Leo guy..a sex buddy or more?

Hello guys,

I've been reading your forum for a while and I find it very entertaining and helpful. Now I'm falling for a leo guy and I don't know if he likes me for sex or more than that. Well here is the story if you are interested.

I met a very cute and sporty leo guy who is 5 years younger than me. Born 15 August in the year of the tiger. His young age was a turn off in the beginning but then every time we hung out together with other friends I noticed he liked me. He would talk to somebody else but stare at me and not move his stare for a lot of the time we were together. Then he proposed to teach me ice-skating and snowboarding and asked me if I could teach him play tennis. I began to fall for him after that. Well I was up for going out with him but after 2 weeks he just talked about it and never called. I send him a text asking him to hang out one evening and he instantly agreed. We went out and he was behaving, as we were a couple. Putting his hands around my arms, gave me his jacket as we went to see a beautiful view of the city, tried to impress me with his driving skills and so on. At the end we went to my place to have tea. The sexual tension was so intense we couldn't help it and we were all over each other. We stayed in the whole night and the next day till the evening. It was awesome. The next evening I went out with friends and he was busy working but we met up in the early ours for "an after party". We watched the Olympic games and then went to bed where we stayed until the late afternoon. The sex and the cuddling were off the hook. He would just wake up for a second, turn around me to kiss me and then go back to sleep. I just fell for him so hard I'm afraid I made a mistake by sleeping with him too soon and now I don't know where I stand. I want him now and I don't really care about his age anymore.

He doesn't really contact me much, but is ready to meet me when I call him. He talks about his friends and how I should meet them and doing stuff together but we never got to do any of them yet. It's been just over a month since we met though; I guess we didn't have much time yet as I was traveling for 10 days in Asia. Do you guys think that he sees me as sex buddy or he likes me more than that? I know Leo guys take their time when dating but how do I let him know that I want him for more than sex whiteout looking silly and clingy? I can be pushy and that is my leo moon. I do not want to scare him 🙂

gotta love leo 😉

answer - could be, could be not. that ultimately depends on you. i'm not sure, but i don't think leos will judge you for a one-night stand that they participated in. in other words, how can he view you cheaply if he laid down as well?

i think in terms of how serious it can be depends on who you are, what you're about, what you're doing. if you're a person of good moral character, intelligent, secure career with upward mobility, outgoing, classy, etc etc..., then you stand a better chance of having a union that's based on more than sex. if you're not any of those things, if your best asset is sex and a pretty face, well...

"I send him a text asking him to hang out"

"He doesn't really contact me much, but is ready to meet me when I call him."

"The sex and the cuddling were off the hook."


Stop initiating contact. Allow him to do it. Give him time and in the mean time date other people. You have not established a committed relationship with this man even though you had sex. And as far as him viewing you as his fb, you already know the deal. So just pull back and allow him to make some moves. Get the ants out of your pants and work on being patient.

^ I agree

You need to stop initiating contact for now. It's something to Leo guy will have to get around doing himself. Plus if you go a little aloof, he will appreciate the space and realize you're not a doormat to be pushed around. You need to earn his respect, give him some space and await his initiaton.

play with him a little. ask him to hang out in a situation where you're around friends.. then be flirty with other boys in front of him. he will be irked and run over to play prince charming and try to show you he's more awesome than the other guy you're talking too. leos need alot of push and pull. it has to be balanced.. they like to be winners so they have to feel like you're a challenge.. BUT don't be too standoffish because leo won't put themselves out there where they fear rejection so for example .. tell some guy that you're talking to that he is smart and funny (while in leos presence.) then later that night tell leo that he is very very very smart, and the funniest person ever.. aka let leo know that he is the suitor you prefer but that he isn't your ONLY suitor. let him feel like he has to chase you a bit.

I would have stopped you before you got to this point. Leo is the one sign I can't have casual sex with. It is way to intense and way too much of all the things I want so I know I couldn't do it. And God knows I have tried. ha ha ha.

Try other things to distract you and put a little space so he has room to come towards you. Sometimes you have to stop filling in the spaces.

Posted by little_sparrow
Leo is the one sign I can't have casual sex with. It is way to intense and way too much of all the things I want so I know I couldn't do it.

I'm listening..........

Hey guys,

Thank you for your comments. He actually called me to check on me. He asked me to hang out again. At this point I do not know if he is asking to too see me for sex or just to hang out. To be honest, I don't care that much for what he wants to see me for, because I just want to see more of him.

Regarding making him jealous I intend to do that next time we go out. I do not know when that is going to be, his schedule is work at night, sleep during the day... complete opposite of mine.

But you are right. It's hard to be sex buddy with a Leo, because we don't just have just sex, we talk and when we cuddle it's like I'm in heaven. He is so masculine, he is more man than all older guys I dated before. I literally worship him in bed. I think he is well aware of that fact. I'm now trying to control my feelings for him. I decided to act detached, but let him know that I want to see more of him when our schedules allow it of course. I intend to just stop calling him altogether and be nice and friendly when he calls.

I don't know if that post makes any sense, but my head is still a mess. Now I'm trying to organize it.

HA HA HA elephant.

It is a well known fact that I love me the Leo men. Leo is my favorite sign. They are just good people.

Virgo

I am wincing as I really hope this works out for you. My best advice is try to convince him it is all his idea. They can be very stubborn when they think it is your idea. Good Luck.

you could be getting yourself in trouble with this one.

I agree. Hence the wincing.

