What is The Difference?

Generally, what are the differences between a Capricorn who sees you only as a female friend vs him seeing you as someone he can potentially be with? We met a year and a half ago and spent some time getting to know each other before it turned into a long-distance friendship. He's always there for me when I need him, even when I know he's busy at work (which is often), no matter how silly my requests for help are. He even told me that he'll be there whenever I need him.

How far is the long distance?

It's 6 hours difference and yes, he has a venus in aqua. Yikes! He has also said that he wants us to keep talking and when we fight, he has shown efforts in making sure we patch things up. Most times, it feels like we're together but sometimes, I can't help but wonder if there are others. He doesn't talk about other girls with me either.

Long distance relationships are a challenge! Didn't work for me. But if you're that into him, you should just ask him if he sees a more serious relationship possibly occurring with you.

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It's 6 hours difference and yes, he has a venus in aqua. Yikes! He has also said that he wants us to keep talking and when we fight, he has shown efforts in making sure we patch things up. Most times, it feels like we're together but sometimes, I can't help but wonder if there are others. He doesn't talk about other girls with me either.

They may not see it that way....but in my personal experience....that's exactly how it feels. You really never know unless they say it.

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What do you mean by they might not see it that way? That he might only see this as just a friendship? I wish I knew if there's something to look out for. But I think you guys are right - it has to come from him for me to know for certain.

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It's 6 hours difference and yes, he has a venus in aqua. Yikes! He has also said that he wants us to keep talking and when we fight, he has shown efforts in making sure we patch things up. Most times, it feels like we're together but sometimes, I can't help but wonder if there are others. He doesn't talk about other girls with me either.

They may not see it that way....but in my personal experience....that's exactly how it feels. You really never know unless they say it.

What do you mean by they might not see it that way? That he might only see this as just a friendship? I wish I knew if there's something to look out for. But I think you guys are right - it has to come from him for me to know for certain.

I think she means we tend to act the same way regardless so it can be hard for people to decipher the difference. People misjudge our friendliness as interest and vice versa.

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I agree with this, although my venus is in sag.

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It's 6 hours difference and yes, he has a venus in aqua. Yikes! He has also said that he wants us to keep talking and when we fight, he has shown efforts in making sure we patch things up. Most times, it feels like we're together but sometimes, I can't help but wonder if there are others. He doesn't talk about other girls with me either.

They may not see it that way....but in my personal experience....that's exactly how it feels. You really never know unless they say it.

What do you mean by they might not see it that way? That he might only see this as just a friendship? I wish I knew if there's something to look out for. But I think you guys are right - it has to come from him for me to know for certain.

They might not realise they are giving off romantic vibes even though it's quite obvious to everyone else

One time I thought I was in a relationship with one and I was then told..."I am nice to you because I am nice to everyone."

lol...that stung a little bit.

You really need to ask so it's clear on both sides.

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Aha, I see. So I should keep my options open and not think too much into it. Which is fine now that I know that misunderstandings may happen with them sometimes. I really do like keeping in touch with him but the distance is definitely a huge factor too. He loves my country and wishes to visit often once he is financially more stable. Being in a relationship will just bring extra pressure to an already difficult situation. Thank you so much for everyone's input!

.."I am nice to you because I am nice to everyone."



Daaayyyyuuuumm... lol...lowkey, that would really hurt me.



We say fuked up stuff like that and not realize it. Once this Cancer guy told me that he's always felt like we had a strogg "connection" and I disagreed, and told him he's a good friend.

A Cap friend told me once (he's moved away a while back for his career), when I was dating a guy he didn't particularly like that he would take so much better care of me, amd he would be better for me and he kept coming at me even with him knowing I had a bf. So I had to cut him off, but in the back of my mind, I knew his words were true.

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@Greentea

Yeah, that hurt. It was seven years ago but it etched itself in my brain and occasionally I will remember it and cringe....it was six months in to what I thought was a pretty good relationship.

Honestly, I have never had a relationship with a cap/venus aqua for longer than six months. That six month mark is when they do something that just shakes up everything and then everything spirals.

The rest of whatever time we spend together after that is a foggy, cloudy and total turmoil.

So....I am half way through our six months this time around....fully preparing myself for what's to come. Lol

I can't speak for him...but I think if he came back to you, it says something huge. We usually don't go back to anyone, so this time may be different. Hang in there. 🙂

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Yeah, that hurt. It was seven years ago but it etched itself in my brain and occasionally I will remember it and cringe....it was six months in to what I thought was a pretty good relationship.

Honestly, I have never had a relationship with a cap/venus aqua for longer than six months. That six month mark is when they do something that just shakes up everything and then everything spirals.

The rest of whatever time we spend together after that is a foggy, cloudy and total turmoil.

So....I am half way through our six months this time around....fully preparing myself for what's to come. Lol

I can't speak for him...but I think if he came back to you, it says something huge. We usually don't go back to anyone, so this time may be different. Hang in there. 🙂

It might be. I will exhale at the end of september.....and enjoy the time spent together until then.

The first time....shame on you.

The second time....shame on me.

The third time...I am probably insane. 😛

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That last one had me rolling!!! Lmao!

Omg I talked with a cap sum Venus aqua for a year before I agreed to meet! Them we had sex a week ago and I don't know what he's thinking, or what will this be

My mother's Cap friend that passed away was with a Cap/Aqua Venus. He told my mother once that she would give him the shirt off her back, but she would do that for everyone, so he didn't feel special.

