Gemini said he is crazy inlove with and now heart broken with another girl..why?

Posted here a couple months ago..I'm a leo and met this Gem guy last year during my travels. He didn't lose contact with me since day 1. Feelings developed but we were far from eachother. I am in asia he is in the states now. We met eachother in bangkok and I confessed my emotions then and he said he wasn't ready,so I moved on but he still communicated with me. After a year of constant communication he suddenly confessed he was crazy inlove with me and I was shocked abt that. I said I loved him as well. Then we kept talking on the phone in different timezones. Then poof he was gone. Then after a few wks its like he never told me he's inlove with me,never opened up that topic. Then now I find out he was heart broken with another girl who he said he thought was the perfect one coz they were both living in the states. Like why drag me in your emotional rollercoaster and now there is a new girl?! What? They just met a few wks back and then he is like this. Then I told him he always chose the wrong girls thats why they leave him while I always stick with him all the time. Then he said he cannot commit to me and needs therapy especially right now. I asked if I should stay or go and he didn't react,he just said he cannot commit and needs therapy. Like what is up? Should I totally cut all ties from him?

Yes, believe him when he says he needs therapy. Let him go for now. Gem guys are interesting... A lot of them are sensitive and yet detached and thinkers rather then feelers... But basically they struggle between their head and their heart ?

Posted by Moonbutter
Yes, believe him when he says he needs therapy. Let him go for now. Gem guys are interesting... A lot of them are sensitive and yet detached and thinkers rather then feelers... But basically they struggle between their head and their heart ?

@Moonbutter yeah,he is a thinker,thinks too muh that he gets lost because of himself. I support his therapy but why drag me if he was confused in thw first place. ?

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Friendzoned

Exactly.

You're an option for him to fall back on while he searches for the one.

I'm not into LDR's... sounds like he isn't either. If it were me, I could see the love confession, and then realizing the distance is just not gonna work out.

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Yes, believe him when he says he needs therapy. Let him go for now. Gem guys are interesting... A lot of them are sensitive and yet detached and thinkers rather then feelers... But basically they struggle between their head and their heart ?

@Moonbutter yeah,he is a thinker,thinks too muh that he gets lost because of himself. I support his therapy but why drag me if he was confused in thw first place. ?

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Why? Because you allowed it.

If you lie down in front of someone's door you can't cry later when you get stepped on...

Posted by Impulsv
Because misery loves company

He was down n wanted distraction

Weak man n yes needs therapy

@Impulsv yeah,he is really weak and just masks it by going thru music festivals to let people know he is happy enjoying life but he isn't. He is so lonely and scares of being alone.

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Friendzoned

Exactly.

You're an option for him to fall back on while he searches for the one.

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@happyface1 I actually moved on last year when I told my feelings for him but he wasn't ready. That was when we were both in bangkok so distance was never the problem that time.

Posted by misslissa
I'm not into LDR's... sounds like he isn't either. If it were me, I could see the love confession, and then realizing the distance is just not gonna work out.

@misslissa we were supposed to see eachother this october since I'm gonna be flying to the states. I planned to fly end of this month as a surprise but I ended up the one getting surprised. Why did he confess in the first place if he knew the distance wont work. He keeps on saying he doesn't know what he wants..like wth

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Yes, believe him when he says he needs therapy. Let him go for now. Gem guys are interesting... A lot of them are sensitive and yet detached and thinkers rather then feelers... But basically they struggle between their head and their heart ?

@Moonbutter yeah,he is a thinker,thinks too muh that he gets lost because of himself. I support his therapy but why drag me if he was confused in thw first place. ?

Why? Because you allowed it.

If you lie down in front of someone's door you can't cry later when you get stepped on...

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@LadyNeptune yeah,I get your point but I stopped communicating with him since last year,but he was the one always initiating the conversation. Then I thought,ok I'll just treat him as a friend then,no emotions,then I was ok,I was seeing other people and then poof he confessed,like wth..why complicate things gemini.

Thank you everyone for your insights. Yes I felt like a spare tire because of the way he treats me. I don't want to be mean but Karma is biting him right now. I told him he always chooses the wrong girls thats why they leave him,and I was the only person who can love him truthfully but he has hurt me by draggin me...😢

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Yes, believe him when he says he needs therapy. Let him go for now. Gem guys are interesting... A lot of them are sensitive and yet detached and thinkers rather then feelers... But basically they struggle between their head and their heart ?

