

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LOL ... work work and more work. keep head out of love! 😄

i hope my venus in libra doesn't muddy my waters again.

LOL... funny 😄


even the way capguy gets all worked up is a sign of how much CaP he is 😛

A Sag would never respond the way he does.

Posted by ellessque
exactly!!!

a sag would be "whatever"..............*poof of smoke as he exits*

ROFL 😄

i just got a message by cousin Cap. He tells me for the third time: Watch this movie! (Vendetta).

He wants to know what I think of the 'question'... not sure what he means, but i guess i have to watch it now.

sheesh... so demanding 😛

LOL

Posted by capguy
BTW ellessque don't ever tell a cap dude something that will make him feel embarrassed, we're afraid enough to be ourselves as it is, and that's WITHOUT other people's input.

Yikes...

makes me feel even worse now

Posted by capguy
Cool. I think it's more of a if we think you see the real us you won't be attracted anymore, so he might feel like he is not "the man" right now. So I guess as long as you're still attracted to him even though he's not perfect, he'll pick up on that over time.

That's a nice advice capguy .. now you coming across as a cap again ... funny how your sagi pops up when it's commitment related issue 😛

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Posted by capguy
Cool. I think it's more of a if we think you see the real us you won't be attracted anymore, so he might feel like he is not "the man" right now. So I guess as long as you're still attracted to him even though he's not perfect, he'll pick up on that over time.

That's a nice advice capguy .. now you coming across as a cap again ... funny how your sagi pops up when it's commitment related issue 😛

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Yes! That whole commitment issue with him is what throws the Cap in him out of the window lol. It's so funny!

Posted by capguy
I don't think you guys know what a capricorn man is like. Every single thing I'm reading says cap men take FOREVER to commit to a woman. I haven't seen anything to the contrary on the astrology sites.

Yet when I say it, somehow it becomes a sag trait. If I weren't a cusp you'd be saying "yup, capricorn men just won't commit..."

WTF.

Anyway it feels weird being dissected like this.

No one disagreed on caps taking a long time to commit ... most has deemed you as sagittarius because of your views on being involved with more than one at a time

Posted by capguy
I don't think you guys know what a capricorn man is like. Every single thing I'm reading says cap men take FOREVER to commit to a woman. I haven't seen anything to the contrary on the astrology sites.

Yet when I say it, somehow it becomes a sag trait. If I weren't a cusp you'd be saying "yup, capricorn men just won't commit..."

WTF.

Anyway it feels weird being dissected like this.

Aww, we aren't trying to make you feel weird, atleast I'm not.

I think younger Caps will commit quicker than older Caps how someone already posted. Really, I don't think many Caps are afraid of commitment. More than anything, from what I've observed, they seem to have issues with being monogamous while in a relationship.

Belle must be busy today...but thanks to her for sending me the natal chart info. Here is a snippet from my Cap friend's chart. It reads just like what I know of him after 7 months - through and through. No surprises...just more food for thought.

"His independence does not tolerate traditional marriage very well. If he does marry, he has little chance of finishing his days with the spouse, unless the partner gives him complete freedom. You need a lot of freedom in your partnerships and do best in unconventional or nontraditional set-ups. You are likely to attract unusual, erratic people into your life, particularly in close relationships.

While he is passionate, he likes carnal desires and voluptuousness above all. He may go to excess and is often unsatisfied.

Whether it's an infatuation or a full-blown love affair, relationships get you out of bed in the morning. You are passionate and seem to need an active romantic and sexual life to drive you. Often, this area of life is somewhat challenging, especially in youth. As much as you want to be involved in a passionate affair, your timing can be off and/or it's difficult to find a relationship that mirrors your strong desires and expectations. Especially when you are young, there can be a real awkwardness with your social skills--this may or may not be apparent to others.

You are highly creative and generally are driven to express that creativity. Your passion for romance is often channeled into your creative output. For example, challenges in relationships may be a large part of the drive behind your poetry, music, or other art.

