My Cap almost broke up with me (Page 2)

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What if you didn't call him and cried?

What do you think would have happened?

I am unable to imagine that or maybe I just don't want to imagine that. He seemed damn serious so I was totally broken I didn't know what to do I just called to ask him if he said those things just in anger and while asking I couldn't control myself

I understand.

I think that's what I would be thinking about.

Mature people just don't break it off on a whim like that....

Hopefully you're both able to talk about it and maybe hopefully quiet your mind.

I asked him today if he really meant what he said last night and said no he has spent 4 years with me and that he can't break up at this stage he said we'll be together forever but still I am feeling insecure because I could feel the seriousness when he said he don't wañt to continue

This is promising. It sounds like he still wants to work on things. You two have to learn to communicate better tho. There's stability and there's stagnancy. Notice how one sounds positive and comforting and the other doesn't. You don't wanna be stuck in this cycle and neither does he. Learn how to fix it or be prepared for him to rip the cord again.

Yeah. Another thing he said last night which i didn't understand was that he will wait for me till 10th december to change my thinking after that I shouldn't expect any thing from him. I am unable to understand that deadline

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He is coordinating it with his Christmas shopping, maybe?

LMAO at some women assuming they are entitled to "forever" regardless of their actions as though "forever" is not dependent on the woman also working to make it last that long. 😆 #AssholishPost #ButTrue

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What if you didn't call him and cried?

What do you think would have happened?

I am unable to imagine that or maybe I just don't want to imagine that. He seemed damn serious so I was totally broken I didn't know what to do I just called to ask him if he said those things just in anger and while asking I couldn't control myself

I understand.

I think that's what I would be thinking about.

Mature people just don't break it off on a whim like that....

Hopefully you're both able to talk about it and maybe hopefully quiet your mind.

I asked him today if he really meant what he said last night and said no he has spent 4 years with me and that he can't break up at this stage he said we'll be together forever but still I am feeling insecure because I could feel the seriousness when he said he don't wañt to continue

This is promising. It sounds like he still wants to work on things. You two have to learn to communicate better tho. There's stability and there's stagnancy. Notice how one sounds positive and comforting and the other doesn't. You don't wanna be stuck in this cycle and neither does he. Learn how to fix it or be prepared for him to rip the cord again.

Yeah. Another thing he said last night which i didn't understand was that he will wait for me till 10th december to change my thinking after that I shouldn't expect any thing from him. I am unable to understand that deadline

He is coordinating it with his Christmas shopping, maybe?

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I bet it has more to do with holiday celebrations with family and friends. In other words, he doesn't want to spend Christmas with her parents again.

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That's why i joke around and OP giggled.....

8 pages of non sense woman shoving shit in OPs head.

He broke up simply because he was upset.

If the argument was about finances, he probably felt unworthy or unable to provide or is stressed out about finances.

For some Caps no matter how much they already have, working just gives us a sense of security. We like to be able to provide for people we care about. Aka ( The Father of the zodiac)

You guys are def the father of the zodiac ! Never heard it put that way

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It doesn't change the fact that he loves you and still wants to be with you. His self esteem probably got shot.

Give him some space. Let him cool down. Simple as that.

Yeah he is now back to treating me special, Saying I Love you like 4 times a day and saying that he can't live without me and everything is back to normal like before. but deep down in my heart I have started to fear the real breakup because I am unable to control myself when I am angry or hurt. I may trigger a real breakup 😢

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I don't blame u for feeling the way u do. At least you're being honest with yourself , knowing you can't control the anger & hurt. There will be many more fights because of this . You gotta get it together or forget it forever ..

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That's why i joke around and OP giggled.....

8 pages of non sense woman shoving shit in OPs head.

He broke up simply because he was upset.

If the argument was about finances, he probably felt unworthy or unable to provide or is stressed out about finances.

For some Caps no matter how much they already have, working just gives us a sense of security. We like to be able to provide for people we care about. Aka ( The Father of the zodiac)

He is able to provide me but he didn't offer because I have rejected him offer many times. OH GOD it sounds so bad when I am writing this it helped me understand my mistake. When he offers I reject him and now when he doesn't offer I am baffled as to why he didn't. After apologizing for breakup thing we had a brief conversation on phone and he told me the same thing he said "Remember those times when I offered to help and you didn't accept you said I don't need your favors that's why I didn't offer today and you are fighting on this too I feel like a Dummy who can't do anything for you I feel useless. You said I didn't offer because I care about money ? Its been 4 years we are together and still you didn't understand me even 20 % " After this conversation I understood that I was clearly wrong here. I feel so bad for using harsh language

When you do this, it makes him feel like he can't make you happy.

If all you want him to do is "offer" help to show he cares then you should explain that to him.

"When I need help, whether I accept it or not, I just would really appreciate it if you at least offer like you use to because that tells me you care and are thoughtful"

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Thanks for the helpful advice 🙂

WTH at that ultimatum date. But, since he's a Cap, his seeming randomness is most likely really just for some boring, practical reason.

Like, December 10th is probably the last day he can order your present and have it guaranteed to be here in time for Christmas.

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So my Cap sun/scorp Moon guy of 4 Years almost broke up with me last night due to a fight but then I called him and I was crying so he felt bad and said sorry. We had a conversation and everything is fine now but now I am unable to feel secure with him. I Used to think that no matter what happens we'll always be together but I was shocked last night when he said he don't want to continue our relationship, he never said such thing but last night I could feel that this wasn't said just in anger he really meant it. I can't believe something like that happened and I am now worried about our future 😢

Worrying won't do anything it'll just cause more overthinking and we all know overthinking can damage your relationship even more.

@anna1 do you have any idea why December 10th is significant?