@Moonbutter yeah,he is a thinker,thinks too muh that he gets lost because of himself. I support his therapy but why drag me if he was confused in thw first place. ?

Why? Because you allowed it.

If you lie down in front of someone's door you can't cry later when you get stepped on...

@LadyNeptune yeah,I get your point but I stopped communicating with him since last year,but he was the one always initiating the conversation. Then I thought,ok I'll just treat him as a friend then,no emotions,then I was ok,I was seeing other people and then poof he confessed,like wth..why complicate things gemini.

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He may have initiated every time but you chose to respond, it takes two to have a conversation. Unless you were strictly platonic friends with him BEFORE your relationship there's no way to return to being friends. Your just prolonging the inevitable.

In this situation you only have control of your own actions. Stop spending effort on trying to figure out his intent and let him go.

He's a mindfucker. Pure and simple.

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I'm not into LDR's... sounds like he isn't either. If it were me, I could see the love confession, and then realizing the distance is just not gonna work out.

@misslissa we were supposed to see eachother this october since I'm gonna be flying to the states. I planned to fly end of this month as a surprise but I ended up the one getting surprised. Why did he confess in the first place if he knew the distance wont work. He keeps on saying he doesn't know what he wants..like wth

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Have you ever had something on your mind, or heart, that you needed to tell someone, cuz you feel like you'll burst at the seems.....??

Wouldn't it be better to tell the person, or someone who isn't involved? Wouldn't you rather tell the person INSTEAD of someone who isn't involved??

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I would not want to be with a man who doesn't know what he wants... I'm too old for that, and it seems like he really doesn't know!

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Yes, believe him when he says he needs therapy. Let him go for now. Gem guys are interesting... A lot of them are sensitive and yet detached and thinkers rather then feelers... But basically they struggle between their head and their heart ?

@Moonbutter yeah,he is a thinker,thinks too muh that he gets lost because of himself. I support his therapy but why drag me if he was confused in thw first place. ?

Why? Because you allowed it.

If you lie down in front of someone's door you can't cry later when you get stepped on...

@LadyNeptune yeah,I get your point but I stopped communicating with him since last year,but he was the one always initiating the conversation. Then I thought,ok I'll just treat him as a friend then,no emotions,then I was ok,I was seeing other people and then poof he confessed,like wth..why complicate things gemini.

He may have initiated every time but you chose to respond, it takes two to have a conversation. Unless you were strictly platonic friends with him BEFORE your relationship there's no way to return to being friends. Your just prolonging the inevitable.

In this situation you only have control of your own actions. Stop spending effort on trying to figure out his intent and let him go.

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@LadyNeptune yeah I chose to respond,but I wanted to respond as a friend and leave my emotions behind for the sake of my sanity. But I get your point..*sigh* sometimes I resist coz I don't want to lose him as a friend..thank you

Posted by stopbeingdelusional
On 2nd thought, since you don't seem to be able to Not be influenced by his "words", maybe you should block him on everything and don't allow him a way to contact you. i have no problem with my friend because I don't have feelings for him (it can be entertaining when you don't have feelings for the person, especially gems are so good with their words.). But for you, obviously, you have feelings for him. If you allow him a way to contact you, you will just be hurt again and again and again. Not worth it.

@stopbeingdelusional yeah,I get you but the thing is he doesn't do drunk txts lol our conversations are deep,like we talk abt meditation,power of now and the likes. But yeah,if I allow him to communicate then the cycle is on again. 😢 thanks for the insight and sharing your experience,I appreciate that 😉

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I'm not into LDR's... sounds like he isn't either. If it were me, I could see the love confession, and then realizing the distance is just not gonna work out.

@misslissa we were supposed to see eachother this october since I'm gonna be flying to the states. I planned to fly end of this month as a surprise but I ended up the one getting surprised. Why did he confess in the first place if he knew the distance wont work. He keeps on saying he doesn't know what he wants..like wth

Have you ever had something on your mind, or heart, that you needed to tell someone, cuz you feel like you'll burst at the seems.....??

Wouldn't it be better to tell the person, or someone who isn't involved? Wouldn't you rather tell the person INSTEAD of someone who isn't involved??

