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Posted by ninainthesky123
Yeap! When they get us, they get us deeply. I can master no showing my obsession too, I've always have. I'm so paranoid that anyone will find out how obsesses I am that I sometimes make sure I ignore the very person I'm obsessing about. Hahaha! I guess my pride is bigger than my obsession, oh boy.
Another hypothesis of mine is that when geminis find someone who loves them and treats them with special care, when they can trust the other person's feelings are real, then we get emotionally dependent on their loving us. Don't know, maybe this is part of my separation neurosis.


Posted by JuiCy*
this is why i hate to admit it...but if we're inlove with someone, i think we can be controlled easily...or worse become emotionally dependant.. (YIKESSSSS)
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Had to bump this thread!

I've been in an 8 year relationship, and the last 3 years my wife and I have fallen out of love, because I haven't dealt with issues, and for a long time I turned things around on her and blamed her, so I wouldn't have to look at myself! She's been "over me" for a while now, and I've been trying to "fix" things, and have only made things much worse!

The last few weeks have been really hard, and I've become obsessed with making her happy, that all it's done is drive her away. I had no idea I was "obsessed" it's so unhealthy.
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Any tips on dealing with our obsession disorder? lol

I openly accept I've become obsessive, and I don't feel like ME anymore.

The messed up thing is that when we do get back together, and she finally gives me a chance again, shortly thereafter I kinda lose interest, and things go back to normal. Meaning, I no longer try as hard, when I was trying to get a 2nd chance, make sense? WTF is wrong with this way of thinking?
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Posted by TwinTastic
When I meet a guy i really like-which doesnt happen all that often, i cant stop thinking about them-i get so depressed if he doesnt reciprocate....but then once i get what i want, i stop feeling the same way. Its like I want soo badly to be in love...to find that one special person...but i always lose interest if they do just one wrong thing....Its funny because I can be sooo forgiving, as i think all Gems can...but at the same time i never forget....Also I wanted to say that it seems like when we Gems go through the obsession stuff-we feel embarrassed about it...its like we are always wanting the world to think we are something different...but deep down we just need the same thing as everyone else-LOVE...and herein lies our dilemma-finding that one person who knows what we need without us having to explain it....because we cant



^^^Me in a nutshell when i like a guy
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Posted by duchessedenemours
This thread is such a trainwreck..... I'm so glad I wasn't around when this garbage was being spewed.

The problem is you are treating her like something to win. Once you get her then you've won her over and the chase ends. No where to go from there. So you need to stop looking at it like a game and start looking at it as a connection and decide if you want to keep it or not. Because it's the time when you are together and bored that counts.



Good points, to be honest, I don't feel like I'm playing games with her. My goal is for her to be happy, and I want to make her happy, we always talk about having a family together, and being together long term. I definitely do love her, and love spending time with her. I just wish that when we do get back together, and a "2nd chance" is given, the drive would continue forward. When I'm great, I'm on point, but when I'm in this state, she can't stand to be around me, and it's extremely hard for me to take the focus off her, and put it on myself.

I wonder why is it so difficult to face ourselves? I saw this story on Yahoo Answers, I can eerily relate with both scenarios. Also, I was born in May, I hear there's a difference between those born in June?

I've actually seen Gemini's who are obsessed with a person they're in a relationship with, and then I've seen Gemini's who couldn't give less than a damn what their partner is doing at any given moment. It depends largely I guess on the rest of their chart. ALL Gemini's are really analytical though---they tend to over think things.

I have a close Gemini friend who is going through a divorce right now, and to say that she is obsessed with the ordeal is an understatement. She spends every hour of every waking moment going over and over and over her 15 year marriage in her head, dissecting each and every thing that went down between them, and then obsessively speculates on what her soon to be ex spouse is doing. She analyzes him constantly...this is likely to divert herself from having to look within for her part in the demise of her marriage. Usually when a Gemini is focused or obsessed on another, its because they are looking for someone to blame or something to focus on to take their attention away from themselves. I've seen it more than once.

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Posted by Lust
TrueGemini, can I ask you: what did your wife do that made you feel safe to purpose (back when you were dating) ? You decided that it was her, finally the woman that you are going to be with forever.



Well, I'd have to say that she's the girl of my dreams. Beautiful, smart, witty, funny, is able to hang out with my friends, whereas my exes didn't. We always have fun together, she's my best friend. She has everything I look for in a girl, and knew she was the one.

So yeah, when you find that girl, you'll know it.
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Posted by RollergirlOrc
Quick burning question, so does this mean that gem Venus and Gemini rising get obsessed too?


Make that Gemini moon too, my moon has started to push my Aries sun to the back burner, its tamed me drastically and iv been behaving like a gemini more so as Im getting older.
Iv got an Aries venus but usually that only makes me impulsive.

With the way iv been feeling about an ex of mine and reading everyones comments its starting to hit a nerve and I am starting to understand how important my moon is becoming.

The way iv started to feel for an ex again is not healthy for me, damn you Gem moon.