Leo Over reaction

I am a scorpio sun sign with Leo moon. BF is a leo sun sign with a cancer moon. Both 33 yrs old.

I brought something up last night that upset me. Basically his reaction to our plans not working out. Today he jumped on the defensive hard core and overreacted. my messages were calm, non confrontational and just being like heads up this bothered me.

He told me he doesn't see us lasting long term. He wants to break up.

Everything was GREAT before today. Its so drastic I do not know what to think. No my message was not needy nor do i come off needy.

I have some Leo traits but none of what he is doing like the hard core overreacting, being super defensive and then jumping ship is anything I know. I have never dated a leo before this. We been together for 4 months. He is moving in 6 months for training and will be gone a year so we were going to do long distance. He now says he doesn't see us being able to do long distance and thinks we would be setting our self up for failure.

I told him I disagree and don't know where this is coming from but will respect his choice.

We are supposed to fly to see his family next week. Im like should i try and cancel the tickets or wait and see how he is in a few days? Any insight would be great.

I won't submit. I am able to say sorry when wrong, haven't always been that way but as I have matured I can now. Its actually easy. But this situation I didn't do anything wrong, I stayed calm, I didn't attack him, I even complimented him to try and make it as non confrontational as possible while still saying he upset me.

This will only get better with him saying he overreacted or thought things through and wants to work it out. I care about him, he is amazing with my daughter but Im not going to run around kissing his butt when he acted stupid

What did you say exactly? There seems to be some information missing here.

Posted by Chuckcem

What did you say exactly? There seems to be some information missing here.

He volunteered to work an event for his job on a night we had plans to go to dinner to celebrate something for me. I told him it hurt my feelings he would do that cuz celebrating little things is important to me. We didn't get to celebrate my bday because he was out of town for work and we won't be able to celebrate new years because he will be gone as well. I wanted to make the best of the holidays or things we could celebrate. he says he didn't want to look bad so he is working the event and he doesn't want to apologize for making a living. Which isn't what I was saying at all. He took it completely wrong. he won't listen to how he took it wrong either.

Leo's are hard workers and they don't want to do anything to tarnish their image (most not all)...maybe they were giving him shit or said something that made him think he better be there or else. I get why that would upset you (I'm a Leo moon as well)...I can't say that wouldn't bother me either tbh but I'm also a workaholic...so I see where he is coming from too.

If this was a one time deal..I would have gave him a pass and understood and rescheduled the dinner. If it kept happening ..then I would have definitely let it be known how much it bothered me. I think you jumped the gun here imo and he is on the defensive... probably feeling like he has to choose work or you...and since it's only been 4 months of you all dating...right now, he's choosing work. I personally wouldn't cancel the tickets and give it a couple days and let him chill. If he doesn't reach out in those couple days...then contact him. If he is still acting the same...cancel the tickets.

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Posted by Chuckcem

What did you say exactly? There seems to be some information missing here.

He volunteered to work an event for his job on a night we had plans to go to dinner to celebrate something for me. I told him it hurt my feelings he would do that cuz celebrating little things is important to me. We didn't get to celebrate my bday because he was out of town for work and we won't be able to celebrate new years because he will be gone as well. I wanted to make the best of the holidays or things we could celebrate. he says he didn't want to look bad so he is working the event and he doesn't want to apologize for making a living. Which isn't what I was saying at all. He took it completely wrong. he won't listen to how he took it wrong either.

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Volunteering isn’t making living...just saying...

Who paid for your ticket? You? Seems like it because if it wasnhim you wouldn’t worry about cancelling right?

So...why did you pay for your ticket?

This will turn out to be one of those "sad at the time but blessing in disguise" situations. Let him be gone.

You gotta have these conversations face to face. So many ways texts can be read/interpreted

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Posted by Chuckcem

What did you say exactly? There seems to be some information missing here.

He volunteered to work an event for his job on a night we had plans to go to dinner to celebrate something for me. I told him it hurt my feelings he would do that cuz celebrating little things is important to me. We didn't get to celebrate my bday because he was out of town for work and we won't be able to celebrate new years because he will be gone as well. I wanted to make the best of the holidays or things we could celebrate. he says he didn't want to look bad so he is working the event and he doesn't want to apologize for making a living. Which isn't what I was saying at all. He took it completely wrong. he won't listen to how he took it wrong either.

Volunteering isn’t making living...just saying...

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He volunteered to work the event.

Slow down and read.

Posted by HawaiiScorpio

I won't submit. I am able to say sorry when wrong, haven't always been that way but as I have matured I can now. Its actually easy. But this situation I didn't do anything wrong, I stayed calm, I didn't attack him, I even complimented him to try and make it as non confrontational as possible while still saying he upset me.

This will only get better with him saying he overreacted or thought things through and wants to work it out. I care about him, he is amazing with my daughter but Im not going to run around kissing his butt when he acted stupid

4 months in and your letting him around your kid 😱😱

Dude.

You need to be a bit more discerning. Make sure the guy is actually there to stay. Stranger danger.

And course he’s amazing. They all are amazing in the beginning. But eventually the facade fades away.

When that person emerges is when you know whether it’s gonna work out.

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Posted by Chuckcem

What did you say exactly? There seems to be some information missing here.

He volunteered to work an event for his job on a night we had plans to go to dinner to celebrate something for me. I told him it hurt my feelings he would do that cuz celebrating little things is important to me. We didn't get to celebrate my bday because he was out of town for work and we won't be able to celebrate new years because he will be gone as well. I wanted to make the best of the holidays or things we could celebrate. he says he didn't want to look bad so he is working the event and he doesn't want to apologize for making a living. Which isn't what I was saying at all. He took it completely wrong. he won't listen to how he took it wrong either.

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He sounds a bit sensitive (probably due to his Cancer Moon) and a bit too proud. It's true that we Leos we REALLY tied into our work, at times making it a big part of our identity, but the importance of that special someone's birthday isn't lost on us either. My guess is he knew working on your birthday and over the holidays wasn't cool, but became defensive when you brought it up.

Male Cancer energy can be defensive when made to feel guilty. This is almost amplified in other placements such as the in the Moon (Cancer's domicile) or Mars (an uncomfortable placement for Cancer). Add his defensive sensitivity to his Leo pride/stubbornness, and it creates an interesting situation when he feels like he's being "guilt-tripped". The only real thing to do here is to let him know that you understand the importance of his work. Let him know that you

were looking forward to being with him.

Granted we don't know his side. I've known Scorpios who became very selfish when upset. In the Leo's mind he may be thinking, "Doesn't she understand that I'm working hard to provide for her too?" For a Leo if we aren't successful at our work, we can become extremely irritable or even depressed. Therefore a Leo who feels unfilfilled/unhappy in our own path may lash out when our work is questioned.

That being said, astrology aside, this guy needs to know that he isn't always right. If something upsets you, he needs to be open to listening without becoming so defensive. The big issue here is his unwillingness to understand your emotions. Wanting to spend your birthday and holiday with your significant other is completely understandable. So while you should let him know that you understand how important his work is, also let him know that it shouldn't be an issue to spend time together either.

This may upset the Leo and make him more defensive. If it does, leave him be. If you find this becomes more of a consistent issue, you may need to look for love elsewhere. You can't have a healthy relationship with a guy who refuses to see your side of things. As for the tickets, just call him and ask.