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I would not want to be with a man who doesn't know what he wants... I'm too old for that, and it seems like he really doesn't know!

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@misslissa waaaah I didn't really get your second statement,lol sorry..mind is clouded atm..its functioning slow..haha can you elaborate on that part? I'm so sorry..

Yeah,nbody wants to be with someone who is uncertain of things in life,and yes,I alsothink he really doesn't know what he wants 😢 and he just wants me to stay there until he figures himself out..

Posted by LonerLoop
If I did remember correctly, you're from Singapore? No?

Well, imo, don't waste your time on someone like him. He was just using you as his back up plan. I know it hurts, but trust me, this man don't even know what he wants.

Don't waste money on that plane tickets. Just move on. 🙂

@LonerLoop hi 😉 yep, I am from singapore..haha are you from here? Oh I was really going to the states for my cousins wedding in nyc,the gem guy lives in seattle so its really up to him if he will fly or not 🙂 I'm not that naive/stupid to buy a ticket just for a guy haha but yeah, I really felt like a spare tire,the back up plan..but I just had this different connection with him that's why its unexplainable. Like we talk deepak chopra levels,eckhart tole,law of attraction,power of the mind stuff which I barely find as a conversation with guys I've met. So he is special coz of that reason..but thank you for the insight,I love harsh words,it makes me wake up from ilussions..😉

Posted by Instantkarma
Block him And stay away from him for your own good.

He may not know what he wants but he sure doesn't want to get serious with you. Register this thought in your mind. He will try to use you as a back burner girl, anytime he is single he will want to be around you. Oh Geminis can mindfuck others or use words/body language to nKe others fall for them. Most Geminis do this at a younger age without realising how it affects others, but once we grow older, we decide whether we want to USE it or not to attract others. Most of us don't, but there are few who never change and take advantage of it.

He knows what he is doing to you, don't think he doesn't... Just that he doesn't care whether this hurts you or not. He has a new shiny toy right now and he is impatient with you and wanted to get rid of you! 😡 He could have been mean to you with words even.

I have given you the harsh truth. Because I want you to realise what he did to you. And not go back to him.

@Instantkarma thank you for your straight forward insight. You may be right and he just turned 29 a couple of months ago. I don't want to think negatively of him but all of you in this thread are saying the same exact thing,yes I really felt like a back up plan and he should've sorted things out before he said he loves me. Distance is nothing if you really love a person,he's schedule is more free than mine then he could just fly here and visit me to get it over with. But now he ruined something potentially good and he is stuck with his lonely self again,masking his insecurities with travels and happiness but in reality he is just weak and sad. He hurt the only person who can really love him with no judgment. He chose the wrong girl-the girl is dating a married couple and is actually into girls as well,how complicated is that. And he chose her over me,but now the girl ran and all her emotions to the gem guy vanished overnight. *karma alert *sigh*

I did my part,guess he just didn't recognize it. Thank you for the harsh words everyone,I appreciate it and genuinely thank you guys for giving time to post your insights 🙂

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If I did remember correctly, you're from Singapore? No?

Well, imo, don't waste your time on someone like him. He was just using you as his back up plan. I know it hurts, but trust me, this man don't even know what he wants.

Don't waste money on that plane tickets. Just move on. 🙂

@LonerLoop hi 😉 yep, I am from singapore..haha are you from here? Oh I was really going to the states for my cousins wedding in nyc,the gem guy lives in seattle so its really up to him if he will fly or not 🙂 I'm not that naive/stupid to buy a ticket just for a guy haha but yeah, I really felt like a spare tire,the back up plan..but I just had this different connection with him that's why its unexplainable. Like we talk deepak chopra levels,eckhart tole,law of attraction,power of the mind stuff which I barely find as a conversation with guys I've met. So he is special coz of that reason..but thank you for the insight,I love harsh words,it makes me wake up from ilussions..😉

Yep, I'm from where you belong. 😛

I remember your previous thread. Ok, since you're actually attending a wedding, then that sounds fine.

Like what Instantkarma said, Geminis are good with mind fucking people head and the immature ones used this just to entertain themselves. He might be one of those.

