Gemini man has suddenly popped back into my life

This was a while back, but I wrote about a gem man I was seeing for a few months. He was the only gemini I've ever dated considering I had bad history with them and I decided to give him a chance. Well, it's all cookies and sunshine until one day, he literally just disappeared. We were supposed to go to this comedy show with a couple of friends of mine, and he wanted to go, but couldn't. I tried to talk to him after, but I never heard from him again. This was back in June. Just the other day, I got a message from him. I knew that he disappeared because he pretty much buried himself in school work, and I understood his reasons, but I was still hurt by him just vanishing. He messaged me with a "Hey stranger :/" I wasn't sure if I wanted to answer back, but I figured I would see what he had to say, so I asked him how he was and that I had been busy with school and life. He responded with "You're not the only one I sacrificed during the semester, all I want is good grades."

Needless to say, I'm a little surprised and confused by him just popping up. Venus retrograde is weird, man.

Posted by Candeh15
This was a while back, but I wrote about a gem man I was seeing for a few months. He was the only gemini I've ever dated considering I had bad history with them and I decided to give him a chance. Well, it's all cookies and sunshine until one day, he literally just disappeared. We were supposed to go to this comedy show with a couple of friends of mine, and he wanted to go, but couldn't. I tried to talk to him after, but I never heard from him again. This was back in June. Just the other day, I got a message from him. I knew that he disappeared because he pretty much buried himself in school work, and I understood his reasons, but I was still hurt by him just vanishing. He messaged me with a "Hey stranger :/" I wasn't sure if I wanted to answer back, but I figured I would see what he had to say, so I asked him how he was and that I had been busy with school and life. He responded with "You're not the only one I sacrificed during the semester, all I want is good grades."

Needless to say, I'm a little surprised and confused by him just popping up. Venus retrograde is weird, man.

Hey Hun,this is typical Gemini behavior ,they pop up in and out of our lifes like where's Waldo,I'd say don't appear like his absence has affected you if you really like him,let him know you've been busy with your life and nit phased by it.they always come up with a logical analysis of " why" they were gone lol.just be cool easygoing and he will be putty in your hands.they are so used to girls throwing themselves at them,and trying to contact them way to much,he's probably impressed bybthe restraint on you end,and he is wonder g to himself...why isn't this girl in awe of me? They LOVE a challenge,they love to chase you!! My Gemini always does this..but the longer we spend together the shorter and shorter rimes they dissaper if that makes any sence,lol.sometimes the feel like they want to be mysterious ,they don't want anyone to find them out..it's like you've gotta be a detective when your dating them sometimes hahahaha but you've gotta love those crazy awesome geminis!😉 hope this helped luv angle

I really don't understand gems, and I'm trying haha. I wasn't very upset when he did disappear because I knew he was going to have a lot going on, but I didn't expect him to literally fall off the face of the earth; and from what I knew of gems, when they stopped returning your texts and whatnot, I just figured he no longer was that into me. So yeah, colour me surprised to see him pop up. I did message him back, rather sarcastically, but he didn't seem to pick that up (although, I guess some sarcasm is hard to translate). He simply said, "we should study together sometime." which is what he used to say to me when we were together and talking about school, since school was an important thing to the both of us. I'm still not sure what to think of all of it because out of all the people to have returned, he's the one I expected the least.

It's very mature of you to able to remain cordial after he hurt you because I have a really hard time being so gracious ("Oh you were studying for class? And not Act Like A Fucking Bitch Class?") blah blah blah. I don't think there is any harm in talking to him but I think the sun has set on anything serious happening in the romance department. His decision to fall off the face of the earth and sacrafice you wasn't a mutual decision. I feel like better communication on his part would have gone a long way with you because you're both studious, hard workers with similar goals. I don't understand why he's continuing to drag you into this if he's not interested in a relationship though. Venus retrograde is weird indeed!

Posted by i love ewe
It's very mature of you to able to remain cordial after he hurt you because I have a really hard time being so gracious ("Oh you were studying for class? And not Act Like A Fucking Bitch Class?") blah blah blah. I don't think there is any harm in talking to him but I think the sun has set on anything serious happening in the romance department. His decision to fall off the face of the earth and sacrafice you wasn't a mutual decision. I feel like better communication on his part would have gone a long way with you because you're both studious, hard workers with similar goals. I don't understand why he's continuing to drag you into this if he's not interested in a relationship though. Venus retrograde is weird indeed!

