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Went on a first date with this Capricorn man and he asked me a lot of questions including what I like to do with friends, where we go and where they live. When I asked what about himself. He goes I don't have many friends. I work from home and at my free time I stay at home, listen to music, watch TV or go out fine dining (by himself)

I found this really odd. At the end of the date he said I think we get on really well! I couldn't help but said you sure? you were falling asleep... He goes only because it's late now and I had 2 drinks.Then he said lets touch base during the week and see if we want to do this again? I said ok. Then he walked me to my cab.

I get that not everyone likes to have a big circle, but surely we all have a friend or 2 that are close? it's quality right? When he said he has no friends everyone are business contacts came to me as a shock.. and possibly red flag?
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there is no red flag, is testing you and he has prob a lot of secret
Yes I had a feeling he has a lot of secrets too, he asked about how close am I to my family and how often I see my parents, when I turn the question at him. He didn't seem to fond of his own parents. He also have dispute with his brother as his brother was working for him.

I just have a feeling that there must be a reason he has no friends and not close to his family.

I was surprised that he thinks we got along really well since our talk was very surface and nothing deep. I couldn't help but asked you really think we did? as he was getting sleepy towards the end. he said only because it's late like 10pm.

he then said lets touch base during the week and see if we wanna do this again. I said ok. Been 4 days haven't heard from him.
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My cap told me exactly the same thing so...they might just not be that social. I find it odd too but if they like it that way so be it, we all have our choices in life. But one thing I don't get is what wealthy has to do with friends? lol
We all need solitude to unwind and reflection, but having absolutely no close relationship in his life does make you wonder why?

Oh being wealthy as it he has to be great at net working to get to where he is now. meaning he has to be great at forming close relationship yet he has none in personal life? makes me wodner
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Went on a first date with this Capricorn man and he asked me a lot of questions including what I like to do with friends, where we go and where they live. When I asked what about himself. He goes I don't have many friends. I work from home and at my free time I stay at home, listen to music, watch TV or go out fine dining (by himself)

I found this really odd. At the end of the date he said I think we get on really well! I couldn't help but said you sure? you were falling asleep... He goes only because it's late now and I had 2 drinks.Then he said lets touch base during the week and see if we want to do this again? I said ok. Then he walked me to my cab.

I get that not everyone likes to have a big circle, but surely we all have a friend or 2 that are close? it's quality right? When he said he has no friends everyone are business contacts came to me as a shock.. and possibly red flag?
does the question ......does bill gates have alot of friends?



does having so many facebook peeps mean Mark Zuckerberg is into friendship? lol



who has time for friends? ohhh yeah...gangsters. people who need community and comradreship...

soldiers, people in jobs like the military who need to support eachother.
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My cap told me exactly the same thing so...they might just not be that social. I find it odd too but if they like it that way so be it, we all have our choices in life. But one thing I don't get is what wealthy has to do with friends? lol
We all need solitude to unwind and reflection, but having absolutely no close relationship in his life does make you wonder why?

Oh being wealthy as it he has to be great at net working to get to where he is now. meaning he has to be great at forming close relationship yet he has none in personal life? makes me wodner

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Trust me I get your concern completely, I thought exactly the same. But...they have serious trust issues so working with people closely has nothing to do with being friends with them. They're just not that social I guess and prefer staying at home time over socializing. They have people they meet occasionally ofc but they don't call them friends lol if you get to know him more you'll see it's like this in fact. Maybe check his profiles on social medias etc if he has them and you'll see some photos with some people but he doesn't do that hanging out often and doesn't keep much in touch with those people. I'm an outgoing person who socializes a lot and find this strange as well but I made my piece with it that they are just like that. They're introverted and calm people who need forever to open up and build trust which makes them kinda distanced from socializing

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My cap told me exactly the same thing so...they might just not be that social. I find it odd too but if they like it that way so be it, we all have our choices in life. But one thing I don't get is what wealthy has to do with friends? lol
We all need solitude to unwind and reflection, but having absolutely no close relationship in his life does make you wonder why?