That back up plan is real and you, being a Leo, I would suggest you to cut him off totally. It's going to cause you a heartbreak if you allow him to lead you on. I ever date an immature Gemini man as well so I know what it feels like. They are good with words. Don't worry, you will be just fine. 🙂

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@LonerLoop lol is it my previous Gemini thread? Haha oh cool you're from here! Nice!🙂 yeah, I also read in some other article about what @Instantkarma said,and yeah he might be one of those immature geminis 😢 yeah, I didn't reply to his last txt last night anymore. Its such a shame he wasted this opportunity that could've lasted a long time..yeah I'll be fine,thank you for the encouraging words. 🙂

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Yes, believe him when he says he needs therapy. Let him go for now. Gem guys are interesting... A lot of them are sensitive and yet detached and thinkers rather then feelers... But basically they struggle between their head and their heart ?

@Moonbutter yeah,he is a thinker,thinks too muh that he gets lost because of himself. I support his therapy but why drag me if he was confused in thw first place. ?

Why? Because you allowed it.

If you lie down in front of someone's door you can't cry later when you get stepped on...

@LadyNeptune yeah,I get your point but I stopped communicating with him since last year,but he was the one always initiating the conversation. Then I thought,ok I'll just treat him as a friend then,no emotions,then I was ok,I was seeing other people and then poof he confessed,like wth..why complicate things gemini.

He may have initiated every time but you chose to respond, it takes two to have a conversation. Unless you were strictly platonic friends with him BEFORE your relationship there's no way to return to being friends. Your just prolonging the inevitable.

In this situation you only have control of your own actions. Stop spending effort on trying to figure out his intent and let him go.

@LadyNeptune yeah I chose to respond,but I wanted to respond as a friend and leave my emotions behind for the sake of my sanity. But I get your point..*sigh* sometimes I resist coz I don't want to lose him as a friend..thank you

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You can't loose what you never had. He's not looking to be your friend, he's looking to be more.

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Yes, believe him when he says he needs therapy. Let him go for now. Gem guys are interesting... A lot of them are sensitive and yet detached and thinkers rather then feelers... But basically they struggle between their head and their heart ?

@Moonbutter yeah,he is a thinker,thinks too muh that he gets lost because of himself. I support his therapy but why drag me if he was confused in thw first place. ?

Why? Because you allowed it.

If you lie down in front of someone's door you can't cry later when you get stepped on...

@LadyNeptune yeah,I get your point but I stopped communicating with him since last year,but he was the one always initiating the conversation. Then I thought,ok I'll just treat him as a friend then,no emotions,then I was ok,I was seeing other people and then poof he confessed,like wth..why complicate things gemini.

He may have initiated every time but you chose to respond, it takes two to have a conversation. Unless you were strictly platonic friends with him BEFORE your relationship there's no way to return to being friends. Your just prolonging the inevitable.

In this situation you only have control of your own actions. Stop spending effort on trying to figure out his intent and let him go.

@LadyNeptune yeah I chose to respond,but I wanted to respond as a friend and leave my emotions behind for the sake of my sanity. But I get your point..*sigh* sometimes I resist coz I don't want to lose him as a friend..thank you

You can't loose what you never had. He's not looking to be your friend, he's looking to be more.

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@LadyNeptune yeah,can't really lose what I never had. I want him to be more than friends if that's what he wants but atm idk what he wants 😢 now I am getting confused of his confusion. If he wants more then he should be consistent and giving out effort and not making false hopes just because he is confused or doesn't know what he wants 😢

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I'm not into LDR's... sounds like he isn't either. If it were me, I could see the love confession, and then realizing the distance is just not gonna work out.

@misslissa we were supposed to see eachother this october since I'm gonna be flying to the states. I planned to fly end of this month as a surprise but I ended up the one getting surprised. Why did he confess in the first place if he knew the distance wont work. He keeps on saying he doesn't know what he wants..like wth

Have you ever had something on your mind, or heart, that you needed to tell someone, cuz you feel like you'll burst at the seems.....??

Wouldn't it be better to tell the person, or someone who isn't involved? Wouldn't you rather tell the person INSTEAD of someone who isn't involved??

🙂

I would not want to be with a man who doesn't know what he wants... I'm too old for that, and it seems like he really doesn't know!

@misslissa waaaah I didn't really get your second statement,lol sorry..mind is clouded atm..its functioning slow..haha can you elaborate on that part? I'm so sorry..

Yeah,nbody wants to be with someone who is uncertain of things in life,and yes,I alsothink he really doesn't know what he wants 😢 and he just wants me to stay there until he figures himself out..

