Update- Still torn...

So I'm still struggling with how to deal with my odd situation. I posted before about my emotional affair with two leo men (one of them is a sexual affair). I??ve tried to stop all contact with both of them, but it is not working out as I would hope. I need to let these men go, but am having a difficult time doing this. Pathetic I know. The guy I'm having sex with has been pushy with me lately. The more I ignore him the angrier he gets. I mentioned in my last post that he even went as far as to skip his son??s birthday party to be with me (I kicked him out of my apartment once he admitted it was his son??s birthday). He's been aggressive about wanting to see me. He is flat out demanding I go on this business trip with him in a couple of weeks. I keep telling him no, but he is not listening. He came to my apartment crying the other night claiming he was unhappy with his life and how I'm one of the only people he can trust. I let him spend the night with me which I feel awful about. He's gone for a week to visit his family, and I'm grateful for the break.

The other guy (who I am NOT having sex with) has been good about giving me space. He contacted me today and sounded down so agreed to meet him. We had a three hour conversation where he opened up to me, and told me about all the troubles in his work and personal life. This guy has never tried to initiate sex with me, and he didn't this time either. I feel emotionally connected to him, and I like him a lot. But, he's taken and I can't have him. We??re meeting again next week although I don't know if this is a good idea.

Ugh, I feel so torn.

Why bother with either? They're looking for a therapist, not a relationship.

My advice is DON'T IGNORE. It will just make them want to try harder and harder.

Be upfront and clear. If you want the first one out of your life, then tell him so in no uncertain words. If you like the second guy as a friend, then tell him that clearly as well.

Leos need things to be clear and often need things to be repeated. It's the only way you'll get what you want and need.

Get a backbone and stop listening to their sob stories.

Cap up or go sit in the pity palace.