Oh being wealthy as it he has to be great at net working to get to where he is now. meaning he has to be great at forming close relationship yet he has none in personal life? makes me wodner



Trust me I get your concern completely, I thought exactly the same. But...they have serious trust issues so working with people closely has nothing to do with being friends with them. They're just not that social I guess and prefer staying at home time over socializing. They have people they meet occasionally ofc but they don't call them friends lol if you get to know him more you'll see it's like this in fact. Maybe check his profiles on social medias etc if he has them and you'll see some photos with some people but he doesn't do that hanging out often and doesn't keep much in touch with those people. I'm an outgoing person who socializes a lot and find this strange as well but I made my piece with it that they are just like that. They're introverted and calm people who need forever to open up and build trust which makes them kinda distanced from socializing

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He doesn't even go out with anyone, but whatever floats his boats. He doesn't have facebook. he did show me his instargam it only has 3 photos or random objects and it's private. he wanted to see mine but I didn't let him, I told him I want to focus on real life interaction when I'm starting to get to know someone. He asked me about 10 times that night. At the end he said haven't we talk enough? can I see it now? I'm intrigued because you have so many followers!

I didn't tell him, at the end he said he thinks we are getting along reeally well (surprised to me) I said you sure? you are now falling asleep.. he said only because he had 2 drinks and it's 10 pm... anyway haven't heard from him for 4 days.
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Went on a first date with this Capricorn man and he asked me a lot of questions including what I like to do with friends, where we go and where they live. When I asked what about himself. He goes I don't have many friends. I work from home and at my free time I stay at home, listen to music, watch TV or go out fine dining (by himself)

I found this really odd. At the end of the date he said I think we get on really well! I couldn't help but said you sure? you were falling asleep... He goes only because it's late now and I had 2 drinks.Then he said lets touch base during the week and see if we want to do this again? I said ok. Then he walked me to my cab.

I get that not everyone likes to have a big circle, but surely we all have a friend or 2 that are close? it's quality right? When he said he has no friends everyone are business contacts came to me as a shock.. and possibly red flag?
Absolutely nothing wrong with fine dining on your own with your expensive shoes for company
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Went on a first date with this Capricorn man and he asked me a lot of questions including what I like to do with friends, where we go and where they live. When I asked what about himself. He goes I don't have many friends. I work from home and at my free time I stay at home, listen to music, watch TV or go out fine dining (by himself)

I found this really odd. At the end of the date he said I think we get on really well! I couldn't help but said you sure? you were falling asleep... He goes only because it's late now and I had 2 drinks.Then he said lets touch base during the week and see if we want to do this again? I said ok. Then he walked me to my cab.

I get that not everyone likes to have a big circle, but surely we all have a friend or 2 that are close? it's quality right? When he said he has no friends everyone are business contacts came to me as a shock.. and possibly red flag?
I think him saying he has none might not be true. My cap has only 1 close friend and they/we meet up every few weeks for beer & talk. Everyone is busy with their lifes but that doesnt affect the time if we meet up. But imagine your cap also has only one close friend and they had a fight or something happened to that friend... it's easy to fall from one true friend to none.

Doesn't have to say something negative about him 🙂
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They're extremely jealous that's why he wants to see it to check how it looks like, how people react to you, what kind of photos you post, are there other guys interested etc. Mine's insta looks just like that too lol and yes he doesn't go out too. But he does have facebook with quite some photos so I could analyze him a bit more. I know all that sounds confusing at start but with jealousy it will be even more confusing too lol but overall I believe they're good, smart and hard working people which is why I kept contact with mine and fell for him even though I find all that a bit odd to me. About not contacting you I read before they don't really initiate contact much and mine said it by himself that he wanted to talk to me long before he did. Also If I don't contact him first for some time he would ask why cause he expected me to write first lol anyway, even he seems odd, in his own world he isn't is just a normal Cap.If you want throw him some random message to check up on him, how he's been etc or just wait and see if he'll write first
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I'm also cap heavy and I have 2 childhood friends now living in different countries - we barely hear from another but when then its always very heartfelt. We haven't seen eachother since 2009.

In general I have only one close friend at a time - so if it fails I'm left with none. But that's totally fine for me because I know there will be more in the future and I'll meet the right people who truly fit in my life! I drop people in general very quick if they don't longer fit in my life or if they betrayed me.

