SirHorns
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The hell is the obession about dominance?
I don't want to be dominant. I don't want to boss people around.
Socially, it doesn't happen that often. I don't feel the need or get "assigned" the task.
However, when working on a community project, or a work project, it just happens that I end up becoming one of the more dominant personalities. I try to sit back and let other people plan and take lead, however, it is almost impossible for me to keep my mouth shut. I add one or two suggestions, especially to the planning phase, and then all of a sudden, people start turning toward me expecting more. I try to back out, because frankly, I don't want the responsibility, but it ends up being handed to me.
I live in a small town and should go to more city council meetings to find out more about whats going on. However, you can't speak unless you sign up and I have a hard time fighting the urge to speak up or interrupt and start asking questions/throwing out ideas, etc. Can't do that. I'm not on the council and have no power and would probably be asked to leave. So, I don't go.
Socially, it doesn't happen that often. I don't feel the need or get "assigned" the task.
However, when working on a community project, or a work project, it just happens that I end up becoming one of the more dominant personalities. I try to sit back and let other people plan and take lead, however, it is almost impossible for me to keep my mouth shut. I add one or two suggestions, especially to the planning phase, and then all of a sudden, people start turning toward me expecting more. I try to back out, because frankly, I don't want the responsibility, but it ends up being handed to me.
I live in a small town and should go to more city council meetings to find out more about whats going on. However, you can't speak unless you sign up and I have a hard time fighting the urge to speak up or interrupt and start asking questions/throwing out ideas, etc. Can't do that. I'm not on the council and have no power and would probably be asked to leave. So, I don't go.
I just laugh at those kind of people. I think it's immature and egotistical.
Sounds like fake dominance to me.
Some may fall for it.
The dominant cat is the one sitting back, staring at this loudmouth fool, with zero intention of carrying out any of said fool's plan.
Then watching as 80% of the group lines up behind the strong, silent cat, that goes his own way.
Dominance is leading, and having followers, without asking for/demanding them. IMO
Some may fall for it.
The dominant cat is the one sitting back, staring at this loudmouth fool, with zero intention of carrying out any of said fool's plan.
Then watching as 80% of the group lines up behind the strong, silent cat, that goes his own way.
Dominance is leading, and having followers, without asking for/demanding them. IMO
Posted by FrenchKpricornThis isn't about me having a power-mad boss or anything? Tch, I let nature have them. Plus all I have to be is more useful and pleasant to work with and I'd have their job in no time.
stop work with leo dude, and it will be fine
This is about the whole mindset in general.
Posted by risesafterallSame and agreed.
I just laugh at those kind of people. I think it's immature and egotistical.
Posted by CapTennI swear it happens to me. I'm doing my thing, someone talks to me about a project, etc. Eventually a group of people want to work with me and wish I was running things cause they believe things would run so much smoother and better.
Sounds like fake dominance to me.
Some may fall for it.
The dominant cat is the one sitting back, staring at this loudmouth fool, with zero intention of carrying out any of said fool's plan.
Then watching as 80% of the group lines up behind the strong, silent cat, that goes his own way.
Dominance is leading, and having followers, without asking for/demanding them. IMO
Posted by VanishCarzykins? Find it humorous like a sad clown?
Have a sense of humor about it crazykins.click to expand
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