Update!!! He Texted Me This!

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I think it's just a friend hey I'm here if you want to talk but that's it.

So even after him fr

Thank you:-) even after him professing his love to me on New Years...Ugh this is so confusing..

Im in the process of moving and he want to help and even asked to start living together. Im just not ready to jump in but I do want to build a healthy foundation aka friendship lol
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I think it's just a friend hey I'm here if you want to talk but that's it.

So even after him fr

Thank you:-) even after him professing his love to me on New Years...Ugh this is so confusing..

Im in the process of moving and he want to help and even asked to start living together. Im just not ready to jump in but I do want to build a healthy foundation aka friendship lol
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Where are you moving from to? Well it's okay to build I do that and you should to.
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@Op Are you an earth sign with the Leo?
Im a Cancer sun Virgo moon aquarius rising
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You have earth moon so you will evaluate your life on how one should be treated fairly and logically, and come to an understand but you do have to talk to each other before moving in with him

You think, over think, analyze everything, and then come up with a solution without criticizing.
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I think it's just a friend hey I'm here if you want to talk but that's it.

So even after him fr

Thank you:-) even after him professing his love to me on New Years...Ugh this is so confusing..

Im in the process of moving and he want to help and even asked to start living together. Im just not ready to jump in but I do want to build a healthy foundation aka friendship lol
Where are you moving from to? Well it's okay to build I do that and you should to.
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I am not movingout of state....But we live in North Carolina
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I think the guy likes you, wants more than casual dating or friendship. :-) But yeah actions matter more than words.
Okay I definitely agree! Action is everything to me. I think that I will give it sometime to unfold Im just nervous I dont want to get hurt anymore.. :-)

:-)

Did he help you to move? Makes time for you?

I don't think holding back a lot will help a relationship to flourish. We should grow together and create memories together and give them a chance to miss us too. So don't be scared. Be yourself. In your place, I would leave the past behind. :-)

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I will leave the past behind I feel safe with him he makes me laugh so much..I move in few days...so we will see. He does make time for me we have went on a couple dates, and he has takin me out with all if his guy friends. Of course i brought a friend aswell. He always says I cant wait to show you off, but I am not the spot light kind of a girl

If we dont see one another he calls or texts.
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@Op Are you an earth sign with the Leo?
Im a Cancer sun Virgo moon aquarius rising
You have earth moon so you will evaluate your life on how one should be treated fairly and logically, and come to an understand but you do have to talk to each other before moving in with him

You think, over think, analyze everything, and then come up with a solution without criticizing.
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@Op Are you an earth sign with the Leo?
Im a Cancer sun Virgo moon aquarius rising
You have earth moon so you will evaluate your life on how one should be treated fairly and logically, and come to an understand but you do have to talk to each other before moving in with him

You think, over think, analyze everything, and then come up with a solution without criticizing.
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I told him I wasn't ready for that. I am a single mother with a soon to 2yr old and 6yr so I take it pretty serious. They are my first priority

he has a four-year-old as well that I met. So if any family blending ia going to happen it has to be right and official between us.
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I think the guy likes you, wants more than casual dating or friendship. :-) But yeah actions matter more than words.
Okay I definitely agree! Action is everything to me. I think that I will give it sometime to unfold Im just nervous I dont want to get hurt anymore.. :-)

:-)

Did he help you to move? Makes time for you?

I don't think holding back a lot will help a relationship to flourish. We should grow together and create memories together and give them a chance to miss us too. So don't be scared. Be yourself. In your place, I would leave the past behind. :-)


I will leave the past behind I feel safe with him he makes me laugh so much..I move in few days...so we will see. He does make time for me we have went on a couple dates, and he has takin me out with all if his guy friends. Of course i brought a friend aswell. He always says I cant wait to show you off, but I am not the spot light kind of a girl

If we dont see one another he calls or texts.





That's great and how long have you known him/ dating each other?

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Its been 4 months now. He said he loved me on the New Year I didnt know what to say lol
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I think the guy likes you, wants more than casual dating or friendship. :-) But yeah actions matter more than words.
Okay I definitely agree! Action is everything to me. I think that I will give it sometime to unfold Im just nervous I dont want to get hurt anymore.. :-)

:-)

Did he help you to move? Makes time for you?

I don't think holding back a lot will help a relationship to flourish. We should grow together and create memories together and give them a chance to miss us too. So don't be scared. Be yourself. In your place, I would leave the past behind. :-)


I will leave the past behind I feel safe with him he makes me laugh so much..I move in few days...so we will see. He does make time for me we have went on a couple dates, and he has takin me out with all if his guy friends. Of course i brought a friend aswell. He always says I cant wait to show you off, but I am not the spot light kind of a girl

If we dont see one another he calls or texts.





That's great and how long have you known him/ dating each other?


Its been 4 months now. He said he loved me on the New Year I didnt know what to say lol

Four months and everything you did sounds good, IMO.

So do you love him? What do you mean didn't know what to say? Lol

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Lol I do love him...I just questioned him and myself with using the right. Is it love or infatuated with the idea its so fast. We even treetrunked 2 weeks in and have only done so twice bc he says he wanted to show me it wasn't about sex. That he wanted to do it "right"
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I think the guy likes you, wants more than casual dating or friendship. :-) But yeah actions matter more than words.
Okay I definitely agree! Action is everything to me. I think that I will give it sometime to unfold Im just nervous I dont want to get hurt anymore.. :-)

:-)

Did he help you to move? Makes time for you?