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Yea... I kinda worded that alil weird. Lol!

Think about it for a minute... Walk in his shoes: You're bursting at the seams... You have to tell someone. Anyone!! But, you decide to tell the person you love! You can't go on with life until you do. So, you take the chance! Now, your vulnerability is showing... and the possibility of rejection is crippling...

There, that's better! I hope you understand. 🙂

@LonerLoop yeah,its his loss really. Maybe he wants the thrill of the chase. Or he wants to be the hero who can change the girl coz the girl has tons of issues as well. *sigh* thanks for the advice girl,its just Leo's are having a hard time this past few years in the love department 😢

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I'm not into LDR's... sounds like he isn't either. If it were me, I could see the love confession, and then realizing the distance is just not gonna work out.

@misslissa we were supposed to see eachother this october since I'm gonna be flying to the states. I planned to fly end of this month as a surprise but I ended up the one getting surprised. Why did he confess in the first place if he knew the distance wont work. He keeps on saying he doesn't know what he wants..like wth

Have you ever had something on your mind, or heart, that you needed to tell someone, cuz you feel like you'll burst at the seems.....??

Wouldn't it be better to tell the person, or someone who isn't involved? Wouldn't you rather tell the person INSTEAD of someone who isn't involved??

🙂

I would not want to be with a man who doesn't know what he wants... I'm too old for that, and it seems like he really doesn't know!

@misslissa waaaah I didn't really get your second statement,lol sorry..mind is clouded atm..its functioning slow..haha can you elaborate on that part? I'm so sorry..

Yeah,nbody wants to be with someone who is uncertain of things in life,and yes,I alsothink he really doesn't know what he wants 😢 and he just wants me to stay there until he figures himself out..

Yea... I kinda worded that alil weird. Lol!

Think about it for a minute... Walk in his shoes: You're bursting at the seams... You have to tell someone. Anyone!! But, you decide to tell the person you love! You can't go on with life until you do. So, you take the chance! Now, your vulnerability is showing... and the possibility of rejection is crippling...

There, that's better! I hope you understand. 🙂

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@misslissa haha now I get it. I think he is actually inlove with love itself. He hasn't been in a relationship for a really long time and has felt the loneliness and emptiness in his life. He showed me how vulnerable he is and I appreciated him for that. I understand what you said but I never rejected him, I was even more eager to see him coz words and people change when they tell it to you personally. But maybe he is so clouded with his emotions he just wanted someone else that is near him rather than the one he really likes..

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PS. the example with my gem friend was to show you that they did that when they only see you as "a friend". I don't think you got the idea so I felt I had to also share with you how it's like when they are really into you. I hope you can see the difference there. best lucky with you!

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Thank you for sharing an honest and frank example. I understand what you mean and ofcourse I appreciate your explanation. Actually the Gem guy and i talked about it,he is actually building up his business in the states and can already travel around October after his mom's birthday. We are already planning to go to Peru since his sisters inlaws live there and we can spend Christmas there. I understand the part you said that I should be the center of his world and that he should move mountains to prove that. He was always ranting about checking flight tickets in going here and that money is not a problem to him but Idk if he was just teasing me ob those times,coz he always wants me to be there with him. There was a time he really wanted to go to singapore and I acted a bit scared that he really might go,then there was this time he really pushed me to go to the states but I have work here so I said I'll be going there in October for my cousins wedding,he agreed to be my plus one and even asked me how long I'm gonna stay in the states coz he wants me to be his plus one in his cousins wedding. I never felt this kind of mental connection to anybody else. Maybe he is just scared of rejection,which I never did to him since he showed me his vulnerable side. Yeah,I understand when you said he doesn't feel he will lose me coz I am always here that's why I asked him should I stay or go..he couldn't make a straight answer. He said he didn't want to lose me and didn't want to hurt me either and he is already getting help there as he feels so lost right now. But yeah,if he really loves me,he will and should pursue me with actions that will match his words 😢 I just feel betrayed,but for some reasons I can't explain, I am not that angry with him. Maybe I got numb and tired already after this one yr rollercoaster of emotions with him 😢

He even said he wished he can go back in time and just stayed in Asia with me. He also said he knows I was the only right person for him and now he fucked that up too and he still cares for me so much for me. Its just now he is so confused with his life,his emotions and he is scared to hurt somebody and be hurt by somebody anymore. I feel he is just scared of rejection from me (which I never rejected him) and maybe he doesn't want to travel across the world and be rejected that's why he jumped in to the other girl to find what he was hoping for. The thing with the girl just happened quickly so I think it was just the spur of the moment,like the faster anything begins-the faster it will end as well. I am just scared that he might come back again after this, he always comes back.

