LEO. Do you get upset easily?

And if you do, how do you deal with it? Do you voice out your feelings or become cold. Or shut down? Or do you cause a scene ? ....

I initially voice my feelings. If you don't listen and consistently make the same mistake then a scene is created. If it still happens then depending on the person or the situation we then become cold and if after all that, the person still doesn't listen or change their behaviours then its goodbye.....

Its like a simple 3 step theory.. I will ask you, I will tell you, then I will take action.

No, I believe in emotional self control. If I get upset, I voice my concern. If the issue persists, I go cold. If I care about the person, I'll confront them again before I go cold. I rarely cause a scene because it's a waste of my time, though I used to do this when I was younger.

im still really childish with my personality, so at first i will try to hold back and then outburst. my virgo moon causes me to nag them until they see why i'm upset, and if they can deal with it and calm me down then well done but usually i am quite restless when im upset. however i dont get upset easily, the one key thing that usually triggers me is my posessiveness and jealousy but honestly im working on that, since no one in my past has been loyal to me so i have to second guess everything.

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im still really childish with my personality, so at first i will try to hold back and then outburst. my virgo moon causes me to nag them until they see why i'm upset, and if they can deal with it and calm me down then well done but usually i am quite restless when im upset. however i dont get upset easily, the one key thing that usually triggers me is my posessiveness and jealousy but honestly im working on that, since no one in my past has been loyal to me so i have to second guess everything.

Don't nag

Nags are annoying

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working on it ma'am, im aware of how annoying it is because whenever someone tries to nag me i don't react positively 😉

I’m mainly talking about Leo sun or Leo moon 🙂

This reassure me a little. Last time he was upset he just went cold on me without really telling me what annoyed him. I have Aqua moon so I can maybe be a little too insensitive to his needs esp with that venus cancer as well...

I have to almost guess it and then ask him out blank and he will tell me

Posted by saweetz1988
This reassure me a little. Last time he was upset he just went cold on me without really telling me what annoyed him. I have Aqua moon so I can maybe be a little too insensitive to his needs esp with that venus cancer as well...

This means he trying to rationalize things and diffuse his emotions. More than likely when he was younger he would become emotional and explode. He's learned not to do that, so he's removed himself entirely to think things through. Leos know that we can take things too far when we're angry, so a self aware Leo will seek to prevent this.

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No, I believe in emotional self control. If I get upset, I voice my concern. If the issue persists, I go cold. If I care about the person, I'll confront them again before I go cold. I rarely cause a scene because it's a waste of my time, though I used to do this when I was younger.

It's your Virgo moon

Going cold isn't healthy or fun

I mean what kind of an issue

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It's better than exploding and burning everything down. Leos know at the end of the day we can quickly destroy relationships by getting angry. We also know we can hurt people with reckless abandon if we take things too far.

Going cold allows us to back away and detach long enough to calm down. As I mentioned, I vocalize my concerns first, but if the issue persists I don't stick around. If I need to go cold on someone, it's because they pushed things too far.

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No, I believe in emotional self control. If I get upset, I voice my concern. If the issue persists, I go cold. If I care about the person, I'll confront them again before I go cold. I rarely cause a scene because it's a waste of my time, though I used to do this when I was younger.

It's your Virgo moon

Going cold isn't healthy or fun

I mean what kind of an issue

It's better than exploding and burning everything down. Leos know at the end of the day we can quickly destroy relationships by getting angry. We also know we can hurt people with reckless abandon if we take things too far.

Going cold allows us to back away and detach long enough to calm down. As I mentioned, I vocalize my concerns first, but if the issue persists I don't stick around. If I need to go cold on someone, it's because they pushed things too far.

Well... you've been MIA Mister

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— How so?

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No, I believe in emotional self control. If I get upset, I voice my concern. If the issue persists, I go cold. If I care about the person, I'll confront them again before I go cold. I rarely cause a scene because it's a waste of my time, though I used to do this when I was younger.

It's your Virgo moon

Going cold isn't healthy or fun

I mean what kind of an issue

It's better than exploding and burning everything down. Leos know at the end of the day we can quickly destroy relationships by getting angry. We also know we can hurt people with reckless abandon if we take things too far.

Going cold allows us to back away and detach long enough to calm down. As I mentioned, I vocalize my concerns first, but if the issue persists I don't stick around. If I need to go cold on someone, it's because they pushed things too far.

Well... you've been MIA Mister

— How so?