How the hell are you Trifles? Hope all is well. 🙂

Dear Trifles,

I think you are right. I'm in trouble already. I know that because I think of my Leo all the time. I act as I don't think of him and couldn't care less when I'm with my mates, but I know I do. And the different schedules problem makes it really hard for us to develop any relationship. My logic is that I should keep enjoying the sex when I can, which suggest that we are sex buddies. On the other hand I think of him so much that he is becoming to me more than sex buddy. How confusing is that?! Thankfully I'm traveling abroad this month and this will help clear my head. I'm going to Miami for the WMC. Lots of new people and parties will help me figure out what I want to do with him!

And why Leos don't like to call people? Are they insecure or what? Are all Leos like that? He clearly likes me, calls me form time time, but the frequency is rather unsatisfactory.

ugh... just ask him! we leos love that so be bold! u wanna know something that turns us on and keeps us wanting more? when u can just lay it all out there without fear of dire repercussions. when u can just tell it like it is with confidence.

Posted by little_sparrow
How the hell are you Trifles? Hope all is well. 🙂

i'm pretty stellar. snagged myself an aries boy whom i find myself to be quite fond of! thanks for asking. and how the hell are you?

virgodoll - i hope that you're right & that your time abroad will help clear your head.
to answer the question about calling people - personally i just hate talking on the phone. i far prefer in person.

Yay on the new guy Trifles. Aries are good men. I broke up with mine a couple of months ago and have had a pretty stressful term as a result. I am really looking forward to April and the end of term. I really need a break.

Good luck with your new guy Trifles. I have dated several Aries men and they were all really good, decent, open people. 🙂

Posted by virgodoll

And why Leos don't like to call people? Are they insecure or what? Are all Leos like that? He clearly likes me, calls me form time time, but the frequency is rather unsatisfactory.

Most of the Leos I know are secure. They just take their time when it comes to trusting people. As far as frequency of caling, patience is the key. Leos follow the beat of their own drum, not yours.

Posted by little_sparrow
Yay on the new guy Trifles. Aries are good men. I broke up with mine a couple of months ago and have had a pretty stressful term as a result. I am really looking forward to April and the end of term. I really need a break.

Good luck with your new guy Trifles. I have dated several Aries men and they were all really good, decent, open people. 🙂

i'm sorry to hear that the two of you broke up. you seemed so happy! and i can relate to stressful terms - though i think this one is more stressful than the last because of my new bf.

thank you for the encouragement, and here's to april and the hope of finding love. 🙂

awww thanks trifles. It was what it was. It had to end at least for now.

Virgodoll

Report in please!

Well, I think the guy might not be into me anymore. I haven't heard of him since last Tuesday, when I promised myself to call him for one last hook up. We had good time, but somehow I got the feeling that he came to see me but his mind was someplace else. After the sex he said he couldn't stay because he had to feed his dog, clean his ski as he was skiing when I called.... Well, it sounded like lots of bullshit to me to be honest. The sex was great, he took care of me but again just after we were done I felt like we never gonna see each other again. Like this was our last hook up.

Earlier that night I told him I was busy that weekend, and had work out of town. He asked me when I was coming back. As if he'd call me. He has done that before. He asks me about my plans but when he knows that I'm available he won't call. Why pretending to care?

I like him though. I think of him quite often. Not as much as in the beginning, but I miss him. I want him, but I'm not gonna fight for his time and attention. I just think I deserve more. I need someone to tell me he likes me and calls me and pays attention to me.

In the out of town trip I met a virgo. We have known each other for many years, but we were just on hello and never really talked. He made the move and we ended up talking into the early hours. He called me the next day, and the day after. I can sense that he is into me. But I still want the Leo.

I'm so confused now. Should I go out with the Virgo? I don't want to give him the wrong impression.

(((Virgodoll)))

I'm sorry it hasn't worked out the way you wanted. That ALWAYS sucks.

* He asked me when I was coming back. As if he'd call me. He has done that before. He asks me about my plans but when he knows that I'm available he won't call. Why pretending to care?

My ex-virgo use to do this. Drove me crazy!

* In the out of town trip I met a virgo. We have known each other for many years, but we were just on hello and never really talked. He made the move and we ended up talking into the early hours. He called me the next day, and the day after. I can sense that he is into me. But I still want the Leo.

This is a tough one. I think the only thing you can do is really get clear on what you want and need. I sometimes find sitting down with pen and paper helpful and asking what it is you like about the Leo, what it is about the Virgo, and what it is you need and truly want.

Well I'm a Leo/Virgo cusp august 23, I myself am very very affectionate and passionate, that way too. I'm also all about the commitment. I met a capricorn woman, younger than me by bout six years. The attraction was immediate and intense, the lovemaking was out of this world. We had such a strong physical bond, it grew emotional for both of us very very quickly. We fell in love very fast. Down the road I found out the hard way, that capricorns are very driven individuals, lol. Always trying to achieve a higher level of perfection every single day. She also tended to go out and party frequently, almost as if to escape her high stress life she made for herself. As for your situation, I don't see why he hasn't come to you the same way you came to him. I guess that's the Virgo in me, lol. I dunno, just hoping I could be of some help.

hello i am back from virgo land, I have some advice Leos lkee Virgo a lot, but Virgos drive them nuts. Leos are emotional and passionate and they usually do things that obviously show they like u. Leos have lots of pride and dignity andthey usually sleep with people they are interested in rather than sleeping witth whoever. You honestly might have done sometthing virgoish. i.e. critisize, rude joke, act indifferent. Leos arent mind readers, and if u are acting like you dont care we arent going to try to read your mind, well just mirror you instead. Its like marc anthony sang to jlo he'll just reflect you like a mirror.