Taurus woman needs help understanding Capricorn Man

To all the Capricorn men out there: I have been in a relationship with a Capricorn man for 4 months now. We met when he was doing some work on my house. I was not initially interested in him because he is about 13 years younger than I am,(I am 46) so when he started flirting with me by text, I was surprised. I joked with him that I wondered if he was a good kisser, and he immediately met me at my office, walked in the door, and we started kissing. Before I knew it, we were having sex, and ended up going 4 rounds. I am not normally like this but everything he was doing just felt so good that I couldn't think of a reason to make him stop. When we get together, it usually leads to marathon sex, and I have to tell you, I have never been so sexually attracted to anyone before him. We can easily go at it for hours, and I have never been with a guy who was so in-tuned with what I needed sexually. Here is the problem: I want a deeper relationship, not just a booty call. He is very affectionate at times and very distant and moody at times, and I have taken the advice of others on this site to look for the subtle signs and I try not to push him. But, I have needs too, and I need to hear that my feelings aren't one-sided and that I am not setting myself up to be heartbroken. So Capricorn men out there.... tell me what you think of this: I bought him a Raven's eye amulet as a good luck charm/protector for his keychain. It was not super expensive, but I wanted him to have something with him everyday to remind him of me. I asked him if I could have something of his for the times that I miss him but he said he had nothing that he could give me. I suggested a T-shirt, a sweatshirt, anything. I have seen him twice since I gave him the amulet and nothing. I am taking that as a sign that he does not care enough to give in on even the littlest of things. What do you think? Should this bother me?

Should it bother you? It obviously does as you've come here to ask us all if it should.

Forget needing to hear about his feelings. Look to his actions, or lack there of.

Never mix business with pleasure, never ends well but with that being said this guy shat all over your boundaries, got you hooked and and stuck in this one sided situation.

The age gap is significant, two totally different worlds that will mostly collide into one another in every way possible so you should expect to feel the emotional distance between the both of you.

This is a purely sexual situation, he didn't take the time nor interest to get to know who you are and he probably won't dig that deep with you.

Put him on your bootycall list and keep cultivating your dating life with others. Keep looking out for the right guy and get you some marathon sex on the side.

Have you tried to invite him to do something that wouldn't involve sex? Like dinner, movies, bar, ect. Does he hang out in public with you?

I left some details out unintentionally. We message each other every morning, throughout the day, and before bed. Yesterday we went to one of those wine/painting places and out to dinner. We have done other things together in the past and have gone to Chicago together for a weekend. I have him the amulet because someone drove by his house and fired gun shots. I was worried about him and gave it to him as a gesture to show I cared. I did not give it to him to receive anything in return. One evening after hours of lovemaking, we went one final round. I was wearing my favorite large sweatshirt and when I went home, I could smell him on my sweatshirt. I slept in it for 2 days before I finally gave in and washed it. I told him about this and asked him for something of his so that I could have a reminder of him when I wasn't with him. I'm finding that Capricorn men do not like to be told what you want. So, I need help communicating my needs without sending him into retreat mode. So, any suggestions from any Cap men out there? I appreciate everyone else's comments and thank you for taking the time. You all may be right and I was thinking that until he sent me a message today singing "You are My Sunshine" as a silly wake up.

Patience. For most of us, 4 months is the blink of an eye. He is clearly interested in more than just a booty call- you guys go on dates and talk regularly. I think everyone on this forum will agree that if there is one group good at keeping things low on emotions its us lol. The whole memento issue is probably more about the fact that he hasn't decided to open up all they way yet. For me, the woman I open up to could take whatever she wanted as a reminder- everything I have is hers anyway (in my eyes). Which is why it takes so long to let someone in. He is no doubt different than I, but I'm just tossing in my view as a Cap male. As others have stated, telling us what to do is not a good idea. However, telling him what you need and what you're concerned about is a great idea- just be direct about it.

I agree, stop with the expectations that he is like you or has to be like you or has to be what you want him to be. Enjoy it for what it is, be grateful for what you have. Asking a Cap is not going to get you anywhere. He heard you. And he will do what he wants to do. Be grateful because there are a lot of us out here that don't have what you have. Never-mind the age difference and enjoy it for as long as you can and keep yourself occupied so you don't get too needy - that turns some men off.

I feel the story was switched too.

If all of that is going on, what are your needs from him at this point?

Well if a Capricorn man gives you his time as in texting and calling you everyday is a sign that he cares or even loves you then maybe he did. My ex called me everyday, texted me through out the day and called me every night after work and we would talk for an hour or more. And yes he called me. I always asked in the beginning if it was ok to call by a text message but he was being a butt one day and I told him I would never call him or text him first ever again and I didnt.

