@Greentea
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what must I do— gosh I miss him so much
OP, the only thing that may bring him back his our optimism and belief in second chances...but it'll be a good while(if ever) before we even consider coming back.
Had the same experience back in the day with a Gem and I thought it was for good. The pain was very deep because it wasn't just the loss of her but I had a very good relationship with her daughter. The pain subsided eventually but it took a few years. I ran into her again one day and yes I considered dating her again. But, I quickly discovered that she never changed. So, it's more than just him coming back.
I was in a relationship with a Sag for 3 years, it has also been 2 years since we broke up... your story sounds very similar to mine.
He told me he had to block me from all social media and we could never speak again. I think it is just a way of healing and to be honest I think it's a very sensible way of doing it. Part of me wants to reach out and try to talk to him but I don't think it's a good idea... He could still be hurting, or he could just be over the whole thing... either way it's probably for the best that I don't try to contact him. I think you should do that same, move on.
What's his moon sign?
Posted by questionoflustquestionoftrust
marks two years that I broke up with him.
How fucking insecure are YOU ..... two years, and you're still clinging on.
Damn, no wonder the guy bailed ..... you're insufferable just in here by stating that you're still hanging onto him after all this time .. I can imagine how smothering you must have been to him in real life.
Good for him. You did him a favor by breaking up with him, and I hope he now realizes it, in the event your stalking finds him.
Posted by JROI
I was in a relationship with a Sag for 3 years, it has also been 2 years since we broke up... your story sounds very similar to mine.He told me he had to block me from all social media and we could never speak again. I think it is just a way of healing and to be honest I think it's a very sensible way of doing it. Part of me wants to reach out and try to talk to him but I don't think it's a good idea... He could still be hurting, or he could just be over the whole thing... either way it's probably for the best that I don't try to contact him. I think you should do that same, move on.
I only block someone when I realize I have no more chances. At this point, my heart is broken already. I usually take 2 or 3 years to get over - after that I might talk to that person again but it will never be the same. It happened with a Libra I used to date. Years later he added me on fb and sent me a message. We talked in a friendly way but that's all, I couldn't feel the same for him because of what he did to me. It's easy to forgive, but so hard to forget 😢
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Do you still talk to the Libra?
Posted by capricornmoon
You hurt him. Why do people do that? Hurt the ones they claim to love then want them back in the next breath. You aren't a decisive person. You're wish you washy. Next time you get another lucky opportunity to be in the presence of someone good for you then weigh all your options before you think about dumping them,
It's not always that easy, people make mistakes in relationships all the time.
When did you decide you wanted him back?
Girl I feel you. Whatever you do tread carefully. You did break his heart. He might not even be open to making it work. Also, you know him better than anyone here. Only you would know what to do and say. Just try to understand where he's coming from and how he's feeling. I wish you the best of luck!
Posted by questionoflustquestionoftrust
He is a Taurus moon.ANGEL my love for him has not changed, my mentality did. I was insecure for letting him do him? It was only fair. By the way I'm here to get actual Sagittari perspective thank you very much.
Something did change, me. My perspective on everything. I moved back to the city, while in the suburbs I reflected on everything. Life, job, home, social circle, hobbies. Everything was good, but I knew I could do better. I told myself if I ever moved back to the city I would start all over. Moved into a nice apartment, got a new job, have a smaller circle of friends, and I meditate, do yoga, and have evening refelctions, and read daily. I feel I am where I need to be.
Your right he is still the same, the only think I can change is myself for the better. We learn from our mistakes.
Remember the darkest hour is just before dawn.
Well, I quickly lose interest if somebody hurts me, or disappoint me, especially after couple of months, or worse, years without communication. Once that happens, I'm never the same to that person...I'm totally flat then.
Posted by questionoflustquestionoftrust
He is a Taurus moon.ANGEL my love for him has not changed, my mentality did. I was insecure for letting him do him? It was only fair. By the way I'm here to get actual Sagittari perspective thank you very much.
Something did change, me. My perspective on everything. I moved back to the city, while in the suburbs I reflected on everything. Life, job, home, social circle, hobbies. Everything was good, but I knew I could do better. I told myself if I ever moved back to the city I would start all over. Moved into a nice apartment, got a new job, have a smaller circle of friends, and I meditate, do yoga, and have evening refelctions, and read daily. I feel I am where I need to be.
Your right he is still the same, the only think I can change is myself for the better. We learn from our mistakes.
Remember the darkest hour is just before dawn.Well, I quickly lose interest if somebody hurts me, or disappoint me, especially after couple of months, or worse, years without communication. Once that happens, I'm never the same to that person...I'm totally flat then.
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Aries same way. Maybe a fire sign thing. We move on after a time.
There's nothing you can do. My ex Sag dumped me and I did everything I could to reach out to him until I realized I am becoming a stalker. I am slowly moving on because he gave me no choice. He has made it impossible for me to contact him so it is clear that he wants nothing to do with me.
Posted by questionoflustquestionoftrust
He was not only the best relationship I ever had, we were the best of friends. January 22 marks two years that I broke up with him. His love was so raw and passionate. But I couldn't provide him the emotional security he wanted. I was trying to figure some things out. He is sag sun, taurus moon. I an gem sun, virgo moon The week I broke up with him he deleted me from Facebook. Then proceeded to delete his account the week after that. I tried texting him. But nothing. I tried multiple times throughout these months. I even messaged his brother on Fb. That I was looking for him and let him know. I wish he would answer me. I swear if I saw him in person again I would give him the biggest hug. So Sagittarius what can I do?
Anybody dumps me, youre dead to me forever. Then you try to play games and try to contact me, my family?? Youre cruisin for a bruisin. I dare not go back and give you a second chance to trample all over my feelings.
Posted by capricornmoon
You hurt him. Why do people do that? Hurt the ones they claim to love then want them back in the next breath. You aren't a decisive person. You're wish you washy. Next time you get another lucky opportunity to be in the presence of someone good for you then weigh all your options before you think about dumping them,It's not always that easy, people make mistakes in relationships all the time.
I understand that but she's acting like something drastically changed to make her want him back. He's still the same ole him. She needs to understand that things are now on his terms. She relinquished her control. She'll get him back if HE wants her back. She's gonna have to sit tight and pretty and WAIT. I feel like people do things without thinking about the consequences from the other party. Every action has an opposite and sometimes equal reaction.
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this all day
Posted by capricornmoon
You hurt him. Why do people do that? Hurt the ones they claim to love then want them back in the next breath. You aren't a decisive person. You're wish you washy. Next time you get another lucky opportunity to be in the presence of someone good for you then weigh all your options before you think about dumping them,
Good advice.
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I think it hurt him a lot, so much it's unforgivable. I don't know how deep your love was, but Sag guys and gals...once they fall, they fall hard. So I'm sure he would've rather moved on then go through that pain again.
My Sag girlfriend was just broken up with not too long ago, and her ex has been trying to get back with her, but she said no and ignoring all his attempts/blocked him everywhere. She said, that she still loves him deeply and its hard to keep her emotions for him under control and not to go back, but she'd rather go on with life, then experience having to go through that kind of pain of possibly losing him again, she can't take that chance. She thought he was safe.