@cancercrykiss777
6 Years
Cancer woman Gemini male advice needed
Do you know this Gemini dude's full birth info?
Before we proceed any further with any of this let me remind you that Gemini men is not to be fully understood. That's the one huge mistake people make of us. No matter how good they might think they are at figuring us out.
I’m confused. Did he specifically ask you what engagement rings you like? Or did he say he wants you in his life and you started telling him which rocks you want....
He's funny.
Sorry but I cant give you any advice. Never experienced a gem male with me.
Ya probably your plan to back off and not mentioning the ring thing is the best.
Best of luck!
I’m confused. Did he specifically ask you what engagement rings you like? Or did he say he wants you in his life and you started telling him which rocks you want....
He specifically asked me what engagement rings I like
Did you suggest something reasonable or something crazy expensive? Did you focus on uniqueness, heart, beauty or status?
Really all I did was find rings on Pinterest. I sent examples of what I didn’t like and what I did like I never focused on anything except what was pleasing or displeasing to my eye. He asked me.....twice.
I have but I usually ignore it
I have but I usually ignore it
Do you know this Gemini dude's full birth info?
Before we proceed any further with any of this let me remind you that Gemini men is not to be fully understood. That's the one huge mistake people make of us. No matter how good they might think they are at figuring us out.
His bday is June 4th
And I understand what you’re saying
He stepped his pinky toe in the water and freaked...
Question, do you feel like you complement each other's personality? Do you feel close to him?
I do
The problem with cancers is they can never admit fault and see their own shortcomings. It's almost always the other person who is the problem. You are telling your story like a victim instead of an adult who can see your imperfections and as well as his. Every cancer I know personally deflects issues and blames the other person. They are just not 'made' to take personal inventory. It's unreal! Your story makes no sense at all; the way you are telling your story makes you seem like a helpless victim. Either you are foolish for being with someone who treates you poorly or you are telling a very slanted version of the story. It sounds like you don't understand your man at all; you can't pick up on his cues you don't understand where he's coming from, you don't understand him at all, and I thought you all were supposed to be so intuitive.
The problem with cancers is they can never admit fault and see their own shortcomings. It's almost always the other person who is the problem. You are telling your story like a victim instead of an adult who can see your imperfections and as well as his. Every cancer I know personally deflects issues and blames the other person. They are just not 'made' to take personal inventory. It's unreal! Your story makes no sense at all; the way you are telling your story makes you seem like a helpless victim. Either you are foolish for being with someone who treates you poorly or you are telling a very slanted version of the story. It sounds like you don't understand your man at all; you can't pick up on his cues you don't understand where he's coming from, you don't understand him at all, and I thought you all were supposed to be so intuitive.
What cancer pissed you off dude?
What was the venue and mood when he asked about rings? Was it a serious conversation? Did he ask you to go away and come back with examples? I'm thinking he might have been just testing those waters, imagining out loud with you, and you took it as seriously as a proposal on one knee.
Well he asked twice within the same month. First time we were just talking about our Christmas plans and such and the 2nd was Christmas Day I understand what you’re saying but...I’m having a hard time understanding how me showing him what I like is different from me answering the question he asked me I’m not trying to be difficult I’m just trying to understand. I’m a visual person I’m really not great at explaining things verbally so the first time he asked I was like “uhhh idk I like simple rings” and he was like “you’re the opposite of me” and I was like “oh you like gaudy?” And he was like “well I’d want my wife to have a big diamond” and I laughed and was like “well it’s not like I won’t take it idk”
Then the 2nd time he asked we were laughing about something to do with marriage and he was like “but no seriously what do you like? Gold white gold platinum?” And I said “i like simple princess cut solitaire gold” and he was like “okay”
I thought he was truly interested in knowing what I liked because he asked me so showed him pictures the following day
Plus in my head buying a surprise ring for someone to wear forever is intense pressure for the woman accepting the ring and the man buying it I was thinking it’s safe and smart on his part to ask and know for sure he was getting what I wanted IF he decided to ask
The problem with cancers is they can never admit fault and see their own shortcomings. It's almost always the other person who is the problem. You are telling your story like a victim instead of an adult who can see your imperfections and as well as his. Every cancer I know personally deflects issues and blames the other person. They are just not 'made' to take personal inventory. It's unreal! Your story makes no sense at all; the way you are telling your story makes you seem like a helpless victim. Either you are foolish for being with someone who treates you poorly or you are telling a very slanted version of the story. It sounds like you don't understand your man at all; you can't pick up on his cues you don't understand where he's coming from, you don't understand him at all, and I thought you all were supposed to be so intuitive.
