Edmon Adoniz
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Seeking Words of Advice for Calming The Nerves of a Capricorn Woman
Unfortunately, I don't think so. I find that its hard to get through to us in general because its our thoughts/feelings and we are dealing with them constantly. So even if you knock some sense into her for that moment, she will always revert back to what she was initially thinking/feeling. Its embedded in her right now. She'll have to get over it on her own.
BTW, her words scare me. Personally I find its hard for me to adjust to change...well, change that's not my own. I guess its the idea of a man proposing and wanting marriage so it's kind of his idea? Idk. Parts of her may seem a bit out of control in this.
Who set the wedding date? Have you suggested it being pushed back to ease her mind? Idk.
BTW, her words scare me. Personally I find its hard for me to adjust to change...well, change that's not my own. I guess its the idea of a man proposing and wanting marriage so it's kind of his idea? Idk. Parts of her may seem a bit out of control in this.
Who set the wedding date? Have you suggested it being pushed back to ease her mind? Idk.
Posted by lnana04The wedding date is tentative.
Unfortunately, I don't think so. I find that its hard to get through to us in general because its our thoughts/feelings and we are dealing with them constantly. So even if you knock some sense into her for that moment, she will always revert back to what she was initially thinking/feeling. Its embedded in her right now. She'll have to get over it on her own.
BTW, her words scare me. Personally I find its hard for me to adjust to change...well, change that's not my own. I guess its the idea of a man proposing and wanting marriage so it's kind of his idea? Idk. Parts of her may seem a bit out of control in this.
Who set the wedding date? Have you suggested it being pushed back to ease her mind? Idk.
Recently [a few days ago], she has asked me whether she can start wedding planning for December 23rd.
I have replied to her that I am not certain on that date yet, even as I am still attending to my business obligations; but that I will know shortly. Now up until the very moment, she has been exceedingly jubilant about wedding in general. But when she has not gotten the green light - so to speak - on going forward with our wedding plans, her disposition has alyogether changed ----------> into Worry.
This is because December is very expensive month in her country; and Everything, including her favorite places to get married, easily become booked up. So, she is worrying that we will not be able to book the venue that she desires.
But I respond to her by telling her her Worrying only produces harm; so, she is to have Peace.
Ultimately, I have demonstrated to her that her reasoning regarding this matter errs.
She has responded by saying " ♥♥♥ Am not sure why you tolerate or understand me this much. Smh"
Notably, she has behaved in a similar fashion [i.e., nervously] right before the last time that I have flown out o visit her [and Unofficially Propose - She said Yes]. The Official Engagement is in approx. 2 weeks from now.
She was extremely nervous back then, offering all sorts of irrational excuses - at the last minute - for me not flying out: e.g., she didn't want me too spend too much money to go visit her, she might not be as available to attend to me as she would given her erractic work schedule etc.
All Very "Heady" [Worrisome] Responses.
But I've just kept my Peace (and she, ultimately, has followed suit); and Everything has gone better than both she and I has ever imagined.
So, I sense that she is simply getting butterflies - as I hear is pretty common for many people before Official Weddings; and that she is trying to seek reassurance, even without appearing to do so...
She was extremely nervous back then, offering all sorts of irrational excuses - at the last minute - for me not flying out: e.g., she didn't want me too spend too much money to go visit her, she might not be as available to attend to me as she would given her erractic work schedule etc.
All Very "Heady" [Worrisome] Responses.
But I've just kept my Peace (and she, ultimately, has followed suit); and Everything has gone better than both she and I has ever imagined.
So, I sense that she is simply getting butterflies - as I hear is pretty common for many people before Official Weddings; and that she is trying to seek reassurance, even without appearing to do so...
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