At parties I'm a very social and popular goofball everyone likes, no one thinks that I'm a lone wolf in private 🙂
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They're extremely jealous that's why he wants to see it to check how it looks like, how people react to you, what kind of photos you post, are there other guys interested etc. Mine's insta looks just like that too lol and yes he doesn't go out too. But he does have facebook with quite some photos so I could analyze him a bit more. I know all that sounds confusing at start but with jealousy it will be even more confusing too lol but overall I believe they're good, smart and hard working people which is why I kept contact with mine and fell for him even though I find all that a bit odd to me. About not contacting you I read before they don't really initiate contact much and mine said it by himself that he wanted to talk to me long before he did. Also If I don't contact him first for some time he would ask why cause he expected me to write first lol anyway, even he seems odd, in his own world he isn't is just a normal Cap.If you want throw him some random message to check up on him, how he's been etc or just wait and see if he'll write first
I get what you are saying, my insta is not just for personal use, it's for sponsored post and content. He doens't need to be there.

The thing is this guy is an alpha male, would this make difference to his preference on making contact?

We kinda started on the wrong foot, when he called me to arrange for first date I mistaken him as somsone else and was really cold to him, I realized later on so I text him the next day to let him know when am I free. He ignored me for a day then said his phone was playing up and dind't see it until then. he picked a day but no solid time. Then he text me on that day just before noon. I'ts like he was playuing by the book lol he knows it's only acceptable if he confirms plan before noon.
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I defer strongly between colleagues and friends. He might have some colleagues he talks to, gets drinks with but that doesn't mean he sees them as friends. In the company I worked I had douzen of colleagues, it was all nice and fun to grab a beer from time to time, go for linch with them but that's it for me.
He doesn't have colleagues they are all his employees. He owns business and he doesn't socialize with his employees either.

I get what you saying though as I can relate to how you feel about socializing with your colleagues

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Went on a first date with this Capricorn man and he asked me a lot of questions including what I like to do with friends, where we go and where they live. When I asked what about himself. He goes I don't have many friends. I work from home and at my free time I stay at home, listen to music, watch TV or go out fine dining (by himself)

I found this really odd. At the end of the date he said I think we get on really well! I couldn't help but said you sure? you were falling asleep... He goes only because it's late now and I had 2 drinks.Then he said lets touch base during the week and see if we want to do this again? I said ok. Then he walked me to my cab.

I get that not everyone likes to have a big circle, but surely we all have a friend or 2 that are close? it's quality right? When he said he has no friends everyone are business contacts came to me as a shock.. and possibly red flag?
I think him saying he has none might not be true. My cap has only 1 close friend and they/we meet up every few weeks for beer & talk. Everyone is busy with their lifes but that doesnt affect the time if we meet up. But imagine your cap also has only one close friend and they had a fight or something happened to that friend... it's easy to fall from one true friend to none.

Doesn't have to say something negative about him 🙂
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i likeyour profile. lol

reminds me i need to update mine.



my husband too, very few close friends.

it seems like he has only two. and he hangs out with me more. and his guy friends love hanging out with their women more. lol
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Well we are always changing. Some people had very close friends and then people drift apart, some fall out, some lose the emotional connection even when being near each other. Might be common with Caps since we don't know how to express ourselves, and imagine if we trust you completely and then things become bad, how much heartache would that cause?

We get attached a lot but with time and it's harsh lessons learn to have boundaries and have only a few close friends or just acquaintances. Even then we might sometimes reflect and think of the friends we had once, wish we could enjoy their company once again maybe that is why he wanted to see your Instagram just to see how wonderful your life is since you have a lot of followers.

Might be a broken Cap you have found. He might have a lot of baggage.
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there is no red flag, is testing you and he has prob a lot of secret
what type of testing?
you dont becoming rich easily, he's trying to see your true personnality
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got it, you mean like he was trying to see if I was a gold digger? after after all those questions he kept saying you are a really nice person, you are really beautiful. you will have really beautiful children.. I was like thank you..

anywya he hasn't been in touch even he told me he thinks we got along really well (i ddin't feel that way as I felt like he was low on emotion side and he was just interogating me)
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Well we are always changing. Some people had very close friends and then people drift apart, some fall out, some lose the emotional connection even when being near each other. Might be common with Caps since we don't know how to express ourselves, and imagine if we trust you completely and then things become bad, how much heartache would that cause?