Are you really this stupid?
All you did was project some non-relatable bs in your life onto the poster.
Your post doesn’t make any sense.
Go sell bitter somewhere else.
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I still stand with my position.
The problem with cancers is they can never admit fault and see their own shortcomings. It's almost always the other person who is the problem. You are telling your story like a victim instead of an adult who can see your imperfections and as well as his. Every cancer I know personally deflects issues and blames the other person. They are just not 'made' to take personal inventory. It's unreal! Your story makes no sense at all; the way you are telling your story makes you seem like a helpless victim. Either you are foolish for being with someone who treates you poorly or you are telling a very slanted version of the story. It sounds like you don't understand your man at all; you can't pick up on his cues you don't understand where he's coming from, you don't understand him at all, and I thought you all were supposed to be so intuitive.
What cancer pissed you off dude?
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I am not pissed off at all, In my observation I have never seen a cancer take responsibility, instead they cry, point the finger and blame others.
The problem with cancers is they can never admit fault and see their own shortcomings. It's almost always the other person who is the problem. You are telling your story like a victim instead of an adult who can see your imperfections and as well as his. Every cancer I know personally deflects issues and blames the other person. They are just not 'made' to take personal inventory. It's unreal! Your story makes no sense at all; the way you are telling your story makes you seem like a helpless victim. Either you are foolish for being with someone who treates you poorly or you are telling a very slanted version of the story. It sounds like you don't understand your man at all; you can't pick up on his cues you don't understand where he's coming from, you don't understand him at all, and I thought you all were supposed to be so intuitive.
This thread doesn’t even wArrant this bs
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Who are you to decide what thread warrants different opinions? You are just a subscriber like every one else.
The problem with cancers is they can never admit fault and see their own shortcomings. It's almost always the other person who is the problem. You are telling your story like a victim instead of an adult who can see your imperfections and as well as his. Every cancer I know personally deflects issues and blames the other person. They are just not 'made' to take personal inventory. It's unreal! Your story makes no sense at all; the way you are telling your story makes you seem like a helpless victim. Either you are foolish for being with someone who treates you poorly or you are telling a very slanted version of the story. It sounds like you don't understand your man at all; you can't pick up on his cues you don't understand where he's coming from, you don't understand him at all, and I thought you all were supposed to be so intuitive.
Are you really this stupid?
All you did was project some non-relatable bs in your life onto the poster.
Your post doesn’t make any sense.
Go sell bitter somewhere else.
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Am I stupid? I"m smart enough to mute you! MUTED
Hey I’m new to this forum but I was hoping y’all could give me some advice.
I’ve been dating a Gemini male for about 3 years now. I have gotten better with understanding him but lately it’s crazy it’s like he will be annoyed with me for listening to something he told me. Does that make sense?
Here recently for example he told me that he loves me and wants me in his life but he has felt like I’ve been putting too much pressure on him because I told him what kind of rings (engagement rings) I like.
Here’s the kicker...
HE is the one who asked me!
I never brought up rings it was all him I was just responding to what HE asked ME!
It’s like he will be so lovey dovey and if I’m continuing on with the lovey dovey vibe he acts like I’m being clingy
I’m the type of person that doesn’t like to feel like I’m bothering someone so him communicating this to me is helpful but I mirror his actions if started talking about rings or whatever it’s bc he started it or atleast his Gemini twin started it
So is this something Gemini’s do? How should I proceed with him? I love him he’s a great man he has never disrespected me we are both in our early 30s I plan on backing off and sure as hell never mentioning anything about engagement rings ever again not even if he brings it up bc I really feel I’m damned if I do damned if I don’t
I find them wishy washy.
Putting things out to feel how you’ll bite.
Then retract once bitten.
I get excited and happy and all cuddly with my partner sometimes.
Maybe you were the same, but Gemini sees that as you expecting something.
Pull back a bit and tell him not to talk about things he can’t deliver.
