Disappointed by my Leo bf ..

My Leo bf keeps disappointing me .. Why is he doing this, it really hurtswe've been together for almost a year, we try to meet regularly when we can (like 2-3 times a month) bec. we live far from eachother, so we mostly talk on the phone.. and also our work schedules are tight.Our relationship was really good and I was head over heels for him.. But over the past 3 months l feel that whenever he knows I'm expecting something from him, he doesn't do it on purpose.. and I have no idea why.. please tell me Leos!

1) First time he disappointed me is when he didnt bring me a gift on my birthday and in the morning he didnt send me anything until I sent him a text asking if hes ok? then he told me Happy Birthday. Later when I saw him, he didntget me a gift and 3 days later I told him that I've been womdering why he didnt bring me anything, he said he didnt know what to get me, then said he's saving for it, then asked me do u mnow how much i get paid? and finally said since I asked him about it, it feels awkward for him to get it now, that it feels not being natural/sincere anymore, I ended up telling him that i dont care about it and he doesnt "have to" get it ... I met him 3 times after that day and still got nothing but i dont care.. his birthday is coming up and i cant wait to give his gift

2) He is starting his career as a doctor and I know he wants to help me in everyway.. (his workplace is very far from me to reach though) A couple of days ago I felt really sick and booked with my family doctor, and told him when i was on my way, he was texting me and didnt seem worried (seemed rather upset that i didnt call him) .. I was in a hurry and he responds to my texts like 3-4 hours later and I couldnt call him, so I told him that i was in a hurry and was feeling sick. He did not ask me the other day if im still feeling sick and this really upset me and i told him that (knowing thst he told me before one of his friends, a girl told him her stomache hurts, and he called her the other day to check on her). Today after that night i told him he didnt ask how im feeling, he still didnt text me, he didnt even text me goodmorning until i did .. and i asked about his dad bec. he was feeling tired but he said his dad is ok

Why is he doing this? I am so disappointed and angry

oh and thrres something he said that really shocked me ...

3) I was asking him why he didnt call me on the day i went to the doctor, since i texted him to call me when hes free (he had a night shift that day so he was free in the morning).. and i called him but he didnt answer n texted me that hes in the bank. but later when he finished the stuff at the bank he didnt call until i did and he seemed in a rush to hang up. when i adked him about not calling me he said he thought id be busy, i asked him why didnt he send me a text asking if im free.. he said..

"I did not want to ask and then get disappointed if you said you're not free"

I told him.. do you think that is right? he apologized.. but really this made me feel really bad ...

4) Following the same thing he said, there were some nights we couldnt talk on the phone at night and i told him we can even talk during the day.. but still he didnt call me during the day and i ended up calling him.. and when i asked him why he doesnt call during the day..he goes like.. i'll go to work "full days and nights" cause i dontwant to keep thinking of you n missing u (he doesnt even send casual texts... so i told him, u dont want to miss me so as not to feel bad ..but its ok that i feel bad? he was like..no u took it the wrong way ...

i think you should just ask him if everything is okay and see what he has to say, it seems like he is going through something or there is alot of miscommunication going on that is making him not be himself, just talk to him

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yes sorry typo.. i meant a year :/

Posted by TxOgal
My Leo bf keeps disappointing me .. Why is he doing this, it really hurtswe've been together for almost a year, we try to meet regularly when we can (like 2-3 times a month) bec. we live far from eachother, so we mostly talk on the phone.. and also our work schedules are tight.Our relationship was really good and I was head over heels for him.. But over the past 3 months l feel that whenever he knows I'm expecting something from him, he doesn't do it on purpose.. and I have no idea why.. please tell me Leos!