Love and hate are very much mixed together for you. You are prone to love-hate relationships with others, likely because your passions are such that the old saying "there's a fine line between love and hate" rings especially true for you. Some level of competitiveness, anger, frustration, or angst is present in your romantic relationships. Although you are quick to anger, you are generally just as quick to forget about it. "

Posted by capguy
I relate to a lot of that.

Basically we're just really miserable people, but we're very passionate and creative, so, yeah.

Before I even read that you sounded a lot like him. And he is a full fledged cap in every way. Like I said, I have questions...more or less scenarios we've gone through and I want your feedback on them. I'll take them all line in a little bit. Just finished a big glass of wine and a Kit Kat candy bar (quite the combination). Need to make sure I communicate clearly.

"Belle must be busy today..."

I'm sorry luv,I did end up pretty busy today without expecting it.I did not mean to leave you hanging.
I will work on as much as I can without birth times,and will get with you tomorrow.

Thanks BTB. I've had quite a day myself. No worries...

I want to thank everyone for weighing in on the situation with my Cap man. For a first post, it has really been enlightening. I truly appreciate the people who have indulged me and gone the extra mile to help me process the matter (Bella, Capguy, others). The Cap board is one of the best on dxp IMHO and I look forward to following it and maybe adding my two cents along the way if beneficial. This is new for me...so I'll see how it goes. BTW, I hate to see Shaka leaving b/c Capguy is right, we need more male perspectives...not to devalue the female perspectives, but having more men would take some of the heavy lifting off the men who are here.

Peace and luv to you guys today 😉

Posted by TG
Yeah, could be! I was at the movies recently and watched a really dark and sad kind of story, and noone in the theatre laughed o n c e. And I didn't either. But then at the end, the character dropped her cigarette cuz she was so sick and she couldn't hold it proberly, and I just had to.. it looked so silly.. 🙂 (my sister told me later "I heard you, you??re so wierd.."). But I know my scorpio moon friend would understand, she??d have laughed too!

you even got a chuckle out of me today, TG... with your cigarette dropping story 😄

i'm down in the dumps today. it is supposed to be new moon. i was all high spirited on the dec21 event when it was supposed to be the worse... so what's wrong with all those stars? pulling our strings continously...

Points PurpleDiamond.....What she said

Was busy working but thought I'd check in on the thread. I appreciate each of you weighing in on this. Purple...the reason I posted in the first place was b/c of your OP, so thanks for sharing on behalf of your brother. Your follow up is interesting. I guess the story of your brother was a warning to other women.(?) I'm fine with having my Cap friend around as a friend. I've never needed to have an intimate relationship with him. It happened, but hasn't for quite a while. We still communicate but I keep it to a minimum as to not cause any feelings that haven't fully dissipated to reemerge (my love has turned more platonic than romantic). We'll continue to see each other as we have various activities in common. His family members and I have activities in common as well,so play a different role in my life. I realize that marriage is not on his barometer. Not to give too many details but his life experiences/scars from youth preclude that. Again, I really do appreciate the male perspective on this too, even though I know all men are different.

You folks are great. Tiki...it's good to meet you, however, briefly. I've read your posts, some informed opinions you have.

Thank you Museigal, It's good to meet you too Museigal, you fit in quite well here (:

I be trying to tell people we go through extremes.

PurpleDiamond, you have been on point in here. Everything you've said makes perfect sense. Caps don't play around at all when they are ready. Do you think the Cancer girl will agree to it all and starting this new life with your brother?

Posted by PurpleDiamond
Thanks!

Gosh I hope so because I really like her. I told him he needs to hurry up lol but he said they way he's going to come for her, he doubts she turns him down because if she is dating someone else, he's sure they haven't stepped up in the way he's going too lol.

That's a Cap for ya! Sounds a lot like my Cap friend. When he's really into someone he goes ALL out! I really hope the Cancer girl says "yes" to moving forward with him. She must be uber special to have him behaving like this lol.

Purple...I'm curious. What's your sign?

Elle~ were you insinuating that Purple is who Purple speaks of? 😛

Posted by ellessque
yes I was 😛

Purple~ What say you?

That would somewhat fly in the face of all the things that have been posted about Cap men...being upfront and all.

An impostor on the board (I don't mean that as an insult, just the literal meaning)... Hmm

Posted by ellessque
nope. try again.