Lol, I'm being very mature because I never disliked even after. I just moved on after a bit. I can't say that I'm not flattered though. This gem was always very genuine and sweet, which is the reason I began to trust gems more in the first place. But it's funny because I said to him after he asked if we wanted to study, "Do you really want to do that?" He said "yeah, I'm so focused that I barely have time to sleep (he said this jokingly." I said to him "If you're so focused, i don't know if you'd have time for anything else, especially if you barely sleep." He actually agreed and then I said to him "Exactly. Well I mean, gotta get your priorities straight. I know you want to do well, but don't kill yourself over it." Which was me not trying to be a bitch. I really wanted to ask him why he felt the need to start speaking to me again, but I just shrugged it off. I too feel no issue speaking with him and he was always very nice and I wouldn't mind hanging out with him again, but I know that it'd be a mistake. What attracted me to him in the first place was how much he cared about his studies, but at the same time, I didn't want to be pushed to the wayside because of it.

He's a Mercurian, so he has a message to give you, believe me. He's just an undeveloped Gemini male like other undeveloped sun signs out there. He's unsure of his purpose, that's all. I'd bet he doesn't even know why he "popped" up again. haha! Either way, just have a conversation with him, and I promise he has a message for you. Even if he doesn't know it. Just pay close attention!

And stop with this "Act as if" and "Don't show too much of yourself" bull crap! That's so lame to all who think this way. Be yourself! If 'yourself' is good, then that will be enough to show him what he missed, period! At least if you show him that you WERE bothered by something that he did, he can at least carry that weight instead of you, which he will. Be honest and straight up, or he'll in turn play the same game. It's a "Mutable" thing. Now hopefully you know.

~GM

Posted by GeminiMind
He's a Mercurian, so he has a message to give you, believe me. He's just an undeveloped Gemini male like other undeveloped sun signs out there. He's unsure of his purpose, that's all. I'd bet he doesn't even know why he "popped" up again. haha! Either way, just have a conversation with him, and I promise he has a message for you. Even if he doesn't know it. Just pay close attention!

And stop with this "Act as if" and "Don't show too much of yourself" bull crap! That's so lame to all who think this way. Be yourself! If 'yourself' is good, then that will be enough to show him what he missed, period! At least if you show him that you WERE bothered by something that he did, he can at least carry that weight instead of you, which he will. Be honest and straight up, or he'll in turn play the same game. It's a "Mutable" thing. Now hopefully you know.

~GM

I've been scoping him out through conversation to see what he was getting at. So far, it's been pretty general, kind of like it always has been. He asked about my classes and I told him how they were going well, but how I didn't enjoy my plant biology class. He joked with me saying that I looked like a plant (funny enough, he said this to me before we first got together months ago when I told him I didn't like a certain type of bug, and he joked that I looked like a bug). I also told him that he needed to find balance in his life so that he didn't burn himself out, and he said that I should balance him out. I stopped here and first made comment about the what kind of plant I'd be and then I asked him why he thought I should do that or how I could do that. He said, "you tell me, professor." I told him that he was the one who brought it up, so obviously he knew how and he had an idea. I told him I couldn't do that and instead gave him tips on how to study better. But I'm going to be honest with him and ask why he felt the need to disappear and why he's speaking to me again after so long.

Posted by GeminiMind
He's a Mercurian, so he has a message to give you, believe me. He's just an undeveloped Gemini male like other undeveloped sun signs out there. He's unsure of his purpose, that's all. I'd bet he doesn't even know why he "popped" up again. haha! Either way, just have a conversation with him, and I promise he has a message for you. Even if he doesn't know it. Just pay close attention!

And stop with this "Act as if" and "Don't show too much of yourself" bull crap! That's so lame to all who think this way. Be yourself! If 'yourself' is good, then that will be enough to show him what he missed, period! At least if you show him that you WERE bothered by something that he did, he can at least carry that weight instead of you, which he will. Be honest and straight up, or he'll in turn play the same game. It's a "Mutable" thing. Now hopefully you know.