I remember him saying this when he confesses he was crazy inlove with me: "As long as you are in my life I know I will never be alone. I will sleep well knowing your love is in my life. I miss you more than Ivan ever explain--I can onky think to when we see eachother again. I know how sapoy and romabtic that sounds, but my emotions are 110% authentic. Its all about love,love"

His exact words. I find it sweet and I was really shocked coz it was the first time he showed me his sappy romantic side. Idk he really confuses me. My friend said we connected in a higher vibration and that the universe actually answered my prayers already,I just have to practice the art of allowing and let go of any resistance and fear so everything will fall into place..but I should just let him go and hope for nothing on his end. He is unstable emotionally and psychologically I guess..*sigh* I still care for him though..and can't be angry,I really don't know why..

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On 2nd thought, since you don't seem to be able to Not be influenced by his "words", maybe you should block him on everything and don't allow him a way to contact you. i have no problem with my friend because I don't have feelings for him (it can be entertaining when you don't have feelings for the person, especially gems are so good with their words.). But for you, obviously, you have feelings for him. If you allow him a way to contact you, you will just be hurt again and again and again. Not worth it.

@stopbeingdelusional yeah,I get you but the thing is he doesn't do drunk txts lol our conversations are deep,like we talk abt meditation,power of now and the likes. But yeah,if I allow him to communicate then the cycle is on again. 😢 thanks for the insight and sharing your experience,I appreciate that 😉

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Hmm sounds like my Gem guy friend and the whole mixed msgs.

Posted by Instantkarma
If you are always there, he may feel he doesn't have to work hard to impress you.

What's his Venus sign?

@Instantkarma I don't know his Venus sign..all I know is he is born on May 23,1987 in portland oregon..can his venus sign be the factor?

there was a time last yr after we first met that I got overwhelmed by his attention that I deactivated my facebook and just don't want to hear anything from him as he is confusing me already that time. Then he found me on skype,and just contacted me there. Asking why haven't I replied to his messages on fb,am I ok? He was worried. So we talked over skype,and he talked even with the different timezones while he was traveling. I just don't want to put malice on it so I just treated those conversations as friendly once,but he kept updating me and updating me. I think even if I disappear again,he would still try to find me as he knows I am the only one who can understand his craziness.. 😢

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@LonerLoop yeah,its his loss really. Maybe he wants the thrill of the chase. Or he wants to be the hero who can change the girl coz the girl has tons of issues as well. *sigh* thanks for the advice girl,its just Leo's are having a hard time this past few years in the love department 😢

I hear you but you being a Leo, my advice to you, find someone near. Some Gems, like me, with little water and earth on my chart, I have my head in the clouds. I am better with LDR then with those near me. He might have that and the connection do exist but it doesn't last that long because he's a man, he need physical as well.

The dudes in Singapore must be slacking somewhere eh till we both prefer someone far? No? I guess so because I find the men here soooo not interesting when it comes to love. 😛 😆

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@LonerLoop yeah,men here in Singapore are not interesting. Everyone is playing it safe,boriiiing! Lol and connection is really not there with the guys here :/

It may sound weird but I always connect with guys who I meet during my travels,I think they share my way of thinking unlike the people here in singapore lol 😉 I jnow you understand me haha yeah I know that my Gem needs physical as well,I asked him why can't he just wait til I go the states in October,its only a few months from now 😢 then there its much easier to figure out rather than thru chat/whatsapp etc

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I'm not into LDR's... sounds like he isn't either. If it were me, I could see the love confession, and then realizing the distance is just not gonna work out.

@misslissa we were supposed to see eachother this october since I'm gonna be flying to the states. I planned to fly end of this month as a surprise but I ended up the one getting surprised. Why did he confess in the first place if he knew the distance wont work. He keeps on saying he doesn't know what he wants..like wth

Have you ever had something on your mind, or heart, that you needed to tell someone, cuz you feel like you'll burst at the seems.....??