We get attached a lot but with time and it's harsh lessons learn to have boundaries and have only a few close friends or just acquaintances. Even then we might sometimes reflect and think of the friends we had once, wish we could enjoy their company once again maybe that is why he wanted to see your Instagram just to see how wonderful your life is since you have a lot of followers.

Might be a broken Cap you have found. He might have a lot of baggage.
yea I sensed lots of baggage and emotional unavailability
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I defer strongly between colleagues and friends. He might have some colleagues he talks to, gets drinks with but that doesn't mean he sees them as friends. In the company I worked I had douzen of colleagues, it was all nice and fun to grab a beer from time to time, go for linch with them but that's it for me.
He doesn't have colleagues they are all his employees. He owns business and he doesn't socialize with his employees either.

I get what you saying though as I can relate to how you feel about socializing with your colleagues

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Ok that's another thing. As a boss you have to keep distance to a point
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Went on a first date with this Capricorn man and he asked me a lot of questions including what I like to do with friends, where we go and where they live. When I asked what about himself. He goes I don't have many friends. I work from home and at my free time I stay at home, listen to music, watch TV or go out fine dining (by himself)

I found this really odd. At the end of the date he said I think we get on really well! I couldn't help but said you sure? you were falling asleep... He goes only because it's late now and I had 2 drinks.Then he said lets touch base during the week and see if we want to do this again? I said ok. Then he walked me to my cab.

I get that not everyone likes to have a big circle, but surely we all have a friend or 2 that are close? it's quality right? When he said he has no friends everyone are business contacts came to me as a shock.. and possibly red flag?
I think him saying he has none might not be true. My cap has only 1 close friend and they/we meet up every few weeks for beer & talk. Everyone is busy with their lifes but that doesnt affect the time if we meet up. But imagine your cap also has only one close friend and they had a fight or something happened to that friend... it's easy to fall from one true friend to none.

Doesn't have to say something negative about him 🙂
i likeyour profile. lol

reminds me i need to update mine.



my husband too, very few close friends.

it seems like he has only two. and he hangs out with me more. and his guy friends love hanging out with their women more. lol
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Nothing better than hang out time with the spouse 😎 But honestly I can't wait for us to grab a huuuuge beer after pregnancy, smoke and talk all night when we can give our babyboy to his mum for an evening/night. We want to keep our date nights once a month to go dancing, dining or whatever we feel like.. keeping romance alive. Although we wont be able to do so in the first 3 months but we don't want to lose us as wife and husband
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the only way to tell is to get to know him a bit further

if his life style doesn't impact yours, what would be the big deal

he might just be a very private person, focusing on career - plus some men do not usually have "friends" anyway - some do some don't

sure would be a good thing if you two hit it off and he spent time with you only and your family and friends but had none of his own - that would work for me anyway ...

I don't know - I just don't think it's that bad of a thing - especially if he is like 100% focused on his work and making $ $ $
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Went on a first date with this Capricorn man and he asked me a lot of questions including what I like to do with friends, where we go and where they live. When I asked what about himself. He goes I don't have many friends. I work from home and at my free time I stay at home, listen to music, watch TV or go out fine dining (by himself)

I found this really odd. At the end of the date he said I think we get on really well! I couldn't help but said you sure? you were falling asleep... He goes only because it's late now and I had 2 drinks.Then he said lets touch base during the week and see if we want to do this again? I said ok. Then he walked me to my cab.

I get that not everyone likes to have a big circle, but surely we all have a friend or 2 that are close? it's quality right? When he said he has no friends everyone are business contacts came to me as a shock.. and possibly red flag?
I think him saying he has none might not be true. My cap has only 1 close friend and they/we meet up every few weeks for beer & talk. Everyone is busy with their lifes but that doesnt affect the time if we meet up. But imagine your cap also has only one close friend and they had a fight or something happened to that friend... it's easy to fall from one true friend to none.