~GM

I agree with what your saying by being yourself,I think because you are agemini you don't understand my other advice,which is to remain a little mysterious,Gemini you are a curious sighn and the more you know about someone,the more likelihood that you will get bored and ,ove on,the secret is to be hidden sometimes,only sometimes,I'm always up to something new in real life anyhow,and gems like that I think.but you are right,never change who you are,true colors will show up eventually any who

^^

Interesting, however I speak for myself when I say: Once I find out that the mystery isn't a mystery at all, then my harmless bark becomes quite harmful, I promise. How could I not understand your other advice? I'm a Gemini, remember. All I'm saying is that, we are very aware of that game of cat and mouse. At least you admit it is a game. We will get bored regardless of trying to play those "mystery" tricks on us. It is insulting to our intellect. I'm not trying to be mean, or condescending. I'm trying to explain this is how we work. At least, again, I'm speaking for myself, but I'm sure I'll get some agreements on this. Hell, I'm curious as to what goes into a chicken McNugget, doesn't mean I think it's healthy. Just saying. 🙂 I've been with Cancer females, and they are just a bit too emotionally needy, and use it to blackmail like Pisceans, in order to control. Nope, didn't work. Alas the Cancer fem never knew why. That's what she got for trying to 'play' me. *shrugs*

~GM

Posted by geminiwizard
yeah, the worst is a girl that tries to play "mysterious" mind games, but we see through it way too clearly.

nothing more annoying.

Lol, I'm terrible at mind games. If anything, I just mirror people's actions. If you're affectionate, I'll be affectionate. If you're not, then I won't be either. I can also be oblivious sometimes, lol.

This gem has started to lay the flirting on a little thick; I'm not bothered by it or anything, but it's almost like deja vu. For example, after I gave him studying tips, he called me amazing; I made a comment how he needs to have more fun and that I've been having fun even though I've been sick, and he said "You need medicine from Dr. David (include winky face here)."

So basically he's pulling a, "I gave you up for whatever reason, but now I kind of want to get back into the swing of things." Am I right? lol

Gluttony



Thus far, the message to you has been along the lines of .... deal with it, or move on because if you aren't yourself to him then he'll fuck with you.

And furthermore ... that ^^^^ is suppose to be okay.

Fuck me once, shame on you .... fuck me twice, shame on me

It fucking pisses me off when people (especially women) overlook reality .. simply because they have feelings.



Here you are trying to determine whether this man is wanting you back ... when in reality, he isn't even worth you to even consider.

But, here you are considering it anyway.


Another fine example of the point Hybred was trying to make on the Pisces board.

I'll cross gluttony off my list. Cool.

You know, P, I generally respect your input, but truth of the matter for me is, I'm not losing sleep over this. I find it amusing, to be honest. Someone said to be myself, and this is what I do: seek answers. What I really want is to hear from the horse's mouth what happened, and I didn't mention that the last thing I asked him was what he wanted. All the same, I just wanted input because I found this whole thing interesting. Curiosity doesn't always mean I'm going to run back to him; I already told him that he's too busy for me which was what ended it in the first place. I'm giving him the time of day because he's not really bothering me and I don't hate the kid. If he wants something, he can prove it.

If I'm coming off desperate to you, well oops.

^

Well said, Candeh. I think I speak for every Gem here when I say no one here thinks you are weak, desperate, nor foolish in your pursuit for knowledge, wisdom, and understanding. Being a non-Air sign, I would say that's quite a beautiful thing. Kudos! Being a fellow Mercurian surely helps. However, don't let the earth tie you down, sista! Water and Earth tend to make mud. So be wary of water signs playing on your emotions. That's what they do, because for the most part that's all they have.

What P-"Angel" fails to realize is that you're only 20 years of age. It's okay to learn from experience yet to question those experiences along the way. Pisceans never get this. I used to feel sorry for them. Now, I realize that it's their own petty selfishness that hinders them to just.....water. As mutable as they are suppose to be, rigidity is why they can never find what their definition of "True" love is. It's all bullshit, trust me. It's how they feed. They can regurgitate information very eloquently to give you the impression that they are intelligent. When in fact, it's jut intelligence purchased out of a box. Thinking? Well, you leave that to the Gemini's, Sagitarians, Scorpios, and last but not least the Virgo's.

I can't say if this guy is worth your time or not. I can say that you're both young vibrant individuals, and it's okay to GROW! As I'm sure you know, it's okay to experience things while gathering intel at the same time. Ah, the beauty of Mercury. Yes, I'm arrogant when I say that there is no planet that I'd rather be ruled by.

He's causing you no harm, and at the end of the day, you will both learn something from each other. I think you know this as well as he does. Which is why you BOTH are giving EACH OTHER the time of day. P-"Angel" will never get this, so don't waste your time. She wrote her own book, now she reads it to others. *shrugs*

~GM

Posted by Candeh15


If I'm coming off desperate to you, well oops.