He told me that he missed his personal pest, he told me I was the last thing on his mind when he went to sleep and the first thing on his mind when he woke up. He helped me out all the time with money but I would pay it back because I don't like to owe anyone anything. And he let me borrow a large sum of money so I could get my yorkie a MRI and a spinal tap to see what was going on with him and trust me that wasn't cheap and I'm still paying it back. I was told I didn't have to but I'm not like that.

He told me a lot of things. He even said actions speak louder then words. He did introduce me to his family but this was after I told him I was done because I felt like a secret and told him good night and good bye only to have him call me the next morning and tell me to get ready because he was taking me to his parents for Sunday dinner.

He wrote me something once but I guess I was to stupid to know what he meant. But he said that I was the only thing in his life thst he knew to be true. But when he found out that his ex wife got up set because he went out with a some woman he said that what he normally does to move on came to a hault. But he said he had to look toward a new future and leave behind the one that he worked for so many years. It was time to take his cloud back and start his new life and there is only one person that can .ale that happen faster then anyone......

My stupid comment was, then tell her.

He replied, do you ever comprehend anything I write? So I guess he was talking about me...

So why didn't he just tell me he was talking about me?

I know me and him have had our ups and downs. I know what I done was wrong but again I only did it to make sure he didn't do it to anyone else. But when his ex wife found out that he was seeing someone, and yes she said to me, so you are the secret, well anyhow she did something very wrong to get him back and I do believe she only did it because she didn't want him to be happy. And being she helped him get his life together when they first met his mom believes he feels as if he owes her because of that. But no mater what, he will always have a place in my heart for helping me save my yorkie. He never cared how much, he just asked how much and when do you need it. And he gave me it the next day. Like I said I miss my best friend, yes I'm not going to lie that the sex wasnt well I can't even find a word because I never felt nothing like it. It was if time stopped and we were one but I wouldn't even care about that, if I could have my best friend back.......

Good luck to you with your capricorn man. I hope all works out and you two become very happy. God bless.

I want to update you so that any other Taurus women out there know that many of y'all are absolutely right. I walk my small dog in the early morning and I mentioned to him that sometimes I wish he was walking with me because I get creeped out in the darkness before the dawn, walking alone. Saturday night, he gave me a pepper spray keychain so that I will be safe. I was so touched and the gift means more to me than anything else I have at the moment. I definitely need to work on being patient. Taurus women need to feel secure, like her man is into her and wants her. Capricorn men are intense, but you need to be patient to get them to express their feelings. I appreciate all of you who took the time to help me understand. I have used this forum a number of times when I was at my wits end and have found the advice from Cap men on here to be spot on. Thank you!!!

Posted by Aquarius_confused
Well if a Capricorn man gives you his time as in texting and calling you everyday is a sign that he cares or even loves you then maybe he did. My ex called me everyday, texted me through out the day and called me every night after work and we would talk for an hour or more. And yes he called me. I always asked in the beginning if it was ok to call by a text message but he was being a butt one day and I told him I would never call him or text him first ever again and I didnt.

He told me that he missed his personal pest, he told me I was the last thing on his mind when he went to sleep and the first thing on his mind when he woke up. He helped me out all the time with money but I would pay it back because I don't like to owe anyone anything. And he let me borrow a large sum of money so I could get my yorkie a MRI and a spinal tap to see what was going on with him and trust me that wasn't cheap and I'm still paying it back. I was told I didn't have to but I'm not like that.

He told me a lot of things. He even said actions speak louder then words. He did introduce me to his family but this was after I told him I was done because I felt like a secret and told him good night and good bye only to have him call me the next morning and tell me to get ready because he was taking me to his parents for Sunday dinner.

He wrote me something once but I guess I was to stupid to know what he meant. But he said that I was the only thing in his life thst he knew to be true. But when he found out that his ex wife got up set because he went out with a some woman he said that what he normally does to move on came to a hault. But he said he had to look toward a new future and leave behind the one that he worked for so many years. It was time to take his cloud back and start his new life and there is only one person that can .ale that happen faster then anyone......

My stupid comment was, then tell her.

He replied, do you ever comprehend anything I write? So I guess he was talking about me...

So why didn't he just tell me he was talking about me?

I know me and him have had our ups and downs. I know what I done was wrong but again I only did it to make sure he didn't do it to anyone else. But when his ex wife found out that he was seeing someone, and yes she said to me, so you are the secret, well anyhow she did something very wrong to get him back and I do believe she only did it because she didn't want him to be happy. And being she helped him get his life together when they first met his mom believes he feels as if he owes her because of that. But no mater what, he will always have a place in my heart for helping me save my yorkie. He never cared how much, he just asked how much and when do you need it. And he gave me it the next day. Like I said I miss my best friend, yes I'm not going to lie that the sex wasnt well I can't even find a word because I never felt nothing like it. It was if time stopped and we were one but I wouldn't even care about that, if I could have my best friend back.......

Good luck to you with your capricorn man. I hope all works out and you two become very happy. God bless.

it sounds like it was a good thing - I'm sorry for you that it's gone ...