confused...

A gem friend of mine had a fall out with her family bc she snuck out with her boyfriend (who her parent's don't really know or like). I helped her patch things up with them by encouraging her to talk to her parents and to forgive them.

Then a few weeks later when I need some help and someone to be there for me she's not there.

Is this typical? Or am I expecting too much from her?



She's a gemini sun, aries rising, and sagg moon btw - ironically, Donald Trump is a gemini sun and sagg moon and we all know how far his head is up his ass.

No! I would cover your ass and I had been andnibeill be!

My friends is my family!

She is just a crap Gem I had never ran into before.

We cover asses!

You have a shitty one! Sorry

it could also have been my fault for giving too much in the beginning. that is a bad habit of mine - giving too much and putting people to standards that i hold myself at.

Posted by Seraphlight
I'm sorry.

Your expectations of friendship are your own. It's not going to work that way. You need someone. I don't think it's expecting too much. If you need someone then you just need someone.

But just because she is not there doesn't mean she doesn't love you. It's just not all friends are great at dealing with this stuff.

Are you ok?

Don't be!! It was one person and even then it was probably one random accident out of a blue and I just decided to hone in on it lol.

As a gemini moon i can confirm lol - am shit at comforting my friends awk. And yeah I'm fine! It's just kind of disappointment because I've gone through this so often (pisces sun) and I've seen her comforting a friend so I know she can be there for people when she wants to be...

Again, it could have just been bad timing 😛

Posted by littlenanobyte
The sooner you don't have expectations of people, the better off your life will be, young padawan

Thank you Yoda! 😄 btw what's a capricorn moon like? I read a board talking about Melania Trump's moon in capricorn and it said that you guys are so good at hiding what's wrong with your life that no one will know till something big happens.

Posted by Seraphlight

Posted by datboi
it could also have been my fault for giving too much in the beginning. that is a bad habit of mine - giving too much and putting people to standards that i hold myself at.

Well I can relate ..but what standards did she hold you to? What did she expect from you?

My instinct is most times let things pass and if you are still having more fun than crap with friends ..it will be ok after a while :-)

If you give a lot ..it should be appreciated ..even if the other person is different in what they give. It has to be appreciated.

Anyway whatever is going on with you ...i hope you are ok.

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I mean like... she expected me to be there when a guy rejected her, when her ex called her, and to give her advice on her family stuff. I don't expect people to give me the world because stuff happens I got that... but she has said to my face before that if she was stuck with a decision of helping me or her, she would choose herself. I guess that was already a red flag lol!!

And who knows - thankfully, I learn quick and I know when to jump ship when stuff like this happens so I'll be aight ? plus I have plenty of other friends who I love lots so I am quite fortunate 🙂