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Makes sense ill do that
What was the venue and mood when he asked about rings? Was it a serious conversation? Did he ask you to go away and come back with examples? I'm thinking he might have been just testing those waters, imagining out loud with you, and you took it as seriously as a proposal on one knee.
Well he asked twice within the same month. First time we were just talking about our Christmas plans and such and the 2nd was Christmas Day I understand what you’re saying but...I’m having a hard time understanding how me showing him what I like is different from me answering the question he asked me I’m not trying to be difficult I’m just trying to understand. I’m a visual person I’m really not great at explaining things verbally so the first time he asked I was like “uhhh idk I like simple rings” and he was like “you’re the opposite of me” and I was like “oh you like gaudy?” And he was like “well I’d want my wife to have a big diamond” and I laughed and was like “well it’s not like I won’t take it idk”
Then the 2nd time he asked we were laughing about something to do with marriage and he was like “but no seriously what do you like? Gold white gold platinum?” And I said “i like simple princess cut solitaire gold” and he was like “okay”
I thought he was truly interested in knowing what I liked because he asked me so showed him pictures the following day
Plus in my head buying a surprise ring for someone to wear forever is intense pressure for the woman accepting the ring and the man buying it I was thinking it’s safe and smart on his part to ask and know for sure he was getting what I wanted IF he decided to ask
I don't think you did anything wrong, and you shouldn't get a complex about this. It just might be a difference in communication style . Did you already point out that he asked you? If not, you should and see what he has to say. Anyway, he'll either calm down or he won't. If he scared himself he might be looking for a reason to fight so he can get some space. If it seems to you that he's doing that, I'd advise not taking the bait. Remain calm.
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Yea I did point it out to him that he asked me and I told him it’s like he’s pulling me in 2 different directions and it’s confusing for me and he understood he didn’t get mean or defensive
What was the venue and mood when he asked about rings? Was it a serious conversation? Did he ask you to go away and come back with examples? I'm thinking he might have been just testing those waters, imagining out loud with you, and you took it as seriously as a proposal on one knee.
Well he asked twice within the same month. First time we were just talking about our Christmas plans and such and the 2nd was Christmas Day I understand what you’re saying but...I’m having a hard time understanding how me showing him what I like is different from me answering the question he asked me I’m not trying to be difficult I’m just trying to understand. I’m a visual person I’m really not great at explaining things verbally so the first time he asked I was like “uhhh idk I like simple rings” and he was like “you’re the opposite of me” and I was like “oh you like gaudy?” And he was like “well I’d want my wife to have a big diamond” and I laughed and was like “well it’s not like I won’t take it idk”
Then the 2nd time he asked we were laughing about something to do with marriage and he was like “but no seriously what do you like? Gold white gold platinum?” And I said “i like simple princess cut solitaire gold” and he was like “okay”
I thought he was truly interested in knowing what I liked because he asked me so showed him pictures the following day
Plus in my head buying a surprise ring for someone to wear forever is intense pressure for the woman accepting the ring and the man buying it I was thinking it’s safe and smart on his part to ask and know for sure he was getting what I wanted IF he decided to ask
I don't think you did anything wrong, and you shouldn't get a complex about this. It just might be a difference in communication style . Did you already point out that he asked you? If not, you should and see what he has to say. Anyway, he'll either calm down or he won't. If he scared himself he might be looking for a reason to fight so he can get some space. If it seems to you that he's doing that, I'd advise not taking the bait. Remain calm.
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Yea I did point it out to him that he asked me and I told him it’s like he’s pulling me in 2 different directions and it’s confusing for me and he understood he didn’t get mean or defensive
After reading the entire thread..
I'm curious, how old is he?
My opinion on his question about what you like is he is probably wanting to save or start looking. When you speak of it and send pics he might feel some internal pressure which you may not see, which causes him to go on the defense and you sit there feeling confused.
I know when my Gem guy friend already is feeling something, he can get very amplified quick. Lol like he had said so many times to me to "stop yelling" and I'm always like wtf, my voice isn't raised. 😂😂😂 I literally played it back on my home cameras, he was yelling and I was trying to talk. 🙃🙃🙃
He is feeling something and not communicating it, maybe, if you send pics he doesn't feel it's his idea of what you like and he wants to surprise you, idk.
Maybe he feels it's not his idea if you bring it up in more depth after. Who knows, you'll have to speak to the guy to know.