I don't think holding back a lot will help a relationship to flourish. We should grow together and create memories together and give them a chance to miss us too. So don't be scared. Be yourself. In your place, I would leave the past behind. :-)


I will leave the past behind I feel safe with him he makes me laugh so much..I move in few days...so we will see. He does make time for me we have went on a couple dates, and he has takin me out with all if his guy friends. Of course i brought a friend aswell. He always says I cant wait to show you off, but I am not the spot light kind of a girl

If we dont see one another he calls or texts.





That's great and how long have you known him/ dating each other?


Its been 4 months now. He said he loved me on the New Year I didnt know what to say lol

Four months and everything you did sounds good, IMO.

So do you love him? What do you mean didn't know what to say? Lol

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Should just wait at least alittle while longer. If you sorta have some dilemmas now or red flags later or now perhaps. It might be much for you and your kids.

But I don't know the life of you and your kids with him and another kid in the picture.

4 months that's crazy.
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I've done the whole jump in and have sex, and I have also tried not having sex for awhile with someone new and building a friendship.

It's something you have to experience for your self both sides.

Like the older I get the more it's supposed to be right and meaningful. And it also can tell you the red flags too if you wait or not.
Yes I have too lol. With my children's dad we jumped right in and was together for for 5yrs..

For me personally on the sex thing I just go with how I feel and I make sure its what I want not pressured into. My parents knew one another for 6 months got engaged at 1yr and have been together for 20...
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That's cool.

Hey 5 years is cool too.

So idk is there any red flags before this dramatic leap of love spew?
Ummm I would say...He is quit attractive to other females..so in his last relationship he broke it off bc he said she was insecure. And i told it sounded like he had a difficult time seeing things from someone else's perspective. When first started dating he asked a lot of hypothetical questions kinda like having an interview.
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That's cool.

Hey 5 years is cool too.

So idk is there any red flags before this dramatic leap of love spew?
Ummm I would say...He is quit attractive to other females..so in his last relationship he broke it off bc he said she was insecure. And i told it sounded like he had a difficult time seeing things from someone else's perspective. When first started dating he asked a lot of hypothetical questions kinda like having an interview.

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* I told him
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That's cool.

Hey 5 years is cool too.

So idk is there any red flags before this dramatic leap of love spew?
Ummm I would say...He is quit attractive to other females..so in his last relationship he broke it off bc he said she was insecure. And i told it sounded like he had a difficult time seeing things from someone else's perspective. When first started dating he asked a lot of hypothetical questions kinda like having an interview.


* I told him
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Well some majority of people have insecurities, men and woman what was it?

So he bails after confrontation and doesn't communicate well.

I ask alot of questions too. But I still give people chances or two.
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That's cool.

Hey 5 years is cool too.

So idk is there any red flags before this dramatic leap of love spew?
Ummm I would say...He is quit attractive to other females..so in his last relationship he broke it off bc he said she was insecure. And i told it sounded like he had a difficult time seeing things from someone else's perspective. When first started dating he asked a lot of hypothetical questions kinda like having an interview.


* I told him
Well some majority of people have insecurities, men and woman what was it?

So he bails after confrontation and doesn't communicate well.

I ask alot of questions too. But I still give people chances or two.
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He is a truck driver and does music on the side so he is in night clubs a lot promoting his music. He was with her for 6yrs. He said he caught her cheating he said he didn't spend enough time with her. I said I hope he didn't waste 6 yrs of his life not learning himself and how to be in a healthy partnership.
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Any man that careless with punctuation is also probably capable of murder.



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Lol
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Just hang in there. You'll get more clarity once you step back from the situation a bit. Your concerns will resolve themselves based on what he does. Allow him to do whatever he's doing. No one can really give you definitive answers about his motivations. A mad rush to concrete yes/no answers isn't really possible here. Detach a bit from the heady excitement and uncertainty of the moment and let things happen. A lot of it isn't under your control anyway.

If you have questions about what he's doing or about what he's sent you, then ASK HIM. Take your issues to him. At this point most of us can't really help you beyond guesses from nine miles up.
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I will go with that:-)
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I think the guy likes you, wants more than casual dating or friendship. :-) But yeah actions matter more than words.
Okay I definitely agree! Action is everything to me. I think that I will give it sometime to unfold Im just nervous I dont want to get hurt anymore.. :-)

:-)

Did he help you to move? Makes time for you?

I don't think holding back a lot will help a relationship to flourish. We should grow together and create memories together and give them a chance to miss us too. So don't be scared. Be yourself. In your place, I would leave the past behind. :-)


I will leave the past behind I feel safe with him he makes me laugh so much..I move in few days...so we will see. He does make time for me we have went on a couple dates, and he has takin me out with all if his guy friends. Of course i brought a friend aswell. He always says I cant wait to show you off, but I am not the spot light kind of a girl

If we dont see one another he calls or texts.





That's great and how long have you known him/ dating each other?


Its been 4 months now. He said he loved me on the New Year I didnt know what to say lol

Four months and everything you did sounds good, IMO.

So do you love him? What do you mean didn't know what to say? Lol


Lol I do love him...I just questioned him and myself with using the right. Is it love or infatuated with the idea its so fast. We even treetrunked 2 weeks in and have only done so twice bc he says he wanted to show me it wasn't about sex. That he wanted to do it "right"
It's just pure lust. 4 months is nothing to be "in love" but "in lust"... Yes..

2 weeks of meeting and you are already having sex...not good.

I don't mean to be mean but you have two kids already so I hope you used proper protection...

You need to take your time and build a family with your two young children first...
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I have had sex sooner any they ended up being my longest relationships. I have to disagree with you bc it's its about the connection you have with that person. Not only that our relationship has not been based on sex...He has proven to me not by is words but actions that he was to build a solid foundation for a healthy relationship. As we have both done it wrong in the past. So if he is lusting idk over what as we have only had sex twice in 4 months