Coming off desperate to me has no oops .. coming off desperate to him could. They already told you in here that because he's a Gemini, he has potential to play you like a fiddle.


So, do it, do it ... then shove your condenscending oops up your ass, because the fact of the matter is .. I was talking to you straight because because you've got getting butt fucked up your ass on your mind, which you've spread this all over the dxp .... it's fucked up your ability to comprehend.


Have fun getting fucked ... ooops

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Candeh15


If I'm coming off desperate to you, well oops.

Coming off desperate to me has no oops .. coming off desperate to him could. They already told you in here that because he's a Gemini, he has potential to play you like a fiddle.


So, do it, do it ... then shove your condenscending oops up your ass, because the fact of the matter is .. I was talking to you straight because because you've got getting butt fucked up your ass on your mind, which you've spread this all over the dxp .... it's fucked up your ability to comprehend.


Have fun getting fucked ... ooops

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Do what, exactly? You seem to think that the only thing I'm going to do is run back. And I'm not coming off desparate to him. For your information, I haven't done or said anything to even SEEM like I'm coming back. I don't even speak to him that often. I haven't even spoken to him on the phone. I'm busy with my own life. There isn't anything wrong with inquiring and finding some understanding. And me and a million other women do this, apparently spreading this inability to comprehend over dxp. Isn't this what this site is for? Whether you're right or wrong, let me do this. Let me ask and seek some opinions. Again, just because I'm doing this doesn't mean I'm going to do anything. You're the only one who seems to be bothered by this, and at this point, I was finished with my questions.

*Laughing at Candeh because she's on the fish's hood* Sucker! You fell for the oldest Pisces trick in the book. Shame on your!! You are smarter than this, Candeh15!

~GM

Posted by GeminiMind
*Laughing at Candeh because she's on the fish's hood* Sucker! You fell for the oldest Pisces trick in the book. Shame on your!! You are smarter than this, Candeh15!

~GM

To be fair, I don't know any pisces honestly. They are as much of a mystery to me as gems are. But we do this once or twice. It happens lol.

Posted by P-Angel
Gluttony



Thus far, the message to you has been along the lines of .... deal with it, or move on because if you aren't yourself to him then he'll fuck with you.

And furthermore ... that ^^^^ is suppose to be okay.

Fuck me once, shame on you .... fuck me twice, shame on me

Candeh, what the fuck is the matter with you?

The above isn't ME talking of how ..... I .... feel.

It is saying that thus far, the GEMINIS in here are telling you to deal with it and his antics but whatever you do don't fuck with him or you'll be sorry.

And that is perfectly ok for them to think that it's okay to fuck with you if you do anything except except what crumbs he throws you.


And you took it to mean that I was voicing MY opinion.

:::: shakes head :::::

You have become just like them .... because you just took something I said personal when I never even voiced my opinion .. I was interpretating theirs.

Wow. Pisceans really don't have a clue on how a Gemini thinks. All they have to do is ask. But, that would mean that they would have to use their words and actually communicate. Which isn't ever going to happen. What a waste of time. It never ceases to amaze me that people who've never had any success in dealing with Gemini's could possibly believe that they have the right to pontificate on a subject matter that they should be a student of, not a forum of. Sad, they'll never learn. Wrong, yet again, fish.

See Candeh, some people talk to people like they're stupid, then they wonder why people think it's personal. If they exercised certain muscles in their brains, they'd know to think before they spoke.

Pisceans, from my experience aren't as smart as they think they are. Especially when dealing with Mercurians. What they should do is shut the fuck up and learn something instead of thinking they're the teachers when in fact they're the students.

::::shakes head::::

However, I got a feeling that Candeh15 is too smart for that cheap manipulative trick. At least I've got my fingers crossed.

Not one Gemini in here said that if you fuck with this guy you'd be sorry. Nor did anyone say that he's throwing crumbs. But certain people would know this if they'd learn to listen and to recognize that they don't know what they're talking about.

~GM

Honestly, I'm not sweating it. My only question is, if you were simply reiterating what the gems were telling me, why did you? I took what you said personally because you made it sound like what I was doing was all wrong, whether it was your opinion or not (like you said GM, my emotions can get the best of me sometimes).

I don't feel that way and I still don't. Nor did I get that from the Gems in the first place.

If I was truly worried about what this Gem was going to do, I'd be pressed for more answers.

Regardless, I appreciate the advice all around.