@DeeLovesRed
10 Years1,000+ Posts
A Gem I'm close with....
Bitch is crazy to involve herself with a married man and she's not even the main side chick. Insane.
The best advice you can give her is to not spend money on guys. Especially since her own finances are fucked. That's like life 101.
Complicated.
At least be the main side chick though.
Your friend is a lost cause. She won't listen to u & will find out the hard way.
It sounds like she has low self esteem to even be in that situation. Tell her to get therapy.
Posted by NotSoInstant
She is the side chick side chick side chick..... How old is she?
She's 32..
Posted by littlenanobyte
Gross ! Does she think he is worth more than the shit that comes out of his ass?She has no boundaries whatsoever... is she a water gem? (No offense water gems)
I don't see an earth or a fire gem putting up with that bullshit for a second.
Never really did her chart, but I think I should. I'll let you know..
She needs to drop him.... she knows what she wants to do before complaining to you... she just needs a sounding board and assurance. I wouldn't give her the assurance, and as a gem, I wouldn't want you to lie to me... so, tell her like you see it.... let her know that normal ppl wouldn't do this to themselves... be blunt!
Sometimes wee need someone who's blunt in our lives to wake us up from the horrible dream we're living...
Posted by misslissa
She needs to drop him.... she knows what she wants to do before complaining to you... she just needs a sounding board and assurance. I wouldn't give her the assurance, and as a gem, I wouldn't want you to lie to me... so, tell her like you see it.... let her know that normal ppl wouldn't do this to themselves... be blunt!Sometimes wee need someone who's blunt in our lives to wake us up from the horrible dream we're living...
That's exactly what I want to do... Like c'mon, he's using her. And I know it... he's still married.. why is he still married, he doesn't have any legal issue, so why the hell is he still married. He must want to keep the marriage just in case anything else goes wrong.
He's living with his mistress, like he couldn't even divorce his wife for his mistress.. What makes you think he'll leave his mistress for YOU.. especially since he doesn't have any kids with you.. The common denominator in the other women's case is children.... And it breaks my heart, because she's like an older sis which I never had.
Posted by misslissa
She needs to drop him.... she knows what she wants to do before complaining to you... she just needs a sounding board and assurance. I wouldn't give her the assurance, and as a gem, I wouldn't want you to lie to me... so, tell her like you see it.... let her know that normal ppl wouldn't do this to themselves... be blunt!Sometimes wee need someone who's blunt in our lives to wake us up from the horrible dream we're living...
That's exactly what I want to do... Like c'mon, he's using her. And I know it... he's still married.. why is he still married, he doesn't have any legal issue, so why the hell is he still married. He must want to keep the marriage just in case anything else goes wrong.
He's living with his mistress, like he couldn't even divorce his wife for his mistress.. What makes you think he'll leave his mistress for YOU.. especially since he doesn't have any kids with you.. The common denominator in the other woman's case is children.... And it breaks my heart, because she's like an older sis which I never had.
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It's sounds like she's been having the universe take a continual dump on her head. She's been living off of the boost this mans attention gives her.
Take her out and show her a good time. Set her up with one of your guy friends. Remind her that their are quality men out there with far less baggage.
Posted by misslissa
She needs to drop him.... she knows what she wants to do before complaining to you... she just needs a sounding board and assurance. I wouldn't give her the assurance, and as a gem, I wouldn't want you to lie to me... so, tell her like you see it.... let her know that normal ppl wouldn't do this to themselves... be blunt!Sometimes wee need someone who's blunt in our lives to wake us up from the horrible dream we're living...
That's exactly what I want to do... Like c'mon, he's using her. And I know it... he's still married.. why is he still married, he doesn't have any legal issue, so why the hell is he still married. He must want to keep the marriage just in case anything else goes wrong.
He's living with his mistress, like he couldn't even divorce his wife for his mistress.. What makes you think he'll leave his mistress for YOU.. especially since he doesn't have any kids with you.. The common denominator in the other woman's case is children.... And it breaks my heart, because she's like an older sis which I never had.
It's sounds like she's been having the universe take a continual dump on her head. She's been living off of the boost this mans attention gives her.
Take her out and show her a good time. Set her up with one of your guy friends. Remind her that their are quality men out there with far less baggage.
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I've taken her out and introduced her to guys... She does what she wants.. I'm convinced that great sex can trap a person... well I'm excluding myself from that statement
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It's has been about 6 months that my friend keeps complaining about her new boo. Now before I start, I know how Gem's are... You guys will vent to your friend and then do whatever you want to do afterwards...
So, my Friend( She's a Gem..let's call her B) recently got out of a 10 year relationship with her ex (He's a Cap..let's call him M). The way they broke up was really sad, She was and still is very heart-broken. Now she's dating this new guy (He's a Lib.. let's call him D).
Here's what's going on with D
-He's Married and have children w/ his wife (Let's call her Z)
-He cheated on Z and made a kid with another female (naming her T.. She's a Leo) and now lives with T and their child, but he's not divorced and doesn't speak to his wife any longer
-Now, he's still living with T, but he's "dating" my friend
So, B complains how D takes ALL her money, How he see that she's struggling and doesn't help because she's renting a room in her friend's apartment because her and M broke up, how D ONLY see's her on weekends and never comes to see her during the week, and how he's still living with T, and how she always spends a lot of money on him and everytime she wants something.... he asks her to go "half" on it..
Well, recently D attended a family member's wedding and he took T with him. I'm guessing my friend B felt a kind of way because D let her meet his family and she thought that he should've carried her to the wedding...
My thing is this, as a Friend, she's always venting to me and I really would like to give her advice, but no matter what I'll say.. I know she's going to do whatever SHE wants to do....
What should I do??