I’m confused. Did he specifically ask you what engagement rings you like? Or did he say he wants you in his life and you started telling him which rocks you want....
He specifically asked me what engagement rings I like
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In a joking way? Gems like to troll.
Mine likes to talk about putting a baby in me even tho we are both on the same page with not having kids.
Posted by cancercrykiss777Yea I did point it out to him that he asked me and I told him it’s like he’s pulling me in 2 different directions and it’s confusing for me and he understood he didn’t get mean or defensive
Ok so its a non issue.
There was a miscommunication of some sort. He was asking casually and you hitting him with the pinterest pics spooked him. Mutables don't like feeling cornered.
That being said, this is the part that matters "...he understood he didn't get mean or defensive".
You all will be fine. Better even if you don't let bitter internet strangers put doubt in your head. Gemini is a four letter word around these parts.
After reading the entire thread..
I'm curious, how old is he?
My opinion on his question about what you like is he is probably wanting to save or start looking. When you speak of it and send pics he might feel some internal pressure which you may not see, which causes him to go on the defense and you sit there feeling confused.
I know when my Gem guy friend already is feeling something, he can get very amplified quick. Lol like he had said so many times to me to "stop yelling" and I'm always like wtf, my voice isn't raised. 😂😂😂 I literally played it back on my home cameras, he was yelling and I was trying to talk. 🙃🙃🙃
He is feeling something and not communicating it, maybe, if you send pics he doesn't feel it's his idea of what you like and he wants to surprise you, idk.
Maybe he feels it's not his idea if you bring it up in more depth after. Who knows, you'll have to speak to the guy to know.
He’s 31 im 33
After reading the entire thread..
I'm curious, how old is he?
My opinion on his question about what you like is he is probably wanting to save or start looking. When you speak of it and send pics he might feel some internal pressure which you may not see, which causes him to go on the defense and you sit there feeling confused.
I know when my Gem guy friend already is feeling something, he can get very amplified quick. Lol like he had said so many times to me to "stop yelling" and I'm always like wtf, my voice isn't raised. 😂😂😂 I literally played it back on my home cameras, he was yelling and I was trying to talk. 🙃🙃🙃
He is feeling something and not communicating it, maybe, if you send pics he doesn't feel it's his idea of what you like and he wants to surprise you, idk.
Maybe he feels it's not his idea if you bring it up in more depth after. Who knows, you'll have to speak to the guy to know.
He’s 31 im 33
Posted by cancercrykiss777Yea I did point it out to him that he asked me and I told him it’s like he’s pulling me in 2 different directions and it’s confusing for me and he understood he didn’t get mean or defensive
Ok so its a non issue.
There was a miscommunication of some sort. He was asking casually and you hitting him with the pinterest pics spooked him. Mutables don't like feeling cornered.
That being said, this is the part that matters "...he understood he didn't get mean or defensive".
You all will be fine. Better even if you don't let bitter internet strangers put doubt in your head. Gemini is a four letter word around these parts.
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Thank you 😊 we have talked more since and I’m realizing I just need to take the stuff he says with a grain of salt...just like he’s always trolling me lol I know he loves me I know he cares I just gotta not listen to his ass only take him seriously when he acts on the things he says
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Hey I’m new to this forum but I was hoping y’all could give me some advice.
I’ve been dating a Gemini male for about 3 years now. I have gotten better with understanding him but lately it’s crazy it’s like he will be annoyed with me for listening to something he told me. Does that make sense?
Here recently for example he told me that he loves me and wants me in his life but he has felt like I’ve been putting too much pressure on him because I told him what kind of rings (engagement rings) I like.
Here’s the kicker...
HE is the one who asked me!
I never brought up rings it was all him I was just responding to what HE asked ME!
It’s like he will be so lovey dovey and if I’m continuing on with the lovey dovey vibe he acts like I’m being clingy
I’m the type of person that doesn’t like to feel like I’m bothering someone so him communicating this to me is helpful but I mirror his actions if started talking about rings or whatever it’s bc he started it or atleast his Gemini twin started it
So is this something Gemini’s do? How should I proceed with him? I love him he’s a great man he has never disrespected me we are both in our early 30s I plan on backing off and sure as hell never mentioning anything about engagement rings ever again not even if he brings it up bc I really feel I’m damned if I do damned if I don’t