7 years with a Gem and in need of some help

you should of wore more makeup

The real problem here is not what's going on with him but what's going on with you. You invested 7 years into a man whose not committed to you and gets with other women. Like a prior posted stated, "he's broken." But he's not the only broken on here. You will only find healing when you break away from this man and start to do the hard inner work to find out why you've held on to a dysfunctional relationship? The problem with obsession is that you can't tell the difference between it and real love. But there is a difference and it's HUGE. Real love doesn't make you feel this way. Get out and heal. You won't be ready for real love until you do. Namaste.

I'm sorry to say this but people can't change or fix other people.. and it's not your job to change or fix the guy you're with..

7 years.. personally I can't help but wonder how you've done this.. whatever the issue the gem guy you're with..that is not really fair on you.. I think you need to do yourself a favour.. break away from the guy.. and find and be with some guy who doesn't have issues.. if some guy says that he has issues then that's his problem to sort out, not yours..so do not make their into yours..

Posted by Este8
The real problem here is not what's going on with him but what's going on with you. You invested 7 years into a man whose not committed to you and gets with other women. Like a prior posted stated, "he's broken." But he's not the only broken on here. You will only find healing when you break away from this man and start to do the hard inner work to find out why you've held on to a dysfunctional relationship? The problem with obsession is that you can't tell the difference between it and real love. But there is a difference and it's HUGE. Real love doesn't make you feel this way. Get out and heal. You won't be ready for real love until you do. Namaste.

+1! I agree with this 100% !

Don't give him a choice because he will choose and he will choose the most bitter option.

But as for you what do you want? If you've already told him about your feelings then what else is there for you to do? If he says his afraid he'd lose the spark once he commits.

The guy isn't broken his just not focused in really being in a committed relationship. Most immature guys are like that but their really weak and sensitive. They want to go through hell first before wanting to kick their own balls for being that stupid in the end.

Besides why don't you try taking time out for yourself than beating yourself with a man who doesn't seem to care about you?