Probably because I haven't bumped into you on here... lol

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I've been here for the most part.

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Posted by saweetz1988
I have to almost guess it and then ask him out blank and he will tell me

Whats his venus/mars 🙂

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He has cancer Venus mars in Aries .

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Posted by saweetz1988
This reassure me a little. Last time he was upset he just went cold on me without really telling me what annoyed him. I have Aqua moon so I can maybe be a little too insensitive to his needs esp with that venus cancer as well...

This means he trying to rationalize things and diffuse his emotions. More than likely when he was younger he would become emotional and explode. He's learned not to do that, so he's removed himself entirely to think things through. Leos know that we can take things too far when we're angry, so a self aware Leo will seek to prevent this.

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Thank you so much.

Yes i do agree with this totally.

last night again, there was a bit of something .

he wanted to see me and i was very busy doing my own thing. hobbies, chores, friends.

so when he was trying to get my attention through texts i was busy.

but i still responded but cuds't give him what he wanted.

so , instead of him being angry at me or upset.

according to him he changed his phone to do not disturb mode n somehow went to sleep when he told me he would sleep later last night.. also without saying good night to me lol.

i tried to reach him., left a message that maybe i upset him n i was sorry. anyway he woke up an hour later apparently he said he changed it to airplane mode by accident.

he never told me he was upset or not.

but to me he was and was just trying to calm his emotion once again.

..for an aqua moon n mars. i like that. i don't deal well with pity tantrums. lol

i have a kid of my own ( aries sun) and he's already a hand full ..lol

anyway, we are good now. its just good to know how he will be in the future. if he knows how to handle his emotion this way i guess its good.

i just feel like, he may, need or want more from me more than what i can provide at this stage and he may grow resentment down the track if he doesn't learn to voice anything out.

but so far its going good.

thank you

Posted by vixen14
In order to give you a more proper answer, we need context. What did you do that made him upset?

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the main reason i know how he dealt with his emotion by being cold was in the beginning which was a few weeks ago.

i told him that maybe i'm not the person for him bcoz i don't have much time to give him what he may need.

i can't come over much if at all ( and he has to do all the work in that department)

i can not priories him first( as a leo he always wanna come first right? ) lol... and that i have to put my son first.

and if he wants to SEE other people, its ok with me he just have to let me know....etc

he got very cold after. telling me that he's just busy with work etc didn't want face the subject much.

he said he was just going with the flow etc..

anyway, when we met up and talked things through he said he was upset and turned cold coz he thought i wanted to see other people...

ofcoz i needed to ask him point blank if thats what happened.

and he agreed to that.

so thats how i figured it out.

just giving u an example as requested😛

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No, I believe in emotional self control. If I get upset, I voice my concern. If the issue persists, I go cold. If I care about the person, I'll confront them again before I go cold. I rarely cause a scene because it's a waste of my time, though I used to do this when I was younger.

It's your Virgo moon

Going cold isn't healthy or fun

I mean what kind of an issue

It's better than exploding and burning everything down. Leos know at the end of the day we can quickly destroy relationships by getting angry. We also know we can hurt people with reckless abandon if we take things too far.

Going cold allows us to back away and detach long enough to calm down. As I mentioned, I vocalize my concerns first, but if the issue persists I don't stick around. If I need to go cold on someone, it's because they pushed things too far.

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he didn't vocalise any concern though..

maybe at that time he really felt like i pushed him away so badly.

Posted by Leo188881
There's different upset reactions depending on the situation. Sometimes I'll lick my wounds and get back up again, sometimes i roar, sometimes the claws come out and sometimes i go silent. I'm very quick to recover though and don't stay mad for long. But a hurt ego is different because then it's personal. So what did you do?

righ right

so its not always the same—

if its a minor thing, u go silent first? or u voice out ?

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Never mind, just read. You made something else a priority 😂

hahaha

he has sun moon and mercury in leo

plus cancer venus

not sure how much attention he needs from me. right now he's not getting much T_T

but while i have you on here can u plz shed me some lights

so i been dealing with aqua for so long so i know to give lots of space

n now i'm with a leo

so i wann Noe,

right now he's out drinking with his friends

do i give him LOTS of space. or do i message him and show him that i miss him n stuff?

i don't noe which is better.

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Never mind, just read. You made something else a priority 😂

hahaha

he has sun moon and mercury in leo

plus cancer venus

not sure how much attention he needs from me. right now he's not getting much T_T

I could be reading it all wrong but this is how i understand it from my view... You suggested you were ok with him seeing other people. To a leo, that means you don't want him that much or you want to see other people and Leo loyalty doesn't work like that.