Doesn't have to say something negative about him 🙂
i likeyour profile. lol

reminds me i need to update mine.



my husband too, very few close friends.

it seems like he has only two. and he hangs out with me more. and his guy friends love hanging out with their women more. lol
Nothing better than hang out time with the spouse 😎 But honestly I can't wait for us to grab a huuuuge beer after pregnancy, smoke and talk all night when we can give our babyboy to his mum for an evening/night. We want to keep our date nights once a month to go dancing, dining or whatever we feel like.. keeping romance alive. Although we wont be able to do so in the first 3 months but we don't want to lose us as wife and husband
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having SAME life goals is awesome.

you dont have to worry about anything later in the road, future, because one party is pissed off that they didnt get their way.

and yes, having date nights together is even BETTER.



you know that later when the children are grown, you love eachother's company....

not because your only goal was to have children and then hate eachother later cause you hate eachother's company.
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Went on a first date with this Capricorn man and he asked me a lot of questions including what I like to do with friends, where we go and where they live. When I asked what about himself. He goes I don't have many friends. I work from home and at my free time I stay at home, listen to music, watch TV or go out fine dining (by himself)

I found this really odd. At the end of the date he said I think we get on really well! I couldn't help but said you sure? you were falling asleep... He goes only because it's late now and I had 2 drinks.Then he said lets touch base during the week and see if we want to do this again? I said ok. Then he walked me to my cab.

I get that not everyone likes to have a big circle, but surely we all have a friend or 2 that are close? it's quality right? When he said he has no friends everyone are business contacts came to me as a shock.. and possibly red flag?
I think him saying he has none might not be true. My cap has only 1 close friend and they/we meet up every few weeks for beer & talk. Everyone is busy with their lifes but that doesnt affect the time if we meet up. But imagine your cap also has only one close friend and they had a fight or something happened to that friend... it's easy to fall from one true friend to none.

Doesn't have to say something negative about him 🙂
i likeyour profile. lol

reminds me i need to update mine.



my husband too, very few close friends.

it seems like he has only two. and he hangs out with me more. and his guy friends love hanging out with their women more. lol
Nothing better than hang out time with the spouse 😎 But honestly I can't wait for us to grab a huuuuge beer after pregnancy, smoke and talk all night when we can give our babyboy to his mum for an evening/night. We want to keep our date nights once a month to go dancing, dining or whatever we feel like.. keeping romance alive. Although we wont be able to do so in the first 3 months but we don't want to lose us as wife and husband


having SAME life goals is awesome.

you dont have to worry about anything later in the road, future, because one party is pissed off that they didnt get their way.

and yes, having date nights together is even BETTER.



you know that later when the children are grown, you love eachother's company....

not because your only goal was to have children and then hate eachother later cause you hate eachother's company.
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You got it!!!

My parents didnt go out dining or dancing. Romance was dead and they were very unhappy. My father serial cheating didnt make it better lol

When its date night I get all dolled up and hubby can wine and dine the shit out of me 😎 We loooove it
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the only way to tell is to get to know him a bit further

if his life style doesn't impact yours, what would be the big deal

he might just be a very private person, focusing on career - plus some men do not usually have "friends" anyway - some do some don't

sure would be a good thing if you two hit it off and he spent time with you only and your family and friends but had none of his own - that would work for me anyway ...

I don't know - I just don't think it's that bad of a thing - especially if he is like 100% focused on his work and making $ $ $
agree with this, it is the first date, go on more, and figure out who he is and if you like him. If you dont then dont go on more dates.
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Went on a first date with this Capricorn man and he asked me a lot of questions including what I like to do with friends, where we go and where they live. When I asked what about himself. He goes I don't have many friends. I work from home and at my free time I stay at home, listen to music, watch TV or go out fine dining (by himself)

I found this really odd. At the end of the date he said I think we get on really well! I couldn't help but said you sure? you were falling asleep... He goes only because it's late now and I had 2 drinks.Then he said lets touch base during the week and see if we want to do this again? I said ok. Then he walked me to my cab.

I get that not everyone likes to have a big circle, but surely we all have a friend or 2 that are close? it's quality right? When he said he has no friends everyone are business contacts came to me as a shock.. and possibly red flag?
I think him saying he has none might not be true. My cap has only 1 close friend and they/we meet up every few weeks for beer & talk. Everyone is busy with their lifes but that doesnt affect the time if we meet up. But imagine your cap also has only one close friend and they had a fight or something happened to that friend... it's easy to fall from one true friend to none.