1) First time he disappointed me is when he didnt bring me a gift on my birthday and in the morning he didnt send me anything until I sent him a text asking if hes ok? then he told me Happy Birthday. Later when I saw him, he didntget me a gift and 3 days later I told him that I've been womdering why he didnt bring me anything, he said he didnt know what to get me, then said he's saving for it, then asked me do u mnow how much i get paid? and finally said since I asked him about it, it feels awkward for him to get it now, that it feels not being natural/sincere anymore, I ended up telling him that i dont care about it and he doesnt "have to" get it ... I met him 3 times after that day and still got nothing but i dont care.. his birthday is coming up and i cant wait to give his gift

2) He is starting his career as a doctor and I know he wants to help me in everyway.. (his workplace is very far from me to reach though) A couple of days ago I felt really sick and booked with my family doctor, and told him when i was on my way, he was texting me and didnt seem worried (seemed rather upset that i didnt call him) .. I was in a hurry and he responds to my texts like 3-4 hours later and I couldnt call him, so I told him that i was in a hurry and was feeling sick. He did not ask me the other day if im still feeling sick and this really upset me and i told him that (knowing thst he told me before one of his friends, a girl told him her stomache hurts, and he called her the other day to check on her). Today after that night i told him he didnt ask how im feeling, he still didnt text me, he didnt even text me goodmorning until i did .. and i asked about his dad bec. he was feeling tired but he said his dad is ok

Why is he doing this? I am so disappointed and angry

Needy much? Why do you need all that contact and reass

I would be absolutely direct.... just like Moonshine said, before.

Ask him if he wants to put the relationship on hold and see

what he says.

@Aqu@Libra .. I think common courtsey is checking on someone if he/she said hes sick.. how come that means beeing "needy"?

Posted by Montgomery
I would be absolutely direct.... just like Moonshine said, before.

Ask him if he wants to put the relationship on hold and see

what he says.

Clearly that's what he wants without having to say it...she's afraid to ask cos she knows it...

I suggest stop contact, let him contact you in his own time. That way you won't annoy him and you won't have to suggest things he may not have considered or want.

he talks to me everyday .. n now he just text me sayin he came from work n will call in a while .. so lets see


i didnt send anything after asking about his dad but i asked if everything is ok n he said yes ..

ugh wish i can read minds

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Posted by Montgomery
I would be absolutely direct.... just like Moonshine said, before.

Ask him if he wants to put the relationship on hold and see

what he says.

Clearly that's what he wants without having to say it...she's afraid to ask cos she knows it...

I suggest stop contact, let him contact you in his own time. That way you won't annoy him and you won't have to suggest things he may not have considered or want.

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Clearly that's what he wants... but don't suggest what he hasn't considered.

lol... okay.

Posted by TxOgal
he talks to me everyday .. n now he just text me sayin he came from work n will call in a while .. so lets see


i didnt send anything after asking about his dad but i asked if everything is ok n he said yes ..

ugh wish i can read minds

What does this have to do with the OP?

You're not acknowledging the facts you've provided us.


If you just want to vent, say so.

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Posted by Montgomery
I would be absolutely direct.... just like Moonshine said, before.

Ask him if he wants to put the relationship on hold and see

what he says.

Clearly that's what he wants without having to say it...she's afraid to ask cos she knows it...

I suggest stop contact, let him contact you in his own time. That way you won't annoy him and you won't have to suggest things he may not have considered or want.

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dont listen to ^^
that will start games and you dont wanna do that

Posted by TxOgal
he talks to me everyday .. n now he just text me sayin he came from work n will call in a while .. so lets see


i didnt send anything after asking about his dad but i asked if everything is ok n he said yes ..

ugh wish i can read minds

also, leos in a relationship get "comfortable" and that is how we act, well anyone in a long term relationship acts that way, maybe you guys are getting too comfortable and so he doesnt feel the need to do all the things you want him to and he wont if you keep nagging about it. Just let him know how u feel with REASON and be calm and dont point fingers or accuse him of something he isnt aware he is doing. He does seem a little scattered so Just be honest and straight forward and seee what he says. Dont stress yourself over every little detail. goodluckk

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Posted by Aqu@Libra

Posted by Montgomery
I would be absolutely direct.... just like Moonshine said, before.

Ask him if he wants to put the relationship on hold and see

what he says.

Clearly that's what he wants without having to say it...she's afraid to ask cos she knows it...

I suggest stop contact, let him contact you in his own time. That way you won't annoy him and you won't have to suggest things he may not have considered or want.