You went on to explain you don't want to see other people. But now he's already insecure. Your lack of time for him and being busy and whatever, is probably reinforcing the insecurities from the previous problem.

A leo already doesn't believe in people being busy, they believe there's time for whatever and whoever you want to make time for.

I don't know how serious you are about him... but if you want to keep this guy, you're going to have to reassure him that you only want him and that he is important to you. Your actions will need to be consistent to prove that now.

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thank you so much

i said i was ok at the time becoz i thought he was talking to other women lol and i got hurt he disappeared for one day. anyway we cleared the air and i said how hurt i was...we cuddled i said sorry and we made up...

but i know he must be feeling insecure coz i don't have time for him at the moment.

i will try to show it more often with words and action.

i already pleased him with amazing meals, words and action.

haha

well, i have also tried. i am busy and he is too so things just got a bit crazy for us.

but thank you for ur advice.

Leo don't believe in busy—

really?

T_T thats insane

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I have to almost guess it and then ask him out blank and he will tell me

Whats his venus/mars 🙂

He has cancer Venus mars in Aries .

Leo sun ~Cancer venus ~Mars in Aries... 😮

Does he get aggressive (verbal) when he gets upset?

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NOT at all. He’s very quiet and seem to go cold when upset. Now I’m upset at him and I’m tempted to go cold too. lol .

HEs a very introvert type of a Leo’s never knew one existed lol

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Posted by saweetz1988
This reassure me a little. Last time he was upset he just went cold on me without really telling me what annoyed him. I have Aqua moon so I can maybe be a little too insensitive to his needs esp with that venus cancer as well...

This means he trying to rationalize things and diffuse his emotions. More than likely when he was younger he would become emotional and explode. He's learned not to do that, so he's removed himself entirely to think things through. Leos know that we can take things too far when we're angry, so a self aware Leo will seek to prevent this.

Thank you so much.

Yes i do agree with this totally.

last night again, there was a bit of something .

he wanted to see me and i was very busy doing my own thing. hobbies, chores, friends.

so when he was trying to get my attention through texts i was busy.

but i still responded but cuds't give him what he wanted.

so , instead of him being angry at me or upset.

according to him he changed his phone to do not disturb mode n somehow went to sleep when he told me he would sleep later last night.. also without saying good night to me lol.

i tried to reach him., left a message that maybe i upset him n i was sorry. anyway he woke up an hour later apparently he said he changed it to airplane mode by accident.

he never told me he was upset or not.

but to me he was and was just trying to calm his emotion once again.

..for an aqua moon n mars. i like that. i don't deal well with pity tantrums. lol

i have a kid of my own ( aries sun) and he's already a hand full ..lol

anyway, we are good now. its just good to know how he will be in the future. if he knows how to handle his emotion this way i guess its good.

i just feel like, he may, need or want more from me more than what i can provide at this stage and he may grow resentment down the track if he doesn't learn to voice anything out.

but so far its going good.

thank you

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Acknowledging that he is upset helps. Leos want to know that our partners care to understand us. So it was good that you called him. Even if he doesn't admit to being upset (out of pride), he'll feel better that you care. Ignoring him will only make him go cold.

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No, I believe in emotional self control. If I get upset, I voice my concern. If the issue persists, I go cold. If I care about the person, I'll confront them again before I go cold. I rarely cause a scene because it's a waste of my time, though I used to do this when I was younger.

It's your Virgo moon

Going cold isn't healthy or fun

I mean what kind of an issue

It's better than exploding and burning everything down. Leos know at the end of the day we can quickly destroy relationships by getting angry. We also know we can hurt people with reckless abandon if we take things too far.

Going cold allows us to back away and detach long enough to calm down. As I mentioned, I vocalize my concerns first, but if the issue persists I don't stick around. If I need to go cold on someone, it's because they pushed things too far.

he didn't vocalise any concern though..

maybe at that time he really felt like i pushed him away so badly.

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It's probably fine.

Posted by saweetz1988
And if you do, how do you deal with it? Do you voice out your feelings or become cold. Or shut down? Or do you cause a scene ? ....