Doesn't have to say something negative about him 🙂
i likeyour profile. lol

reminds me i need to update mine.



my husband too, very few close friends.

it seems like he has only two. and he hangs out with me more. and his guy friends love hanging out with their women more. lol
Nothing better than hang out time with the spouse 😎 But honestly I can't wait for us to grab a huuuuge beer after pregnancy, smoke and talk all night when we can give our babyboy to his mum for an evening/night. We want to keep our date nights once a month to go dancing, dining or whatever we feel like.. keeping romance alive. Although we wont be able to do so in the first 3 months but we don't want to lose us as wife and husband


having SAME life goals is awesome.

you dont have to worry about anything later in the road, future, because one party is pissed off that they didnt get their way.

and yes, having date nights together is even BETTER.



you know that later when the children are grown, you love eachother's company....

not because your only goal was to have children and then hate eachother later cause you hate eachother's company.
You got it!!!

My parents didnt go out dining or dancing. Romance was dead and they were very unhappy. My father serial cheating didnt make it better lol

When its date night I get all dolled up and hubby can wine and dine the shit out of me 😎 We loooove it

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sorry to hear that about your parents.



we all learn from other people's mistakes and failures. even from our own.

good to hear you're doing good with your man.
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the only way to tell is to get to know him a bit further

if his life style doesn't impact yours, what would be the big deal

he might just be a very private person, focusing on career - plus some men do not usually have "friends" anyway - some do some don't

sure would be a good thing if you two hit it off and he spent time with you only and your family and friends but had none of his own - that would work for me anyway ...

I don't know - I just don't think it's that bad of a thing - especially if he is like 100% focused on his work and making $ $ $
agree with this, it is the first date, go on more, and figure out who he is and if you like him. If you dont then dont go on more dates.

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Went on a first date with this Capricorn man and he asked me a lot of questions including what I like to do with friends, where we go and where they live. When I asked what about himself. He goes I don't have many friends. I work from home and at my free time I stay at home, listen to music, watch TV or go out fine dining (by himself)

I found this really odd. At the end of the date he said I think we get on really well! I couldn't help but said you sure? you were falling asleep... He goes only because it's late now and I had 2 drinks.Then he said lets touch base during the week and see if we want to do this again? I said ok. Then he walked me to my cab.

I get that not everyone likes to have a big circle, but surely we all have a friend or 2 that are close? it's quality right? When he said he has no friends everyone are business contacts came to me as a shock.. and possibly red flag?
I can totally picture this kind of guy... he is emotionally unavailable to everyone which is why he has no personal relationships. Being good at networking just means he’s good in business dealings and with his comment to you “let’s touch base” is completely a business phrase lol. This poor guy... he needs to breakthrough the wall. Maybe give him another shot but something tells me it won’t work out as he may be looking for a trophy wife.
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there is no red flag, is testing you and he has prob a lot of secret
Yes I had a feeling he has a lot of secrets too, he asked about how close am I to my family and how often I see my parents, when I turn the question at him. He didn't seem to fond of his own parents. He also have dispute with his brother as his brother was working for him.

I just have a feeling that there must be a reason he has no friends and not close to his family.

I was surprised that he thinks we got along really well since our talk was very surface and nothing deep. I couldn't help but asked you really think we did? as he was getting sleepy towards the end. he said only because it's late like 10pm.

he then said lets touch base during the week and see if we wanna do this again. I said ok. Been 4 days haven't heard from him.
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“Let’s touch base” just means whoever reaches out first. It means balls in anyone’s court. If you want, reach out so he knows you are interested.
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Posted by StrawberryJam
Went on a first date with this Capricorn man and he asked me a lot of questions including what I like to do with friends, where we go and where they live. When I asked what about himself. He goes I don't have many friends. I work from home and at my free time I stay at home, listen to music, watch TV or go out fine dining (by himself)

I found this really odd. At the end of the date he said I think we get on really well! I couldn't help but said you sure? you were falling asleep... He goes only because it's late now and I had 2 drinks.Then he said lets touch base during the week and see if we want to do this again? I said ok. Then he walked me to my cab.

I get that not everyone likes to have a big circle, but surely we all have a friend or 2 that are close? it's quality right? When he said he has no friends everyone are business contacts came to me as a shock.. and possibly red flag?
From my experience it's a huge red flag because it shows their abilities at not only creating connections but also maintaining. In his case lack of abilities. The insight and social skills required to maintain friendships would be the basis of maintaining good romantic relationships because it would teach them communication, compromise, vulnerability, give/take etc.