Wouldn't it be better to tell the person, or someone who isn't involved? Wouldn't you rather tell the person INSTEAD of someone who isn't involved??

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I would not want to be with a man who doesn't know what he wants... I'm too old for that, and it seems like he really doesn't know!

@misslissa waaaah I didn't really get your second statement,lol sorry..mind is clouded atm..its functioning slow..haha can you elaborate on that part? I'm so sorry..

Yeah,nbody wants to be with someone who is uncertain of things in life,and yes,I alsothink he really doesn't know what he wants 😢 and he just wants me to stay there until he figures himself out..

Yea... I kinda worded that alil weird. Lol!

Think about it for a minute... Walk in his shoes: You're bursting at the seams... You have to tell someone. Anyone!! But, you decide to tell the person you love! You can't go on with life until you do. So, you take the chance! Now, your vulnerability is showing... and the possibility of rejection is crippling...

There, that's better! I hope you understand. 🙂

@misslissa haha now I get it. I think he is actually inlove with love itself. He hasn't been in a relationship for a really long time and has felt the loneliness and emptiness in his life. He showed me how vulnerable he is and I appreciated him for that. I understand what you said but I never rejected him, I was even more eager to see him coz words and people change when they tell it to you personally. But maybe he is so clouded with his emotions he just wanted someone else that is near him rather than the one he really likes..

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And that could very well be the case... 🙂

@LonerLoop previously when he was traveling in Europe last yr,he constantly skyped me even if it was in a different timezones. He said that he just wants to see me before he sleeps. It was always him engaging in skype,I did tell me I want to skype him but I never really initiated any lol it was always him calling. Then we transfered to whatsapp chat when skype was down and went from there. He would call and update his whereabouts,what he was doing etc and would also send photos of his friends and what they are doing,all this is him initiating,I never asked for anything. He always calls me,I never called him ever,I dont know why :/ then when he calls me

He always says he wants to hear my voice before he sleeps,I feel he is very lonely and empty. Its like even when he is driving in the states,he would still txt me and ask if I'm awake and if he can call coz he is in a long drive. Then I was wondering,why call somebody who is halfway across the world and is living in different time zones just to talk to while you were having a long drive? He is in his home country,doesn't he have anyone else to talk to? Those were just my thoughts then...you can give you pointers 😉

And yes,local guys in singapore are soooooo boring!! I think robots are more amusing than them haha I don't even think they can really converse...meh,waste of time lah haha

@misslissa 😢 I just wishhe could've waited for me..it was only a couple of months then it is october 😢( should I hold on or let go? I told him I was excited to see him in october but I am not sure if that will happen now 😢( and he said he really wanted to see me,so idk..he is from seattle and I'll be in ny for a week..*sigh*

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@LonerLoop previously when he was traveling in Europe last yr,he constantly skyped me even if it was in a different timezones. He said that he just wants to see me before he sleeps. It was always him engaging in skype,I did tell me I want to skype him but I never really initiated any lol it was always him calling. Then we transfered to whatsapp chat when skype was down and went from there. He would call and update his whereabouts,what he was doing etc and would also send photos of his friends and what they are doing,all this is him initiating,I never asked for anything. He always calls me,I never called him ever,I dont know why :/ then when he calls me

Okay, if that happens to me, I might lost my interest on you as well. I mean, I still need the person to do the same thing or I will feel like I am doing everything alone. Once I open myself up to that person and he did not reciprocate those feelings, I will feel rejected and that's where I will keep my distant and look elsewhere. Hmmm....

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@LonerLoop I did ask him if I can call him and he said it is better if he calls me coz he might be doing something else during that time. *sigh* now I don't know if I did something wrong or if I didn't put out enough effort 😢 coz in the first place he wasn't clear with his intentions. When I confessed my feelings to him last time in bangkok he said he wasn't ready,so when he still initiated communication after that,I was just being friendly so as not to get hurt anymore 😢 I didn't really know what his intention was and him appearing and disappearing is very unstable for me as a leo..but my feelings is still here,I still care for him 😢 and he said he still cared for me as much..but when I asked hi if I should stay or go he didn't say a straight answer. He just said he didn't want to lose me but don't want to hurt me anymore...😢 is it my fault that I didn't exert much effort?😢 I feel bad right now and all I can think of is him..emotions from the past are suddenly resurfacing and I have not really moved on 😢 I wish he is thinking of me right now and just fly here in singapore to get this over with

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@siapaowiks

It happens the same thing for me with the Leo. I was the one who always initiate. I got frustrated and voice that out. He kinda raised his voice one time via voice note telling me he's busy and have got other stuffs to do bla bla bla. I got hurt and that was where I started to distant myself. By the time he tried to make it up to me, I have lost it all. In the end, we decided to be just friends.