Mature Leo's pace like a lion... Will only attack if need be.... Have you seen a lion and how they are in the jungle ... That a Leo... And when they do attack... Shewt ... They want let up... That first bite could paralyze ya ... Immature Leo's pop off quick... Quick tempers ... I use to be this way until years of life tamed that lion... Now I'm tame.. Because I rule my own jungle so I don't have to lash out at anyone... What I say goes...

It depends on what the situation is. Pretending not to be angry can be more detrimental than expressing your anger, especially for extroverts.

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Posted by saweetz1988
I have to almost guess it and then ask him out blank and he will tell me

Whats his venus/mars 🙂

He has cancer Venus mars in Aries .

Leo sun ~Cancer venus ~Mars in Aries... 😮

Does he get aggressive (verbal) when he gets upset?

NOT at all. He’s very quiet and seem to go cold when upset.

Lol...watch out for the quiet ones. 😈

Mars in aries is a scary placement to me.

The people I personally know with this placement are unpredictable and blow up quite easily.

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What shud I look out for ? Lol why r u scaring me. Hahahahha so far he's been so good very patient quiet. n sensitive to my needs, his stubbornness r slowly showing though lol

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This reassure me a little. Last time he was upset he just went cold on me without really telling me what annoyed him. I have Aqua moon so I can maybe be a little too insensitive to his needs esp with that venus cancer as well...

This means he trying to rationalize things and diffuse his emotions. More than likely when he was younger he would become emotional and explode. He's learned not to do that, so he's removed himself entirely to think things through. Leos know that we can take things too far when we're angry, so a self aware Leo will seek to prevent this.

Thank you so much.

Yes i do agree with this totally.

last night again, there was a bit of something .

he wanted to see me and i was very busy doing my own thing. hobbies, chores, friends.

so when he was trying to get my attention through texts i was busy.

but i still responded but cuds't give him what he wanted.

so , instead of him being angry at me or upset.

according to him he changed his phone to do not disturb mode n somehow went to sleep when he told me he would sleep later last night.. also without saying good night to me lol.

i tried to reach him., left a message that maybe i upset him n i was sorry. anyway he woke up an hour later apparently he said he changed it to airplane mode by accident.

he never told me he was upset or not.

but to me he was and was just trying to calm his emotion once again.

..for an aqua moon n mars. i like that. i don't deal well with pity tantrums. lol

i have a kid of my own ( aries sun) and he's already a hand full ..lol

anyway, we are good now. its just good to know how he will be in the future. if he knows how to handle his emotion this way i guess its good.

i just feel like, he may, need or want more from me more than what i can provide at this stage and he may grow resentment down the track if he doesn't learn to voice anything out.

but so far its going good.

thank you

Acknowledging that he is upset helps. Leos want to know that our partners care to understand us. So it was good that you called him. Even if he doesn't admit to being upset (out of pride), he'll feel better that you care. Ignoring him will only make him go cold.

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Thank you. Yes I think I'm starting to work him out now. It's getting easier. Thank u to my Taurus sensitive nature I do know when some thing is up, the other night we kissed and he pulled away lightly. N I said, why ? U don't like the yogurt ? And he shook his head instead of verballing it. And I said..I see. Then he said that's really good. N I said what ? That I can read you now without u having to say anything

.? And he said.. yessss and kept nodding his head. What's with Leo n action giver type ? He's def not the verbal type. Coz he's fire I guess haha. But I talk a lot n he do more than talk. Is that typical?

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Posted by saweetz1988
HEs a very introvert type of a Leo’s never knew one existed lol

We're like the sun. We can burn brightly and light up a room but sometimes we hide behind the clouds and don't come out. If we're tired or sad, we need to turn our light off and be alone where no one can see us. We use a lot of energy on people so we need to rest lots to recharge.

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Right so when you do hide do you prefer people to reach out to you or give you spaces

Posted by oxSunQueenxo
I quietly seethe at whoever's offending me and tell them that what they're doing is wrong. If it persists, I ice the person out. If it still persists, that's when my temper flares up and I get nasty.

My sister calls me a snake for a reason.

Libra Mars.

I always listen and wont do it again. I know my leo well. But why the fuck cant leo's do the same back——?

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I quietly seethe at whoever's offending me and tell them that what they're doing is wrong. If it persists, I ice the person out. If it still persists, that's when my temper flares up and I get nasty.

My sister calls me a snake for a reason.

Libra Mars.

I always listen and wont do it again. I know my leo well. But why the fuck cant leo's do the same back——?

That is an issue regarding your particular Leo and isn't and shouldn't be made a sign generalization.

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Thats true..