Clearly that's what he wants... but don't suggest what he hasn't considered.

lol... okay.

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:-?

Lmao, what I mean is that he may want a break without actually announcing, making it official... she should have the strength to just leave him alone for a while.

i did ask him of he wanted a break before ... n he got bummed about it n said no.. we cant go one day witjout talking to eachother

Posted by TxOgal
i did ask him of he wanted a break before ... n he got bummed about it n said no.. we cant go one day witjout talking to eachother

I was married to a Leo doctor.

He is not getting sleep, rest, he is super tired.

Don't suggest a break. It will crush him, make him more wary. Unless you just want to leave him. Then I suggest a clean break for you two. No playing games.

If you can spend extended time together, you'll see what I mean.

Post his full chart, let's see what's going on.

I suspect he believes you trust him explicitly to tell him any and everything that is going on with you. They usually expect straight as arrow discussions concerning health and shared resources. Sometimes, even emotions.

Even with Scorpio Leo moon, he wanted facts on all meds and exact nature of disease or infirmity.

Him: Aqua Moon, Virgo Mercury, Virgo Venus, Virgo Mars

Mine: Scorpio Moon, Taurus Mercury, Aries Venus, Pisces Mars

we almost had a heated argument.. but he finally apologized for not asking about me when I was sick and for being careless the past days.. he sounds sincere.. I hope such actions dont rise up again. it was very uncomfortable and threatening

Posted by Ssupes
She's just venting I think. She's posted about this guy a few times now

I think you're right.

Posted by TxOgal

Him: Aqua Moon, Virgo Mercury, Virgo Venus, Virgo Mars

Mine: Scorpio Moon, Taurus Mercury, Aries Venus, Pisces Mars

Only full charts will work, but I hope you resolve your problems soon.

Look up Aquarius Moon if you haven't already and his actions will probably get a lot clearer to you.

Again... I keep getting disappointed by my Leo.. Like one day he shows one step forwards and then the other day I feel disappointed 😢

Following no.2 in my original post.. he usually doesn't text back before 4 hours.. but today I feel awful about it because he knew I was traveling on the road and I texted him that he saw it and said arrive safely, I responded and told him I missed him, he read it but did not reply.. I texted him I arrived (bec. he wanted me to always tell him when I arrive..etc) he didn't respond.

7 hours later I call him, he hangs up on me and texts me something like "sweetheart".. I texted him is everything ok? he texted later "yes" and said he will call me soon and that he is at work. (by the way I called him 1 hour before he goes to work) this happened today and he has a night shift, so all morning when we were texting, he was not at work.

anyway I texted him "nevermind just checking"

I am just wondering is this normal? by the way, he gets so annoyed when I don't respond to him in an hour or 2, and one day he thought im really ignoring him bec. I didn't respond right away..

STRANGE!

We did talk about this before, when I was sick and he didn't check on me, and when I traveled (one other time) and he didn't check on me when I arrived, but still I see the same thing happening over again..

I like to add that he only calls me at night, and one time when he thought im ignoring his text, I told him why didn't u call me? I would have heard my phone, and told him it is just really strange that you never like to call in the middle of the day and only at night. .so yesterday he texted me (I was driving so I didn't see it) he called me n I answered, and he was just checking on me in the middle of the day, I texted him later that he caught me off guard but I liked it

and today THIS! .. whats wrong with him? I know I am too anxious sometimes, but really that's only after it happening a zillion times and I keep letting it go, but now im really bothered 😢

It's strange how some demand attention but won't give it back.... ur input Leos please......?

Posted by Ssupes
Your head is so far up his butt yall are talking with the same lips.

I'd appreciate a meaningful response over this... why cant you people talk in a meaningful and decent language?

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. The bottom line is... You are NOT happy so why put up with that shit!! He is not even showing you any interest or even care... If that were me... He would be history.... DUMPED!!!! 1 year and he is already behaving like an ass and you should still be in yr honeymoon period...

You need to assess if that is how you wish to be treated... Obviously not!! In fact I get the impression thst He has not got the balls to dump you so is doing everything in his power to make sure you get fed up of the situation, read between the lines and dump him!!!

