Need Capricorn insight?

I have a question where I'm trying to figure out a friendship with a Capricorn friend that I've been friends with for 20 yrs. Three of us middle aged women (married) & former co-workers have been close friends for 20 yrs; going to lunch, walking, etc, & even occasionally going out as couples with our spouses. The other lady is an Aquarian (like me) & we like to try to get together about once a month. The Cappy calls us her "best friends", but when we suggest a meet up, she usually has an excuse, unless it is her idea to get together. She doesn't call us, or initiate any meetings. So the 3 of us only get together once or twice a year. (The Aqua friend & I just get together.) We always have a great time, even with the spouses. When the Cappy was sick with an infection, I took her soup, sent her get well cards, & called her a few times. About a year later I fell, injured my neck, fell again, & fractured my foot, but heard nothing from the Cappy friend. We are all nurses, & I just did it out of concern for her...plus I guess it is in my blood. Anyway, 6 months later, when she wanted me to come to her party she called me. She told me she was a "crappy, selfish" friend & should've contacted me. (I never brought it up.) But, she never changed her behavior, still no phone calls unless we contact her. We really enjoy her company.....but I'm really seeing how one-sided this friendship is, & has been. So, MY QUESTION- Is this normal Capricorn behavior to admit that they are "selfish & crappy friends," seldom contacting us, & not changing her behavior? Or is our friend just taking me & the other Aquarius friend for granted? Thanks for any insight!

Reminds me of a young, Aries friend I had. I blamed it on her age. You all are grown women tho. Dunno that she’s taking advantage (purposely), but she certainly has parameters different than your own and the other Aqua’s and I don’t see that changing.

Is she closer to one of you than the other?

Maybe she's going through something and you never thought to ask how her life is really going?

Strange. I have the same case with my Aqua friend. She doesn't call or msg on her own until I initiate it. But when we talk we talk for hours. She just tells me don't expect anything from anyone. Funny thing. But I just accept it.

Caps have a tendency to get in their head, become completely involved in their own issues and alienate others. It's not that they don't care about your issues, and if you reached out and needed them they'd probably drop everything to help you out, but they may not reach out on their own accord if they are having their own issues. They have a tendency to want to handle everything on their own and not drag people into their life when they feel like that life is messy. They see it happening but I think a lot of the time they don't know how to stop it. Once it gets to a certain point they tend to feel like they aren't sure how to come back, especially with people who they know don't really understand this behavior (i.e.; most people).

I saw this a lot with my ex, and even see it in my own Cap moon.

"Life is a mess but I can deal with it."

**All relationships fall by the wayside while trying to fix messy life.**

"Oh wow, a year has gone by and I haven't reached out to anyone...."

With my ex, at this point he would literally need a special invitation (sometimes two) before he'd feel comfortable enough to go out or meet up with certain people again and so he'd say "it's your turn to make new friends."

The only phone calls I initiate are to my mother and grandmother. Some of us can be like this. Some are worse than others, but we really can get stuck in our own heads/mess. I wouldn't take it personal, although her not calling to check on you was completely wrong smh. Probably try to find more a more "present" friend. I've come to the conclusion that the majority of us suck at multitasking and balancing life.