In your situation, I will still suggest you to move on. He's still so unsure of his feelings and it's not good for the both of you. LDR needs a lot of hard work from both parties. There has got to be goals and proper planning. It seems like he's not up to that so your effort will goes down the drain.

Think about it. 🙂

@LonerLoop oh,so sorry to hear abt that from your Leo. Me I never raised my voice to the Gem guy,I always made time for him,adjusted everything for him. But that's the thing,I started to.move on last year but he still kept holding on 😢 why 😢 now it is hard for the both of us 😢 he also said he is gonna be traveling again by october but Idk what to expect or believe anymore 😢 I asked him why he lied to me,he said he didn't and that he is confused with everything,its like he knows deep inside that I'm the one but since I'm far then he chose thw wrong one and ended up gettig hurt 😢

I really don't know if I can talk to him or if he will message me right now. I haven't really replied to his last txt 😢 what to say lah.

@LonerLoop I also couldn't find anyone I can have a deep conversation with. Maybe that's why me and the Gem guy clicked because we can talk about our thoughts on a deeper level which is really amazing. Wish he just fly here in singapore 😢

@LonerLoop yeah, Geminis are really deep creatures. I like how my Gem guy opens up about deep conversations and we have our talk going on for hours..it is true that Geminis are crazy,but ts just the thoughts that go in your head that you need stimulating conversation for. Yeah,that connection is what I felt with him 😢 thank you for your insights on this,I really appreciate it. Maybe this connection is why i can't find myself to be angry towards him..I just feel upset that he didn't wait for me..he still have a month..hopefully the wind changes and he flies to ny for me..

@LonerLoop yup. Thanks dear 🙂

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@misslissa 😢 I just wishhe could've waited for me..it was only a couple of months then it is october 😢( should I hold on or let go? I told him I was excited to see him in october but I am not sure if that will happen now 😢( and he said he really wanted to see me,so idk..he is from seattle and I'll be in ny for a week..*sigh*

Well, I really think you should wait to see if he shows up!! If he does, or doesn't, you'll have your answer, either way.

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@misslissa 😢 I just wishhe could've waited for me..it was only a couple of months then it is october 😢( should I hold on or let go? I told him I was excited to see him in october but I am not sure if that will happen now 😢( and he said he really wanted to see me,so idk..he is from seattle and I'll be in ny for a week..*sigh*

Well, I really think you should wait to see if he shows up!! If he does, or doesn't, you'll have your answer, either way.

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@misslissa you think so? yeah, I think I can wait but I won't remind him about it or contact him anymore especially after these recent happenings 😢 can his venus affect his personality? How to know his venus sign?

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@misslissa 😢 I just wishhe could've waited for me..it was only a couple of months then it is october 😢( should I hold on or let go? I told him I was excited to see him in october but I am not sure if that will happen now 😢( and he said he really wanted to see me,so idk..he is from seattle and I'll be in ny for a week..*sigh*

Well, I really think you should wait to see if he shows up!! If he does, or doesn't, you'll have your answer, either way.

@misslissa you think so? yeah, I think I can wait but I won't remind him about it or contact him anymore especially after these recent happenings 😢 can his venus affect his personality? How to know his venus sign?

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It can, as venus is how you love. Google "free birth charts", and put in his day, month, year and where he was born. (If you don't know the time of birth that's OK too) I like cafeastrology.

Update: jut celebrated my birthday and he suddenly messaged me. But he didn't greeted me,he was just checking up on me and hoped I was doing okay and he had it with a kiss emoticon. I didn't reply,what for? Right?!?! Then just now,I looked at his facebook and he was tagged in a photo with a girl full of tattoos and they were in a club. Ugh!!! I honestly pity him!!! Therapy my ass!!! Therapy was his excuse and now he is out partying?! Pfffftttt such a liar