The problem is he does show he cares, but like today, he texts me a while ago saying he's sorry and that he was with his father (his father sometimes gets sick) .. now what is really bothering me is why couldn't he just tell me he was with his father? instead of keeping me so worried all day about him not caring about me..

He shows many signs that he cares, like he'd stay up late until I get back home to be able to talk before bed, like I was at a party last night n came back after 2 am, he was feeling tired from work since morning but he waited for me. when I complained about him getting annoyed when I don't respond in the middle of the day and I told him he could just call instead, he called.. so I feel that he cares sometimes, but other times I feel what I feel now... I don't even know if im being rational or not, but you can see my original post so I do have my reasons.. n having a scorpio moon aint an easy thing,, too many doubts 😢 I just need consistency people.. im not obsessing, I am calm about it with him, but inside im boiling

Posted by busyeyes88
The "cons" in yr "relationship are outweighing "pros"!!! You are getting fuck all out of it but yet you like many women would rather sit and out up with mistreatment instead of being alone!

mm wel cause I was annoyed.. I know it looks bad... but what's keeping me hanging is him being nice to me, im not making threads on how nice he was to me, cause then I don't have a problem to share with you and resolve it..

like for example, the day about being sick and he didn't ask me the other day how im doing, but the day when I was at the doctor, he told me to send him my reports and scan, and I sent it to him and he replied to me instantly.. and that happened more than once.

about the gift, he does feel bad that he didn't bring me one, and when I got him a gift on his birthday, he was really surprised and then felt bad saying that I didn't have to do that, and he did not get me a gift

now he texts me again asking about me more than once in the past 2 hours, and he is at the hospital, so I know he noticed im bothered

see why im confused? he is nice but other times he seems careless... but I feel that he is genuine that's why I keep holding on to this relationship

I already keep a journal over the months, to see if the days when im happy are a lot or if the bad days are equal or more... im doing this for one more month, then I will take an action, if I realize im sad more than happy

Posted by Ssupes
I honestly don't know what else to tell you. I've told you here and via SEVERAL pms to me. Just like I've told you many times now. THIS WILL CONTINUE TO HAPPEN

+1

You can't change a man.

You may either understand it or not, but you can't change him.

That sucks ....

Have you guys always only seen each other 2-3 times a month? Do you think most, if not all of your issues would be resolved if you could see each other regularly?

I have been in a relationship in the past where we went from seeing each other at least once a week, to only seeing each other maybe once every few months. He was pretty busy after he moved (he started college and was double majoring) and barely sent me texts or called. I thought "is he really so busy that he couldn't send me a good morning text or call me once a day? If that were me, I'd MAKE time". Basically, I was lacking attention and was not impressed by his lack of responding. I imagine he was simply busy, enjoying 'me time', or socializing. Looking back on it, I can't hold that against him. I need socializing, me time, etc too so I can understand to a degree the lack of conversations even if he were perhaps not busy. Not to say my way is right and yours is wrong. Some people need more attention and feedback in relationships and can't compromise that. That's okay.

Anyway, you'll have to decide if waiting it out is worth it and if things will be good enough for you once you can see each other regularly. Is there a chance that the behavior that is annoying you now will disappear once you're together more often? Is there a plan for moving closer set in to place or is it 'undetermined'? Just things to consider.

I understand he was busy.. but what is bothering me that we talked about this before and when I was sick I told him I won't beg/nag you to ask about me.. and he got bothered saying I donteven have to say it .. It bothers me that when I dont respond it means im ignoring but if he doesnt then hes busy .. it bothers me that he told me to let him know when im goin out..etc for him to know what im up to and so he wont have to worry while he doesnt really do that.. only sometimes. Everytime on his vacation, Id think oh we finally have some free time to talk on the phone at least..but then i keep waitung and then i figure he went out fot family duties or whatever reason.. n yes today he said he'll call soon (even though hes at work he used to call me at night for a few mins) but yeh its been 9 hours now since he said he'll call n he didnt.. i know he is busy but why tell me hed call?? why keep me waiting??

we dont see eachother much bec. we r kinda far from eachother n he finishes work 8 pm.. so seeing him after work will be really late for me.. id then be home by midnight :/

we should start language classes together next month n i am going to take them at a centre near his place (his suggestion) theres another near my place that i could just use instead. But guess we'll get to see eachither more.. eventhough i got a feelinghe'll skip some classes..

about further plans he said its not a good time n i agree bec. he is not in a real job yet ..its only training so he is not stable in his career yet..