OMG...Elle. Was that a full on objection to Purple being an Aries female?

This is really getting interesting! JK Whew 😛

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Posted by CappyyLuv30
Purple: As an Aries and living with a Cap brother, would you ever date a Cap? Knowing how complicatedly awesome they are? Lol

Well me and my brother get along great so I wouldn't be oposed to dating a DECEMBER Cap but I have friends that are January Caps and no way in the world would I date them lol and it's funny because they all think I would make the perfect girlfiend and I'm like yeah because I don't like you in that way lol

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Just curious, Purple, about your objection to Jan caps since my friend is January. BTW, are you older or younger than him?

Posted by ellessque
...a fire sign would have reacted. probably even of insulted me.

...an air sign would have explained. immediately, not after others commented.

you had to think about it or had hopes nobody caught my comment.

it's really okay. it's not a bad thing.

(plus you are too careful of your articulation....and your punctuation is superb, until you were flustered)

oh well. *shrugs*

Not trying to stir up anything but Purple's posts are like mine...paragraphs. Might be b/c she's knew. I do that b/c I am a writer and prob b/c of my Virgo neatness, attention to detail, etc.

Just an observation. not trying to call anyone a liar out here. It's not that serious. 🙂

Posted by ellessque
lol....because he has a virgo moon. 😛

Elle did I miss something?

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Posted by ellessque
lol....because he has a virgo moon. 😛

Elle did I miss something?

her "brother" aka purplediamond has a virgo moon. That explains the style of writing. similar to yours.

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Definitely missed that one in the OP. thx

I never said your feelings were wrong...

You have matured and I can respect that, the way you communicate about Cap now is a huge contrast from you holding on hoping that if you stick around long enough he will change his mind about you. There seems to be a deep level of acceptance that I'm now seeing come through your words and behavior and that usually comes after a woman has had time to sit down and figure out what she wants and what she can accept without hurting herself in the process.

Posted by ellessque
thank you tiki. I needed to hear that from you. I mean that sincerely.

Your welcome Ellessque(:

I think what Kstartks and PurpleDiamond are saying in a nutshell is that Capricorn males are NOT commitmentphobes. Thats the title of the thread, and what the thread initially seemed to be about, but that is NOT true if a Capricorn is really into a woman. Its cool to kick it as friends with one, and have things on your terms, but NEVER think his mind will change on committing because it definitely will not.

Don't even get a slight impression that it will.

I don't know why the males are like that but they are.

Posted by lnana04
Its cool to kick it as friends with one, and have things on your terms, but NEVER think his mind will change on committing because it definitely will not.

Agreed...

Posted by M
Museigal that is an interesting avatar...

You gonna analyze it for me, M...😛 I'd love that!

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Posted by M
Museigal that is an interesting avatar...

You gonna analyze it for me, M...😛 I'd love that!

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Better yet, I'll tell you about mine if you tell me about yours. 😉

Posted by ellessque
nope. try again.

lol ... come on ... not all Aries people are the same. I understand why you would be saying that ... maybe it is the impression you get from the Aries board? ... I myself hate it ... because it usually seems to be full of those who are always ready to jump and bite someones head off ... but we aren't all the same ... just like december and january caps :p

My cap is a january cap ... an aqua cusper 🙂

I agree Kstarks. I do think Cappy may be more attached than he even realize.

Posted by M
Haha no 😛
I'm curious where you obtained it though. It looks a mix between tattoo and stylized art.

It's artwork my son created on the computer in one of his classes. I love orange and black...it made sense to pick it.

I haven't looked up Happletea.com but is it a tea company b/c I love to drink tea...have a drawer full of the stuff.

Nice post elle.

Posted by M
Nope. It's a site about mythology. Fun ties and ways of looking at them in modern times.

I'm a fan of tea myself. I'm on a modest health kick, so I'm trying to cut out pop/soda/etc.
Current fav is Lapsang Souchong. Straight up :p

You current preference sounds REALLY potent. I've been on this kick mixing ginger teas with black tea. It's my vice and that nightly glass of wine, of course. LOL