Dominance

I'm curious to know how you deal with the issue of who runs the relationship or leads it.
While I've read doormats are a no-no for you guys, what about power struggles? Wouldn't they also be a turn off for would it be more like foreplay?
Also noticed Leo Rising and Moons seem more blantant with their need of control and attention then the Suns.
Goodness, they make the Suns look like saints in comparison. Not trying to bash but those traits I mentioned are much more pronounced with those two than with the sun in Leo folk.

Care to share the Leo view on it?

I'm definitely not attracted to guys who are doormats. It's as though they either don't know themselves well enough to have an opinion, or they don't have the confidence to voice it. I want someone who's their own person, someone who knows who they are and what they want.

As far as a need for power or control... I tend to be in 'control' in all other aspects of my life so I've no real need or desire to be in control in a relationship. Certainly I want to be active in it and have a say, but I'm not fussed about wearing the pants.

But at the same time, I don't let just anyone lead me either. Power struggles happen in the beginning because I resist pretty strongly until I get to know someone better, see what his intentions are, understand -why- he wants to be in the lead.

Is it because he's comfortable being assertive, because he wants to take care of me, have me trust him enough to lean on him, or is it because of his baggage, insecurities, does he use control to fill some void?

And depending on the answers it can heighten attraction and deepen trust, or take away from it altogether.

I like a man who takes charge ...
but not to the point of trampling me.

A man who can take charge while maintaining love and respect for a woman is a man indeed.

A little bit of rough play in the bedroom is welcome
😉

I think my answers would change depending on the type of Man I was in a relationship with to be honest...
In terms of running things I like a masculine energy around definitely.
I mean maybe I am naive, but a guy who can fake it til he makes it impresses me a lot.
Okay, maybe you (figurative you) have no idea how to do something but if a guy thinks- hey, this is a role I'd like to have, then if he rolls up his sleeves and has a real crack at it with confidence, I am happy to let him run with the ball.
That could be stacking the dishwasher or changing a tyre, I don't mind, the point is he took charge and owned it! 😄
I can be a bit...controlly (is that a word?) lol I like a person who doesn't let me stop them doing what they think is the right thing to do for them or both of us.

Said so much more succinctly than me 😆 That's it exactly, I carry enough on my shoulders I don't want to feel as though I'm carrying the relationship as well.

It really depends on the person I'm with, but I find that people fall into a rhythm after a while. Sometimes one person wants to lead the relationship, sometimes each person leads in various aspects. But a guy that's strong, capable and considerate enough to lead is my personal catnip 😉

I just want to be able to do the things in want to do when I want to do them. There isn't a reason to not trust me, so I easily get annoyed when someone tries to change my mind on something I want to do.

On the flip side I guess I do the exact same thing, so it turns into a battle of who can successfully piss or make the other jealous the quickest.

Like if I want to hang out with friends without my gf that shouldn't be a problem right? But god forbid if she wants to go out. That must mean she's cheating or doing something evil.

I'm also Scorpio dominate and have trust issues with everything. I sometimes make enemies out of the people I love when really there was nothing bad happening until my emotions went off.

With a Scorp moon I can relate to having trust issues. It takes an extremely long time for me to trust someone, and if it's broken there are no second chances with me >.

*Hugs you Scorpio Mooners*
This is why you need a homebody.
Too lazy to leave the house so you know where they are, not outside!
😆

There could be some truth to this, given that I'm currently attached to a Taurus LOL He's very much a homebody and offers a level of emotional security I'd never experienced before. And he seems to be rather possessive himself which I've always found comforting.

Probably makes me feel better to know he's got his eyes on me as much as I've got my eyes on him 😆