Posted by champranger
*person can't do the same. The nature of his job sounds quite time demanding so I think you should get more busy as well. If he got annoyed because you didn't reply immediately, remind him that he does the same. So I think he would either be more understanding of the delays from your end or he would be more diligent about his responses.

IMO 🙂

I am trying hard to get used to this.. and you're right i am anxious and i am really aware of it but i keep thinking if i will ever feel calm.. last night i was so mad that i was thinking of breaking off if i cant handle this.. n if he cant show me the attention i need.. then i will either feel miserable or GOD FORBID cheat 😢

He already got so mad at me a few months ago bec. i was chatting (maybe a little too much) with a friend and it annoyed him like hell that i was getting attention from another guy.. i cut all contact with him and apologized to my bf and told him he makes it seem like i cheated, while it was only a casual chat.

I think he already knows i need more attention

Posted by Ssupes
Your head is so far up his butt yall are talking with the same lips.

+1

There is nothing out there that is honey or gold. Though, relationships are give and take.

You have to weigh your expectations with your reality. If the Leo is lacking in everything, then you need to reconsider.

If not, do your life and understand that every man has his faults.

My Scorpio hubby was probably worse. We saw him once a week on Saturdays and mornings or nights when he had a yearning.

Still, I wasn't ready to leave him.

Because there is no such thing as perfect man.

Think.

i am really tired of this heartache .. 😢

he called me when he returned from work around 9 am. i was sleeping n missed his call .. now it seems like hes detached..

and now he texts me saying he might not be able to talk today..

i am really hurting .... not sure if he even realizes it

Posted by Ssupes

Posted by TxOgal
i am really tired of this heartache .. 😢

he called me when he returned from work around 9 am. i was sleeping n missed his call .. now it seems like hes detached..

and now he texts me saying he might not be able to talk today..

i am really hurting .... not sure if he even realizes it

Your a bull for christ sake!

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I am really a wreck this days from family troubles .. now this ....

i asked him why.. he said he just needs some time by himself .. guess ill back off now ..

update: .. I gave him one day then told him we need to talk, feeling this confusion was not fair for me.. I sent him an email (letter like) telling him that i needed his support and hes only distancing himself from me, told him how Id want to comfort him.. and i didnt know whats going on.. etc

he called me then next day he texts randomly then calls again.. we talked about it and turns out he was also annoyed because he tried to call me a couple of times and needed my support too n i wasnt available.. seems like both of us were annoyed by exact same reasons... he was stressed out from work and me from family

I'm unclear why you don't direct your own life, according to what's in your best interest?

I didn't read this whole thing. I only read a few sentences in the OP and then what is on this last page. I take it that the Taurus was talking real to you and you can't handle it.

Typical ignorance.


So, according to what I did read ...you are unhappy, but, unwilling to do anything about it other than whine.

You say, "told him how Id want to comfort him" ... after complaining about how unhappy you are.

How bizarre. If you tell him that, and you feel that way ..... then you deserve all the grief you get.


if you want to deserve more, then you have to earn it for yourself. If you're going to overlook yourself, and only cater to him .... then you deserve to be fucked over.

Posted by P-Angel

I'm unclear why you don't direct your own life, according to what's in your best interest?

I didn't read this whole thing. I only read a few sentences in the OP and then what is on this last page. I take it that the Taurus was talking real to you and you can't handle it.

Typical ignorance.


So, according to what I did read ...you are unhappy, but, unwilling to do anything about it other than whine.

You say, "told him how Id want to comfort him" ... after complaining about how unhappy you are.

How bizarre. If you tell him that, and you feel that way ..... then you deserve all the grief you get.


if you want to deserve more, then you have to earn it for yourself. If you're going to overlook yourself, and only cater to him .... then you deserve to be fucked over.