Ok, so may be he doesn't have "friends" but what about any close family ties? If he's close with family members then it would be less of a red flag by a lot. Also how about his previous romantic relationships?

Also, dating a guy who doesn't have friends to hang out with or to vent to would may be bring more expectation/burden on your relationship.
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there is no red flag, is testing you and he has prob a lot of secret
Yes I had a feeling he has a lot of secrets too, he asked about how close am I to my family and how often I see my parents, when I turn the question at him. He didn't seem to fond of his own parents. He also have dispute with his brother as his brother was working for him.

I just have a feeling that there must be a reason he has no friends and not close to his family.

I was surprised that he thinks we got along really well since our talk was very surface and nothing deep. I couldn't help but asked you really think we did? as he was getting sleepy towards the end. he said only because it's late like 10pm.

he then said lets touch base during the week and see if we wanna do this again. I said ok. Been 4 days haven't heard from him.
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Run.
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there is no red flag, is testing you and he has prob a lot of secret
Yes I had a feeling he has a lot of secrets too, he asked about how close am I to my family and how often I see my parents, when I turn the question at him. He didn't seem to fond of his own parents. He also have dispute with his brother as his brother was working for him.

I just have a feeling that there must be a reason he has no friends and not close to his family.

I was surprised that he thinks we got along really well since our talk was very surface and nothing deep. I couldn't help but asked you really think we did? as he was getting sleepy towards the end. he said only because it's late like 10pm.

he then said lets touch base during the week and see if we wanna do this again. I said ok. Been 4 days haven't heard from him.
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I see one red flag with a few potential red flags.

1. He said ‘let’s touch base during the week and see if we wanna do this again’.

He’s not interested. If he was then he’d have directly asked you out for a second date there and then or at least within 24 hours. I wouldn’t worry about it. Sometimes you date people and it’s not a match. It’s not you or him, it just doesn’t match.

I see his remarks about friends and/or his closed approach to dating to be a potential red flag.

For a first date, I don’t expect people to spill their guts but a reasonable level of openness is important to me. It shows they’re genuinely interested in meeting someone and they are willing to share a part of themselves. This is required for any future relationship regardless of who they end up with.

The other potential red flag is the social aspect. You might be more social and that’s important to you. If you chose someone considerably more introverted who doesn’t value or enjoy social occasions then you’ll get frustrated that they don’t want to enjoy that with you.

Frankly, I get the impression this guy might only be luke warm for a relationship anyway. You need to find someone who is available and red hot for a relationship, and who matches with you more.

If this guy bothers to contact you again, and I don’t think he will unless he’s bored, and no one wants to be his gap filler, then I’d suggest not bothering with him and fill your time by dating better prospective partners.

Keep us updated though!
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because they are users. they use any relationship usually if its only beneficial in some way, hence why hes wealthy. tbh the caps i know dont have friends period. they only form work relationships or a relationship that can help them advance in some way for gain. i met my cap at work and i have only met 1 or 2 of his friends he said he doesnt have any lol.

if the OP is beneficial in some way hell def keep contact lol
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^ I'll have to disagree on the "red hot" for the relationship. It's just first couple of dates which is meant for getting to know each other phase. How can you be red hot for someone you don't even know.

Anyways, I wouldn't just his interest level so early on but rather some red flags about who he is as a person.
Red hot for a relationship.

Not red hot for a particular person.

As in, if OP is looking for a relationship then OP needs to spend time dating men who are also looking to have a relationship. Men who have figured out that they are looking for a relationship. You’ll have more success with those rather than the ones who either haven’t figured out what they’re looking for, are looking for something else, or who aren’t quite sure what they want which makes them only luke warm.

Hyperthetically speaking, if you had two guys, exactly the same, matched you quite well, but one is looking for a relationship and the one isn’t looking for a relation/not sure what he wants, which one would be better to date?

This guy showed OP his level of interest in her by not asking her out for a second date.

Any red flags about him as a person are now irrelevant.

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^ I'll have to disagree on the "red hot" for the relationship. It's just first couple of dates which is meant for getting to know each other phase. How can you be red hot for someone you don't even know.

Anyways, I wouldn't just his interest level so early on but rather some red flags about who he is as a person.
Red hot for a relationship.