Posted by scarletvixen
Generally, what are the differences between a Capricorn who sees you only as a female friend vs him seeing you as someone he can potentially be with? We met a year and a half ago and spent some time getting to know each other before it turned into a long-distance friendship. He's always there for me when I need him, even when I know he's busy at work (which is often), no matter how silly my requests for help are. He even told me that he'll be there whenever I need him.

My Cap doesn't have an Aqua Venus, but does have an Aqua moon. I myself have Aqua Rising.

I think the Aqua energy is detached in general so you may never get a full "merge" from them. Because it's so easy to walk away, I think the fact that they don't speaks volumes. Caps in general will probably push something forward in a tangible way if they want to be with the person or see if there is potential.

I am learning so much! Interestingly, the backstory about this friendship is that we got into a fight 6 months into the 'friendship' the first time round because of feelings and totally went no contact on each other for a while. Months later, he started reaching out and when I eventually gave in, he came back and started treating me better than ever.

Now that we've just passed the 6 month mark again, he's wigging out again, hence my question.

And I love that cat and dog analogy because that isn exactly how it feels with him. He said that he wants me to be in his life but he told me to please understand that he needs his time outs too.

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Generally, what are the differences between a Capricorn who sees you only as a female friend vs him seeing you as someone he can potentially be with? We met a year and a half ago and spent some time getting to know each other before it turned into a long-distance friendship. He's always there for me when I need him, even when I know he's busy at work (which is often), no matter how silly my requests for help are. He even told me that he'll be there whenever I need him.

My Cap doesn't have an Aqua Venus, but does have an Aqua moon. I myself have Aqua Rising.

I think the Aqua energy is detached in general so you may never get a full "merge" from them. Because it's so easy to walk away, I think the fact that they don't speaks volumes. Caps in general will probably push something forward in a tangible way if they want to be with the person or see if there is potential.

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We are supposed to meet each other in a few months because I will be in his country for a business trip. A few weeks ago, he pushed my buttons about dating around (the only time in the whole 1 1/2 years we've known each other) before admitting a few days later that he was making plans to visit my country after I'm done with my visit. I really felt like he was testing me with that one.

He probably wasnt testing you, might be unsure at this point in time. When I m still deciding about a person, my Aquarius Venus kind of makes me go to and fro. Some proactiveness on the other persons part will be good, cause I will not go for someone who isnt that into me!

However when I decide on it, I am very committed in my heart. I think the mars has a lot to do with his actions too. The Aquarius moon I m seeing has a Leo Mars and he is the aggressive one in setting dates, msging first 90% of the time etc...

I see... he has a Cap mars but I'm unsure what that means. He's extremely Cappy but with a Leo moon.

Well Cap Mars are domineering like Leo Mars (Fire) but they are more conservative being earth and thus slower to act......actually caps tend to think a bit too much and sometimes gets negative plus his Aquarius Venus.....either he hasnt decide on what he wants or he isnt sure how u feel thus the limbo

Ohhh and one more thing......caps/earth signs are practical.....I really needed a lot of convincing to get into a LDR previously.

For the other potentials I have that are not in the same place as me, I am happy to stay in touch and be there for them whenever. I visit them and likewise they do that too (14hrs flt)......

Posted by ElleDuMonde
if he has venus in aqua....there is no difference.

Nail. May I introduce you to Hammer.

Dayum straight

Long term ex was Cap/Aqua Venus.

I can't even begin to offer you advice.

I will say, if it works out for you, you will never be the same again. Probably in a good way tho

@Jalent99 Got it. I'll keep at it and see where it leads. No sense in pushing him because we've gotten closer overtime and things aren't stagnant. He's still building his career while I'm already very stable with mine so I know that nothing's even going to remotely happen since we're so far away and he has yet to feel secure financially.

@wagtail If there is one thing you'd say I should have lots of when dealing with them, what would it be? I'm hoping it works out but at the same time I know that the best way is to just leave him be whenever he gets into his moods and not ask why he needs space. Honestly, I'm appreciative that he's willing to get back to me immediately although he's busy at work during the day. I've told him that many times but I'm not sure if there is any other way to show him my appreciation for sparing his time in case he's not already aware (which I think he isn't sometimes).

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@wagtail If there is one thing you'd say I should have lots of when dealing with them, what would it be? I'm hoping it works out but at the same time I know that the best way is to just leave him be whenever he gets into his moods and not ask why he needs space. Honestly, I'm appreciative that he's willing to get back to me immediately although he's busy at work during the day. I've told him that many times but I'm not sure if there is any other way to show him my appreciation for sparing his time in case he's not already aware (which I think he isn't sometimes).

I'm so sorry I have no concrete advice for you.

Despite placements etc I still believe everybody is different and things are case by case.

We were in love. And we were pretty much attached at the hip from day one.

It wasn't a long distance situation and we had work in common...

Always verbalise your concerns.

If anything, that's all I could offer. Finding common ground with him. Something that connects you both outside of a romantic passion is a good way to keep a Cap/ Aqua around.

Other than that, don't ever stop being yourself - don't censor who you are for anyone, ever.

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No problem. I tend to agree with you about how everybody is different. I also believe that nurture also plays a huge part as well. I'll definitely keep your advice in mind. If we ever go into 'romantic mode', it's usually one or two lines of it before we're back to talking about other things. Thank you so much for your input!