Ignorance is giving your opinion without knowing the whole story. If you're too lazy to read, don't bother to leave your biased comment

Thank you.

Of course, because it's easier for you to deflect your bullshit onto me, rather than face the truth of yourself.

You're the one in here laying on the floor for him to walk on and calling it care.


So, what is this whole story? huh?


I went back and read and guess what? I was right. You're not doing a goddamn thing to help yourself, and acting like you're being mistreated. So, the reality is .. I was spot on with my opinion.

Meanwhile, you came back with another deflection ... this about me.

At what point are you going to decide to be a decent person to yourself?


oh that rights ..... you're too much of a coward, and so your only recourse is to pretend that other people are at fault for your bad decision.


ssdd .... what a moron

It seems to be a pattern for Taurus females. There's been quite a few in dxp as stupid as you when it comes to integrity.

There was one who proclaimed that it's an honor to take abuse from partner if you love them, that that its he proper way to show the other person that you love them. Not verbatim, but, that was her point.

It was a Taurus woman being abused by a Pisces, and so this stupid Bull I'm talking about came in to scold us Fish for telling the woman to get the hell out of this relationship because we don't understand female Bulls..... that for a woman to show her love to her man, she is suppose to endure everything he does to her, even bad treatment.


We all kind of sat there with our jaws gapping open .. really? You're that ignorant.


since then, I've been on a crusade to try and read what female Bulls say ... and it seems that the majority of them are this exact same way.


So, the bottom line remains the same .... due to the fact that you refuse to help yourself - you deserve all the grief you are getting. If you want to have better, then you have to earn better.

People, please if anyone's going to share their opinion, be a Leo male or someone who's been with a Leo. I got no energy or time to waste over useless comments from non-Leos who just want to force their opinion cause it's what they believe is right.

We are sharing experiences, certainly not forcing violence or bashing others and certainly not dictating others what to do.

Say your piece and hold your peace

Posted by champranger

Posted by TxOgal
update: .. I gave him one day then told him we need to talk, feeling this confusion was not fair for me.. I sent him an email (letter like) telling him that i needed his support and hes only distancing himself from me, told him how Id want to comfort him.. and i didnt know whats going on.. etc

he called me then next day he texts randomly then calls again.. we talked about it and turns out he was also annoyed because he tried to call me a couple of times and needed my support too n i wasnt available.. seems like both of us were annoyed by exact same reasons... he was stressed out from work and me from family

and then?

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well he told me today his mind is a mess and it has nothing to do with me, guess that explains why he was annoyed when I wasn't available. I told him I'm there for him and now I'm really praying that things get better for him. I know he will open up more about it when he sorts things in his head

actually, thinking about it, I think me and the Leo are too similar.. I mean well he has lots of Virgo in his chart and I have Virgo rising.. maybe that's related? no idea

Hope things get better OP you guys can make it!

Posted by Ssupes

Posted by TxOgal
Poople, please if anyone's going to share their opinion, be a Leo male or someone who's been with a Leo. I got no energy or time to waste over useless comments from non-Leos who just want to force their opinion cause it's what they believe is right.We are sharing experiences, certainly not forcing violence or bashing others and certainly not dictating others what to do.Say your piece and hold your peace

I'm a Leo male and even MY feedback isn't sitting well with you.........what can we do to make you happy?

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Ssupes is kind of right.

Not in a critical way -its just that you are confused, Leo is messed up, you stay confused while giving him space... Its all so... dep re ssing.

Let me challenge you to something - write ten reasons you like/love this man. You don't need to tell us about it. Then write ten reasons you would leave him.

Compare, and banish your doubts or worries.

Now, if you choose to stay, you could share the ten reasons why you love him with the Leo. Let him feel secure in your love so that he can move on from his jumble sooner than later.

If you decide to leave, do it quickly, and make sure to rip it clean. It will help you to move on faster and more painlessly.

You need to make a decision - for your happiness.

Posted by Capricorn124
Hope things get better OP you guys can make it!

Thanks really 🙂