Not red hot for a particular person.

As in, if OP is looking for a relationship then OP needs to spend time dating men who are also looking to have a relationship. Men who have figured out that they are looking for a relationship. You’ll have more success with those rather than the ones who either haven’t figured out what they’re looking for, are looking for something else, or who aren’t quite sure what they want which makes them only luke warm.

Hyperthetically speaking, if you had two guys, exactly the same, matched you quite well, but one is looking for a relationship and the one isn’t looking for a relation/not sure what he wants, which one would be better to date?

This guy showed OP his level of interest in her by not asking her out for a second date.

Any red flags about him as a person are now irrelevant.

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Makes sense.
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Went on a first date with this Capricorn man and he asked me a lot of questions including what I like to do with friends, where we go and where they live. When I asked what about himself. He goes I don't have many friends. I work from home and at my free time I stay at home, listen to music, watch TV or go out fine dining (by himself)

I found this really odd. At the end of the date he said I think we get on really well! I couldn't help but said you sure? you were falling asleep... He goes only because it's late now and I had 2 drinks.Then he said lets touch base during the week and see if we want to do this again? I said ok. Then he walked me to my cab.

I get that not everyone likes to have a big circle, but surely we all have a friend or 2 that are close? it's quality right? When he said he has no friends everyone are business contacts came to me as a shock.. and possibly red flag?
I think him saying he has none might not be true. My cap has only 1 close friend and they/we meet up every few weeks for beer & talk. Everyone is busy with their lifes but that doesnt affect the time if we meet up. But imagine your cap also has only one close friend and they had a fight or something happened to that friend... it's easy to fall from one true friend to none.

Doesn't have to say something negative about him 🙂
i likeyour profile. lol

reminds me i need to update mine.



my husband too, very few close friends.

it seems like he has only two. and he hangs out with me more. and his guy friends love hanging out with their women more. lol
Nothing better than hang out time with the spouse 😎 But honestly I can't wait for us to grab a huuuuge beer after pregnancy, smoke and talk all night when we can give our babyboy to his mum for an evening/night. We want to keep our date nights once a month to go dancing, dining or whatever we feel like.. keeping romance alive. Although we wont be able to do so in the first 3 months but we don't want to lose us as wife and husband
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Thats nice, best of luck to your pregnancy!
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I think it's more sad than anything.

Does he have family at least?
he has parents but he is not close to them, i asked how often you see them. he coudln't even look at me, he jst said idk whenever it's not regular. He has a brother but doesn't talk to anymore cos of disagreement. his bro used to work for him. he only talks to his sister and sees her kinda regularly
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Posted by StrawberryJam
Went on a first date with this Capricorn man and he asked me a lot of questions including what I like to do with friends, where we go and where they live. When I asked what about himself. He goes I don't have many friends. I work from home and at my free time I stay at home, listen to music, watch TV or go out fine dining (by himself)

I found this really odd. At the end of the date he said I think we get on really well! I couldn't help but said you sure? you were falling asleep... He goes only because it's late now and I had 2 drinks.Then he said lets touch base during the week and see if we want to do this again? I said ok. Then he walked me to my cab.

I get that not everyone likes to have a big circle, but surely we all have a friend or 2 that are close? it's quality right? When he said he has no friends everyone are business contacts came to me as a shock.. and possibly red flag?
I think him saying he has none might not be true. My cap has only 1 close friend and they/we meet up every few weeks for beer & talk. Everyone is busy with their lifes but that doesnt affect the time if we meet up. But imagine your cap also has only one close friend and they had a fight or something happened to that friend... it's easy to fall from one true friend to none.

Doesn't have to say something negative about him 🙂
i likeyour profile. lol

reminds me i need to update mine.



my husband too, very few close friends.

it seems like he has only two. and he hangs out with me more. and his guy friends love hanging out with their women more. lol
Nothing better than hang out time with the spouse 😎 But honestly I can't wait for us to grab a huuuuge beer after pregnancy, smoke and talk all night when we can give our babyboy to his mum for an evening/night. We want to keep our date nights once a month to go dancing, dining or whatever we feel like.. keeping romance alive. Although we wont be able to do so in the first 3 months but we don't want to lose us as wife and husband
Thats nice, best of luck to your pregnancy!
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Thank u so much 🌷
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