Libra woman & Leo man breakup

Hey all - so I’ve very recently broken up with a Leo male (I’m a Libra female) we were both in our mid thirties and had been seeing each other for approx a year. In the beginning I couldn’t believe my luck, he was charming, charismatic and I was very attracted to him, but after only a couple of months I noticed that he had a very quick temper and would fly off the handle for the most minor of things (at least in my opinion). During these outbursts he would break up with me and the drama (and nasty messages) could go on for days before he calmed down enough to want to resolve things. I’m not a naturally confrontational person and did my best to soothe him in the beginning, but as time wore on I started to become disillusioned with things.

We decided, after a short break of a couple of weeks, to give things another go and put the past in the past, he moved into my apt (on his insistence that living together would improve things). Unfortunately almost as soon as he’d moved in the rows started again, and admittedly at this point I was reacting to him much more - it was visually evident when he was annoyed and this got my back up, so I found myself picking arguments with him aswell. After only a couple of weeks we had s blazing row, he broke up with me, and I decided there’d be no taking it back this time. He stayed with me for a few weeks (in a seperate room) while arranging new accommodation and during this time he wanted zero contact with me, since moving he has blocked me completely.

I wonder, as he’s a Leo man, if his pride will ever allow him the insight to see that sometimes loving someone isn’t enough, that we need to take care of ourselves too, no matter how much it hurts. Or will he even see that it the rows he caused fractured the relationship consistently.

I ask as, whilst I’m 85% sure I did the right thing, I’m still in love with him, and in the end he told me that I was the cause of it all.

Thanks!

It's difficult to say without knowing what actually happened. Providing context regarding what the arguments were about would be helpful. That being said, if the Leo was as bad as you've portrayed him, then you should count yourself fortunate to be rid of him. It is pointless to wonder if/when his mindset will change. You should be focused on moving on and finding something/someone that makes you happy.

The rows were about the most ridiculous things, a family member going to his place of work without a heads up (he works in the service industry) 4 days of a row and I was told I have a sickness?! I opened up to him about something which had occurred in my past, something that had been difficult for me to overcome, he said I couldn’t just drop bombs and expect him to deal with them (I hadn’t expected anything other than to be in a relationship where I could be open). There was even a time he blew up at me because a zipper on his pocket got stuck. The problem was he could never see his was to apologizing, he needed me to admit some sort of fault (based on my reaction to his blow up).

Posted by Surviving

The rows were about the most ridiculous things, a family member going to his place of work without a heads up (he works in the service industry) 4 days of a row and I was told I have a sickness?! I opened up to him about something which had occurred in my past, something that had been difficult for me to overcome, he said I couldn’t just drop bombs and expect him to deal with them (I hadn’t expected anything other than to be in a relationship where I could be open). There was even a time he blew up at me because a zipper on his pocket got stuck. The problem was he could never see his was to apologizing, he needed me to admit some sort of fault (based on my reaction to his blow up).

So he sounds like a crazy person and you should definitely not waste any more time on him.

Haha, ur are probably right. If I could get my head to somehow over rule my foolish heart life would be a lot more simple!! 😄

Thanks everyone for ur input, really appreciate the advice!

In the future, don't be so quickly blinded by charm and attraction. Learn the heart of the man. That's really what this is about; deceiving oneself. We bring trouble into our lives by putting the work off for later when it should be a prerequisite.

His blocking you is a blessing. Truly. He sounds toxic, exhausting, unforgiving, petty and the like. Nothing attractive about any of that. You seem naive and should reevaluate your standards for a better chance at attracting a man who will actually compliment you.

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Posted by Surviving

The rows were about the most ridiculous things, a family member going to his place of work without a heads up (he works in the service industry) 4 days of a row and I was told I have a sickness?! I opened up to him about something which had occurred in my past, something that had been difficult for me to overcome, he said I couldn’t just drop bombs and expect him to deal with them (I hadn’t expected anything other than to be in a relationship where I could be open). There was even a time he blew up at me because a zipper on his pocket got stuck. The problem was he could never see his was to apologizing, he needed me to admit some sort of fault (based on my reaction to his blow up).

So he sounds like a crazy person and you should definitely not waste any more time on him.

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Exactly. Very unstable.